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@ oreofemi

Darling how many threads for one night now?? Why don't you come join us discuss the ones you already created??

Its quality that matters, not quantity

teddyface:
nasty girl are you at the hotel?

Hotel ke? Are you sure you're in the right place?? Seems you lost your way thread

omoge25:
this is Muna, I'm sure you have seen him in a lot of movies, I've seen Van in about 3 naija movies, I assume he has more ghana movies under his belt.

Yes ooh my sister, he does.'

Try watching:
Mummy's daughter
Beyonce: the presiden't daughter
Divine love
and some others (these are ghanian movies (gollywood ))

teddyface:
you win
my answer is NO

*claps in accordance* (but i must confess i'm dissappointed, was looking forward to more arguements on points of view, but its all good)

teddyface:
i said in a true relationship maybe i forgot to add with UNDERSTANDING. and this is in some cases

Well thats goes to show that your answer is NO

Wait, let me land . .

If you go back to the poster's post, she didn't ask "sex + other things means love??" , she specifically asked

"does sex mean love??" and if you're to give the straight question a straight answer, then the answer is No

teddyface:
in a true relationship sex is a way of showing true love

@ teddy, how can you say that??

People in long distant relationships or people that have dated for years and haven't had sex because maybe one of them is a virgin and the other is being understanding, what is keeping them together then, HATRED??

Prostitutes and strangers who have sex without strings or feelings attached, what are they practising?? LOVE PART 2??


the passion and intensity being shared during love making can be exusion of love so
Yes, i do agree that sex can be a very important aspect of a relationship, but is sex = love . . . HELL TO DA NO!!!

oreofemi:
does love means sex?

No - English
Mba - Igbo
Nei - Norwegian
Nehi - Indian

Your main concern is to find them dear, when you find them, all of you will take it from there

No one can tell you what their reaction would or might be Cos we all feel differently, they might not see it as a matter so important (they might just be happy to re-unite with you after all these years) or they might not take it so lightly

But when you get to the sea, i'm sure you guys will cross it together. You've all lost so musch that it would be an additional waste of time bearing grudges, but if they have something on their chest, it'll be good for them to offload it

Then you guys can walk into the future together. I know you'll all be fine. With each other, you're unbaeten.I wish you all the luck my heat has to offer!!

And that's really a sad story you got up there, i really felt your pains reading it, please take heart I hope and pray to God that he has a bright and wonderful future in stock for you and your siblings. Please, you guys should take care and watch out for each other. May the love of the Lord be with you!!! AMEN.

Take care hun

olunifemi:
one can't live witout lies

True talk . . but always stand back to weigh the consequences

Is it a lie that will just be forgotten in a jiffy, a lie that wouldnt matter even if found out, or a lie that will cost you your life achievements when exposed

Be wise, don't just live in "now", the future is right behind the corner The easiest way out isn't always the best!!!!!

samsilo:
@Poster. This is a very delicate matter.I know in Nigeria some people do not take patient confidentiality seriously,if it was here in UK there would be hell to pay if that information got out without her consent.At least some one would loose their job or a court case[b] with damages paid to the girl[/b]

damages ke?? She's on the verge of throwing someone's life to the pigs and she'd be paid for "damages"?
For once, this is one thing i'll give naija kudos for then. How can she live with herself, if she ruined his life like that?? I know someone else did the same thing to her, but does paying someone else back for what an entirely different person did to her begin to soothe her pains away?? Abeg oo, there should be boundary to this "patient's confidentiality" of a thing. Its OK that she wants to keep it to herself, but when she's dragging someone else into it, hmm
I'm sure the government isn't praying for more "sexually transmitted diseases" patients, or are they??

Since we are talking Nigeria ,slightly different case but how do you explain your knowledge.

Well he shouldn't owe her any explanantions or ''name of source". If she thinks she's adult enough to keep her little "secret" to herself, then she shouldn't expect different treatment from him in return either

@ poster

One thing i have to agree with samsilo on, on the other hand is, maybe it is better for your friend to be the one to confront her with it. Because yes, he's the one dating her, its his life in jeopardy, not yours. She might not owe you any explanation since you guys weren't having any intimate nor sexual relationship with each other

But, like i said earlier, you have to handle fast. What has happened, you had no power over, but what might happen, you have some power to prevent. So don't buil up some basis of guilt for yourself. Cos should anything go down after now, then you might have yourself to blame for any negative outcome Talk to your friend as soon as possible!!
A stitch in time they say, saves nine

you're sure right

@ topic

I have to do an experiment on that, but i don't know where to get all the darkness from

@ goodguy

thankyou joo

We've only heard from one party and that is not foundation enough to call anyody an idiot or mumu . . the name callings are so uncalled for in this situation, not to mention childish

Afterall the guy saw her "oldn(ness)" and has been there with her for so long they've dated. If he was so pertubed, he wouldn't have been there in the first place. Instead of people to search themselves or comunicate with their partners, they always take offence at the least.

