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Some parents sef, why would his mum be in bed (not any bed ooh, but her matrimonial bed) with her son's friend, not to talk of the age difference. Let him talk to his mum, she really has to stop the whole childish thingy and start being a mum instead.  its degrading and irresponsible, where's her self-respect? I'm not trying to be rude or disrespectful to his mum, don't get me wrong but what she did is unacceptable and he should make her see/understand that,ok??  He has to stand up to herooo!!

Its left for your friiend to know whether to tell the dad or not, it might destroy the family though (a family that has been for so many years, how sad  -- - if it were to be me in his shoes, I wouldn't, I'll gie her a chance to prove her loyalty and faithfulness, what she did was wrong, but no one is above mistakes
For a while though, he should make her consience judge her, to every reaction there's an action a friend will say.

@ Luxoire
I feel you twin, but it takes two to do the dance, the lady has a lot more to loose and should have been concious of that  , ,  what am i saying sef? She shouldn't be found in such an act at all

So if he finds it in his heart to forgive the mum, i guess he should forgive the friend too but trusting him - - -that would be in another life time. He messed up big time. And it might take the rest of this life time for him to work it up again

Friends sef, na wa ooh
I wonder where all these kinds of heartless and shamless friends come from?

[quote author=I-man link=topic=55197.msg1140949#msg1140949 date=1180024721]Long distance relationships are unadvisable.Stop kidding yourselves.Unless the distance problem is temporary and you are planning to get together very soon.

I can't see how 2 people who claim to love each other will not mind living apart.[/quote]And who made you a judge over that . . "not adviseable" Mr. councellor. Please come down from your high horse and be with "us" the earthly humans

@ Ruudie and I-man

Both of you are wrong from your noses
You can't just sit on your seats and say "long distant relationships"are bound to fail or "not advideable". We do not control our feelings, yea we do control our actions, but isn't it left for the "victim(s)" to decide?? If you fell head over heels for someone and you're convinced you couldn't love another, remember not evrybody will call it off without giving it a fair try.

That you couldn't do one isn't a reason enough to practically insult and talk down on people that actually have it as their way of lives Its a prefence thing, and if you're not cool with it then all well and good but puh-lease show some respect

@ topic
Long distant relationships can work out just fine. Its left for the parties in love to be up and doing. Love carries a lot of sacrifices with it, and to each his own. You need to be zealous, tolerating, and patient. Its frustrating, and it would be far from easy but it isnt impossible.

In your case, it isn't the distant thingy that is bothering me, but the lack of trust between you guys, her intolerable lies and the fact that you guys have issues that you don't seem to see eye to eye on

1) The trust - - - is she still a liar?? What kind of things does she lie about?? Has she cheated on you in the past??
How much has she changed??
The girl seems like a wifey material, I on the other hand do not commend her lying nature, but show me who's perfect?? If the things she lie about aren't so threatening then work with her. Let your love make her feel covered and that she can be open to you, her lies might be due to past expeiences and insecurities.
She was there when you needed her, be there for her. The lies have been there since, so try help her snap out f it.
And sometimes, you just owe her a benefit of the doubt and trust her. Even someone who's your neighbour might not be that much of an angel, distance isn't the problem factor here.

2) About her thinking guys should be the "head and foot" of the relationship, is totally wrong. That's an olden days way of thinking and she should know better. But then it might be the way she looks at things, or the way she was brought up

These are the things one should consider while in a relationship, if you guys disagree too much, then you might not be compartible afterall. As girls need care and love and attnention, some girls seem to forget that the guy needs the same fair share of shower in return.
Tell her you need her to be more practical too, sit her down and make her understand you guys are in a relationship now, and have come a long way and there are some norms and silly beliefs she should drop aside

I believe in moulding your partner, no one knows it all, sometimes all the person needs is a heart to heart talk and a little push. Even the best partner in the world was once a novice, and rememeber "Rome wasn't built in a day"

Love makes it somewhat easire to compromise and help the other party, if she changes a bit then live with it, you'll never find a perfect partner, but you can ask for a willing one. Give her time, she'll come around

@ randa
Kudos my guy

LMAO

I agree with you Ikamefa, that love knows no age, but marriage to some extent does.

