₦airaland Forum

nothing much ooh
just trying to
catch some fun
on nairaland lol

where are you?
and what are
you up to?

balleriina:
can i have you baby brother? he's damn cute aww

lol . . i'll ask him and get back to you

@ topic

(from her former profile pic.)

very beautiful and lovely!

Dearie you're so so right

that's my middle name- Gratefulness lol (i just love saying thankyou and showing appreciation (what some do not know is that it costs nothing and will take nothing out of you)
But good to have someone like you to remind us



Btw you're most welcome to nairaland
its so good to have you, hope you enjoy your stay here and have lots of fun.

eeeeeeennnnnnnnnjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjooooooooyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@ D Truth

just sent it

@ D Truth

i'm fine oooh
how are you?

banned twice?

just be careful

happens to d'best

Btw let me
send'u the mail

vote for who?

special

ooooh how nice

thats nice, continue
being curious dear

just don't let
it kill the

cat

Btw how'r you?

@ fe_mi

why are you
huhing, lol ooh

pretty

important

well today is
another lovely day

i'm missing someone
here on nairaland

but its all
good i guess

dear take this

nairaland nairaland nairaland

hey girlfriend @ maree7

@ busygirl
how are you?

determined

jbuoy:
@cute ass, hw is u? been some time now

i'm fine ooh, really been some time dear . . and i've actually missed you

lets meet @ the palace

jbuoy:
@topic, as for me i think yahoo is better because u can hav a private yet live chat in there,and knw hw u going to meet, while for the nairaland u can keep track of each other if u are really serious about it but it takes more time.

well if you meet on nairaland, you can now have a private live chat on yahoo, chikena

jagunlabi:
Why don't you watch what you type before submitting?You wan start confusing people for hia?Since when do churches go to church on sundays?

lol . . but i'm sure you know what he meant

@ topic!!

Jesus died on a friday(Good Friday) and resurrected from death on the  third day, which was a sunday

The ressurection was the mark of assurance of salvation and faith of all christians

secondly, the holy spirit descended upon the apostles on a sunday, which is the beginning of christian's faith in action and the assurance that God is with us.

Those two reasons are why christian churches turned the holy day(sabbath day) from saturday(originally sabbath day to sunday for the fact that we live in the new testament

spoilt:
i think i know the answer to that!

i knew you'll figure it out! lol you're a smart one

uyai:
@ cute ass Thank you very much for the reply, you don't know how much i appreciate a different point of view.

I spoke with him about the issue, he kept saying wahala oh!!!!!!, that i'm taking things out of hand. he said that i should stop worrying my head that there is no problem. he said that over and over again. Then he said that i'm the solution not the problem. I do not know what that means.

His friend called too, he called before my boyfriend did. i wondered if he asked him to, he said no. he just wanted to know how i was doing and if he's treating me right. I told him my issues. he reaasured me and told me he was going to talk to him.

I don't know, i'm still angry. both of them tell me i have nothing to worry about.

What do you think?

you know which saying i came to think about? you don't know what you have until you loose it!

dear, hang on in there, you saw your ex, he was all over you, you got carried away because your boyfriend has been a bit absent, and deep down in you he isn't what you want.

Sweetie, break out of it. Cut your boyfriend some slack. I believe he loves you. I might be wrong but wait and find out. Jumping into conclussions is capable of ruining a rooted relationship, let yours not be in the number

If his friend called you because he asked him to, then you're lucky. He loves you to the extent of getting someone else help convince you to hold on!

If he didnt ask him, and he felt to call, thats because he knows you mean a lot to his friend and wants to help reassure you and calm you down.

Darling, either way you're blessed. Learn this about relationships: it can never (and i mean never) be smooth all the way. Any relationship without hard times and misunderstandings is not an ideal one.

Its a survival of the fittest, so girlfriend take a strong grip of yours

Wishing you all the luck you can get, patience, understanding and communication is all you need

the song is cool

D Truth:
god morigen.
how u doin today. Can i send u a mail. Need to inform u of certain things.

yes ooh dear you can, but the e-mail transaction has to go down when we're both on line coz i don't want my e-mail left displayed if you know what i mean

fragile

@ cutey01

i love your thoughts

@ sweetthang

i get you sweetheart, yes i do but look at it this way

he's her only child, she's a widow, he's probably the only one that has been there for her since, he lives abroad which makes the distance a long one,

darling, i know she might be taking it a little but too far, but no one can blame her (there's nothing abnormal or unnatural about it, she's just taking hers a little bit across the boarder)

it has always been a known fact that mums bond to their "only child" or "only son", esp.if all through his growing up, she's been the one making decisions for him

yes she should have let go by now, but every mum loves differently. When a habit is grown, its not that simple to let go

You live out of the country, and the only time she bothers you guys is when you're in the country, right? then you're one of the lucky ones.
Hun, try and see it from a positive side, would you have been happy if you were engaged to a guy that was at logger-heads with the mum? aren't you a bit happy that the mum loves and cares for him so much and he feels the same for her? well actually, every mum prays and dreams that they bond a good relationship with their kids

She accepted you in, which is a good thing. You'd have been singing a different song if you came in to find out she disapproved of you.

Everything and everybody in life needs time to adjust to certain situations, you have to give her time to realise that her son has found another woman who will now gladly take over the taking care of him and other things she did
Get close to her, make her see that you're capable of taking good care of her son, let her slowly give his hands to you, believe me, she [b]will eventually.

