₦airaland Forum

What are the problems that women have that men will never have? Mensturation? How much does that cost?

This has always been a question in my mind-
WHY SHOULD WOMEN HAVE EXCLUSIVE CUSTODY OF THE CHILDREN THAT THEY EQUALLY MADE WITH THE HUSBAND?
ARE MEN SUPPOSED TO LOOSE OUT OF HAVING THE JOY OF CHILDREN WHEN A RELATIONSHIP GOES SOUTH EVEN WHEN HE WORKS HIS BUTT OF TO TAKE CARE OF HIS FAMILY?

This is a honest question to my mind, it seems to be unfair to MEN and personally, I feel it is unjust for a man to loose everything he has worked for including the joy of his children!
Personally, this is not acceptable to me. It should atleast be SHARED CUSTODY... Afterall, my waist, my sperm, money, provision and my protection of the children should not be in vain just because I can’t get along with a person that I genuinely loved and married!

in other words, YORUBA GUYS NO DEY MUMU FOR WOMAN MATTER & IGBO CAN BE DIRTY PEOPLE FOR WOMAN...Afonja abeg give me membership letter I want to transfer!!! That means na Afonja get sense pass na!

I see the Olosho saying she wants a man to be OBSESSED WITH HER, why should a man be obsessed about a woman? .... that seems like witchcraft to me ooo

fancyhandsome:
Nigerian commercial model cum Actress, Koko pat have made bold claim about dating Nigerian men from various tribes.

The Calabar actress recently took to her insta-story to share her view and her encounter with igbo guys which she claim are the best.


My view about Dating a typical Nigerian guy.
Yoruba guys will prefer to look good and end up starving their woman. Hausa guys are totally out of the picture. I want a man that will be obsessed about me and can go extra length to bring food on the table not the one that will be struggling fashion sense with me.

Trust me, Igbo guys are good in everything and can satisfy their woman. They will even look extremely dirty just to make sure their wife is happy .The little encounter have had with few have made me justify this assertion.

http://modelsnaija.com/igbo-guys-are-caring-and-romantic-unlike-other-tribes__koko-pat/

This flag resemble cultists own sha

tossie101:
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Thugnificent:
Nairalanders please someone should assist me with 3k for feeding biko because I'm not myself right now. At least to get strength for hustle. Hunger can really humble someone i swear. Acc 3051322969 first bank.

you are not yourself, then who are you?

bilms:
APC broad daylight robbery against Usman Tuggar in Bauchi state

https://mrrightsng..com/2018/10/apc-broad-daylight-robbery-against.html?m=1

Citizens Action To Take Back Nigeria (CATBAN) has released a report on the broad daylight robbery of All Progressive Congress (APC) in Bauchi State. Mr Rights present the full report

THE CASE OF USMAN ABUBAKAR TUGGA: POLITICAL & ELECTORAL CORRUPT PRACTICES PERPETRATED BY APC. – Political Corruption report by Media Unit of CATBAN

With the avalanche of crisis rocking the APC across multiple states, one may be forced to ask if truly APC was ready for the conduct of the 2019 elections or the late coming in of Adams Oshiomhole into office as National Chairman of the ruling party may be part of the reasons behind the brewing and stubborn crisis!

It all started from the drama that took place in the party’s National Convention at Abuja. We saw how Governors were shielding top members the chance to participate in the process of electing the National Officials.

Observers are tracing the origin of the crisis in APC from the issues that soiled the working relationship between the Legislators in the National Assembly and the Executives. The offshoot of the feud between National Assembly and the Executives resulted to massive interparty exodus of members. The next crisis that send wrong signals on the ugly things to come was choice of method of the primary elections, direct or indirect.


This almost divided the party into two camps across the states. Again, high cost of nomination forms was another ugly development that chopped up part of APC popularity among the Nigerian masses. As if all these were not enough for the APC to have a rethink, Tinubu and his Lagos APC launched their own brand of anti internal party democracy by way of scheming out the sitting Governor Ambode whom Lagos people believed have done impressively well.

The reports of primary elections with regards to use of money in most states that conducted the primary election via indirect method was also a thing of concern. The worst of the crisis is the recent development where results were being changed, contestants that won were being replaced openly by those that failed woefully. This development is one reason that is slowing down the process of submission of names of party candidates to INEC and for sure, INEC is hitting hard on all political parties.

