₦airaland Forum

onuman:
Tinubu was limited to Party Leader, never allowed to hold any official post in APC, unarguably because Buhari and his inner crew members knew of Tinubu’s past drug business.
If Tinubu had any official post in APC, the party would have been seen as party of drug trafficking barons.
Presidential election, they placed Shettima as their true Presidential candidate to ride piggyback on Tinubu to Aso Rock.

onuman:
Do you mean Yorubas must support a drug trafficking baron, Tinubu,
to become president of Nigeria, because Tinubu is a Yoruba?

BentizilL:
You can't tell Yoruba how to run their land...
Tinubu is the best thing to happen to Lagos in this century...

If not for tribalism, deep down you know Tinubu is the best candidate but your hatred for him and the Yoruba race won't allow you accept the truth..

Idaytesj29:
Your whining is a waste of time

Papaya3df:
The Nigerian government knows these terrorists and these terrorists knows the Nigerian government.

EzeNwaanyiMmili:
tinubu is a criminal
he'll never rule this country
Kiss the truth


tinubu is a yoruba muslim project and yoruba Muslims are fake Muslims that blessed bobrisky because of money

PointZerom:
Pls respect our drug lord.

Call him Pablo EscoBAT

Legend44:
Na dollars them so soon dey ask for as ransom

Corporate2020:
You said Tinubu is a hardened drug lord, but thousands of your brethren are in prisons all over the world for drugs trafficking and human trafficking. Is it Tinubu that also gave them drugs?

kbower:
Your dumb aass could have probably said yourd and moved da eff on, why call me simp and degrade whim birthed my kids, na so u dey run ur own wife? If i come here come express myself, he concern ur fagbon? Abi make i find u 4 by 4 land for ur head. You can imagine comparing whats real life and more of a pressing issue to me unlike ur dumbo who came here to ask people that a ladyis giving you ultimatum to cum in her a$$$ or shes done with u, seeking advice for such ish doesnt make u the simpest mugu in the whole wild world?

kbower:
weak man this weak man that, can you ever even be at my level? So STFU

Bksense:
Even if your wife is sleeping with someone else, it doesn't matter. What matters is you're in abroad. Being abroad upgrade your worth in front of everyone you leave back home. When you get to UK, be subservient to her. Let her do whatever she wants. If she carry a man comes home give them space. It's just knack and e no dey read meter. Your wife is for you to enjoy after that.

occfx:
OP is lost already.. He should just commot mind where that woman dey. Find another big nyyash for Nigeria dey fire. A lot of big nyyashes here. Let her enjoy herself, she is been longing for this freedom. Oga OP is just a SIMPle man already.

kbower:
STFU

kbower:
Wow post made FP. I wasnt surprised though cos I poured my heart out. For some people saying Mr Mike is the same as the person looking into her phone, no I never said so, Mr Mike is the man she met in school the very first day she went for registration, the man lives in London, while my madam lives in luton, which is outside London, the guy in question she met between town but he also live in luton.

As for the guy asking which school shes in, shes in uel and not Bedfordshire.

Guys ever since I stopped making I miss u calls, just like I said, she has started bombarding me with calls which I take and we talk normal, but then she now thinks am doing shady things, saying to reach u these days is hard, where were u, have u gotten home and all that. This recent events now made he bring up the guys issue once again friday night. She said she really wants me to get the job so she would really want me to link up with the dude, this time I went beserk and warned her again but this time severely that I do not want to have anything to do with someone that you have allowed disrespect and downgraded me, I said if his connect wont work, then i will get another. Yesterday she called me and said well we dont need that yeye guy's connect again, that she checked online and saw agencies that could help secure that kind of job.Today now so I dey ask am why she nor dey prepare for church, she sey she no want trouble because of the guy, sey infact he fit be sey na because of her the guy go wan go the church that she would rather stay back and that she has even blocked him. Oh well I am leaving soon, whatever the case is, I cannot die, I will only excel, I know myself

NoToPile:
Points to note

Your dad was/is a provider, he was/is truly the head in title, actions and in deeds. I respect him for that it's not easy, even if your mum worked feeding, school fess, accommodation 3 major things you mentioned here were not her headache how many women can say such today? How many women have these 3 alone settled by their husband's. You know the answer.

Your mum said she never suffered in her marriage so why will your mum misbehave it would be wickedness to be bad to someone who had fulfilled his role as a husband. It's very easy to submit to a man who treats you right as God ordained it.
9 out of 10 times women who misbehave when they have small opportunity are those who have been treated wrongly by their husband's in the past.

