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I wonder what she wore. probably something indecent.

Even the 12 year old boy. What did he wear? Where did he go?

This is why I prefer that instead of shouting that people should get married and have kids they should teach people how to actually raise kids and remind them that that children aren't dolls

Wicked Narcissistic parent.
You put a child above your wife.
You love the child more than all your kids all because he resembles you 100%
narcissism at it's finest.
I pity him the day you notice anything that makes him stop resembling you 100%, he will hear it from you.
Not only that you like him because he is a boy? misogynist.

Then you love one twin girl because she resembles your late mum?
Your narcissism no dey hide sef.

Instead of you to consider how you are going to wreck the lives of the children you're raising with this your attitude. You have refused, using the stupid excuse that you can't pretend.
It's all about you abi?

Your twin girls will grow to hate and despise you, most especially the one you love the least. That is, if they don't hate you already.

You love your first son and the girl because they are very smart. The other girl is very what now?

Try and love your kids for them. Not because they resemble you 100%, Not because they resemble your late mum, not because they are very smart, just for the fact that they are your children and you brought them to this world, treat them equally, help them.

And try and Get help for your narcissism
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gabazin080:
I have heard people saying one has to love his kids equally or don't show it even if you love one more, but I find it hard to pretend .

I have 3 kids, a boy and twin girls. I love the 1st born more than the rest because he is a boy and love one of the twins more than the other.
I place the male as the number in the home even ahead of the mom. he is very smart for his age and resembles me 100 percent. and for the twins, I love the one that looks like my late mom and very smart than the other.


help I find it hard to love them equally or even pretend to love them equally and it's causing division in my home

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gabazin080:
I spend plenty of quality time with them during weekends. we go out but not together most times because am someone who doesn't like attention. whenever we go shopping together, I always feel like the center of attraction because of the numbers I took with me.
so most times I only go out shopping with my son and buy things for those at home.


am not enjoying it but I just find it hard to love them equally.
I need help

Wicked man it's always about you.

Or people dress according to their personality or how they feel like dressing that day?

Why do people feel the need to attack people who dress ostentatiously? Can't they praise the man who dresses simple and go on their way in peace?


This mindset to always attack people who do not dress simple is extremely stupid.

If she truly is 16, her parents failed her

Ladies are greedy the yahoo guys killing people for money are what?
You deserve no iota of pity if something terrible happens to you.
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Olalan:
Greedy ladies wont listen and they deserve no iota of pity when used by these yahoo guys......

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delishpot:
Let Baba ask an underground Yahoo + friend of yours for blokos and see if you will not be a target. If Baba asks for vagina will the boy kill a man to get vagina? If baba asks for breast will they kill a boy to get breasts? If baba asks for blood of a virgin will they choose a boy for such? So yeah, let male parts become hot cake for ritualists then wait and see if men will not become the major targets.

That's why the mouth of the fools are still very sharp to say rubbish.
They are not the target, so they feel they can victim blame and victim shame.
Let the killings of men increase above that of the women and then these same fools saying bullshit would be the same set looking for excuses and crying out that ritual killings should end.

Seahawk:
It’s her life. It doesn’t apply to everyone. Nor should it.

Congratulations to her.

She should focus on celebrating and enjoying her achievement rather than give unsolicited advice to others.

And for the mor0ns (you already know yourselves) that will try to use her words to shame other women, you already know you’re sstupid.
Don’t make us have to tell you again what you already know.

Should I say Evil feminist?


Lool, that's how some women behave when they get married. I came here ready to applaud her that she has the right to see marriage as an achievement if she so pleases, but no,
She had to come and spoil it with her advice no one asked for.

ashjay001:
U didn't tell her, u wouldn't marry her now? Just told her to be patient, till u hammered?!

What's bad in getting to know d in-laws, while waiting?

My exact question to him.

I don't understand you
You are not ready for commitments and told your girl to chill for sometime, (and I assume the same way you told us the reason is the same way you told her,) you saying that to her implies that she just needs to wait till you get your bill gates money and you'll be ready, and she agreed to do so.

