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9icetoo:
I don't usually comment on this section but I will make a exception today to drill some sense into your head.
Yeah, I said drilled.
How old are you? Grow up.
If a man treats you this shabbily when he is wooing you and dating you, what do you think he will do when he married you? Change for better? In your dreams. He is supposed to be playing his best cards now and see what he is dealing you? Pfft!

He is an insecure man. If he feels threatened by your colleagues, then he isn't fit for you. Get someone with the confidence and ego of Jose mourinho and c Ronaldo combined. Someone with balls. Not a Sissy.

Don't blame Grace. You are totally at fault. You armed her with all the information you gave her and what allowed her muddle your mind with.

You don't love this man, you see him as an option because you your other options are married men. Love isn't all by the way. It's fickle.

Get out there, mingle, socialise, meet people. There are options everywhere.
And marriage is not the ultimate. I am happily married but that isn't the case for everyone. It's not a decider whether you will be happy or miserable in life.

If he truly called your sister a prostitute (I hope she isn't by the way and he shouldn't be doing that anyway) and calls everyone in your family when you guys quarrel, he will call you worse in front of everyone when he marries you.

If he truly knocked you over a disagreement, he will batter you like a rag doll when he marries you.

If you marry this dude or continue this relationship after all I have said and your story is true, then you truly deserve what you get.

Lastly, this is your own side of the story, I haven't heard his.

You’re happily married, that’s good. I hope if you’re wife starts flirting with her male ‘colleagues’, exchanging messages/texts, etc., you won’t complain. She flirts with numerous men even when she is in a serious relationship yet, you don’t want the man to complain? She only attracts married men because she has so many men in his circle, no single man will ever take her serious. Anyone that tried it will develop trust issues just as this one currently. Let’s learn to tell the truth even when it’s unpopular.

The trust in this current relationship is gone so, she should move on. But she should stop double dating in her next relationship if not, it might be worse than this one.

Hizzy:
So when you wife chat with her colleagues sexually you will clap for her
That's the problem here
That girl isr not saying the real truth

Exactly.. She said that the man has changed, meaning that he was once the loving and caring fiancé but suddenly changed. He must have found something in her phone that made him doubt her loyalty. She also keep numerous male friends in the name of business colleagues, that’s bullshit. She is not saying the truth. Although she needs to leave the relationship because the trust is not there anymore. But she must fix herself before going into another relationship if not, this same issue will repeat itself.

What the man did is very wrong and if you continue with him, I’m afraid it may not end well. So you must leave him, forget what people will say or what he might tell people against you, leaving him is nonnegotiable for your own good.

Another thing is you need to fix the reason why he is behaving that way. Did you give him any reason to develop trust issues with you? You said that he went through your phone, SM accounts, etc., did he find any reason there that made him develop trust issues? He told you to cut communication with some guys but it continued, etc.. I’m not trying to judge nor blame you but I think there are some things about yourself that need fixing before going into another serious relationship if not, this same issue will repeat itself.

tboydbrave:
Bro,he presented a forged NECO certificate. Neco which started in 2002. I remember cos dats when i wrote my secondary school exam. D man no try at all. He wants to tell me he is my age mate abi. At least buhari used d year he left school. Dis one is so cut n dry to conclude ooo.

NECO started in 2000 not 2002

How was she discovered? Who brought her severed body to the hospital? The investigation should start from there..

Any woman that runs to a man for advice when facing a relationship crisis does not have the emotional, mental and psychological maturity to be in a relationship. There many safe avenues to seek for advice when facing relationship crisis like confiding in older/elderly respectable woman, mature and sane girlfriend and finally, online. There thousands of relationship sites/blogs where you can find mature and applicable answers to every questions regarding your relationship issues but no, loose women always run to
men in the pretense of seeking for advice whereas they only want the diick. OP just move on because the guy has moved on and he is not coming back. You know what you did and you enjoyed it so spare us of all these emotional nonsense. You’re even lucky your ex is a cool guy because if it’s me, I slap the living hell out you for coming to my face to mock me with this nonsense after enjoying yourself multiple times.. idiot.