Some families have some established "way of living", and it might take a little bit time to get it adjusted

we all say, "no ooh, i won't be like that ooh", and sometimes we end up to be worse
[/b]
Sit your husband down and talk to him, tell him you'll also like to be a part of the planning when it comes to your future family, you can't blame the woman alone, obviously its been fine with the son. He alone can make her see things from a different perspective.

Let him talk to her, mother-to-son, tell her that he's now grown-up, that he loves her with all his heart, will adore her for the rest of his life, and that he is where he is today because God chose her for his mum
gently and with love, he has to win her attention, then break it softly. He would now tell her that she has to let go (a bit), he's about to get married, and would like his wife-to-be to be able to partake in the decisions of "your" family

You guys can make a compromise to decisoins, give her the honour of deciding some and then you and your husband can decide some. Everything she does, she does because she loves her boy so so much, she means no harm. This guy obvioisly loves you very much, but he loves his mum too!

Good luck, you found a good one (family) dear, make it yours. Many would kill to be in your shoes, don't wish it away

Doris B:
am cute,because i was specially made by God.

yes ooh

@ topic
myself ooh

@ topic

actually, kids learn very fast, faster than 10 adults put together, yes ooh!

when a kid is small, don't bother about him learning 5languages at the same time, he's capable. And you don't even have to sit him down and teach him, he just takes it in

pls allow me tell two stories:

no.1
i have some cousins that were born here in Norway, and have lived here all their lives. Been on vaccation in naija like twice. The first girl is 18.
all the three kids understand everything in igbo, and not that they were thought, but their parents spoke the language wihile they grew up,and authomatically they picked it up

no. 2
i have a friend here. The sister is a Camerounian, married to a Nigerian. and they have two kids. The first girl, is 2,5 yrs old. Most of the people that come around her are from the mum's family, so she speaks very good camerounian. The dad tells her things in igbo, and believe it or not, she understands almost everything in igbo (though she can't speak)

in a nut shell what i'm trying to say is, don't worry about teaching your kid your language, speak it to him/her during growth, she'll grow up speaking it

Seun:
The guy that killed himself must have been suffering from depression. Is he the first to be dumped by a girl?

when it comes to love and matters of the heart, believe me dear that question is irrelevant

here where i live, a guy was also saved from almost committing sucide because his girlfriend of 3yrs left him

i was 17 then and i went WTH_eck, but after hearing more stories i found out he was just "one of the numbers"

this "love" of a thing, it can be a blessing and a curse ooh

and you can't blame the person who left, because she or he can't be tied down to the person just because he might commit sucide its sad though

@ white_Nkem
may the soul of your friend rest in perfect peace my heart-felt condolence to his family

@ the lunatic guy who killed people

i'm not judging him eeh, but if i were to be the judge tending his case, i'll sentence him to tripple life imprisonment

how dare he??

arianne:
Thanks a lot guys for your advice.
@ cute ass: i really felt u, your like d sister i never had. thanks 4 da welcome

i know there are happy couples and homes out there,unfortunately am not a product of one. everything marriage spells out to me is disappointment and animosity. i av felt great and at times unexplainable feelings towards guys but then this constant fear takes ova and overwhelms me and it drowns my will to try. even if i was serious with someone, it would always be @ d back of my mind that it mite not last. i know life & love doesn't give guarantees & i really wish it did.

ewwwwww

i felt you too now you want to know the secret behind the mutual feeling?

_{*notices all the ears straining to hear*} all ooh geez, see all the people that want to know . . lets take it some other time, ok?

Its difficult to trust, give wholly, commit, and let your guards down after such an experience but honey there's no guarantee to you being happy as a single parent either ( come to think of it, the ratio of you being happy singly parenting to you being in a happy family home is actually 50:50)

Darling don't you think your kids deserve a taste of what family is all about? because if your sole reason to being single is because of your experience, don't you think your kids might grow up to see themselves as being "punished" for your past??

Let the past, be past. Let it be the beginning not the end. Only you can make your "end" a worthy one. Love and marriage can be such a wonderful "thing", don't give up on your chances because your dad failed to "pay his dues" and even it doesn't work out, at least you tried and for the time it lasted, you have a story to tell

You just have to let your heart take a risk, embrace love, i have a strong feeling that you'll do just fine

if you're still bent on remaining single (your happiness is important too), give it a a thorough thinking through because that's your life time and the future of your kids we're talking about here. Like spoilt said, its not going to be easy but remember determination is the key to success

i'll like to know you better so please keep in touch, because yes you are a sister

[quote author=Dr. Dre link=topic=49924.msg1056149#msg1056149 date=1177103236]@ Cute-ass
God bless you for your contribution [/quote]bless you too dear

my dear, i feel for you, what a sad story

but you're right, experience is the best teacher, next time when you want something go for it damning the consequences because the next minute might be too late
my signature say and i quote: better to loose your pride for the one you love, than to loose the one you love because of pride

and please don't go after another lady out of desperation or to replace the other girl, you might end up hurting both yourself and the girl at the end of the day

go on with your life with an open mind, it could be that the girl actually wasn't the one for you and your getting her number and finding out she's married, might be to help you call a quit to that chapter of your life and stop living in "maybe"

right now there's nothing you can do to bring back time, you can only hope for a better tomorrow. Tomorrow might be the best day of your life, but then a door has to close for a window to open

when the time is right, the right girl for you will come knocking, i wish you the best!!