₦airaland Forum

Vivly:
Most Nigerian bloggers don't know the meaning of Stunning.

Have you not been stunned?

DaBullIT:
[size=22pt]Make una no vex for here no , he no consign me if una wan quote me , quote till tomorrow , the picture of SAM2 missiles na him i attach so .

the news talk say ''Mr. Gnoti who claimed that President Idriss Déby gave him the funds to purchase the weapons, had waved a presidential pass issued to him by Mr. Deby’s office in order to get past border guards but was stopped and searched by the guards who found the deadly weapons on him''

Shey na inside container the SAM2 missile dey ni ?? ? abi na im pocket he keep am , becos why ?? ? one of this missile na truck dem dey use carry am , na truck dem dey use launch am ..

How he come be say border guard search am ,con find the deadly weapons on him , for my mind , na like 6 containers and maybe 6 trucks fit carry this kin thing, Shey na me dey suffer from lack of Oyinbo abi na Oyinbo dey suffer lack of me [/size]

The fact that the report says he was searched doesn't mean the missiles were found on his person. If I get to the airport with several large crates, or get to the border with several large containers which I lay claim to, then I and my cargo can be referred to in such a manner. Besides, they assemble does missiles you know. It's not as if it is sold already assembled and ready to launch.

Personally, I wouldn't be too surprised if any of this is true. When I heard Chad mentioned in the now infamous ceasefire, I immediately knew it would come to no good. The same Chad that Ali Modu Sherriff showed up at "uninvited" to take pictures with Mr. President during a cross-border security meeting. The same Chad Boko Haram boys flee to when chased by our troops.

Sorry, I don't trust the Chadians, and I don't think our government should too.

missberrypop5:
shellshii fans. You guys envy us alot. Even with una long score. Why?

They just can't stop thinking about us dear. Even when there were like 6 clubs separating us on the log, they still had their eyes on us. But don't blame them; they are only aspiring to match our achievements.

It is very easy to blame Keshi for every thing, but let us all remember that we failed to qualify for this same tournament just 3 years ago, and Keshi was not in charge then. We have gone from being a country that makes it to the semi finals of every Afcon since 1988 (save for 2008) to a country that fails to qualify twice in three successive editions.

There is a fundamental problem with our football development, and until we address it squarely, we will continue to endure these disappointments. Changing coaches like socks is only a stop gap measure. Where are the quality players excelling at top clubs? Instead we have grown accustomed to celebrating mediocre players who don't play with heart because they believe their own hype.

We need a football philosophy that will cut across from U-13 to the super eagles.

It is very easy to blame Keshi for this game, just as a student can blame his teacher for not teaching him well, but personally I believe Ahmed Musa and Omeruoh lost the plot for us. You don't get 3 clear chances like that and miss them in a must-win game. You will surely get punished. Karma is a b.itch like that. Keshi won't get on the field to tuck those balls away for you. The player has to show up and deliver.

And then Omeruoh turns a situation where he was under no pressure into a calamity simple because he failed to control the ball. He was the same person that caused the Congolese equalizer in Calabar. Just too sloppy.

Keshi, well, he has gone full circle now. We are back where he picked us from. From hero to villain. From failing to qualify for AFCON 2012, to African Champions at AFCON 2013, and back to not qualifying for AFCON 2015. He should have quit after AFCON 2013 when the ovation was loudest.

He has done is bit and I thank him for the good moments. Who is next now?

chinziaski:
*two weeks ago*

Nigerians: we must play Ike Uche

*last week sunday*

Nigerians: Ike Uche try o

*this night*

Nigerians: where them for see this kind Useless player

Hahahahaha..., I guess they mistook Ik Uche for Lionel Messi.

doyinofficial:
Some aluko is the missing link we have been clamoring for haba........keshi must go.

Really? I thought it was Ik Uche?

CFCfan:
As it stands, Nigeria would have to wait to see if she's the best 3rd placed side

Forget 3rd best bro. Congo DR already has 9 points as third in Group D.

Anybody who insults Mikel today would be very unfair to the lad. E don try, haba.

kudoxs:
Whatever happend to Mba n Babatunde ? Keshi threw away our midfield generals and all we do is lose a 1st competitve match to SA.