17 years age difference isn't a joke, not to mention the level of the guy's maturity when it comes to marriage and life. She just can't jump into a marrigae with him without thinking through the pro's and con's

From the story, pardon me but i do not think she loves the guy and going into a marriage just because planA failed, or because you think time is running out

Whatever happened to a couple growing together??

I'm not blind to the fact that some have been there and are still happy for the decisions they made. The story in a nut-shell is that going after a man out of desperation to get married, or based on material stuff isn't ideal at all

Along the road, when the bad times hit, where's the rock that'll lift you up??
At the end of the day, only your friend knows what she's feeling deep down, if she isn't attarcted to this guy in terms of marriage, doesnt love him nor think she would have choosen him if she were given the oppotunity to pick the guy in her life, then she shouldn't make that mistake

Let her leave both of them, and go find her destiny, her guy is somewhere out there waiting for her, but on the other hand again it might be this guy?? . . but she has to search herself

Marriage isnt something you jump into just because - - please my dear, tell her to look before leaping, some taake it for granted, but "till death do us path"is supposed to last for like forever. Now can she picture herself with him for that long??

I know the answer lies in her head, she just needs to dig it out I wish her luck and a funtional brain

chiegemba:
hey cutie; you're 2 much

niceuzor:
my sister i know but make i yarn with this babe small

i dey try make her know say She 2much.

Thanks for the compliments, I wonder what we're yarning about lol , but we'll talk "yarn" some other time, ok?

Got to be in bed ina jiffy

niceuzor:
Cute-ass we need to talk

Oya, start talking

O king:
cute ass am also interested o!man this razor bumps are hell. u can make a business out of this u know. . seriously i really need one and the price is no problem.can u get me one?

Yea i can, but then i guess i have to get a men's shave Cos this one specifically says "ladyshave", but i doub't the pubic hairs of a lady and that of a man is anything different

O king:
and for heavens sake what is a bikini wax.how and where is it done?
(seems like i got the "insert quote "thing wrong in my last post and did i say sweet ass ?o.wanted to say cute ass.pardon me

No probs dearie, sweet - - cute - - all the same, you're pardoned

niceuzor:
@cute ass

how can i get one of that stuff from you?

How do you want to get it??

unpredictable

My opinions on polygamy?? Dearie, believe me you wouldn't want to know

In my book, there's absolutely nothing good about it at all. It only causes strides for all parties involved, hatred and anger.

The divided love, atention and care. What good could possibly come out of it?? Please someone should quote me wrong, or oppose me Cos i can't seem to find any, I even did a reseach project in my head, still zero

@ topic

The truth is that we try our best to prevent the ones we're capable of and leave the rest to God, if not, what do you have to say about all the breads that get touched by 101 unwashed hands or the food-cases with all the houseflies that have been to the toilet and back??

Afterall you can't start washing your bread, neither can you wash the already prepared foods you buy from diners, restaurants or supermarkets

The cold weather across the boarder does have its advantages, at least it prevents all them flies, and i know there're strict procedures of hand-hygiene

otuwe:
cute ass do u really mean that. i will be so grateful if u cud bring that,

thanks alot. when next will u be in naija. and how much is it sold.

lol

I won't be in naija until sometime in december, if you can't wait, i'll post it to you, but that will be sometime in August. Just keep in touch, and keep ready a functionable address. Please beware of incorrect address ooh so i don't sent the package to airprt-workers for no reason
The prize is 299,00.00 crowns = 4,500.00 naira but not to worry, the bill will be on me. As long as there's life

otuwe:
can someone teach me how to insert someones's quote

When you get to the reply page, just scroll down, above each person's post, above to the right, you'll see an underlined "insert posts" text. Just click on the one above the person you want to insert their post

Here's a pic. of the ladyshve i'm talking about

@ poster

Yea, it was good while it lasted but its time to head for the exit. Now please find the nearest one and make use of it.


Your case pretty much gives you an answer to your situation. I know love is blind, but you shouldn't be foolishly blinded by love. .

Tell me what guy will see a girl, be in a relationshiop, with her, actually see a future with her Cos he doesn't think someone else measures up or that he couldn't feel for someone else the way he feels for "you" and still tell you to say yes to the next bidder??

