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Sophyrocks:The fact? You say "fact" like you've done some scientific survey to prove this. I know families who don't even have much who live in love and unity in spite of the finer things in life that they can't afford. Both husband and wife do their part and they are happy, gadgets or not. I also have several friends who have these gadgets in their homes. If the Op had come with this thread maybe 5-10 years ago, I might say, okay, but not today. I don't see any of my neighbors wives bringing clothes outside to wash and I can't remember the last time I heard any of them pounding yam. They all have gas cylinders behind their kitchen windows. The dishwasher has not caught on yet, but maybe it will eventually. So where is this so called "typical Nigerian mentality" you are talking about. Like someone here said, maybe some men hide under such statements just because they can't afford the gadgets yet, but once they can they go and get it. In the end, being content and happy in your marriage is what matters. Having all the gadgets in the world doesn't guarantee that. |
Nashville: Busted! I was trying to draw them out. I know most of them will say their husband is different. It is always other people's husbands that have such primitive ideas. |
Sophyrocks:You see that is where you are wrong. I didn't even want to marry a woman like my mother, and thankfully my wife is not like her. It's not because I don't love my mom, but there are attributes she has which I don't want replicated in my wife. I don't have the grace my dad has. Now, one thing many of you fail to realize when you make these generalized statements is that bad news sells fast. How many women go about telling their friends and family members about every good thing their hubby does? How many spend hours on end telling their friends "oh, hubby helped me with the dishes yesterday, he gave the kids a bath and put them to bed while I did the dishes, he helps with the laundry from time to time, he even cooks dinner regularly, etc" Probably not many. You know why? Good news doesn't sell. Your friends would probably end up irritated if you keep telling them how sweet your husband is every chance you get. They'll probably be like "what is she feeling like? na only she go get husband? mtschewww" However, the bad news, oh that sells like wildfire. They all want to hear how much of a brute your husband is. They will sympathies with you when you complain about how uncaring and inconsiderate he is. They want to hear about how he leaves you with all the chores, compares you to his mother and generally paints the picture of a "typical Nigerian man". And when you are done lamenting to them, they go on and tell their other friends about your brute of a husband. And everyone has the chance to go like "hhm, men, they are all the same" Bad news sells dear. The good men hardly get any credit, but the bad ones hug all the headlines. Maybe you should try taking a poll to find out how many women love their husbands and think he is very considerate and helpful before drawing such general conclusions. |
From the comments here I'm guessing most of the married women on this thread have uncaring, inconsiderate men has husbands. Wish their husbands would read this thread and learn what their wives think. Hopefully, they will change. |
aisha2:By the way OP, where you dey buy your own gas at 4k every month? You better try a new outlet. I buy at 2,800 and the thing even lasts my family for about 2 and a half to 3 months. Abi na oga dey buy am,? You just dey guess? ![]() |
Sophyrocks:You, my dear, are guilty of generalization. You've not been married to most Nigerian men. Sometimes, this preconceived, generalized old wives tales is what ruins homes. You go in with a negative mindset, always on the defensive, even when no one is chasing. If you take your time to marry the right man/woman, the two of you will discover what works for you in your home. Don't generalize. |
damiso:You are a good woman, my dear. |
I don't think wives are expected to suffer to be labelled "good". However, nobody loves a fair weather friend. After all, you would consider the friend who sticks to you through good and bad as being a true friend. On technological advancements making women lazy, I don't know what circles you move in, but I don't think any husband will consider buying a washing machine, blender, gas cooker, microwave oven and such as making his wife lazy. Where the problem may arise is if the poor man can't afford those appliances and the wife refuses to do any chores because of that. She obviously knew his financial status before she married him, so why the fuss if it is obvious he can't afford some of these appliances. The two of you should just find a way to do your chores manually. |