It is boys of nowadays who want partnership read all over Nairaland, they can't even provide for their family they also want a lady to provide equally, birth children, nurture them and do all sorts, without relinquishing their leadership role, women are naturally not built for both roles if they do both slowly resistance and resentment will begin to build, then slowly it manifests, even in very religious women.
The economy too doesn't help matters these days so who do we blame? I also don't have an answer.


See ehn until we all go back to the basics as God ordained it marriages might continue to fail.

OkoAmarashy:
See your mouth like patriarchy. It seems where you come from, it is your mother controlling your father and calling the shots.
You are still young and single. When you grow older, you will understand better.

kbower:
Hi Nlanders

We all know no marriage is all that smooth and rosey, we all that are in it have challenges here and there, and for almost 11 years now, out of tolerance, ruggedity, minding my business in terms of taking care of the family have always been something that has held my marriage down, because the majority of the issue I have with my wife have always been issues of trust, transparency, accountability, respect and loyalty.

Some people will say with these things I have listed, that I may be asking for too much, but I can tell whoever would reason that way that it's not too much because am a responsible father/husband that have never for once strayed the family in anyway that will make me lack any of the above stated qualities a man can enjoy from a wife.

Why am I here? Ok.. After enduring so much for 11 years, we are relocating to the UK, she is the main applicant, myself and the 3 children are dependants, she traveled first, leaving myself and the 3 kids behind until she can secure accommodation b4 we leave.

I have heard about countless incidences of how SOME women treat their husbands and the POWER zoned to women in that country which makes it almost impossible for a man with a wife that gives him constant problem to be able to thrive in that country.

I just want to state three peculiar incidences that occured during her 1month stay over there that is already making me feel I have alot to face over there, though I know my God is bigger than anything, I just want people that are over there, or people that are experienced here and all over who are capable of handing a good advise for me on getting there to know how I can fare and withstand what is to come.

Based on the above from the major incidences I have experienced with her, first two weeks of being there, she had gone to check a house b4 heading to school, on her way back to school, she claimed she didn't take enough money and going back home might not be possible, I asked how she would wanna go about it
and she replied saying I will borrow money from Mr Mike, a man she just met at school on her first day of registration. I was like that's wrong, you don't form familiarity with someone you just met in another man's country, I said I will call a friend in liverpool to send you money and you could get your train ticket. She fumed, but I stood my ground and said that's how its going to be. I have asked her to collect a friends account details, since she has not opened an account yet, she said when her class finishes by 8.30pm she'll request details from her friend so the money can be sent. Fast forward to closing period, I messaged her to send me details, she ignored, I called ad she said nobody has an account that I should not worry she will sort herself, I was now like you just got to that country, u have no friends that u know too well to rely on, I am ur hubby and I opened a way for u to get money easily, yet u didn't make any effort to redeem the opportunity, omo she hung up on me then later called back that she gathered few pennies she had to get the ticket, I was now like why didn't u just say this instead of putting me on pressure over how to get money to convey u all the way from london to Luton, over an hour journey at night.

Secondly, on her next school day, she had previously told me prior to her closing hours that her data has finished and she's using schools wifi, that the moment she steps out from school to head home, she won't be having access to internet, etc WhatsApp and all of that, but importantly was to make use of GPS google map, that's what people over there use to navigate their way in order not to get lost, I was like without internet how do u intend to get to ur destination when u know how stressful it was for u getting lost the other day, now the same statement she made was, I will sort myself. I was raged and said woman I will ask my friend to buy u data so u can get home easy and safe, she said no proble, that she's leaving now, I said well since i wont be able to reach you on whats app, I will definitely call you on normal call shortly to give you the data pin to load. She said no P and hung up.

Moments later, my friend had sent me the data pin, na so I begin dey call wifey oo, over 15 missed calls she nor pick. Later she called back and said her phone was in her laptop bag and her hands were frozen so she couldnt put hands in the bag to pick the call and that she didn't even hear it ring.

The issue I posted up there are issues of not being accountable, and attitude of not showing that you don't need me when its not just about that but for security and your well being knowing fully well you are new in the country and proper guidelines needs to be taken.

Another incident happened 3rd week after her arrival, we were video chatting while she was on a train station waiting for train, next thing I noticed was a guy sitting BEHIND her, the guy boldly took a peep into her phone directly, seemingly trying to see who she was on video call with, immediately i called her attention to it, she just smiled and looked back and said silently, nawa some people for this London nor go mind their business. This very day developed a story that transitioned towards few things I will be stating.