You guys keep throwing names around. If Uche is not there, you will say Uche. Then it will be Moses, then Ideye. The players are average. Period. But we'll support them all the same. Pikin no go bad make we kill am.

Osyxcel:
How you go use pesin wey no fit

Omeruo is not fit

Abeg, stop making excuses for Omeruoh. He was the same guy that messed up against Congo in Calabar. He has been suspect since the World Cup.

Omeruoh...., absolutely poor.

Dgreatestt:
Please wats group A table as it is now.. I hear Congo are goalless now!! Do we still stand a chance if d game end like dis?!

Without a win, we are going nowhere. We can't even qualify as 3rd best team if we lose.

okotv:
I blame musa.....he should just had tuck those glorious chances away

When you don't take your chances, you usually get punished for it. We could have taken the wind out of SA's sails if Musa had tucked just one away. Let's hope we get a few lucky breaks in the 2nd half.

honeric01:
I am wasting my time, posted the record to show you countries battling with ebola, yet football matches still go on in their countries..

Since Morocco can't ban the kind of fans coming into the country, then Ebola can still get into the country when they host the Club world cup.

Cant you see you are contradicting yourself? can't people from ebola infested countries come to morocco to watch the club world cup?

I decided to stop wasting my time with you not until this last post.

While I understand Morocco's rationale and concerns, I personally think there is a lot of double speak from the Moroccans. They should also ask Fifa to postpone the World Club Championships if they are really sincere. What is to stop Africans from other countries visiting Morocco during the World Club Championships if only to see their favourite stars like Ronaldo, Benzema, James Rodriguez, Gareth Bale and co play. Right now it all seems like double standards.

finally on the way.

missberrypop5:
when this kin thing deh sweet na after everything Ghana come win Nigeria on top all the celebrations.

My United sister, na that one go come worse pass o!

I don tire o! World Cup opening ceremony sef no long reach like this now. Haba! Moderation is key. Let the game kick off abeg.

LeoSanchez:
OMG did ma president just refer to the Super Eagles as " Green Eagles"

Sssshhh..., don't shout it out loud now. Just whisper to his ADC.

*whispers* Er, sir, it is Super Eagles now, not Green Eagles.

Wow! Good work Robosky02.

It depends on the field and what you want to do with it. For me I went for a professional course because I was going into a different sector from the one I majored in as an undergrad. Some folks suggested a PGD, then Master's but I went for the professional course because the industry I work in is more of what you can deliver than paper qualifications. I was already working and gaining on-the-job experience, so the professional course only helped to hone my skill set.

People need to decide what works for them at each given time. Some tend to just follow the crowd without analyzing their own career path and goals. Now I'm think of doing my Master's after several years of working, simply because I'm considering the academia as a career path when I'm much older.

aisha2:
Hahahahahaaa. Our men can be so selfless sha, they will be managing tuketuke and they will buy madam tear leather. God bless una.

Anyway another question :

1. How do you deal with her insecurities? Eg: am getting fat, I feel ugly. Are you the rip the bandage off " yes you are, lets go to the gym and register " or are you the " no you are not getting fat, the dry cleaner is shrinking your clothes or the scale is old and broken, you are perfect "

2. How does she respond to your own insecurities eg, problems at work? Financial challenges, when things dont seem to be adding up?

Hhm, interesting questions.

1. As far as this is concerned, I usually try to be reassuring. I've changed physically from the slim, boyish guy she married too, so I try to make her understand that change is inevitable in life. I tell her she is just as beautiful as ever. One thing I also try to make her understand is that if you can do something about it, then why mope about it. If you'd like to look slimmer try a diet or exercise. Worrying won't change a thing, but actin on it will. So now she is on a diet and the results look good. I'm the one who needs to join the diet train now.

