bukatyne:


Independent woman
Strong woman
Single woman
Successful woman

I hate all these titles that allude that being a woman isn't enough.

You must be 'strong', 'independent' etc etc to do things others have been doing for aeons.

I also find the 'independent' tag very odd.

Which human being is 'independent?' NOBODY adds any input to your life at all?

Even God was creating the world and said 'Let us make...'

We are all dependent or interdependent.

UjuJoan2:




Somehow I was expecting this.

Recession is affecting everyone right now, nothing to gloat about.

Arthur2021:
you are right with the faux confidence..

Non buoyant men and single men are comfy with themselves and don't sing it out or convince people to accept them,they raise their heads high up and live normally. But ladies unmarried must convince the world they are happy,nothing pleasures ladies more like acceptance and validation.

The movements like saggy boobs movements,thefreeboobsmovement, black is beautiful, fat girls rock,stretchmark is babe et al are created by women from a place if low self esteem. It comes from a "I want you to accept us like this" ideology.

The tags "strong woman"," independent woman "is a way of saying a woman is normally not independent or strong. They portray themselves as weak,they see something wrong in being women if they dont add the tag strong and independent. Why hate your womanhood and always compare yourself to men?are men standards worthy if your emulation?
They want to enjoy as much as a man not even as much as they wish,they use men as a yard stick to measure their level freedom

Most ladies suffer from low self esteem...they dont want to improve their confidence but rather subtly sing the victim song to garner validation for their lives ,when you don't give them such validation and approval they will put themselves on the hold and blame you of oppressing them instead of living out their dreams.

LuQuLuQu:


I checked Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn etc,, still didn't find them.

They probably are using monikers as names on social media hence the difficulty in finding the males

LuQuLuQu:


Honestly, NL was my last resort, as I've checked all social media platforms looking.

Most of them females would have been married and changed surnames. So it was difficult finding them.
Once I get a contact, I'd definitely get others.

Thanks man

rockstarB:

Because society hardly bully a man for choosing to be single, nobody calls you evening newspapers.

LuQuLuQu:

Not all old friends from school have whatsApp group.
Moreover those of us that left school before the advent of social media, are finding it hard locating our friends.

Bojack:
Nice thread, still waiting for unmarried men

emmaodet:


The op of this thread is crackclap while yours is crackland and crachhhaus, i thought it was you.
Seems a lot of people like this crack.... something as moniker.
Is the name really from hard drugs? Like cracks? Or just an inspiration

Ladyhippolyta88:




You are not serious.
Bye

Ladyhippolyta88:

Why should I be the one to do it when I did not ask for the stories of the average Nneka and Adetutu to believe the OP's point that some women stay unmarried by choice.
But you said you needed to hear their stories first for it to be realistic to you.

Since you are so keen on that why don't you do the interview na

MizMyColi:
I'm yet to see comments like:
After God, fear women.

Where the crew at?

Orestino:

Bia..someone said where the devil is too busy to go, he sends women.. is it true?

adigun98:
In Chris browns voice
'These hoes ain't loyal'

DancingSkeleton:
After devil na women

Ladyhippolyta88:

Direct it to the OP then.
Nor be me open thread


The thread was not about the average Nneka,Adetutu and Aisha you brought that one up by yourself and since you want to hear their stories to know if it is realistic or not interview them.
That is your own cup of tea not the OP's
So you enter road do your research

Ladyhippolyta88:

The list are celebrities because they are popular and the ones we know and can have a certain influence on people.

When you interview the average ones let me know.
People use celebrities more because they are popular and their stories are out there.

The stories of Nneka and Adetutu is unknown because either they have refused to share or they are not that popular to influence or reach and wide audience

Ladyhippolyta88:

The average Nneka and Adetutu has been conformed by the society to believe that her worth and life purpose is tied to marriage.

If you think outside the box and cage that the society has put you in you will be labelled and called all sorts of names for thinking differently.
The white ir oyinbo society is quite different because they give room for new ideas and do not force you to conform due to the fact that they have evolved.They were once like us too.

Dambisa Moyo is an African woman from Zambia at 51, unmarried the last time I checked and doing well for herself.

Explorers:

The parent, who remains unidentified, made the shocking discovery after taking the newborns to undergo a DNA test as part of the standard procedure to register their births in China, a DNA analyst told reporters.

falcon01:
you guys just read and fail to understand, This post ain't about me, its a discussion on a particular topic. @topic don't you think sexuality in this generation is weird an bleeped up? What we think is, is actually not what it is the human mind has been confused by making a woman out of a man while retaining the main male attribute thus giving a confused sexuality vibe?.

Gaggi:


Na that first category we dey find. I will forever respect such a lady. I like people who know what they want out of life.

falcon01:
This is something I believe lots of people do it but don't talk about it, You know like having to rub one off while watching Some Tranny porn, will it be considered gay since they where originally men or it's straight since they have the boobies, hips and everything or is it just weird since its like a woman with a dick. I need to hear your views on this.

kunleajaye:

So what’s the point of my whole epistle? I’m not here to wallow in self-pity or beg for people’s empathy. I just want people to know that sometimes, family is more important than what you stand to achieve. You can have multiple degrees, many houses, wealth, accolades, titles and such, but of what importance is it all if you don’t have the most important people in your life to share them with? Here I am, about to finish, but with a sad and empty feeling. I feel so sad I won’t see the huge smiles on the faces of my family as I walk down the stage to be conferred the title “Doctor of Science” to me. I feel so sad the sacrifices I made over the past almost ten years of my life, dedicating everything to achieving this so-called dream, has cost me those dearest to me.

Gaggi:
I can't seem to find these women that are independent, intelligent, not interested in marriage and have a successful career in real life.They all seem to be on nairaland and Twitter only.
Even the ones at work who are hitting late 30s and early 40s always seem to want a serious man who is ready to settle.

I'd really love to meet some of you and be friends. I'm married to a woman who wants to be married and all my female relatives want to be married. It'll be nice to meet this care free, successful women who are different and be friends with them.

emmaodet:



Ohhhhhh
Modern man don suffer .... Chaiiii

ThothHermes:
Baffling.

emmaodet:


But this is very bad. What is marriage when we can't have each others back? Why should marriage be one sided to favour only women when things are good?

Why should we encourage a system that wants women to just be there with a man when he has money. That means - Owo epo laraye bani la, wan kin bani la teje. People will only lick your sugar hand and not bloody hand.
Life is all about you rub my back, i rub your back.
Ki owo jowo ni owo fin mo - you can only get a fully clean hand when you use both hands to rinse thoroughly and not just one.
If my wife won't be there for me when things are down, support me, raise a loan for me in her cooperative then there is no point marrying in the first place.
Let me enjoy my life a lone when i have so that i will suffer a lone when i don't have.
This is really bad and i don't encourage it.
Life is never a straight line graph. Today am working and earning, tomorrow i may run into turbulent times and lose my income or businesses or investments too.
Nothing is 100% predictable bro

PrimadonnaO:
The lines between feminism and misandry gets more and more blurry as the days go by.

UjuJoan2:


I meant that as an irony.

Of course, if men were truly superior they would never find themselves in a position where mere women will have to cater for them. It's that assumption of superiority that has put you guys in this exact position.