Luumbion2, I hope you are kidding.

My girlfriend just met this guy that she is into but is a bit concerned. Thought I would ask here as I dont know what to tell her. Can you speak about your experience? Good or bad and what did you learn about their culture?

Here is a similar topic
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-720.0.html

Heck yeah it does!

That proposal over dinner thing is soooo played out. I would rather a guy asked me out anywhere even at home than over dinner. that idea is so unoriginal. It is as plain as vanilla icecream.

Here are many experiences of women talking about their experiences with Nigerian men.


Nigerian Men
12/30/2006 1:57:00 PM
I am a US woman [african/cuban desent] who had the misfortune of marrying a Nigerian back in 1983.Those Nigerian males that are in their late 40s and younger tend to be the product of their homeland.survival is by any means necessary.Dang,you all have them doing the same mess in Au. wow!my ex-husband Henry chimenzia Okpala [no pic of that box head fool here as it was too long ago] was a real bum.Nice as all get out while we ""dated"".We both rushed into marriage and then everything was about his culture this-his culture that.I did not get hit up for citizenship or cash, but he did have my medical benies until I dropped him from my coverage.He and his ""frends"" were very tight.I had one cuss me out and call me a bitch when I called my then husband's apt.This guy keep yelling and screaming that I was a bitch and not Henry's wife.[henry said that he had to keep his flat so that his friends from back home had a place to stay].I even wrote my ex's mom for advisement on the cultural level.She said that she needed to come to the States to help me as my only help. I was young then so I got my mama to talk to him. She broke his ass down.I had to flee the state and wait him out to get him to file the divorce against me, because culturally it would make his family look bad if I filed against him. After I got away from him and the nerferious acts of he and his friends, my sister meets a Nigerian guy who she claimed was soooo nice.I told her not to do it, but she married him anyway and she went through hell for two years.So now I understand is the new scam is to meet a woman, mainly a white female with a means to money, credit, etc. and steal everything from up under them. Maybe even cause the woman to have the government file charges against her.The Nierian male [almost always a guy but more nigerian women or womens' names are being used]will build an internet bond and eventually tell you that he has had a win-fall and wants you to have some of the money or they have a client who is in your county and is going to send you a payment via check for your new man. and he'll ask you to cash the check when it comes in with you keeping a sum of it and sending the rest to his account via wire or some other successfully laid scam.In the US, there have been people whose lives have been distroyed because of doing this favor for her man and unknowingly commits bank/wire/mail fraud.
It is the hardest thing to eat out of a marriage with these guys. They know the law better than many attorneys.But since people don't marry like back in my day, the game has changed and women, we all need to read the new playbook.


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regarding of
11/24/2006 1:08:00 PM
let me start by saying the only those who has gone thru the experience of having this kind of men in their lives know what kind of liars they are and the lenghts they go to make you believe them from fake police reports to use home addresses in the U.S.A. to make you believe their deceiving lies, i' just went thru one who say he was a bussines man, but bottom line he was just trying to scam money from me needless to say it didn't work, so he can just try with somebody else who would believe their lies. one last word when accepting or adding ppl you don't really know in your email addy's be very careful
trblmker


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reply to spell check
11/7/2006 7:23:00 AM
Where are the spelling mistakes? and the lack of correct sentence construction?
Have these comments hit a raw nerve with you? I think you protest too much! how is that for sentence construction?


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11/7/2006 4:56:00 AM
Are all of you retarded? Can't any of you construct a sentence or, better yet, SPELL CORRECTLY?!!!!! Idiots, the lot of you.


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yep yep
11/3/2006 7:01:00 PM
I agree on everything what gets said about these sorts. I been there and gone through it all with these horrible types of men!!


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10/30/2006 2:46:00 AM
YOu have to experience being with a Nigerian to know what it is really like. They are the worst kind I have known. So its not all about being racist, its about experiencing being in a relationship with one, especially finding out that you are one of many many females, and having all lies being told to you. So I myself know what it is like being in a more than three years with one, and I know that he is still doing the same thing !!


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Oh my,
10/29/2006 11:52:00 PM
Just because I think someone is wonderful doesn't guarantee they feel the same about me, does it? So, apart from insulting me, why don't you try to see the point of what I'm saying. That is, to judge an entire group of people because of where they originate from is racist. That's all I was saying and it's a fact.
Love, Miss UN. x


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Reply to ""Reply To""
10/28/2006 5:41:00 PM
Since you said some of them were wonderful, why aren't you with one of these ""wonderful"" africans? Answer that question, Miss United Nations. We call it like we see it or experience it.


