₦airaland Forum

ssemire:
I do not know where it has ever been acceptable for a man to hit a woman. a man who is a head in his own home will command respect naturally so the idea a oppressing the woman in the first place is not there.
As per why marriages cannot survive in the west, it is all in the mindset. the only thing that changes is location, the values you hold on to should not change.
and on a final note, marriage is a partnership not a manager-subordinate relationship like office in naija. the bible says that two become one. it is well

NubianQ:
hmmm,  CyberG,  u re on d roll oh, 

fstranger:
Sup NubianQ Animashaun!

R U Single?

Do uou wanna Mingle?

Ok Make we Zingle

NubianQ:
@ CyberG,

Well about our date i hope you dont mind a sugar mummy oh, lemme say Cougar

You know you crack me up with some of the comments you make and this one ^^ is just one of them! ROFLAMO. Seriously funny. . .cougar ke? I know you have a good sense of humor and you are definitely not "cougaring" anywhere just yet!

i am not splitting 50/50,  i eat for like 5 people,  so hold your credit card,  infact you have to just drop it at the mama put and tell them to just "Deduct After Damage"

Funny! I better get a credit card the size of a skyscraper so I can have something left after the maximum damage you plan to inflict on it @ mama put! But, please don't eat too much kpomo o cos I know that is one of the foods that I can not find here.  .

Mz DarkSkin is a Smartie!!!! apart from giving Ms Eve the thumbs up too she has my vote

As for our discussion,  hmmm well  yes you make ALOT of sense, i like the fact that you are a 100% man dats why i am wiping you out in the buka!

To BE HONEST,  If i find an intelligent Nigerian man i will become Vegetarian which is like Never lol,  ok i am just kidding,  well i rarely meet them,  i am not asking that western ideas be the yardstick but someone that i can learn from,  i seem to be the teacher n i hate it and i cant stand one with too much grammer oh.lol. Goodness me, I like a woman who can at least teach me something new and worth my while as much as possible. You know what? All other things being equal, if a very smart guy meets a very smart lady. . .it's always an A+ relationship and if they get married and have kids? What lucky kids. . .'cos they most likely will be VERY smart! A smart guys is most likely in favor of dating a smart girl not one that has to be taught almost everything!

You are harsh sha and right about some women taking advantage of the 20's but the 30's are the old mama Dirrty 30's!!! to be honest,  its been a blast for me  but,  like you said "Nigerian ladies abroad have a very slim hope for stable, long term relationships" i am going to become a nun because wetin i go tell my mama? if she hear say there is no hope for me she will jump of the eiffel tower!

You won't belief the "offer" I got from a friend (girl), not GF, not too long ago. Now, it is not that I ever wanted to ask her out but she was quite pretty but a "big" girl and while she was younger. . .she was into the "big" guys but now she is 30+! I will be beyond insane to even contemplate anything to do with her now (except the casual friendship) but this things happen. . .and guess what? For the younger ladies reading this, it will happen to them again while they just read posts like this, slam it down and slag it off.

yeah there are people with alot of love to give and from the description of your ex madam, you had a handful,  abeg make she deal with you sef lol, imagine her next man hmmm

I don't envy the guy (or guys) at all. Like I said, I'll see what happens because change is constant.

You just called yourself a good guy hmmm :owhere is my koboko sef good werrin? the last guy that told me that took me on the roller coaster ride of my life. dont even get me started

Yes, I plead my innocence and goodness with all conviction, your highness! Any badness me in was caused by the daughters of Eve! 

Anyway, you made a few points that made me laugh,  poor me i am up early,  waiting to go to work. why do we have to work anyway when i will rather be sleeping or having a drink and watching something nice.

Dont back out on the date oh!  you have to come get me in a private jet

i dont know what part of the world you are, even if am a mile away from you i insist on that treatment

Cougars dont come easy

Very, very funny!! ^^^ 

MzDarkSkin:
@MzDarkSkin

NubianQ:
I am what the African Culture would love to hate and i am what the West would consider as Alternative.

[color=#000000]1. I can appreciate your views if you lived your formative years in the West or your personal family experience. Regardless, your views remain your views and I'm sure no one can change that except you.[/color]

I hope you we can both agree that ALOT of black guys do not bother to learn New things and are set in their ways, . . .

