sassysure:

See, sometimes it's good to place yourselves in a woman's shoe.
U are just being nairaland stubborn head.
Hian!

She is yet to give deadline
Where u see that one, crackhaus?
Have u eaten today?
Go and eat first, u are hungry

factormatt6:

I told her everything about me.we make a lot of financial plan because she give me two years to get married to her or she walk.

factormatt6:
I don't think it ultimatum, you know when there is no aim, abuse is inevitable. She doesn't want to joke with her youthful age. She is not desperate though.

factormatt6:
. I will gladly discuss the court marriage with her, but I don't want to take advantage of her. Secondly she is 25 yrs old

sassysure:
I will ignore the first part of your post.
Not necessary.

The said lady is already 30 yrs and if I were her, I will be worried.
She is aging, fact is she is not sure u will tie the knot with her in the next 2 yrs or more, the other part of her brain is telling her u will ditch her later( don't ever try exonerating yourself here, most guys that did so swore by their dead parents graves) and her chances of starting afresh is slimmer.

Of course she will tell u her parents want her to develop her career but will never tell you that side talk she always have with her mum in the middle of the night.

In Nigeria we have court marriage. U can plan and do that to calm her mind down and u two will continue with whatever u are doing.
She is naturally reacting to circumstances around her of which u are at the middle of it all.
Or,
It could be that a better guy is making a serious move and she want to shake u to know if u are really serious or not.
Still, the 2 instances need open and honest communication backed with doing something tangible for everybody to know she is yours.
Right now, she isn't and is 100% free to make another choice.
So are u.
Goodluck

Jullima:

I used to think like you, but then you see some women that are not maternal at all and shouldn’t bring children to this world. When some women bravely decide they don’t want kids we should listen to them, not all women are cut out to be mothers.

Blackpearlous:


She should focus her energy on maintaining her lane and leaving the house. God will take care of her.

What kind of nonsense is that, there are ways you can fight, that you won't lift a finger.

She can come to her fathers house but there are limits

Blackpearlous:

I wonder how a married child will have right more than the married wife.

The advice don't bring honor at all.

Just make money and leave the house. She will respect you later maintain maturity.

J111333:
A woman married or not still have a place in her father's house besides, this lady is back there because of hardship.


Don't report her to the police because of your agreement with your little step sis but someday, make her pay for it. Just wait for the right time, not now. Personally, I forgive people but not those that hurt innocent kids. It's your choice to forgive your step mum or not.

Owerri1stSon:

You make no sense guy.. Do you know how people are suffering in Nigeria? What if there is no money to rent an apartment? What if she had tried working to get one but all to no avail? What is she might be doing petty jobs and had plans of leaving but had to stay with her dad till the money is comes?

People they suffer guy so you don't just blame her of staying with her dad or do you expect her to go stay under the bridge with her children?

MistadeRegal:


What are you saying?
Squatting in her father's house or what?
You better edit your comment and stop displaying your ignorance online.

SavageMaster:


Will you stop that?
Where is the entitlement mentality in what she posted?

She said she went to get foodstuffs from her husband and left the baby with her sibling. I think she should have gone with the baby anyway.

Entitlement or not, if the stepmother actually poured hot water on the baby, that's terrible. Nothing in this world can justify that action.

rockstarB:

I will

1. Asking about whether she has the same right as much as her step mum; is it because she is married? If she wasnt then who has more right? where I come from women have as much right to their father's house, married or not ESPECIALLY in a case such as her own.

2. I clearly said I do not have an accommodation for her, but she shouldn't remain in silence because of that.

3. Complaining that step mum doesn't feed her; she has been feeding herself and has not died, she will continue to do that too.

rockstarB:

Oga stop using foul words. You can drive out your points without using demeaning words, it doesnt make you sound any wiser. we arent kids here

rockstarB:

1) I wonder what step mum means tho, except her mum is a baby mama and this woman is the only wife? So yes it is a polygamous family.

2) is there a law in Nigeria that stops women from going back to their fathers house due to one negative reason or the other? Are you the type of person that would rather let his or her sister die in an abusive marriage because she doesnt have the right to her fathers house as much as any legal wife The dad has clearly not complained because he understands.

3) she should rather die in silent because nature has decided to be unfair to her and her husband abi? She poured hot water on an innocent little girl, who knows what she will do tomorrow? You clearly dont know the dynamics of a polygamous family. Even if it is not, she needs to speak up for her child. I do not have an alternative accommodation for her but silent isn't the best answer.