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reply to hang on a minute
10/26/2006 9:48:00 AM
Sista/Brotha?
You obviously have never been involved with a man from Africa, or if you have you have been with the .5% of them who treat white women with respect and decency.


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Yes, yes,
10/25/2006 12:20:00 PM
I agree with you 100%. I dated one a few years ago and it was the worst mistake ever. They are a hand full and don't what it means to be faithful.


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Never again !!
10/25/2006 4:32:00 AM
I wouldnt dare to have anything to do with these two faced cheating lying people. Who would go around and say how much they into there christianity, when they know they go around and do all these horrible things. I would never get myself involved with a nigerian or african man again. I know what its like being one of many woman, and it is not a very good thing to go through. Whats been said about them is exactly what they are like!!!


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10/23/2006 10:46:00 AM
I don't necessarily think all nigerian men or african men are the same. That's the same thing men say about us on here; some women on here making stuff up and/or re-posting the same man 10 million times is the reason men (and others), don't think this is a legit site. Therefore, they call all of us lying, crazy bitches and that's just NOT true. We shouldn't generalize any race or sex. We're all different.


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10/23/2006 4:11:00 AM
I agree with what you say but dont just limit your comments to Nigerians, include all African men!
It seems being unfaithfull and seeing women just as a root is genetic.
Check out Allan Okoth and the comments there.

Make sure to ask him to get tested for STDs before having sex with him for the first time. Of course, you should get tested too.

absolutely nothing! what a mistake he was.

^^^^ Doubt that will ever happen.

Dwpoint, you have been blessed to be so tall. God has given you a blessing and you are saying it is too much? My boyfriend is 6'6. I LOVE IT!!!! When I met him, that was the first thing that attracted me to him. Oh and by the way, I am only 5' 6.

^^^ I am really so scared right now, ha ha!

@Ghengis, I dated 2 Nigerian men in the past. I blame my "prejudice" on 2 bad experiences. 2 experiences too many. Sorry, can't blame anyone for how I feel about Nigerian men. About the Kenyans etc,  I don't know. I can only speak of what I know. Since the topic is about Nigerian men, you know where I stand. Clearly, I am not the only one who posted those negative sentiments.

I would really not want anything fancy. Just get down on your knees and ask.

Nope!

@ Fresheva, if a man lied to me about being married and/or having kids, he would not be a friend in my book. But then that is just me.

Thank you, ladies!

^^^^ Typical. I encourage you to read the part that says:
You cannot change a man's behaviour. Change comes from within.
Word to the wise.

I dislike liars, guys who keep moving from job to job, guys who have friends that are losers, guys that wont admit it when they are wrong, guys who cheat, guys who think women are subservient to them, guys who spend all their time talking about what they have, guys who disrespect women, guys who only have negative things to say about their ex-es, short men, men with bad teeth, men with bad breath, men with bad body odor, men with small *****, men who don't call when they say they will, men who don't keep their promises, men with children by many different woman, men who always quit at eerything they start, men who  cannot pay their own bills, men who always want you to cook and will never take you out, men who break up with you just because there is a holiday coming up and that don't want to buy you a present (yes, there are men like that), men who are clueless about fashion, men who crack jokes that are not funny, in relation to that, men who think they are funny when they are really not.

I also hate men who brag about materialistic things and accomplishments, men who think they are good looking when they are really not all that, men who are skinny, men who think their sex game is all that when it is really wack, men who get into relationships to use women, men who can never even tell you about the last book they read, men who are not street smart, men who live above their means, men who spend all their money on fancy cars but live in bad neighborhoods, men who revolve debt and have no concept of money management, men who always look to you to to solve all their problems for them, men who will not give you credit when it is due, men who will try to blame you for their mistakes, men who will not admit it when they are wrong, men who are old enough to move out and still live with their parents.  You want me to go on? The list goes on and on and on.

It's been 7 months since I said I would think of a reason to love a Nigerian man. I still have none.

Well said, Damsal!

Ideal Man for me:

Between 180-200 lbs
At least 6 feet
Great sense of humor
ambitious
Intelligent
Articulate
Great conversationalist
Kind
NOT A LIAR OR CHEAT

There is nothing like a perfect relationship.