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Family / Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by crackland: 11:17am On May 14, 2020
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THAT'S JUST THE FACT. YOU'RE HUNDRED PERCENT ON POINT.
THIS IS WHY I TELL MEN TO NEVER BE WITH A WOMAN THAT EARNS MORE THAN THEM. INFACT, LEAVE THE MARRIAGE ONCE YOUR JOB IS SHAKY. DON'T EVEN WAIT UNTIL YOU LOSE IT BECAUSE HELL FIRE IS BETTER THAN A MARRIAGE WHERE A WOMAN IS PAYING YOUR BILLS.
Bro any man that remains in the house eating his wife's money after life happened to him, is on his own.

Same thing I've always stated here.

He ought to move far away from her and only visit occasionally to see the kids.
If it's not against his moral/ethical codes, he can have a side-chic at his new base to release tension once in a while.

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Family / Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by crackland: 11:14am On May 14, 2020
UjuJoan2:


I agree . . . I will never respect any man I have to feed. I just won't be able to.

I imagine it may look unfair as that would mean men have no room for failure, or they will never find love. But that's just the reality.

Being the superior gender is not an easy feat!
Not an easy feat at all...

Glad to know you understand there is a superior gender.

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Family / Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by crackland: 10:28am On May 14, 2020
But Bukatyne, you're indeed a trailblazer... cool

There's no place for argument.

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Family / Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by crackland: 10:07am On May 14, 2020
ibkayee:

Lol I don't think you quoted yourself and asked someone to answer it just for emphasis for some reason lipsrsealed
The person that show was meant for knows he can't give a concise answer to his own irony.

Stating it again is for emphasis, right emphasis this time... Not the one on the heading of the thread which got y'all worked up.

Dunning-Kruger sure understands the science of humans, he is a genius. cool

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Family / Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by crackland: 10:02am On May 14, 2020
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pocohantas:

No, you actually care. You are waiting for who will reply you, so that you can drag the person into your endless arguments and semantics. Which by the way, is like heroin to your system

Rest biko. You have tried for today. grin
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And here you are replying me, fulfilling my heroin addiction.

Dunning-Kruger is a genius..

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Family / Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by crackland: 9:59am On May 14, 2020
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pocohantas:

Oga, go and rest abeg. Nobody is going to answer you. Highest, you will loose guard again and get banned. Bye bye
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Madam, I do not care about anyone answering me...although you just did since you can't help yourself cheesy

As long as my comments are being read, the ministry is moving.

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Family / Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by crackland: 9:56am On May 14, 2020
choice17:

Exactly, there's a 1001 topics on NL/family section to read from. If they find hers offensive, why not leave quietly like I always do; rather na bashing and frustration upandan
But won't it be so hard to just leave when she lives in a rent-free condo inside your head?

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Family / Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by crackland: 9:51am On May 14, 2020
crackland:

Isn't it funny how right in the same sentence where people should be allowed to have their own choices, yet when the OP has chosen to abide by her religious beliefs and still chose to share tit-bits of it here for anyone who cares to accept it, you claim she is pushing it on people.


Pushing it with what please?
A microphone on one hand, and an automatic machine gun on the other?
Can someone please help me answer the question here, or maybe explain the irony in the first paragraph.

We don't need the thread to be derailed once again from its purpose by engaging in chats about who insults, who is important, who should leave and who should stay, etc...
This is not anyone's business.

A thread about work/career is not for KG1 psychoanalysis on people's personalities.
They will say have civil discussions but na still dem dey first start to carry on uncivilised discussions.


Dunning-Kruger is a genius. cool

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Family / Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by crackland: 9:11am On May 14, 2020
Acidosis:

Oh now you agree these elements actually bullied her?
Tor...

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Family / Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by crackland: 8:58am On May 14, 2020
choice17:
bukatyne!!
Some of this bitter women want to guilt trip you to act in accordance to their expectation, please don't conform.

Your write-up is not for everyone, Your opinion is your opinion, stick to to it. Some people are benefiting from it.
Exactly...

They are simply trying to gaslight her into:

1. Stopping her posting of topics/opinions which they don't fancy.

OR

2. Continue posting but ONLY post what they like to read.

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Family / Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by crackland: 8:48am On May 14, 2020
Mynd44:

The OP is pushing her religious shaped beliefs on people. It creates issues. Allow people have their choices. Having a family isn't compulsory and not a precursor to happiness
Isn't it funny how right in the same sentence where people should be allowed to have their own choices, yet when the OP has chosen to abide by her religious beliefs and still chose to share tit-bits of it here for anyone who cares to accept it, you claim she is pushing it on people.