My dear, please wake up and read the boldly written hand-writing on the wall, please
If he still ain't sure of what he wants, then his loss but you my girl you cannot sit with your legs crossed waiting for him on him, till when?? the cows come home??.
And if he's just being a coward to express his feelings (i mean for some who think he's just hiding behind his feelings), then he's not worth you Cos he doesn't have the security and safety you need to feel in a guy's arms

Now honey, you see that no matter how we try to twist it, the only obvious truth remains that he doesn't feel for you the same way you feel about him, he doesn't see you as his potential wife.

I know it hurts real bad, but some day those wounds will be healed, but its left in your court to let some other capable, willing and sure hands soothe the pains away. Thats one of those things with love, but not to worry it only makes you more appreciative and concious of the "real thing" when it comes along

Good luck with the breakup (yea, you need to get out from there real fast, if you think you're of the age to let down your fishing net )
It shall be well, trust me

niceuzor:
Good advice from you Cute-Ass

Lets me ask you Did you study LOVE As Cos in Skool?

Thanks darl, would have, But NO, [b]love [/b]wasn't on the list of courses lol

chiegemba:
hey cutie

Hey love, ive been trying to add you to messenger to no avail

@ nkechi

This was pasted by a fellow Nairalander, please read it attentively

A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a N1000.00 note. In the room of 200, he asked, "Who would like this N1,000 note?" Hands started going up.

He said, "I am going to give this N1,000 to one of you but first, let me do this. He proceeded to crumple up the N1,000 naira note. He then asked, "Who still wants it?" Still the hands were up in the air.

Well, he replied, "What if I do this?" And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty. “Now, who still wants it?" Still the hands went into the air.

My friends, we have all learned a very valuable lesson.

No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth N1,000.

Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless!.

But no matter what has happened or what will happen, YOU WILL NEVER LOSE YOUR VALUE.

Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, You are still priceless to those who DO LOVE you. The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know, but by WHO WE ARE and WHOSE WE ARE.

You are VERY special

Dearie, you're priceless no matter what, and carry your shoulders so. Let the good in you shine out and beat whatever your past bears, what matters is the "you" that you are now, but if you can't be proud of her (your now you), then someone else might not be able to either

Your guy is out there, and when the time is right, you'll be singing a new song, Cos he'll love the you you are, and old things will pass away. You're "good enough" the way you are. Believe that and work with it

Good luck hun

dakmanzero:
Biggest mistake is to talk about it.

Just pretend you're a virgin like all our Nairaland babes in the v-club and *NO ONE* will know the difference!

Afterall if a guy gets to sleep with you and past experience enables you to BLOW HIS MIND, he will believe you if you tell him you 'don't know what got into you, you're just so in love with him!!!!!!!'

Thats the secret of success, virginity is a circular truth: You can't verify it without taking it, so you can't verify it period!!!!!!

Let me apologies in advance, you don't have the right to be mad, Cos i already apologised . . I'm so so sorry for what i'm about to say, please forgive me hun

BUT - - -

That was the worst advice of the decade, if you were the guy in question, would you really wave such a lie off?? Or its so easy to run it out on nairaland??

That lie, mind you might Cos her the guy that would have loved every single thing about her, even her past mistakes but the lie could on the other hand make him begin to wonder if she really is what he thought she is . . evrybody has a past, some more fuller than others, but the truth remains that when you're ready to love someone, you love their past too Cos their past moulded them to what they are today, either for the better or the worse

Lies have never been a good foundation for a relationship, some do forgive yea, but not all

Some girls have done worse but are still happily in a relationship or married, why doesn't she then deserve someone that would love her for whom she was and is, and not someone that would love her for whom she isn't and maybe might love the "real" her later??

And what if after sleeping with her, the guy isn't able to forgive and forget, where does that leave her?? Please dear, think before posting, some people's future depend on what you have to say write

This is a thread started by a fellow guy like you today, so where do you actually get off?? the topic reads - - - "WHY D GIRLS LIE TO THEIR BOYFRIENDS THAT THEY'RE VIRGINS?"

