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*shakes head in dissapproval*

NO NO NO AND NO . . under no circumsatnces do you call a guy you just got acquainted with, he promised to call you and didn't. Sweetheart you will do no such thing

is it a sign of desperation?? not only desperation, makes you seem. . what's the word, well somehow cheap too

if a guy doesn't call you after promising to do so, then either he didn't feel you or he's not interested. And believe me when i say your calling him won't change a damn thing, and like you said, it will only make you seem desperate,

and even if he was intersted, wait until he picks the phone and call. Until he does, live your life as if he wasn't in the picture. Dearie, i know what you're thinking, and yes i know it would be difficult, but the sooner you started brushing him out of your thought, the sooner you'll get on with your life incase he doesn't call eventually.

If he calls later, splendid and if he doesn't, then he's not your type. Don't worry, when your "he" arrives, calling you will be his best routine of the day and until that "he" comes, your life is better off without someone who says he'll call and doesn't

P.S:  dear, you have no reason, absolutely no reason to be feeling stupid. You know what you're worth, and if he doesn't see that, then its his loss and he doesn't deserve you at all.

Many will come your way, some will stay, some will go. That's just life, you're not the first and you won't be the last.  it happens to the best of us lol, So walk with your shoulders high

highveld:
My Brother listen to cute-ass. She is really intelligent and has the best advices on this forum.
Keep it up Cute-Ass

ewwwwwww, the best compliment ever, thanks hun _{*covering hands on face*} i'm even blushing so hard lol

@ topic
many have condemned the girl, and i all see your views but i do have some questions:

who says a promiscious girl has no heart??
who says a promiscous girl isn't capable of loving regardless her past??
who says she might not be a product of circumstances??
who says the "righteous" girl next door needs to be any better than her?
who says a promiscous girl doen't deserve to love and be loved??
even a prostitute on finding true love changes for the better, remaining ever grateful to her "saviour" guy for rescuing her from her miserable act.

The truth hurts but we have to face facts, some (i didn't say all ooh) of these once known bad-characterised people turn out to be able to love more and stand out the test of time than most "well behaved ones"

what if the next you runinto is a pretender doing worse things than this particular girl??

reemember: the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know

this might not always be the case, but how do we know whose case it might fall right, if we don't try??

@ poster: yea start by being the best friend you can be, watch her movements to see if she's changed, if she has and you guys are up for something more, then why not. If you back out(i mean after she's made endeavours to change), you might be turning your back on love, now what if that was your one time opportunity of love??

@ hot chic

that was a nice one and you're so right about we girls not knowing what we want atimes, the unlucky ones end up knowing it when its too late

hope their case doesn't have to go like that because in my opinion at the age of 26, a girl should be able to start knowing what she wants, because time waits for no one and the world won't be at your feet forever

an igbo adage says we have to look for the black sheep during the daytime, because when it gets dark, the chances of finding the black sheep is slight

@ highveld

now dear, its summary time. You have to make a decision either to stay or to walk.

its obvious what you've decided to do and i admire you for your persistence. And i wish and hope to God that sooner or later she'll realise what a gold mine she has and start to appreciate it

you're 32 and in my opinion capable of taking a decision and standing by it damning the consequences. Love is a 50/50 game, some loose and some win
no one can tell you concretely what your outcome is going to look like, but in due time you'll find out for yourself

I've always believed that we can mould ourselves to fit our partner,

She has made it clear that you're jealous and possessive, now dear, make that past tense. Its difficult, but cut down your calling her to once in two days, when you call, ask neutral questions. Stop drinking, since it akes you yell

The question is, do you love her strongly enough to wave good bye to those habits that obviously create the barrier?? if yes then you are absolutely on the right track

spoilt:
every girl is saying she can't fight for a man.but who are these girls we see publicly pulling each others hair and clawing each other's faces while the guy stands and laughs?

my dear the truth of the matter is that nobody beleives they'll do it until they find themselves in the situation, and without even giving it a thought they're already half naked from the drawing and all worth not i guess thats why we should never say never