All of a sudden you flared up because she told you she just wanted to be friendly with her mother in law when you asked why she sent airtime and called. Next thing you're calling her desperate? Common now

Why should that make you flare up? Why should that make you call her desperate?
Did she say anything wrong? She wants to be friendly with her mother in law. Is she wrong? You never said you don't want to commit to her i.e marry her. You just said you told her to chill on commitments till you get your dangote money. So what's making you flare up?
Did she say that she wants to married the next day? no she didn't, she has agreed to wait as you asked her to.
So why are you reacting this way? How can you call her desperate when you said yourself that she is ready to wait for you to commit?

She just wants to have a friendship with her mother in law, because whether you get your DJ Khalid money in a year or in the next 10 years, your mum is still going to be her mother in-law, so why are you bothered that she wants to starts the friendship now?

It's not as if it's a relationship of 3 months and she is rushing things, no, she has been with you for 2 years and you've given her assurance that you'll commit, so why are you flaring up because she wants to be friends with your mother?

Or is it that you don't want to marry the girl? and you are just using this your I want my kids to enjoy more than Bill gates kids as an excuse to date the girl till you're tired of her and dump her?

Driggs:
I am not ready for commitments and I told my girl to chill for some more time.. I am an ambitious young man and I must own the world before I decide to marry.. My kids must chop life pass DJ Khalid pikin..

She agreed and everything is fine.. She's not a beggy beggy slayqueen.. She works with Oando. Lately, I was robbed and my belongings was carted away.. So, I had to use her phone to contact my parents so they can know I am fine until I retrieve my SIM.

Fast forward to yesterday, my mom called and asked me about the "nice girl who has been calling her and sending her massive airtime". I was dumbfounded and just hung up.. I called Lillian and she was all teary on the phone when I confronted her saying "she just wanted to be friendly with her "mother-in-law" blah blah..

That was when I flared up. It was like rubbing salt on an Okada accident wound..

She's been calling and I am not picking.. My mom's been calling too, I guess she's explained the situation to her..

A lady that is so desperate to tie me down with marriage by doing stuffs I didn't bargain for can go ahead and tie my destiny later..

Should I flee? Should I give her another chance?

BarrElChapo:
Well said afterall not all guys are 'yahoo boys'... So why the generalization for ladies.

Don't mind him, I'm tired of guys like him, if he doesn't like Nigerian women, No problem, So many other countries to choose from, he should just leave Nigerian women in peace.

gypsey:
Or maybe he should marry a man Rather than bashing Nigerian women.

Mysoginistic broke ass men.

Gypsey gypsey

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Connecticut:
. We earn respect we do demand respect. I wanna ask u a question? Do our ladies worth of respect? Is it's our ladies that will be telling you that they prefer yahoo boys to hardworking banker? To hell to olosho girls out there.if they like they should use them for ritual na them problem.

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If you don't want to respect ladies then stay in your lane. A reason why women keep shouting for respect is because people like you go out of your way to disrespect them. Stop disrespecting them and calling them names reserved for people like you. And yes, if they are used for rituals, mind your business, keep your mouth shut, stay in your lane and don't try to justify bullshit, Since to you every lady killed by a ritualist must have been dating a yahoo boy and that automatically makes it acceptable to kill them.
Just don't leave your business and start talking about ladies who are on their own.

If you are tired of Nigerian women
-Date girls from other countries.
-Speak only to and about women from other countries.
Leave Nigerian women alone!!!

johnpologyidea:
I think women deserve respect in Nigeria
In Africa. The way we discuss our women is very bad example to upcoming generation, it could be your daughter, sister, wife,mother .we should respect our ladies. >

Thank you jare.

The way they talk about women, you'll think they will leave these women and go on their way, but no, they keep Nigerian girls in their mouths, there are women from other African countries, all around the world, they should go for these women and stay completely away from Nigerian women
Forever nagging about Nigerian women.

GODPUNISHUNA:
I see you are in the medical profession. I can deduce that from your clear chain of thought. I agree with you, he exhibits Schizoid Personality Disorder.

Nice one. Glad to see we have some intellects in this forum and not just these kids running everywhere

Armchair psychiatrist

How far your diagnosis na?

It's no longer schizophrenia,
It's now schizoid abi?