[size=16pt]So na kiss matter take enter 18 pages so? Na wa o![/size] Op, you must be a bad-kisser. You keep on saying "by your standards". Who told you your standard is the real deal? Or are you now the S.I Unit of kissing? For all you know "your standard" idea of what a kiss should be like, is what might make it seem like the girls you've been with are bad kissers. If most of them are supposedly bad, then maybe you should turn your spotlight on your own methods and stop feeling like Don Juan. Choi, see me sef dey analyse kiss matter. I dey go drink kunu abeg. This weather is hot. |
cocoduck:I don't get it either. They have Southampton and champions Man City on their trail, yet every week it is where Man Utd is on the table that bothers them. A whole week after Van Persie's goal and they are still discussing the celebration. It's like they just can't get Man Utd out of their system. I guess finishing above Man Utd is more important to them than winning the EPL, just like finishing above Arsenal is Tottenham's goal every season. |
By: Deji Omotoyinbo Here we go again! The search for yet another foreign technical adviser to tinker the Super Eagles has begun and all so familiarly, that Deja-vu feeling has returned. Unfortunately, as was the case in the past, we do not have a clear idea of who or what we want. The only certainty is we want an expatriate coach! A popular quote says ‘’Those who fail to learn from History are condemned to repeat it.’’ Well it seems to me the mistakes of the past are about to be repeated and sadly, if care is not taken, Nigerian Football will be worse for it. It is pertinent to recap the history of foreign coaches on our shores. That will allow all of us, especially the younger folk, to realise that the appointment of an expatriate is not a magic wand that solves all our footballing problems. For clarity, I will split the historical details into Pre-Westerhof and Post Westerhof eras. POST WESTERHOF Since the 1994 World Cup, the Super Eagles has had 6 expatriate coaches: JO BONFRERE -1995-1997 PHILLIPE TROUSSIER- 1997 BORA MILUTINOVIC-1998 THIJS LIBREGTS-1999 JO BONFRERE-1999-2001 BERTI VOGTS-2007-2008 LARS LAGERBACK-2010. Of the six gentlemen, only Jo Bonfrere, who came to Nigeria at the instance of Clemens Westerhof lasted 2 years, twice. The rest lasted between 6 and 12 months! None of them won a major honour. I am discounting the 1996 Atlanta Olympic Gold won by Bonfrere Jo because that is an age grade competition and does not count when National team honours are listed. 9 Nigerians have also held the post variously since 1994.The only major honour post Westerhof was the Nations Cup won by Stephen Keshi in 2013. Also, post 94, Nigeria qualified for the World Cup 4 times. Instructively, one of those qualifications was earned by a foreign coach-Phillipe Troussier in 1997. The other 3 were achieved by Shaibu Amodu twice and Stephen Keshi once. And of the four coaches-Milutinovic 1998, Onigbinde 2002, Largeback 2010 and Keshi 2014 that took the team to the World Cup finals, only two-Milutinovic and Keshi got beyond the first round. PRE WESTERHOF Between 1949 and 1989, 15 foreign and 7 local coaches handled the National team at various times. In all that time, Nigeria won one major honour which was the 1980 African Nations Cup on home soil with a team managed by Brazilian Otto Gloria. OVERVIEW FOREIGN COACHES-22 NOTABLE ACHIEVEMENTS 2 NATIONS CUPS 2 WORLD CUP TICKETS 2 WORLD CUP ROUND OF 16 PLACING LOCAL COACHES-16 NOTABLE ACHIEVEMENTS 1 NATIONS CUP 3 WORLD CUP TICKETS 1 ROUND OF 16 PLACING So overall, of the 22 foreigners who have managed the Nigerian team in its history, only 2-Clemens Westerhof and Otto Gloria won a major honour. Also two of them-Westerhof and Troussier earned World Cup spots and two-Westerhof and Milutinovic got through to the knockout phase at the Mundial. For the Nigerians, of 16 that bossed the side, only Keshi won a major honour, Amodu and Keshi earned 3 World Cup tickets while Keshi got through to the 2nd round. If you ask me, I would say the expatriate coaches have not particularly outshone the locals judging by the record books. With the