Nvc078:
Nairaland must be using more than 1000 servers...if not, crash na em second name

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kay29000:
I go laugh all those people that bet against him with hundreds of thousands of naira

AJ has won this fight already. Congrats to we that bet on him

Respect55:
Thanks. I have respected her body all along.

You’ve respected her body all along, meaning that you didn’t sleep with her?

This clown should go and sleep abeg.

Inteltower:
and see see you jumping into conclusions as well.
Mr know all.
give the lady a break. and try to see the story clearly

look at the asslicker, abeg get the fvck out. Someone said she was raped and you don’t care about arresting the rapist but the innocent boyfriend that is hurting. Let her get the rapist arrested first let start from there.

skywalker240:
ha ha ha.

cultist dont do anything for you free, unless theres a price. And our op here got a price and what is that, your guess is as good as mine.

Of course she knows very well, forget all these her crocodile tears here seeking public sympathy.

Inteltower:
the girl doesn't have money to file charges plus i don't think you will call it rape.

but the girl called it rape and you don’t need money to get a rapist arrested because there are many people that will gladly take the case up for free. She is yet to tell the full story. You guys should ask pertinent questions first before jumping into conclusion. The truth is that is a cheat and she should be ready to face the consequence.

Inteltower:
my dear, first don't beg that stupid guy you call a boyfriend. I suggest you tell the school authority all about it to be on their good side & protect you rather than expel you if it gets out

just don't beg either of the two. you made your mistakes fine. but don't let their foolishness further drag you to worries & depression.

also make a social media statement at Facebook,etc to tell the public the real story before/after the video gets out. also tag your bf photo along with it; you will succeed disgracing him as well.

be cool & calm. tell yourself you will win or come our of this stronger.don't beg the slowpoke. he never loved you

Why are you guys not talking about arresting the rapist?

pamelaayomide:
The video is not with me,it is in the custody of my ex.
I regret going to the party.

why don’t you want to arrest the rapist?

skywalker240:
just like i said earlier, she is passing tru her hoe phase. I agree every inch what you wrote

Don’t mind her. She don’t know what she is getting herself into. The best thing to do is get the rapist arrested and punished. If she and her boyfriends(lawyers) eventually frustrates the innocent guys life, she will dearly pay for it not now but much later.

Nicklaus619:
Bro cultist ain't doing her sh!t, this is a classical case of devil and the deep blue sea, even if she get the rapist arrested and jailed, it wouldn't still stop his boyfriend from leaking the video, and already the guy is at the verge of leaking it, what do u expect her to do Have u even bothered to ask yourself how the boyfriend got hold of the video in the first place, how comes it is only her boyfriend that has the video These questions are begging or answer, they all pointing to his boyfriend having connection with the rapist and the whole thing looks like a conspiracy theory, think about that

Her boyfriend won’t leak the video if the rapist is punished. The boyfriend probably got the video from the rapist just to mock him for fvcking his girlfriend, I know how we guys behave. If the boyfriend gets punished for that cheap thing foolishness, be rest assured that a revenge will come and it will be brutal. OP is not even showing any sign of angst against the rapist that cursed the whole thing, na the innocent boyfriend that is hurting real bad she is against. Shows that she is a cheap slut and deserves all the shame that is coming her way. If she likes arrest the boyfriend, the video will still come out one way or the other.. she is an idiot.

