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Absolutely, love can die.

A man that is honest, respectful, tells the truth, is reliable and keeps his word. One that is attractive and has a good sense of humor. Not saying he should be funny all the time or most of the time, but has the ability to make me laugh if the opportunity calls for it. I plan to do the same. Also a man that is committed to being with me and making our relationship work. One that makes the effort to make me happy. One that is affectionate and also great in bed.

Wish there was a magic, crystal ball that could answer the question. So many questions about the same thing: "Does she like me" and "Does he like me?"

I plan to set up one on 10 Good things men need to know about women. Nwoke, if one already exists, point me to it. Seems like for every 1 post about what men need to know about women, there are about 20 for what women need to know about men. It's all about women having to listen to men. Sure, but make the effort to listen to us and learn about us. There are a lot of things we women would like men to know too! Women have needs too.

Frankly, I am so sick of listening to men. I have heard it all and now it is time for them to listen to us in my opinion.

^^^ But maybe I shouldn't be shocked. That type of deceit is becoming more and more common these days.

Pearldrop, what happened? Last time I read your online diary, you were about to go on a trip and you were going to cook for this guy (or your sis was delivering some food) and you had invited him over. What did I miss? It will be OK, babe! And you are not the only one that hurts. I bet there are several people on here hurting too. Not everyone is brave enough to put it out there and say that they are hurting.

WHat was this personal experience? After you get married, I think it should be your wife. It is one of those things that really depends on the situation. I think whoever is being reasonable in that situation should be placed first. So if your mother is being obnoxious or unreasonable, you shouldn't put her first just because she is your mother.

yes!

If you can't trust a person, then they shouldn't be your best friend in the first place.

@ IBB, all these things can be corrected only if the offender is willing to correct. In many cases, they are not willing to and rebel because they feel you are trying to change them.

I just called the act idiotic, so take a wild guess as to whether or not I would do that.  As you rightly guessed, no, I wouldn't. I believe when trying to find out about a partner in a relationship, you can ask them(yes, they can lie but at least you asked) or  you can watch their actions (which speak louder than words). Or you can also ask other people who know them (even though you shoud take that with a grain of salt). But testing them? No!

Regarding mind games, men play WAY MORE mind games than women and that is the truth.

But legry, if the woman is driving you insane THAT much with talking about her drama, maybe you should bring it up and tell her (in not as many words)? Maybe bring it up at one of those times that she is not talking about the drama and is in a great mood? Seems to make sense to me rather than her drive you insane and get to the point where you finally have to break up with her.

People have said it all already. The wriiting is on the wall, clear as day. I know this guy that went through the same thing. He struggled to keep her, got married to her and throughout their time, she stressed him out so much making excuses about religion. He even got her pregnant intentionally just to keep her and within 1 yr, it was all over. If she wants to fly, give her wings. Let her go.

Baby girl, it doesn't work that way. You can't ask for everybody's help and then suddenly tell everyone to buzz off. Not cool. 

If you don't get it, that is a problem, my brother.
The test in itself was stupid and leaving her as a result of her sleeping with him, even more stupid.
Besides, let's say for  argument's sake that what the girl did was wrong, is he leaving someone he was so convinced before that he loved over one "mistake' which happens to be the fact that she decided to sleep with him?
And he draws the conclusion which is totally ridicuolous that if she decided to sleep with him, them it means that blah blah blah,   too stupid to repeat but you get the idea.

Deking, the guy you described is one hell of an idiot!

I didnt watch it today, but when I saw the 11 pages under this topic, I guessed what was up!

It is a bad idea and if your company has a policy against that, you are breaking the rules. Many companies do and you can be fired for that. If you boss is married, it is also morally wrong. But I see you are in Abuja, so I am guessing that there is no written code against it. But like I said, you are playing with fire.

Dont these men tell you why they stopped to talk to you in the first place? maybe you look somewhat African.

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  Re: What Do Ladies Hate in Men?
« #11 on: September 14, 2005, 03:33 AM » 

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When a man is not honest it's detestable.  I do not like a man that cannot take care of himself (personal hygiene.  I dislike when a man gloats about how he can do this and that but when push comes to shove he can do nothing.

I am also none to pleased by a man who brags on all of the materialistic things he has.  I could honestly care less about your rims, flashy cars, $900 shoes, and all of the women who want you.

I dislike a disrespectful man.  I also dislike one who has no goals.  No outlook on life.  One who is lazy and not looking to better himself.

I dislike a lawless man.

I dislike it when a man will call after me after I've walked past him and expect me to turn around and walk all the way back just for him to say something tacky and tasteless.

I do not like sexually lewd comments, especially if you do not know me. 

I do not like promises made that cannot be kept.  I'd rather you not make the promise.

I dislike one who thinks he's "God's gift to women" so he'll treat anyone any how.  I dislike the "know it all." I dislike. . . well, I think that's enough.

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Vexxxy, I think you said it all! Good job, Mama!

Yes, but I think it can be revived.

Two words: BAD IDEA!!!
Until you are solidified in the relationship like married for a few years, I wouldn't do something like that. I am secure in my relationships but this is a bit much. What, am I asking him to talk her into a menage a throis with us or what?

That does sound kinda weird.

@ IBB, Thanks for that info. I hadn't noticed that with the women as well.

Once again, I am with Seun on this one!

I would be surprised if she wasn't a lesbian. And Latifah too. Eve the rapper must be bi as well.