In a recent report compiled by Premium Times, the INEC was quoted laying emphasis thus:
“The last day for submission of lists of sponsored candidates (Form CFOO2) and personal particulars (Form CF001) remains October 18 for Presidential and National Assembly and November 2 for Governorship and State Houses of Assembly,” the commission said.

“As at Tuesday night, according to the INEC chairman, Mahmood Yakubu, only eight of Nigeria’s 91 political parties have submitted the names of their candidates.
The APC, Nigeria’s governing party, is one of the parties troubled with submission of candidates lists largely due to crises in primaries conducted in some states.
Hours to the deadline, party faithful in Adamawa, Zamfara, Delta and Kaduna among others are not sure who their candidates will be for certain positions.”

APC members in most states have taken to the streets to protest on the manner of injustices going on in the handling of compilation of the party primary results. Many of those that spoke to the media have lamented over the broad daylight robbery of results of winners and announcement of the wrong persons.

Contestants are out there on the different media platforms crying against what the Party and INEC officials are doing to them. Almost all the APC states are having similar complaints.

In Bauchi State, on the 3rd October 2018, when the primary election was conducted and all party members were given the opportunity to exercise their franchise, the excitement was seen in the eyes of many, as they freely elected their preferred candidates across all positions.

In Bauchi North senatorial district, Usman A Tuggar who won 7 out of the 8 local governments in the senatorial to emerge victorious, as he was seen breaming with smiles, as he greeted supporters around in excitement. However, little did he know that what the people and party members freely gave him through votes would be snatched away from him through the back door.

The Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) who also witnessed the process saw this very clearly, but surprisingly, when the winner was eventually announced by the National Working Committee (NWC) of APC, the name of another aspirant, Adamu Mohammed Bulkachuwa, who merely won one local government was announced as the candidate and as a result of this development, Bauchi North Senatorial district has been thrown into mourning and confusion.

Usman Abubakar Tugga, a younger brother to the Nigerian Ambassador to Germany has been in the progressive camp of President Muhammadu Buhari since 2006, first in ANPP, then to CPC and now APC.

In a letter to APC National Chairman, Comrade Adams Oshiomole on 9th October 2018, Usman who attached copies of the election result demand justice from the party. ‘’I demand that justice be done, as I believe this is what our movement stands for’’ he said.

Oga OP, you said Gamawa no get appointees to balance power but the man you are killing yourself for IS THE YOUNGER BROTHER OF A SERVING AMBASADOR.... that one no be appointment in?

Mztarstrechy:
A Nigerian man took to Facebook to share photos of three female mechanics she met today who shuttle between school and apprenticeship and wrote....

'I took out time out today to get a reliable mechanic to fix my truck . I was directed by a friend to visit a place in my constituency. Getting there, I met these pretty young female mechanics. I engaged them in a discussion and to my great surprise, they shuttle between secondary school and apprenticeship. Before leaving, I donated to their training by providing money for the necessary tools needed to continue working'


Source: http://www.trezzyhelm.com/2018/10/meet-3-female-nigerian-mechanics-who.html

This thread was intentionally posted to attack slay queens therefore my hand no dey inside if dem vex for you. If them use their own hands to work, Westin make them take thier TOTO do na? This is sexism and discrimination against women using their natural resources!

ONLY TOTO BE YOUR ASSET, No sense, no reason... asawo lasan

correctbae:
A twitter slay queen tweet about the existence of good men, according to her, good men exists but they are just ugly. So in essence she is saying all ugly men are good.

Tweet below:
Good men still exist. They are only Ugly

Source: https://correctbae.ng/2018/10/18/good-men-still-exist-they-are-only-ugly-lady-says/

The best TRUTH I have heard in my whole life.

Klington:

Just like it is possible that he is being manipulated by another woman who can never ever love him unconditionally!!!
The lady could leave for a 'RICHER' man without coming to Nairaland to seek opinions.
Ask your Mumcy WHY and what her reasons are? And objectively analyse her response! shine your eyes wella cos love could blind your eyes to an obvious hell hole that your mother could have seen. Just watch your steps!.. Maternal instincts are real!!