Nicklaus619:
Don't kill yourself with depression, you made mistake by getting drunk in the absent of your boyfriend and having sex with someone else and getting em videoed without your knowledge and mutual agreement , but again he is only your boyfriend and not your husband yet, this is what you should do, I know you can't afford a lawyer hence your a student, tomorrow morning Go straight to the school management and report that your boyfriend got you drunk and brought someone to rape you and blackmailing you with it just because u told him you don't want the relationship no more that you wanna concentrate on your studies, and go straight to the police station and report a rape case against him, they will drill him until he writes an undertaking that if the video leaked that he will be convicted and jailed, now play that mind game by throwing the first punch at him and thank me later, your boyfriend is a clown, he should have ended the relationship than this cheap stunt he is trying to pull

You want to get the girl killed by cultist? How can you tell her to frame up her boyfriend who is only reacting because he is hurt knowing the cheap slut cheated on him? Instead of you to advise her to get the the idiot that raped her arrested and that way, the boyfriend will know that it wasn’t her fault, you’re here talking nonsense.

When we tell you guys that there is no clean money anywhere in the world, you think we’re blabbing? ... Even Dangote and his likes all deals with dirty money, what makes the difference is how smart you are.

Akpabio himself will even prefer ND ministry to Senate.

Why not allow for exportation?

Ucheamani:
Oga pls help us understand the maths better.

(1) 1 bag is 50kg
(2) 10 bags = 500kg
(3) 20 bags = 1000kg (which is 1 ton)
(4) 30 bags = 1,500kg ( which is 1.5,tonnes)

Please prove me wrong.

We are talking about 1,500 tones not 1 and half tones are you said.

geosuzzy:
1,5toones is just 30bags per day of 50kg

How?

ussv:
But that would still be a problem for the foreign account that receives it . All na still trail. Several Nigerians are in trouble here in America for collecting money on behalf of boys wey don chop and forget am for naija. Some of the transactions are as far back as 6 years ago.

Of course, the thing is that those boys knew exactly what they were getting into unlike this woman here that may not even know what the money was all about. I suspect the husband being a big man in the bank has been helping boys clear funds so maybe one of the boys needed account and he dabbled into it because of the percentage involved. Foolish man

FrLukas:
Big burst? Lol. Abeg, let me be. I am not in the mood to argue. If you are in the mood you can turn to google and research about EFCC's achievements under Ribadu.

Go and sleep, you no get point.

FrLukas:
So you are saying that EFCC has always collected intel from the FBI. Even the arrests they've been making long before the Invictus saga?

Underestimating the EFCC.

I say big burst, read and comprehend before you argue.

ussv:
The good thing about money laundering be say e get paper trail no matter how long e take, i bet you some people that have helped launder money from overseas in the past would be shitting on their pants right now.

The man is a novice, this na BEC money, who uses Nigeria account to receive that? Guys are using China, UAE, Singapore. Once money enter there, it’s over. And major problems pickers don’t use same account twice because they usually close the account once the transaction is completed.

FrLukas:
And if EFCC had folded their arms and done nothing? The FBI has no jurisdiction in Nigeria. Besides, EFCC had been bursting cases long before the FBI solicited their help for these recent ones.

Give kudos to EFCC. Dem dey try abeg.

Without those intel, EFCC wouldn’t have arrested them.

FrLukas:
A good name is better than silver and gold.

Kudos to EFCC.

Sometimes I think EFCC is the best thing about Buhari's government.

Not EFCC but FBI.. All these big bursts by EFCC recently are based on intel from foreign security agencies, especially FBI and Interpol

BUTTERMILKSUGAR:
to make it worse, Bello is the first youth governor.

Could it be said that the youth are too corrupt to handle leadership?

how is he the first youth governor?

Chukapage:
That guys story is FAKE! I am suspecting it! He might be another Yoruba Tribalism looking to bash Igbos on romance section! Did you see the way he kept silent on that id**t that called his supposed PARENTS *Stu**d* ?? The other Yoruba Monkey portrayed his parents as *uneducated , illiterate* he kept silent, the other one insulted his supposed Tribe IGBO he kept silent. That nigga might just be a Yoruba tribalist looking to spread usual propaganda against the Igbos!

Correct! I pointed those things out but he didn’t say anything. He is one of those Yoruba tribalists, that’s their way.