2. Now my own insecurities I usually tend to bottle up and let escape slowly through a sprout like steam from a pressure cooker. I'm very analytic in nature and also do not take things too deeply to heart. So I ruminate on issues for a while, find a workable solution and move on. However, there are times when she notices the pressure of work or finances when we have to expend on a major project. She's very supportive and does her best to encourage me. She's my no.1 cheerleader. With her support and encouragement I usually feel more relieved. I probably should let her in more often right? But usually I don't want to transfer my worries to her, so I do my pressure cooker thing.

bellong:
A detailed explanation would be welcomed. The hard work in real sense is not hard work.

Exactly. When we use the term "hardwork" we are not saying it is tedious. What people mean is that you have to make a conscious effort to keep your marriage happy. Every form of success in life requires hardwork to sustain it. Even the job that you enjoy doing still requires hardwork to attain success and sustain it. Lionel Messi and Ronaldo are two of the best footballers around today, but they still work hard every day at maintaining that standard. If they were to just sit around like couch potatoes relying on their skills, they would soon become redundant.

Its the same thing in marriage. You have to constantly make a conscious effort to make it work. It won't do so on auto-drive. Love, sacrifice, understanding, selflessness, sacrifice and many of the other things that make marriage work are a choice. Both parties must choose to exhibit these qualities. That is the hardwork.

Besides, hardwork is not a bad thing. It is essential to life.

freecocoa:
Lol @ two pack. That's good, seems most men don't cook.

I do cook. I grew up in a home where we are all boys and mom worked, so we learnt to cook. I cook when the missus is not at home. There was a time she was working at a job where she used to get home late and I always made dinner. She wasn't too happy about it though. When she is at home, "her kitchen" is off limits to me. Not my choice, but hers.

freecocoa:
Okay to the happily married men, I ask,

Who decides what the family should eat? Like do you tell your wife what to cook? Or do you just go with whatever she serves? Do you cook?

Me? I'm very bad with this one o; at least that's what my wife thinks. When the question pops up, my answer is usually "anything is fine". I'm not so crazy about food, so I let her make the choice. Sometimes she prods me endlessly trying to find out what I would like, and occasionally I make requests when I feel like eating something I haven't had in a while. But by and large, she decides what we eat.

She derives a lot of joy from cooking for the family though, and my six pack has suffered for it. I'm now down to like two pack. Started a no-dinner diet which she has finally consented to.

I'm a happily married man and I must say that I've never really visited the family section until a couple of topics made front page in the last two days. Somehow, my first impression was that the family segment seems to be a place where all men are put into a box and classified as bad. I kept seeing ladies saying "most men", "most African men", "most Nigerian men" are this or that, believe this or that, and I wondered why the generalization.

I love my wife to bits and do everything I can within my power and resources to make life good for her and my kid. I also know several couples who are happy (at least as far as the naked eye can see) and I know many men and women who give their all for their family. Marriage is no picnic, so there will be ups and downs and sometimes husband and wife will annoy each other extremely. That's normal and shouldn't now result in labeling one gender bad.

As I said in one of the threads that was on FP two days ago, any single guy or lady can come here on a faceless forum and blow hot and cold, bragging about what they can or can't accept from any man or woman in marriage. Those of us in it know it is a union of many compromises. You give some, you take some, most times you try to find a middle ground on most issues. There is no one size fits all format in marriage. Whatever works for you I say. Of course there are areas of no compromise, like physical, emotional and verbal abuse. That should never be allowed in marriage.

I'll try and visit some more anyway. Hopefully, issues on the thread won't always degenerate into a men vs. women battle. Marriage is not a competition.

lolaluv1:
I can't speak of most men, but I can talk about my man.

That being said, it would seem most folks look at these appliances as things that make a woman lazy. Or they feel these things are luxuries rather than necessities. A luxury you should not be able to afford. Or a luxury you have to live in a '2 plot triplex' to be able to afford.

You see that's the problem I have right there in bold. You just said in the first line that you can't speak for most men, but your own man. Then in the next breath you say most folks. Who are these most folks? Did someone take a poll or survey to arrive at this conclusion?

I don't live in a high-brow neighbourhood or triplex; not even a duplex. I live in a flat and I have most of these appliances as do my neighbours. At least of the washing machine I'm sure. I've also been in the homes of my friends and they have a lot of appliances that makes life easier for them and their spouses. So, I keep wondering, who are these most men/folks. Or should we just draw a conclusion because of the comments of a few people.