And if you need to end the relationship, give it time and APPLY THE PRINCIPLES OF FRIENDZONING. The relationship will YAMUTU naturally and peacefully if you play your cards well...
Always consider - AT LEAST PAY SOME ATTENTION TO- the views of people that are more experienced in your life IF they love God and you are convinced they love you... your mother should meet that criteria, brother. She will love you from cradle to grave!

ImaIma1:
So you want to go with all your mother's wishes? Your mother is a woman and has that power of a woman to manipulate you emotionally and make you believe you are indebted to her.

You should realize that your mum is human and she makes mistakes too. She is not always right and she can be after her selfish interests too.

Please you are an adult. You cannot simply end a relationship because mummy said so. Ask her the reason. If you keep obeying her every wish, the day you decline will be a real battle because you have always agreed with her.

Well i don't know how it works in your family or tribe...probably the mum's decision about the children's lives is final. Just be wise here

Be blessed my dear and may all the right pieces fall in the right places for you! Such depth is not common!!!

9gerian:
Social media validation and inconsiderate pursuit of wealth / materialism.

The bane of this generation!!!

A well bonded family is just as much wealth / resource as a house. And you can have both- with some application of wisdom!!!

Well my beloved brother, I hope you are married!
I said he should speak to his wife, the most important party in the marriage. I guarantee you he won't have any heart ache if he works it out with her!
I see all your points though but believe me NEVER BRING IN THIRD PARTIES TO YOUR HOME UNLESS YOU HAVE ARE COMFORTABLE HAVING "ménage à trois" when times are good...

utenwuson:
this is exactly what is causing cardiac arrest, when u keep piling up issues and saying you not gonna tell no one, high BP will kill u, he is a real man, the woman has rubbished his family costume she's from a well to do background, the only to rebuild his sanity and life is to start all over, go rent a new house, while building his, and stay there, if the wife us still interested in the Ed marriage, she knows what to do... meet him in his house not in her house.

I think you Oga are very childish for bringing 'your side of the story' to complete strangers on social media just like your wife did.
I blame you for announcing your home to strangers, mostly unmarried kids to judge. So what did you hope to get by washing your dirty linen in public?
Now go back home, have a re-think, accept where things got wrong on your own path and get to work rebuilding the home YOU destroyed.
I am a married man and the only advice I will give you is that "Not even the closest person(friends, parents etc) to you should know about a problem you have in your home. it is a project you initiated and if it fails you can only have an excuse but you have failed all the same", only ever share the good side/strengths of your partner, NEVER their weakness.

Now get off Nairaland, and call your wife and have a honest conversation, not settle a case oo, because there is not case to settle!

YOU quit using your marriage as a source of entertainment and amusement to complete strangers!

Those kids need to have a MAN in their lives not EXCUSES!

if you wanna talk fine but I am not going to discuss what happened, just HOW YOU SHOULD NEVER LET THINGS SPIRAL OUT OF YOUR CONTROL!

it is not about WHO IS RIGHT OR WRONG. it about YOU doing WHAT IS RIGHT!

Now, Get to work!!!

ExtraExtra:
Women are the backbone of the family, they make or mar the home, since they help bring life to the world suffice it to say they sum up what we call family, 99% of successful, longlasting home or family is the ability of the woman to hold the "forte".

My attention was drawn to this forum and this topic https://www.nairaland.com/4617351/husbands-pride-wants-ruin-home#69371294 and it is sad that most people drew conclusion on a one sided story though i wouldnt blame those involved because they judged based on what was said and the individual involved needed public validation for her wrong doing, a public display i dont approve of but since external persons and relations are already involved i'd like to clear some details.

"Dee" comes from a very well to do family while i dont so when we got married, i made her feel we are in this together, not one above the other but as partners in EVERYTHING. To be fair to her she brought up the business idea we did years ago, in other to put forth money to start up, i made sure i had equal money as her for it, goal was to own a property, build et al. Unfortunately my dad's ailing health deteriorated to the extent that he had to be flown out, when the profit came, i told her and she agreed, she decided we split it into two so she use hers for the initial plan. As the first born i went with my dad, back here she got the property and started building, when i came back the remaining money with me was used to complete it, what was left was used for my parents house. Being a trust worthy person i feel she is, i didnt bother to check documents cos i felt she would do the right thing by putting both our names which she kept in a bank.