4) clearly she is a devil because a man(tiarababy) dad has been taking her excesses.

kendrick9:
don't contribute if you have nothing meaningful to add...

fieryy:

Cry me a river or write sth actually meaningful and also sth that could be of help, instead of not only displaying the cracks in your land or house, but also the ones in your brain. I already know having the last word massages your grown ass ego. That's probably the only achievements you can boast of. After all this is a forum where every idiot thinks they're important

fieryy:

Why not STFU of you know nothing about Germany. Does Nigeria have a system in place that supports the unemployed or do parent's in Nigeria get child benefit money. Rubbish, mtcheeeeeeeeew

Meninmen:

The thing tire me. As a married woman, you went back to your fathers house and you expect your step mum to be feeding you. . Nothing person nor go see or hear

idahme:

Life is dynamic, thinks can get silly so quickly and things can get juicy so quickly too. Different folks with different life experiences, it can happen to anyone. One can't be termed squarting in one's parents house moreover life's vicissitudes took her there temparily . OP please don't do anything silly the worst you can do now is get her reported to the police for possible prosecution in court apart from this give her an arms length and stay cool it will be well with u sooner than u expected. We should all learn to accomodate and help people who are in need

fieryy:


She has every single right to feel entitled. It's HER FATHER'S house!

Vyolet:

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sassysure:

Yes o!
Hmmmm, I'm eyeing you.
No wonder u are insisting
Well, u met the bad ones.
We still have the good ones.
Plenty.
And stop hyping yourself jor.

I know your medicine o.
Will ca..........
One day, I will resurrect that cos my eyes opened so wide to better understanding on how u guys run stuffs here
I don dey fear una well o

On a serious note, I wouldn't blame you if its very uncomfortable for u. Some ladies are temptations overloaded even with good intention. So also men but in between, we still have the good ones.

factormatt6:
. I want you to understand that I only needed my fellow citizens to know we are on own. So let stay at home and stay safe.

sassysure:

Well, unless the woman wants that. But a woman don't normally project and defend somebody she florick with to the husband.
Now u are claiming busy. In Nigeria, we normally put on gen in the night.
I don't like putting on gen at all. That thing gives wahala.
The man should buy fireman with remote for her and there will be peace na

As for my friend, the wife was my friend first before the husband.
I introduced him to my husband.
What's wrong in married people giving bachelor food eeh?
Hey, your mind is spoilt.
Will u ever allow your missus to breath?
Too much she looked at him, gave him food, put on gen for her etc. Make marriage look like cage honestly.

Of course, I cook for more than one person.
My family!
I still have left over or do u want me to be cooking every minute?
I wasn't a spinster o.
Crackhaus, leave me alone.

Ximenez:
Are you on the same lane with that Bimbo or you are just being sarcastic?
Because i still don't know how she got to know the kind of Generator they have and that the husband hasn't made enough money.

Women that can do real stupid things just to get what they want. Like telling you to come help them unzip their gown, scratch their back or blow out some imaginary particles from their eyes.

sassysure:

U guys have twisted your mind so much that people are not meant to do good deeds anymore.
I'm good at giving. If u are working in my house, and food is on fire, be sure that u will get your share. That is how I was trained.
U are in my house repairing my gen and food is on the fire, I will dish out yours. It gives me joy. I mean I simply love doing that.
I might prepare a certain dish I know a friend likes and package it for her or tell her to come and feast.
It's just food. Nothing more.
The young man won't be an exemption unless he started being silly in other words he won't have access to my house anymore.
And she isn't cooking that food for her male nebor. Point of correction.
She cook for her family.
Heck, I have given food to qwali boys( if u are in Abuja u will know them).
Listen, this is also a good avenue to get people in your favour. Till l left, I was heavily covered cos I was good to boys. And u can get such by giving food.

Like I said, if the woman is my type, she will naturally give cos she loves cooking and giving out.
That's the only way she can pay him back. Nothing more.

So nothing in giving a bachelor free food. It's natural.
That caring stuff. U are now worried because it's a man.
If it's a female will u be worried?
Hian!
As for the kids liking the guy, what's wrong with that?
My first son will always tell u his best friend is daddy.... cos the play together. Which child won't like that?
Even as we have left, they still communicate on phone more than I do now.
That @op is telling us half truth.


He came here to paint his wife black cos that's what he is doing where he is or are u telling me guy is a saint over there?
If the guy is idle and getting free food, is that not his luck?
Naija hard, many guys will on gen 100times to get free food now
And how did u know he is idle?
Bros, I'm.suspecting you
Anyway, no course for alarm here.
Guy is making a mountain out of nothing.

As for my friend's husband, every emergency trip to the hospital, that man is there. Infact, the way he will be following drs for nyash eeh
The day my boy was put on ventilator, he came and was crying like a baby
He is simply a good man and took it upon himself to oversee to our welfare as Mr oga no dey.
There were major projects we were handling when bros disappeared, it was me and the locals and govt bodies and I don't know shit.without this man's help, they for chop mugu out of me. At a point I became pro,know how to haggle price, open eyes etc. And I got the jobs done.

He is very respectful man( that's the first reason why I was close to him like his wife).
I don't know about you guys but we still do have good men who simply want to do good.

Sotland:
I'm not trying to be biased or sentimental but I think this issue is getting out of hand. Every group is talking about the same thing,and what's it? It is husband's love.

So many ladies will tell you not to marry a man that's too attached to his family. Some will tell you to marry someone that have a mind of his own,a man that will stand against his family just to protect you.