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=55401.new#new

@ temmybaby


thats exactly the point, when we talk about hair being a woman's beauty, it doesn't necessarily mean being as long as "Rapunzel's" hair (the story-book figure with the longest hair in history )

You just said there are some with low-cuts that look gorgeous right?? well the truth remains that, not every female will look good with it. And those with the low-cut, might try having longer hair tomorrow and look not-so-good . .

Whether hair is a woman's beauty depends on the cut or style that suits each, not the length

her name is abby (at least some part of her name), and she's sexy

He obviously thinks money, money, money. What did i say?? He believes in e-money too

Hips don't lie (Shakira) - - reminds me of when i lived together with my cousins

All good things come to an end (Nelly Furtado) - - will always remind me of my days as a receptionist in the oil company hotel

Dialo Dialo (Wyclef) - - reminds me of my days as a secondary school student here in Hammerfest


Thanks poster, I'll come back with more. Many a times, these songs remind us of periods in our lives that we shared with special or not so special people , , , but the bottom line is that the time is gone and never to be back

Chiogo . . that told me you were igbo sis

Dearie, you're extremely welcome . .

toba1909:
Hey guys,welcome me to nairaland,i'm always online.

But you said you're always online?, Not now

But seriously, I hope you have fun here ooh, Stick around

Nella:
Come, which kind of hope u dey give diz guy like this
He is already crazy 4 her! do u want him 2 get crazier??

lol,

My dear, there's no harm in trial hoping . . as long as there is hope, there's life a chance

My dear redish, just watch and pray, like i said who knows?

@ topic

There's more to it than all these being listed. It doesn't just cover the working aspect, the same thing happens in the educational system.
Many a times, students from Nigeria and maybe other Affrican country gets into Europe and are denied continual education based on their already achieved certificates from Africa.
The European education system would rather have you do those years all over again, not miding the fact that you've already covered all those topics and subjects. Now you begin to ask where the problem lies??

Well its not too far from their knowledge of the high level of "bribery and corruption" in Africa/Nigeria.
A place where sleepingwith the lecturer earns you the best grade on the particular lecturer's subject, a place where with the required amount of influence, you'll come out at the top of your class, a continent where having enough cash buys you the best result with straight A's [/b]even though you were the lousiest and least attendant in class The pnes i feel sorry for are the ones that really earned their merits, Cos they end up being shoved under the same umbrella

Its sad, but we have ourselves to blame. Yea, they might be behind in their"level of education", but the "standard" is genuine. Atleast when someone presents you with their "addition and subtarction certificate in Mathematics" here, you're sure it was merited but there in Africa/Nigeria, when someone says they're a graduate of a university, you want to investigate the amount of truth in it

[b]Someone sits for jamb or WASCE, and fails woefully, but at the beginning ofthe next school year, they've been admitted into the best university in the whole country, and not just that . . the person is studying "medicine" (or any other influential course)

Now how in the whole wide  world do you begin to explain that?? While a poor but sufficiently accademcally inclined soul is left to rot because they don't have the cash nor financial support to pull them through

Its a crooked and messed up system, and we just can't complain when being treated as such!!!!!!!!

ayefele200:
tell me u kiddin?, is she realy your sister(blood)

Don't let your curiousity kill the cat ooh

ayefele200:
@cute ass
iight cool, never meant to hurt your feelings, we cool huh?, soryy about that
just exercising my 5 MINS MADNESS, its cool iight




@topic
LOVE THA ASS

Yea, we cool

And be cool with my sis too, ok?? (one big happy family)

ayefele200:
Who gave u the audacity to tell me that BULL SHYT, its quite unfortunate i aint stressed out, if not then she simply going to bear the consequences

And who gave you the audacity to talk to me like that??

ayefele200:
EXCUSE ME, wouldnt do that to a stranger

Who's a stranger?? you?? thats true
Me?? then get your facts straight . .

ayefele200:
if she's due for it, would definitely earn 1, but its unfortunate, very very sad, i couldnt

Earn 1 what?? keep the medal to yourself, just stay off my little sis chiogo
Now is that too much to ask?? I didn't think so!!

@ chiogo

Big sis is here now, no more exchange of words, ok??


@ ayefele200
Please, free my sis from your web, please let her be

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