records established, it is pertinent to take a look at some real issues to be considered in the search for the expert expatriate. NAME/PEDIGREE The NFF has got to make a clear distinction between going for a big name and going for a big name with a proven pedigree. There is a tendency to just pull names out of a hat without considering whether the mentioned individual indeed has the required coaching pedigree to handle the team. One of the names that has been widely touted is that of Ruud Gullit. Well known as a fantastic footballer who captained Holland to the 1988 European championships and played with distinction for the great AC Milan side of the late 80’s and early 90’s. Top class footballer, yes. Top class coach, I don’t think so! For the records, Gullit was the first non British manager to win a major trophy in England when he led Chelsea to the FA Cup in 1997. But since then he has had no notable coaching impact handling Newcastle, Feyenoord and LA Galaxy with little success. His last job was in Russia as coach of Terek Grozny. Appointed in January 2011, he was fired 6 months later after winning only 3 games and accused by the club hierarchy of having a ‘’party lifestyle’’. He has only done media work since then and has no experience as national team coach. So on what basis is the NFF considering the Dutchman? Or is it just a case of dropping big names? With all due respect to Gullit, his coaching pedigree at international level cannot stand beside that of Stephen Keshi or even Shaibu Amodu for that matter! Big names also cost big money! Brings me to the next point. SALARY I have it on good authority that the aforementioned Ruud Gullit is asking for a pay check of 4 million British pounds per annum! You do the math. That is equivalent of roughly 1 billion Naira!! May I remind us all that Keshi’s salary was a paltry N60 million naira annually. Yes, that is peanuts in international football terms. Well respected financial magazine Forbes published the salary of all 32 coaches at the 2014 world cup. Keshi was number 28 on the list. Of the five African countries at the Mundial only the Ghanaian coach earned less than the Super Eagles boss. Volke Finke of Cameroun was roughly at par while both Sabri Lamouchi of Ivory Coast and Valid Halidhozic of Algeria’s salaries nearly tripled that of the Nigerian coach!! Surprised? Don’t be! Expatriate coaches don’t come cheap. The big names that are being linked with the Super Eagles job command in the region of 4 to 6 million US dollars in annual wages. Where is the money going to come from? Government? Don’t think so. The Minister has made that clear. And even if Government decides to pay, there is no moral justification for it in a country where other sports are denied base level funding. The private sector? I am yet to see a properly run and audited company that can justify that huge expenditure to its shareholders. A rich and benevolent individual? Possible but unrealistic. So where is the money to pay this big name expatriate coach going to come from? Honestly, I do not know and I do not think the NFF are sure either. COMMITMENT I am of the opinion that most foreign coaches that handle African teams are Footballing Mercenaries who are in it for the money, pure and simple. I stand to be corrected. I am not sure these gentlemen will have the passion and the commitment level required to truly develop football and lay a groundwork for the future. To compound the issue, Nigerian football fans and the media are notoriously impatient and will demand instant results. If that doesn’t happen, the pressure becomes so intense and the axe will likely fall. And then we start the cycle all over again. If care is not taken, it becomes a vicious circle. WAY FORWARD I do not have any problems with hiring a foreign coach for the Super Eagles if we feel that is the way to go though I do not neccesarily agree with that position. My worry is we go about it the wrong way and oftentimes end up making the wrong choice. In my humble opinion, the expatriates have hardly fared better than Nigerian coaches in our footballing history. We need to be realistic and pragmatic in our choice. We also need to be patient with the new man in charge.Results will not always be good. Football doesn’t work like that. We have to learn that success is a process full of ups and downs. I have said this several times I am beginning to sound like a broken record. Let me close with a little story. THE WESTERHOF MODEL In 1997, I