The next sunday, I called her in the morin to say hi and all that, next thing I know she dun dey go church, she nor even discuss am with me and na wetin we dn agree on sey we fo jointly choose church wey we go dey go. After church service, she call me sey that guy wey i talk sey dey peep into her phone, sey the guy that very day asked her how long shes been there for, she said, just 3 weeks, sey how come she come take know road when him don dey 3months he nver know road, sey that same guy him coincidentally meet am for the new church wey she come so, sey the guy dey look am, she comot eye, but later the guy come meet am sey are u not the one that showed me way to where I was going. Sey as him meet the guy coincidentally for church, he fit be sey he get why, maybe for job connection or what not. I nor say anything, cos coincidences arent something new in this world. Then the next day, she call me sey that same guy needs an apartment, sey na married guy with 4 kids, but him wife and 1kid dey here, 3 dey nija them nor fit come yet until house is ready, sey him dey ask her if she can help him get someone that can reference for him to get a house, ha him my wife come dey ginger me sey make i help am talk to my friend wey help us reference if him go fit help the guy too. I come sey no problem, she sey she go call the guy now and put us on 3 way call, i sey no p, i come dey wait for call, no call come and madam nor talk again, i come ring her sey hafa u nor do the three way call again? She sey the guy dey work, him nor fit talk,sey she don give the guy my number to call me later, me come sey no p, send him number I go save am down so if he calls i go know sey na him, madam nor gree send number, I come dey wonder sey wetin dey sup sef, normally I nor spose reason ahead, but me my instict dey very strong, i come begin dey put two and two together sey maybe the guy intention was never to get help but to use style dey hit on my madam maybe na why him nor wan talk to me but wan use my madam dey take communicate.

I come ask madam some some questions on previous ish, I come find out sey small lie dey, so I tackler her sey the way she take explain to me about how him meet the guy for train station nor join, she come vex sey me i come am liar, omo as we dey talk for whatsapp, i nor blv sey my madam added this guy to the call without my consent or my knowledge, so as I dey talk, the guy dey the background, i nor even know anything and the dude himself kept quiet, na after the call finish, I see am for call details sey the guy was added to the call, infact the dude even called me directky i nor pick. Now i got very angry, come call madam sey wetin dey sup, u added this dude wey talk sey him dey work him nor fit talk to the call wey me and u dey on and u didnt even notify me, ok lets agree sey if to sey u wan tell me sey u wan add the guy for call sey i nor go gree sey maybe na why u add am without my consent, at least after u add am secretly, u are suppose to talk and sey bae, since u are accusing me wrongly.

I have added the guy to this call so he can clear me out, but she didnt, she just added the guy and the dude himself kept quiet and didnt say a word until I hung up. I got very furious and told her this is the highest level of see finish and dragging in the mud, wetin u want that guy to dey feel like now? She said shes sorry that she only wanted to clear herself, I was now like even if u wanted to clear urself, if that the best way to go about it, the person who is the subject matter is the best person u need to introduce to clear u out? Later on i just bone the matter come apologise sey make we move on, na so she come begin dey yarn plenty, sey she call the guy that my hubby said that the way we met is unreal, sey the guy sef come talk sey wow, so your husband already thinks am sleeping with you, but i cant blame u though, u know u have a big back side, so thoughts like that from him is likely not a surprise, i was hmmmm to hear that, i come tell madam sey if na true this guy talk this thing, shouldnt u already know he has corny itentions, she said well she too dey wonder cos the two times wey them meet she nor wear wetin fit show her bkside so how d guy come take know. The matter end there, next day madam still dey worry me sey shey I go still help d guy, I was like I cant even talk to him, u dun useless me already for him presence, she dey claim sey she nor do anything wrong by adding him to the call, sey the guy know of agency wey fit help me get better job if i arrive, and sey the guy talk sey if me fit connect am to my friend to reference am for house, him go link me up fr the agency. I talk sey i nor dey interested. Omo I weak. Guys I need advise on how to handle issues over there, cos me nor dey take nonsense for nija here, but for there, one needs to chill, but then should it now be sey because we dey live for country wey give woman power, make woman come use that opportunity come dey fumble?

NigeriaIsGreat:
if every state should go by this your logic then APC won't even have an opposition. You know they control 22 states, Senate, house of assembly + the G5 governors fighting PDP that's almost 30 state

No start wetin you no go fit finish o

DadaHammed:
The phrase 'awa lokan'...yoruba lokan' is full of tribalism.