Now, i work and own other businesses so i'm always in contact with alot of people from both genders so to her she feels i may have lost guard by cheating which is not true: i dont have password on my phones, i always make and receive calls right in front of her but she still think i'm hiding something and that was the genesis of the problem weeks ago, i rebuked her to cut it out immediately but she was out for blood, she insulted me like never before, when i didnt give her face, she extended her TOXIC words to my parents, my family, my background and my personality, that was when i lost it, if not for my cousin that was there i would have hit her, out of anger i told her to get the hell out of the house which of course i didnt mean, then she shocked me saying the house is ONLY in her name, i was numb and speechless, in other for me not to react in a brutal way i left the house, told her i would never step there again if she doesnt change it to my name ONLY. My cousin who was there when it happened told my people, they called me so i had to explain things, right now her family knows what happened and none is supporting her.

YES i said she should put my name only cos she belittled and betrayed me which tells me if it was in both our names she will raise shoulder and feel above me.YES i requested for transfer and i will go through with it, i cannot be away from my kids and still be in the same state, it doesnt make, when it is sucessful, i will get a place conducive amd comfortable for my kids, they will be with me. I told her recently not to bother with the name change anymore, she can have the house all to herself for all i care.

I wont divorce her because i dont believe in that, once i move with the kids she can come along if she wants but right now we are seperated. I wanted a partner, she displayed stupidity not smartness, what the future holds i dont know, she made her bed she should lay on it.

My brother they will never listen to reason. They detest the truth but wickedness, bigotry & hypocrisy is a Frankenstein monster that will surely eat its creator. God is sufficient!!!

SamuelAnyawu:
Oga i work with an NGO here not just in Maiduguri from Monguno to Gwoza to Pulka to Rann to Damasak to Gamboru. Everyone on Nairaland know i've been here since 2016 maybe you can go through my comments. Tomorrow i'm visiting Damboa

Iamgrey5:
This is extremely ridiculous.

Some people are victims of circumstances beyond their control. She shouldn't rush to judge people next time

Although, I agree that career baby mamas like Sophia Momodu are pathetic and physically/mentally lazy.

There are many great single moms

The mom of Obama
The mom of Dr Ben Carson

And so on

And some circumstances are victims of people!!!!!

Yam works to de-salt food as well. You can use it the way that potato was recommended.
Cooking is a beautiful art but sometimes we make mistakes.

To avoid excess salt, put as little as possible, after all salt is not very healthy to the body.

Elder001:
This is one of the reasons bride price should be abolished.

Nigerian men feel their wives are their properties and must do anything they say.. You can't cook because you paid bride price, find a family who won't request for bride price then.


As for your post..I don't expect much from you because you're a sexist and misogynistic individual.

You better stay within the shores of Africa because if you leave Africa with this your primitive and uncivilized mentality you'll regret it.

Words of an elder.

The foolish utopian thinking that resides in your head will not be cured.
A foolish entitled social justice warrior like you calling me a misogyst without even know where I live or who I am. It’s a deluded person like you that thinks being outside nigeria is heaven when you are probably one of those that manage to go there and drag the country’s image doing menial jobs and all, if at all. It is foolish children like you that think everything is against you including fate and nature itself. Unfortunately I live in the most liberal European country on earth, the Netherlands, and it is not heaven. It is the feminist capital of the world and men and women make contributions to their families according to thier natural strengths not based on your deluded world view of senseless equality of sexes. It does not change the fact of cooperative and complementary existence between men and women. Since the only response you have for common sense is the usual slogans of feminism, I will live you to your delusion child. I called you a small mind and you called yourself an elder
Well you are free to choose your name but you cannot change the world to fit your narrow, inconsistent world view.
I see that reason bounces of your head so keep your belief to yourself but don’t call me names! If you do I will come down to your childish level and then we shall see...

“According to LIAR MOHAMMED, they have become BILLIONAIRES
My friend leave the poor farmers alone jare, they don use the money MARRY SECOND WIFE!!!