Pushing it with what please?
A microphone on one hand, and an automatic machine gun on the other?

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Family / Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by crackland: 8:33am On May 14, 2020
Acidosis:


So how would people know what works for them without people like OP?

To say marriage is not for everyone while still spending most of your time on family section, for me, is cra.zy. If marriage is not for everyone, then the so called everyone shouldn't be here in the first place. It's like saying WEALTH is not for everyone on an investment thread. That's a stup!d idea.

Some of you are just bitter, it's very obvious seeing how you folks descended on the personality behind the post. You people have called her old school and all sorts without even realizing the fact that no sane man wants to spend his life with a problematic modern and overly exposed man-woman. There's something about her you lots hate so bitterly.

Add religious fanatic (Christian) to that.

Typical expressionions of Argumentum Ad hominems...

Bully tactic 101



Placing the wrong emphasis on work suddenly means people should ONLY get married and not have a job/career.

Is it the phrase "wrong emphasis" that is sooo hard to understand? grin

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Family / Re: Placing The Wrong Emphasis On Work (aka Earning A Living) by crackland: 8:03am On May 14, 2020
emmaodet:

It's well.
Thanks for the words of encouragement because even though am married and shouldn't be worried, i have brothers, family and friends close to me i won't wish they marry these set of ladies.
By the way, you are my wife namesake and i like your comments.
Amin

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Family / Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by crackland: 7:19am On May 14, 2020
Sixfeetbelle:


Okay.
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Family / Re: Why Don't Husbands Have Issues With Their Father In Laws? by crackland: 7:15am On May 14, 2020
Sixfeetbelle:

This assertion is wrong. Women aren't at war with themselves. They have successfully maintained friendships that last over a long period of time even if they argue and disagree with each other occasionally the years, as is obtainable with every human relationship.

Over-familiarity is the major cause of problems between MIL and DIL.
How old is your longest friendship with another female please?

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Family / Re: Have You Ever Lost A Dear One That Makes You Cry Till Now? by crackland: 9:21pm On Apr 26, 2020
Family / Re: Wives And Submission To Their Husband by crackland: 9:01pm On Apr 26, 2020
Kuns84:

Fuzzywuzzy is ran by coco.candy. Plain and simple!
This is doubtful. cheesy

I just went through the post history of the Fuzzywhatever. Since Dec 2 2019, about 98% of its posts have been directed towards Bukatyne - sometimes quoting her directly, other times throwing subs.

It's definitely an alternate handle run by someone with something very personal against Buka which is why I believe it may not be the person you're thinking.
But I have a very fair idea who it might be - FountainofLittlelois cheesy

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Family / Re: Have You Ever Lost A Dear One That Makes You Cry Till Now? by crackland: 8:52pm On Apr 26, 2020
sassysure:

Thanks.
I'm gonna delete that post as seeing it is rattles me.

Okay then, lemme edit..
Family / Re: Wives And Submission To Their Husband by crackland: 8:48pm On Apr 26, 2020
@Merahki
Now you I can dialogue with.

Leave Bukatyne alone na, woz your own? grin
Tell me, lol

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Family / Re: Have You Ever Lost A Dear One That Makes You Cry Till Now? by crackland: 8:18pm On Apr 26, 2020
sassysure:
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Bear hugs kiss
Family / Re: Should I Build With Her Or Do It All Alone? by crackland: 5:39pm On Apr 15, 2020
sassysure:

Go away!
Mtcheeeeeeeeeew embarassed embarassed embarassed


Yeah, u are right most time logically.
Just that we are too sentimental and biased to see that.

When it comes to matters of the heart, we tend to use the heart instead of common sense and that's why we are hurt always.
Love is not blind anymore grin
cheesycheesy
Family / Re: Should I Build With Her Or Do It All Alone? by crackland: 5:34pm On Apr 15, 2020
sassysure:

Good then kiss kiss kiss kiss
I'm beginning to like you.

Then, can u take it further by doing court marriage.
Non of your people will be in attendance. Just u and her and a witness.

Crackland, come and see your fellow man wey his heart dey beat around his woman tongue
Not yours that is frozen cheesy cheesy

Repent and let love fill your soul and rejuvenate you tongue cheesy
Love is a beautiful thing kiss
I've always been a lover, never a fighter... cool

Cam to ze oza room, lemme show you wharamean grin
Family / Re: Should I Build With Her Or Do It All Alone? by crackland: 5:32pm On Apr 15, 2020
Abeg make una let a prince announce that he is a prince. cheesy

If it was that easy, you sef go and come from a royal family. gringrin
Family / Re: Should I Build With Her Or Do It All Alone? by crackland: 3:40pm On Apr 15, 2020
Rubbish...