[b][color=#000000]2. On this point, Nubian, I think you took it too far! I find it hard to believe you have not met an intelligent black man in a long time, except you meet 1 or 2 per year? If you met just 1 per month, I will find it hard to believe that more than 50% of them are not intelligent enough! Except, of course, there is a certain place where you meet all this men. I can speak for myself but you haven't met me yet and I know a lot of guys who are very intelligent (I mean very damn bright!). Or, maybe our definition of intelligence in this case is subjective? Definitely, I am a proper Naija guy and I DO NOT fit into that mold you described, just like a lot of the Naija guys I know.

On the contrary, I can tell you very honestly that I find that a lot of women do NOT measure-up to how much smartness I'd like in a lady. There is only one exception though: I met a Nigerian lady not too long ago, a medical doctor, and she is the smartest woman I have met in a long time. I didn't have to know her for a long period of time to figure that out whereas, there are ladies that I do have more regular contact with and they are VERY DULL. I won't dwell on that but I don't put all my focus on that because a good woman is not judged on just how smart or educated she is, but on the summation of all she brings to the table: personality, character, understanding, etc. But I dare say, I will make Nubian look like a little girl any day and I'm not anywhere close to 50, wanna try?  

3. There is enough blame to go around, generally, for both men and women but what is the use of blames if a problem will not only remain unsolved but gets worse? Look, I had a relationship with a Nigerian girl abroad and if I used this one person as a yardstick to judge all other ladies, Nigerian ladies abroad have a very slim hope for stable, long term relationships. This lady was the worst of the worst. . .but only that I am a very objective person, so I figured out the end a long time ago. If not, I would have inundated NL Romance section with questions for advice because VERY few men will ever be as patient as I was. For me, I counted my costs and I determined I could pay it and bought myself the necessary insurance policy! Of course, whenever a relationship breaks it's usually not a wonderful feeling but in essence, I suffered no loss as whatever I put in was well compensated for. This is what a lot of guys do when they date with their heads and the involvement of the heart is never 100% and it seldom gets involved in the relationship. A lot of guys know what can happen in a relationship after a couple of experiences and that is why they will date a girl abroad, who is close to them, but marriage is NEVER in the equation. Of course, at the beginning, the possibility of marriage to the lady in question was very high but that soon evaporated like smoke when I got to know her better. She is now on that very same path a lot of ladies are familiar with: play away your 20's and when 30's come on you, you find that you can't get someone to marry you. But I will see what happens on the long run.

Nubian, don't blame guys. A lot of guys like me have a lot of love and loving to give but we're not silly. A lot of so-called "good guys" can be very very bad and as soon as they figure out a lady's game, they will play that game in a different way such that the lady is made to feel as though the guy is the "loser" when the person who has been used-up is the woman and not HIM. This psychology is very mean but a lot of ladies are unable to see through it and that is why at 35, the guy has not only amassed an impressive collection of degrees, he has a good job, can afford all the comfort he desires, still looks young and can go to Nigeria or anywhere and marry any girl he likes. Guys like these are the really bad guys and after putting a lot mileage on the girl who now at 28/29 is looking older than her age, she gets really desperate and more guys will exploit her neediness and not marry her still because they know what ladies do in their early 20's and if you didn't want him then, why now when the lady is almost 30? Believe me, guys even know what friends of theirs have dated a girl and guys can be very frank with their friends about these girls and what do you think will happen?

Okay after my "tough love" comments, I still like my Naija babes but is there no Nigerian girl abroad who can really disappoint US (guys) positively? (For as long as guys know it is the same old, same old story, they will damn that consequences and just go and marry a girl from Nigeria. A man already on the ground fears no fall! ) Then, let us show you the kind of love we saw in our parents as they trained us to become men of character and integrity that we are today? Nubian, you have to realize there is a need to compromise certain things if it helps to move a cause forward and of course, I expect a guy to compromise some things too. But if women who were born and brought-up in Nigeria imbibe the Western attitude hook, line and sinker, even beyond the people who were born in that society, then we have choices: 1. Go and look for someone who has not lost everything about her roots, her essence, etc. 2. Judge all women white or black or asian on the same standards and whoever had the "best" of what he wants wins. Now in the case of 2, you will readily admit that the black sister will always come up short as consciously or sub-consciously, a guy will always factor the fact that the white lady knows nothing else except the western culture and anything she does like try to speak his language, taste his food, try and learn to make his food, etc will be a BIG bonus compared to the Niaja chicks who will only try and get away from as much as what makes her Nigerian.
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I am still going to smack them all for making me remain an old woman oh nothing you can say can let them of my hook

[color=#000000]With all these said, when is our date sef?   [/color]

Yorisb:
Nice one Bro, tho I don't wanna push it yet

Archilles: Is there no one else?? Is there no one else