Them say everything must be LIES and SENSELESS PROPAGANDA... People are suffering while some e-Diot is busy lying that they are BILLIONAIRES...under which regime?? When even billionaires are turning paupers under some mindless economic policies... mtcheeew

Elder001:
What do you mean by "you even tried being a man”?

See how primitive, uncivilized and patriarchal the Nigerian society is.

So men don't cook and shouldn't bother?

I still don't understand the rationale behind this you're man so you tried comment..

“Primitive, uncivilized and patriachal” because someone said a man tried cooking.... which type of deluded over-reaction is this
For your information there is nothing uncivilized about gender roles but people like you make it look so. You demean women for playing the natural role of nurturing a family while the father figure does provide for his family- it is how the society was organized and nothing bad about it. Will you not find it strange that men still are expected to propose to a woman, pay her bride price and is expected to be a provider?
What is wrong in a woman making her contributions based on thier natural strengths and tendencies?? Don’t bring the nonsense about equality into every simple discuss using a warped logic. Men and women are not the same and that is not communicating superiority. Why for example is it that women are the only gender that can carry children and have the capacity to withstand the greatest pain known to man- child birth? Women are generally empowered with immense capacity to nurture while men are endowed with instincts to to provide. Same holds in nature. Things have changed a bit but that is not to say there should not be natural division of labor and responsibilities.
There is a sense in which each gender is enabled by nature with some capacity that the other gender is not. I can have a robust debate with you or anyone on this matter so that we can attempt to understand that the genders are not enemies and nature was not partial with its endowments- as long as the discuss will not involve insults and disrespect, of course I can hold my own in that space as well.

Men should not decide what women wear... but woman should decide what men say or think about what they see!
What is harassment?

Please why should a woman wear Camel toe or even expose her pussy? I guess to attract the attention of the only species that consume camel toe...MALES


Who is she wearing it for, her fellow females It is not harassment it is what she wanted to hear... camel toe ko camel toto niii

TO BE HONEST NOT ALL WOMEN AROUSE MEN... NOT THIS ONE LOOKING LIKE SOMETHING LONG....

It hurts to think that some women think that all a man thinks about 24|7 is sex... some of us won’t touch some slay queens with 100m rod even if the sex was to be accompanied with cash gift. May be we will take the cash and leave the HIV sleeping naked.

Not all things are attractive. Not all things are fuckable. Leave men alone to hustle.

I don’t need any self control to avoid some trash... the stench alone and the fact that it is a public dump yard will make Oga to align himself and not even stand up. Mtcheeew

I nominate bigot ISHAQ AKINTOLA of MURIC for the award for his creative bigotry, hypocrisy and cowardice!

schoolboij:
What's this foolish talk of southern Muslims not leading prayers in the north? Can a northern Muslim lead prayers in the south?

Yours is foolishness laced with bigotry. Condemn the man and stop being ridiculous.

To your question, YES, A NORTHERN MUSLIM CAN LEAD PRAYERS IN THE SOUTH. And just so you know, no matter how much bigotry your fanatical MURIC manifests, they are and will always be considered as second class Muslims to those whose feel that they are the true custodians of the religion.

What is foolish about what I wrote here, mr. bigger and foolish bigot!!
Your own foolishness is not only evil but despicable and your bigotry is manifested in the fact that you did not see the idiocy in your overzealous MURIC leader. Did you find his stupid utterances faulty? No! So how come a bigger fool like you now realizes that my foolishness is laced in bigotry?
Should MURIC not be discussing the issue of equal rights for all Muslims in Nigeria instead of whipping up sentiments and threatening people with violence over every trivial issue?
So to the distorted mind of your MURIC, ALL FARMERS ARE CHRISTIANS AND ALL HERDSMENS ARE MUSLIM? little wonder everything must now be viewed through the tainted lenses of religion but the foolish bigots trying to impress their masters!