If i saw my guy with a girl in the market place or any other place, i wont start fighting like a mad cat, hell no. Where's my self-control?? cos that's actually what it takes

the person that'll have questions to answer is the guy ooh.

in my opinion we fight to keep our guys in everyday life, what i wont subdue myself to is a physical fight. I've never been in one and i'm not planning to either.

like someone else said, fighting over him physically will not make him love you or hate you. I'm sure he knows what he feels regardless and if a guy loved you, why will there be reason for one in the first place

i dont think any girl just starts fighting without any circumstances pushing her to it and if all the guy can do is sit back and watch, after the fight, just take the next exit out of his life cos he wasn't worth the fight.

No one is worth your tears, and those who are wn't make you cry - no guy is worth you fighting, and those who are won't make you fight

if he's yours he'll come back to you like busygirl said, and if he doesnt, then sweetheart he wasnt yours in the first place

chrisy2:
i agree with!

good! now you don't have to visit jail

ewwwwwwwwwww

you're most welcome. And please dear feel at home as much as possible.

hope you're ready for the fun, its more than you can ever imagine so i advice you fasten your seat belt

wwwwwwweeeeeeeellllllllllccccccccccooooooommmmmmeeeeeeeee

i confess kate is right about me being a princess but she's wrong about me not liking her

i confess i like katie well well

i confess soccerquee is looking for my trouble but i still love her sha

kateflow:
i confess cute ass dosent like me

i confess kateflow how could you think a think like that


i confess soccerquee wait for me, let me come and sleep with you _{keep dreaming sha}

i confess i want to sleep too, and i'll be doing that in an hrs time

Chrisy2

you don't want me to sue you, do you? is this some kind of joke or something


GENNY of course, there's no two ways about it

either aeroplane or pilot??

kaysie83:
@ Cute-ass

I am also an ex-student of HIJC. I left after my JS 3 in 97. I heard about the robbery from a few friends of mine.

Please spill out who you are. I graduated from juniorate in "2001" july(that was when we had valeditory) and from your other post, i can see you know Nkechi and Chibugo Ulasi. I'm sure you know who i am, i just don't feel like shouting out my name.
But i'll really love to talk to you, its so exciting to run into someone you attended the same school with. Gosh! i'm so excited

@ muki

may the name of the Lord be praised _halleluya
because if he does not watch over the house, the watchers watch in vain

kaysie83:
@culasi,

are u related to chibugo and nkechi ulasi.

now you got me even more curious, so you know Nkechi and Chibugo Ulasi too. I just have to know who you are

lol @ fekuti

@ maree7

how are you dear?? having a nice day??

well your turn

its your turn to give one

well i think i knew the answer,i was just busy to come on line.
before i came back, you had already answered


well riddle this:

You are driving a bus. Four people get on, three people get off, then eight people get on and ten people get off, then 6 people get on and 2 more people get off. What color were the bus driver's eyes

my dear what is it exactly you have done to this people that they won't leave you alone

you're welcome to the land dearie

well there's lot of fun here, just don't get too addicted like the rest of us, lol

anyways enjoy yourself to the fullest

wwwwwweeeeeellllllcccccccccooooommmmmmeeeeee

lol

riddle me this :

How could all of your cousins have an aunt who is not your aunt?

How genuine, this is more like it

i wish you all the luck ooh

i'm at work remeber, i've been at work for the past 2hrs

whats up with you darling??


everywhere drama, this place na wa ooh

not when the princess is in the building


but i still love you dear

@ yicob

just wishing you safe journey from the romance thread to whichever thread you've decided to move to


bye bye

highveld:
Cute Ass, Are you still online?
Please go through again and say something.
I would really want you to talk to the girl in question. You are the best.

For such a guy like you, i don't mind doing anything to help.

and maybe, just maybe talking lady- to lady might help solve the problem.

So how do i do that??

lalaboi:
cute ass are u written a story or somtin?? ahan! lol

@ lalaboi
who asked you??