Mind you, anyone who's been married long enough knows that many individuals shift ground and compromise when they eventually get married. Some of the single men here who are saying they won't buy these appliances for their wives may eventually shift ground when reality dawns, the same way some ladies here who are saying they can never live without these gadgets when they eventually get married may still shift ground and do without these appliances, at least for sometime, until they or their spouses can afford it.

Talk is cheap on a faceless forum I beg. Let's quit all these generalizations.

lolaluv1:
I currently work 8-8 or even 9 on a Good day. And I have to leave home by 7 in the morning. On a side note, I'm trying to get another job.

When I started working, I wanted to buy a washing machine. I got discouraged by colleagues but I went as far as pricing it. Due to some reasons, I ended up not buying it.
AND I regret that till date!

Weekends that should be spent resting from my gruelling schedule are spent washing and what not. Bear in mind that I work most Saturdays too and sometimes Sunday.

Just this weekend, my man was around and I had to skip a wedding where he was the bestman, because I had washing chores to do. He wasn't Happy I tell you. And has told me countless time to give them to drycleaners.
After washing, I went to the market to stock up, scrubbed my bath and cooked.
The food was what he appreciated because he feels the time I spent washing, we could have spent it together at the wedding.

Fact is all these things make life easier. And they give you more time for other things. Be it another chore, going out or simply resting (nothing wrong with that ).

We are setting up our house and he already bought a big gas that would allow me boil rice on a burner, fry chicken on another, and make the soup on a third. A freezer to stock up with fish So I don't have to visit the market everyday, a blender to blend my onions and pepper for When I cook beans, a fruit juicer as we are trying to eat healthy and a gym subscription for us as a family.

I've also told him I'm getting a big washing machine and an umbrella and wicket chairs where we can sip the juice from the juicer and RELAX. To think of it, I am adding a pressure pot to that, to cook beans within the fastest time possible.

Truth is we don't have to make life difficult for ourselves if we can make it easier.

Er, dear, didn't you get the memo? MOST Nigerian men don't buy home appliances for their wives because it makes them lazy. Why are you coming here to "lie" that your husband bought a big gas cooker, freezer and blender. Or is your husband not part of most men?

Sophyrocks:
Did you just open an account in nairaland just recently? Pay attention and read threads often so you will see what i am talking about. Nairaland is one of them. Just relax and start with this one. Like i said earlier, you can only speak yourself. and by the way, my comment didnt tallk about dish washer or washing machine. It talked about other aspects in marriage in case you have forgotten.

My dear, it is easy to talk the big macho talk on a faceless forum like Nairaland. I don't judge the actions of human beings through a faceless forum where men can pretend to be women and vice versa. I judge from dealing with real life people. People I see and interact with closely.

Anybody can come here and growl like a lion, when in reality he/she is a pussycat. Some of these guys are not even married, yet they come to brag about what they can or cannot accept from their "spouses". If you are judging based on NL comments then you are on a long thing.

aisha2:
I apologise for what i am about to ask, didnt mean to ever get personal till you did.
Last week you started a thread about wives confronting mistresses, so many disagreed with you but did so respectfully. No one even inferred that you may be cheating hence the topic or even bought your wife into the topic yet you started the topic and it ran for 10 pages or so, all clean and respectful. Why now bring peoples husbands to score whatever points because they dont agree with you?

So many people i ignore but you i actually respect, its needless to say the least.

Er, guys, please do not pick issues over my comment. My aim wasn't to denigrate women, but to point out the fact that we should not generalize. There are many women who are happy in their marriages. Good women who are married to good men. But do these good men get any credit. Usually no. However the bad ones get all the publicity.

Man loves his wife, pfft, big deal. Man maltreats his wife. Hell yeah, let's talk about it.

If we take a poll here from married women and find out that most of them consider their husbands to be good, loving men, then why generalize and say most men will say their wives are lazy for wanting appliances like a washing machine, dish washer, blenders, gas cookers etc. How many married women here still go to fetch firewood for instance?