There is no greater idiot capable of causing mayhem than a fool who is trying to hard find validation of his religion from a people in whose eyes he is another useless fakir. He cannot even lead prayers in any mosque north of the river Niger or in the majority Muslim north despite the “depth of his religious??” knowledge for he is viewed as a munafiq perpetually. He is a trouble fomenting bigot who uses threat of violence to blackmail people into his skewed way of reasoning- skewed even by genuine Islamic standards. In trying hard to cover up his shameful, disgraceful paganic act of threat to freedom of expression he is now casting the evil perpetrated by Fulani herdsmen as a religious war on behalf of his “religion of peace”. The Fulani herdsmen have killed Yoruba Muslims as well as every other group that resists thier wanton destruction. Now MURIC is the spokesman and defendant of Miyetti Allah... what a goat, a useless he-goat seeking relevance on the basis of religious bigotry. May Allah punish the likes of Ishaq and his backward thinking ilks. May the curses of his evil dwell and end with him and his lineage. A coward whose main trade is whipping up unnneccessary sentiments. He is a bigoted munafiq who will shy away from truth and take refuge under the umbrella of his adulterated version of Islam. Does it not worry you that any one appointed to the traditional leadership throne of sokoto emirate is automatically the spiritual leader of your faith even if he is not pious or knowledgeable in the holy Quran?
And no Yoruba man, no matter his depth of scholarship, can be the spiritual leader of the ummah in Nigeria.
FOOLISH SON OF IDOL WORSHIPPER TRYING HARD TO FEEL AMONG GENUINE MUSLIMS...WOE UNTO YOU!

I honestly think you are tethering towards insanity with your blind and illogical love for a person who would not honestly say HE IS THE ONLY UPRIGHT PERSON(out of 180 Million) THAT CAN RULE NIGERIA!!! you are almost assigning a divine status to the mortal, fallible man Buhari... you are almost reaching that extreme by suggesting he the only person qualified!!!

QuotaSystem:
Opinions on the validity of the question is much less important than the actual answer to the question.

Interestingly, you still failed to answer the crucial question despite opening a thread on it.

Vote out Buhari and vote in who?

Please state your alternative candidate.

Despite clinching a third successive European title just five days ago, the Frenchman's tenure at the Santiago Bernabeu is at an end
Zinedine Zidane has announced that he is leaving Real Madrid less than a week after guiding them to an unprecedented third successive Champions League title.

source: http://www.goal.com/en/news/zinedine-zidane-steps-down-as-real-madrid-manager/ile8pzj406fr1azhqfrkwjkzc

Useless freedom that does not extend to Financial Freedom, is dat one freedom or rudeness?
which "yeye successful" that will still ask you to take care of her or she will look for someone else who will....

rottenegg:
Nonsense talk! Who no like better thing? The problem is when your independence and success gets to your head, that's what guys dislike!

Simply because Guys want only "Kerewa Dance" in a marriage/ relationship NOT "PYTHON DANCE"!
Soldier ladies on their own are just okay but once they cry foul to their officer boyfiends who command them into the bedroom, then all Hell is let loose!!! PREVENTION IS BETTER THAN CURE!
Civilian pussy still dey available so tey some don dey smell rotten fish sef, why look for trouble?

And when did being a housewife become such a bad thing? I detest people without depth...
Is this slut looking pungent creature even a model of any sort not even to talk of a role model?...
Are you not supposed to preach with your life, ultimately??

And just so we are clear, there is an expectation of conduct and appearance on every profession, this does not even look like a Christian ie CHRIST LIKE.

NO BE EVERY ASHAWO FIT BE PREACHER ABEG... JUST LIKE NOT ANY PREACHER SHOULD BE AN ASHAWO!

AdaMoore44:
What has her make up got to do with preaching??
Or is she suppose to be looking like som drab housewife

why?

Wiseandtrue:
This is nice. This is how men should treat their wives.

women deserves to be pampered.

them go dey make mouth like say "their own" dey quick WET when person wan do ...

Same Women that you will have to WORK and TUNE like old locomotive before their TONTO stand up, na dem dey call someborri ONE MINUTE MAN.

Gerrara hia... A man's life is not to be lived trying to satisfy you ungrateful women, abeg. We have better thing to do with our time!
These Oloshos have an exaggerated view of their importance!

You go chyke woman, dine woman, spend on top am, arouse woman, come fuckam, she go lie down like dead statue, na you go still pay money on top...then the useless UNGRATEFUL olosho go come dey scream "One Minute Man"... WAKA THERE...