ran into former defacto Vice President of Nigeria in the person of Late Rear Admiral Augustus Aikhomu at the famous Notting Hill Carnival in London. He told me of how he encouraged Clemens Westerhof to come to him directly for anything he wanted and bypass the bureaucratic bottlenecks that threatened to frustrate him within the NFA. Westerhof came to Nigeria in 1989 as an unknown, endured embarrassing and disappointing losses like the 5-1 thumping at the hands of the Algerians at the 1990 Nations Cup and a 2-1 loss to Ghana at the Semi finals of the 1992 competition before the much celebrated successes of 1994. Without the backing of the country’s number 2 man who showed great belief in and visionary patience with the Dutch tactician, I doubt if he would have lasted as long as he did. But eventually persistence paid off and the foundations for the Super Eagles emergence as a major force in international football were laid.My point- without Aikhomu, Westerhof would have been long gone! My advice to the NFF: Forget the idea of a big name coach-you simply cannot afford it. Go for a good young unknown man with great technical ability,(they exist) maybe from Eastern Europe.Will most likely be affordable and committed as he wants to make a name for himself. Give him a long term contract of at least 4 years Stick to him through thick and thin as he tries to build a team. Do not panic at the first sign of poor results Give him all necessary logistics support Do not interfere with his team selection Treat him with utmost professional respect and courtesy Hand him a clearly defined long term goal Realise and appreciate that building a winning team takes TIME! Don’t lose focus. Stick to the plan LOOK INWARDS IF YOU CANNOT FIND A REALISTIC AND AFFORDABLE EXPATRIATE I very much doubt though that the NFF will take to my two kobo’s worth. Here we have a rabid impatience with coaches and a level of expectation that boggles the mind. Nigeria is the only country I know of that sacked a coach for losing a friendly match. ( Eguavoen, after a 4-1 loss to Ghana in London!) The average Nigerian football fan and the numerous pundits and experts display such arrogance and dare I say naivety when it comes to football. The Super Eagles are expected to win EVERY match and EVERY tournament! We are so good and are blessed with such talented footballers that we CANNOT lose.Indeed. As long as we continue to live in this self inflicted fool’s paradise then NOTHING will change. A new coach will come, give his best but will be sacked at the first sign of poor results or a dip in form. And then the process starts all over again! I do hope I am wrong and we have learnt. But deep down I know I am right…..unfortunately. http://sportvisionng.com/soccer/expatriate-coach-the-real-issues/ |
Bobbyjay001:Oga, get your geography right before you begin to haul insults at others. |
Iyowuski:And you think Nigerians will remember that? Bro, we have a culture of unceremoniously getting rid of our players no matter how good they once were. A few bad games and you're out the window. Go ask Yekini, Aiyegbeni, Oliseh and even Okocha. Mikel Obi was one of our best players at Afcon 2013. Some Nigerians were even clamouring for him to win the African footballer of the year just last December. 6 months later, he is the butt of all jokes |
Eden007:If Nigerian football is your only source of joy, then your case is critical. Kneel down let me pray for you. |
fydence:*pulls a seat and balances beside you* Abeg make we dey watch together. No be Naija fans? Barman give us something to drink abeg. |
tuffgongjo:Hhm, interesting. I always thought the Rome derby between Roma and Lazio was greater. |
lomprico:Absolutely. You're spot on bro. Liverpool - 18 League titles, 5 Champions League titles, 7 FA Cup titles Manchester Utd - 20 League titles, 3 Champions League titles, 11 FA Cup titles These are the two biggest clubs in the history of English Football. |
AnanseK:Hehehehe..., and career choices. Ex-military vs. Civilians. What a joke. |
Insincere Nigerian, we kinda know what all this post is about. Say no to Generals and vote for the corrupt Civilians right? Okay we get it. Hope you know you and the NLC chairman are also guilty of the same thing you are accusing OBJ and GMB of. Who cares if our next leader is ex-military or civilian? We just want good leadership. Ah, now you see eh? |