If he's her boyfriend, isn't it his duty to wish and want her look her best at all times. Now if his tone wasn't good enough, then she should confront him with it

I don't usually like putting myslelf up in couple's biz, Cos when they make up in the four corners of their home, you won't be there to enjoy it with them and you'll be termed the "bad guy".

If she doesnt want him any longer, then she should step aside for someone else who'll appreciate their man looking out for them to take over. Would it have been better if he nutured it in his mind than say it out and have her do something about whatever it is she isn't doing right??

iyken:
@ Iman
Single parenthood,trendy or Trashy? That is the question.

[quote author=I-man link=topic=53528.msg1128198#msg1128198 date=1179577038]Just correcting falsehoods.
Neither[/quote]The best answer of the century . . yea, neither. To everything on the face of the earth there is an advantage and disadvantage.

Yea, some might be trashy because of the path they chose to walk, but that should not in a million years blind our intelligence to the number that actually did a splendid job, please lets show them some respect (they're the ones that make it trendy )

Yes ooh, the "I AM THAT I AM" (no one like him)

He's my omega

ijogbon:
@Cute Ass
Not your thing to be a prisoner of love even ?

I think it will be good knowing how it went 'inside' for people who have been.

I see as you do it . . putting words in this my mouth

Being a "prisoner of love" is something different . . and i'm sure you weren't talking "emotional prision and convict" when you stated "as a convict i mean"

A "prisoner of love"?? now that on the other hand[b] is[/b] my thing, infact one of the things i do best lol
An experience i wouldn't trade

well well then i join suit

I rep the whole package

He thinks he reps tha future

@ samiplus

You're most welcome to our forum, very highly welcome

Its a pleasure to have you, hope you have a splendid and memorable ride here. Enjoy yourself to the last . .

And dear, that site of yours is something else, i loved the stories, they're fabulous, infact i'll be a very regular visitor


Kudos ooh, and please keep up the good work

Not ooh, not a chance. . neither been to a jail nor a prison, not even in a dream lol

And i don't plan on doing so either in my life time now or next (Not my thing)

Yes ooh, I'm a proud Nigerian, anytime anyday

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teddyface:
@ cute_ ass
this is why i said i love you you always have the right words.
thanks

Glad to be at your service

Of course we care to welcome our guy . .

Welcome to nairaland, the forum where it happens, catch fun and enjoy yourself. A ride of a lifetime, make it worth the memory

Once again wwwweeeeeeelllllccccccooooommmmmmmeeeeee!!!!!!!!!

@ poster

This case is critical and no matter how you go about it, the same damage and hurt will be done. But for the sake of your friend's health, you got to act fast and quick. Because time isn't on your side at all

First of all, call the girl and sit her down, ask her this "even if for some personal reasons she didn't wan't to tell you about her health, how could she not tell your friend when she knows his life is on the line?"

Infact when i just typed that question, i got mad inside me . . how could she be so selfish, wicked and heartless? I know it couldn't and wouldn't be easy for her living with it and the fact that she'll loose guysss due to it, but thats not a reason enough to subject someone else to it, is it??

Or maybe she thinks if she gets someone else infected, then she'll have her own Mr. Right
Tell her you're dissappointed in her

Regards your friend, the same day he comes back from wherver he is, is the day you'll break the news as gently and slowly as possible. Just say it out, it wouldn't be any easier even if you left it for the next 10 years
I hope to God he hasn't slept with her yet, and that if he did, that they used protection and for that day the protection was 100% accurate
He'll be sad yea, but at least if any sexual intercourse had transpired, he can go for a test and if not, he'll use his tongue to count his teeth

I know there are some who out of love, have gotten married to patients (HIV+ anyway), but in her case its AIDS which makes it a whole lot more complicated I really do feel sorry for her, only God knows the amount of trauma she goes through every blessed day. May the Lord be with her!!
And please though she's your friend watch out for any potensial victims, in as much as she's hurt, she shouldn't have the right to destroy other people's lives and send them to untimely grave!!!!!

MY PPPPPEEEEEEEEEEPSSSS, AAAAAAIIIIIIIIIDDDDDDDDSSSSSSSS IIIIIIIIISSSSSSSSSS RRRRREEEEEEAAAALLLLLLL, beware.

Omo Eko:
Where is my sweetie have missed her so much

Dearie me, i miss you three much

chiogo:
I'll ask her why she's mad at me and refused to talk to me since my b-day.

awwwwww, tell her i love her too much to do that . . that her sis. has been busy but apologises for ignoring her. And promises to send her a mail tomorrow

@ topic
tell ayefele200(aka star)
he's one hell of a funny dude