SORRY FOR THE LONG POST[/b]I JUS HAD TO MAKE MY POINT CLEAR

[b]@highveld

darlig, you know one characteristics of blind love?? being in denial and always wanting to see the positive side of it

now i know you have the "jealousy and possessivee" quality like you and the rest say but who on earth is without faults? no one, absolutely no one

if this girl really want to be with you, believe me,  it wouldn't have been a factor to break up with you

and yes maybe she wants you, but still dearie, you have to give her the chance and time to make up her mind, you've begged her in everyway humanly possible and the honest truth is that i don't see what she's saying, reason enough to break a relationship when you're in love with somebody, you give all you can to adjust to the person, the person's faults become more or less almost impossible but this girl wants you to change you, and nobody who loves you would not be ready to meet you half way or compromise

but regardless, if you continue pestering her the way you're doing you might sooner or later becone annoying and a pain in the bu tt, both to her and your co-beggers, now you wouldn't want that, would you??

i've always said, in fact its right at my signature space, that its better to loose your pride for the one you love than to loose the one you love because of pride but you my dear you've forsaken all your pride, infact what you're loosing now is no longer your pride, but your sanity

you want to know something?? my cousin have always been mad at me cos 1 fault i have is that when i don't like a guy, i don't know the best way to say it. I continue being nice until the guy at last becomes hurt and thinks "why were you now leading me on and making me believe this and that""

i don't do that intentional, its a fault. Now what if thats her own case??

what girl would be annoyed by her boyfriend calling her often?? she must be a rare spechie ooh and if that is her definition of possessiveness, then she needs an oxford dictionary. An average girl would be upset if the bf didnt call as often as possible, she would feel he didn't care and esp. when in your case its a distant relationship.

If this girl loves you i am positive in this: SHE WILL COME BACK but for a while, let the lying dog lie.

Nobody is saying it might not be the two of you, but there is a saying that you don't know what you have until you loose it, give her a some breathing space and see what happens, give her a chance to want the love

For your sanity, you might even travel to Nigeria, cos your case is getting beyond the "phone-conversation" one ooh, you need to see her, and be able to decide to either fosake all others for her or move on without her.

When you see her face to face, believe me, you won't need a fortune-teller to tell you if this gold is your oryou should look in another compound

I wish you luck either with or without her, just know this that any gil that has you and doesn't apprecite you is neither worth you nor deserve you.

ultrafem:
cute- ass

sorry i was out of line to start with , put it down to a bad day take care, i really meant no harm

wow, didnt expect it but its all good sha

apology accepted and just know that i bear you no grudges (ok maybe a little, but thats past tense now)

me too, i meant no harm hope we're settled and cool now

davidylan:
Yep i agree, but you can't help but generalize sometimes when you observe certain trends. It's hard to keep a girl when u're not there and there are tons of other guys she sees everyday, you wonder if at some point she wont be tempted to just move on with someone who is probably better than you are and is available. I do agree that some women are made of a different mould though, nice to know u're one of them.

thanks for that. and yes ooh i'm not just claiming, i'm positive that i'm one of them lol. But the truth is that even though what you said is true to a point, some girls with their boyfriends close still cheat, so what is their own excuse??

we just have to hope for the best to run into the right person because unless that, you might still be floating when you think you're sailing

davidylan:
this cute-ass na wa o. After you post the wind is knocked out of my sails.
Na wa o . . . i wish you lived in my backyard.

how do you know i don't live in your backyard, give me your adress, who knows??

fosugo:
Don't mean to be rude, but have you checked out your oral hygiene? Sort of sounds strange that a girl shows willingness anf desire to kiss you on phone and sudenly refuses when you meet her in person. Oral hygiene can be very embarassing and the trouble is that you would probably never be told by anyone.

So me advice is to prepare well in advance for her.Mouth wash, mouth freshener or chewing gum. If things change, then there is your problem, and solution.

Just my thoughts. I know it's happened to someone before.

i had that in mind and i'm happy you put it to writing.

People with reasonable contributions are what we need lol _{unfortunately everybody can't be}. Thanks men