nnachukz:Where on earth bro will a player score an equalizing goal in the very last minute of a game between two rival teams and he won't celebrate in such a manner? When Drogba scored, did he just walk away as if nothing happened? This arguments you guys are bringing up is absolutely funny. |
makkitush:Such uncouth language from a young man. E pass this football wey we dey discuss? Some of you can't just handle simple banter over a game. You just have to result to unnecessary insults. Chelsea didn't exist then? When did you start watching the EPL? And you call yourself a Chelsea fan? A club that was founded in 1905. Unlike you, I actually have no beef with Chelsea. After Man Utd, they are a club I've always liked. Maybe because, blue is my favourite color. I watched and hailed Chelsea legends like Denis Wise, Gianfranco Zola, Fabrizio Ravanelli, Torre Andre Flo, Jimmy Floyd Hasselbank back in the 90's. Those were good times when we enjoyed the EPL without rancour. Then the DSTV explosion came and you lot creeped out of the woodwork bearing so much hate in your heart over an ordinary game. I don't have time for your type. |
makkitush:*Yawns* Story for the gods. We get why you hate us. Your hate will only consume you. Come back and talk to us when you have 20 EPL titles? |
Crispels:Boohoohoo! Lamentations of Crispels. Here have some tissue paper. |
missberrypop5:Thanks for the cupcakes dear. Don't mind shepe fans. All of a sudden they are all rooting for Man City. The same Citeh that will soon knock them off the top of the table. Instead of them to pray that we beat Citeh to brighten their chances and give them a 7-point lead at the top of the table, they are yarning dust out of bitterness. |
PUSH1:Hehehe. You better go and sit down. After all the noise you guys made about beating Man Utd senseless, you are now here campaign for Man City. PDP lose election come dey root for APC against Labour Party. You no get shame. |
missberrypop5:Stadium don almost empty. Was on the road while the game was on. One guy even brush my car. I'm sure he was a Chelsea fan. Agbero club. Missberrypop5, I hope say cupcakes never finish o. Hhm, just 39 pages. If Chelsea had won I sure say this thread go don reach 100 pages. |
blackchief:Gbam! Let this coach have a bad World Cup in Canada and the same Nigerians hailing him will also ask for his head. |
okotv:That's exactly the point bro. Our players, both foreign and home based need to develop themselves at club level and consistently show that they can be relied upon to take set pieces. Expecting the national team coach to develop that part of their game is not realistic. I can't think of any Nigerian player that is the designated set-piece taker for his club in Europe since Okocha quit Bolton. |
okotv:Let's stop making this mistake. The senior team is not where you learn how to take free-kicks and corners. You perfect that at club level where you train almost every day of the week.. How many days will they spend with Amodu? |
Nigeria is on the way to holding both the male and the female African crowns at the same time. Even if it is for just 3 months. I think this will be the 2nd time that will be happening. Come on girls, let's do this. |
Bonapart:Ehen, so you are a pim.p? Because girls dey play you con show face abi? Got my eyes on you. |
hardbody:Yekini was skill-less? You obviously don't know what you are saying. Prolific goalscoring in itself is a skill. What many of you term as skill is usually flair; the body movements, step-overs, ball juggling, flicks etc. Those things that make you shout "hee!". But that doesn't win games, goals do. And to say Yekine didn't create or make assists means you really didn't see him play much. He had at least two assists at USA 94. Also there are different kinds of strikers. You have the complete forward, the poacher, the target man, the advanced forward, the deep lying forward and even the Trequartista. Each of hese types have different skill sets. The number one skill every strike needs though is Finishing. Then you now look at other things like Composure in front of goal, technique, anticipation, pace, acceleration, off the ball movement, strength etc. Flair is usually not a major pre-requisite for strikers. You leave flair to attacking midfielders, especially does who sit in the hole behind the main strikers. That is what Kanu was. |
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Busted! I was trying to draw them out. I know most of them will say their husband is different. It is always other people's husbands that have such primitive ideas.