Na film una dey act for here sef. cheesy
Family / Re: Should I Build With Her Or Do It All Alone? by crackland: 3:38pm On Apr 15, 2020
sassysure:

I have to agree with you on this.
U are right.
She went about it the wrong way.
As vain as this will seem, I'm usually right most of the time. tongue cheesy

It just takes a longer route for certain people to get to a destination I already arrived at in my head hours/days before. grin tongue
Family / Re: Should I Build With Her Or Do It All Alone? by crackland: 3:32pm On Apr 15, 2020
factormatt6:
. Please can you suggest ways to go about it?
Is she going to read this? Lol.. grin

Okay so the simplest way is effective communication.
You both need to sit down face-to-face and talk. And I don't mean arguing, I mean talk. You give her your own timeline and state the reasons why you would like her to be patient with it - she should not respond when you're talking, only listen.
When you're done, tell her it's her turn to inform you of her own timeline again and state the exact reasons why it is really important for her to get married within that period. You should not respond either, only listen.

The next step is to reach a compromise.
But you have to know that reaching a compromise is not only your responsibility, it is equally hers as well. She must first have it at the back of her mind & understand that she will not get exactly what she wants, you must also have it at the back of your mind & understand that you will not get exactly what you want either.
Once you both have this mindset, half the job is already done.

Now depending on the reasons you had both provided earlier, you can draw up a plan together that will place both of you somewhere with the semblance of a middle ground. Remember this conversation has to involve a whole lot of things - financing, personal goals, educational commitments (if included in the reasons), etc..

None of you should emotionally try to blackmail the other person.
She may feel the urge to tell you that there are men who have been asking her hand in marriage and she has been refusing them because of you - this is emotional blackmail, and is a warning sign.
You may also feel the urge to tell her that there are women who have been offering you their hearts and bodies and are ready to wait for you - this is emotional blackmail too, and is a warning sign.

By the time the conversation is over, there's a very high probability that both of you would have agreed on something IF you were ever truly in love with each other.

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Family / Re: Should I Build With Her Or Do It All Alone? by crackland: 2:53pm On Apr 15, 2020
factormatt6:
. She just been calm yesterday and today not that she is given me attitude. I just want what is best for both of us. I never resent her rather if she can be patience with me, I respect and value her the more.
Bruv, your matter don dey taya me.

You want her to be patient with you, but it seems she doesn't want to be patient with you.
This is a clear-cut issue.

Maybe you should talk to her again to make her see reasons with you, but if she still insists on needing her space...then let her go.
Family / Re: Should I Build With Her Or Do It All Alone? by crackland: 2:49pm On Apr 15, 2020
sassysure:

I missed that part tongue

Maybe, I need the food more than you grin cheesy

My submission is still the same for the guy.
As for u, (ishi òkpùkpù) tongue, look for translator grin
Don't make your woman reach that position or better, go for a woman who can waste away 4 yrs or more without blinking and age is still on her side. Mid twenties.

Though, I will not outrightly tell you to do it today or tomorrow, I will look at your actions, if nothing, I go vamoose cheesy

@@op is the type that will disappear cheesy
His tone at the beginning summed him up. We still have court marriage.
I did mine with 15k or was it cheaper?
Have forgotten. So cheap. Two or 3 witnesses and court officials and viola, I have fulfilled all righteousness grin
Come sef, the girl the OP is talking about is 25yrs old. cheesy

Not like that age makes it okay to keep any woman waiting without defining where the relationship is headed. But for someone who feels she needs to be wedded within a specified time, there are much better ways to go about it than using threats and ultimatums.
Family / Re: Should I Build With Her Or Do It All Alone? by crackland: 2:26pm On Apr 15, 2020
factormatt6:
. Funny I did tell her that but my love for her, I over look it. I have history with a lot of ladies, I never believe I could fall in love but with this girl the world can come to a stand still.
Bruv, I'll be honest with you.

1. If you let her go, you will be doing both of yourselves a huge favour in the long run.
She gets to be with someone who is ready to marry her ASAP, and you get to focus on those things which are more important to you while nurturing another relationship with someone else.

2. If you marry her, you will be doing it as a favour to her because of the attitude she's putting up and not because it's really what you want.
You may grow to resent her because of this somewhere down the line, or you may not and everything will work out fine.

The choice ultimately is yours.

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