This is why I told op to ignore you,

Someone will soon bring up another diagnosis and you'll agree with him. Lol

Playing with diagnosis and jumping from one personality disorder to the other, SMH, Something is off with you and people like you who think it is acceptable to rattle off armchair diagnoses to people just like that.

This is very wrong. What kind of rubbish is this?
Armchair psychiatrists, diagnosing rubbish for people.
Alpha001
Please ignore this post and any other person trying to diagnose trash for you.


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GODPUNISHUNA:
You need medical help. Seriously jokes aside, you are not normal.

You display signs of schizophrenia. It's a mental illness

If you don't get treated you will find it hard keeping friendships or relationships. You are a perfect example of a loner and it's not a good thing

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A block button.
It's getting ridiculous to keep going to the mods if you want someone's issue handled,
That's where a block button is needed, you just block and move on.

Seun this is absolutely necessary.

All disagreements?
Nothing wrong with having a disagreement. You can learn more that way,
the problem is when someone disagrees with a nasty attitude, either they become rude, condescending, or outright insulting, some even leave the argument completely and resort to name calling. In such a case then his idea would be ok.

They have started again,

Anyways. it will all be settled before February 16, if they don't settle it they won't see anyone to work for conduct the Presidential elections on Feb 16

greyham:
To be a successful politician you must have the ability to speak from both sides of your mouth fluently.

Enjoy your day.

Lol

I think I need to learn this skill.

Have a nice evening

propsvila:
Nairaland why
This New Year please the moderators of nairaland should be very careful of what they approve to the home page
I cannot come here and start reading about another man's life.
I have got no time to waste Seen please take note
Seun take note please.

So basically Peter is saying there must be a universal minimum wage?


""Minimum wage doesn’t have to be universal,” he said on Politics Today, a programme of ChannelsTV.
“I don’t believe that somebody in Lagos should earn the same thing as somebody who is in, maybe, Anambra State or somebody in Maiduguri.”

He, however, stressed that it was important to have a federal minimum wage which is the product of proper talks with labour.
What is ideal for him is that: “There has to be a federal minimum, then each state, working within this minimum, can decide where they should go. That is what is obtainable all over the world”""

Why should someone say one thing and in the very next sentence contradict himself?

ChimaAgbalajob:

@op, let me help you with more pictures!

See image of Enugu-Onitsha-Tokyo road built by Buhari.

Shameless scammers that have lost every sense of morality!

LMAO

Don't mind the goats.

This very long bad road. They will stand in one spot that they repaired and take pictures as if it's the whole road.

Her life, her standards, her choice
If you don't have tarty billion, don't bother her.
Looks like a troll post though.

Evercurious:
IS THIS A JOKE?

Good question abeg.

demelza:
To hook a Nigerian man is very easy.



Before you know, you don marry.


@Op, sorry o!
Get a lawyer to help.

I've always seen this said, but I've never believed this advice. I always feel that if a woman pretends like this just to get married, the man can still leave her and marry someone else no matter how submissive she is.

Then it will be just unnecessary stress the woman put herself through

This thread is something else.

I don't understand from this part.

She stabbed me with a knife though the cut wasn't too deep .

she picked up a knife to stab you, I'm not interested in the deepness or not of the cut, but she picked up a knife to stab you, and SHE ACTUALLY STABBED YOU

and yet you still stayed married and even impregnated her, to this point where her dad has to tell you that you should consider your Health and leave her

Why did you stay??

I don't know how to get a divorce fast but I'm glad you're finally leaving.
Please divorce, before we read on FP
Woman is arrested for stabbing her husband to death.

And take your son with you,
She is cannot be trusted with him before she stabs him in a fit of rage.

Emzyme
Hi, I know you've deactivated, but if you're still hanging around,
Yes, I think it's because you have overprotective parents who probably made it seem like the world was just full of evil and the only way to protect yourself was to be afraid of anything, anything at all, that can possibly bring harm and making you live in needless fear of the world.(Not that they are wrong, but most times it is an exaggeration, and e but it doesn't mean you'll live in fear)

If you feel that feeling of fear starting up, just force yourself to càlm down and feel at peace, tell yourself that nothing is going to happen and you only feel this way because of how you grew up.
The more you do this the more confident you'll feel and the less you'll feel so afraid.

Doesn't mean you should be ignorant of dangers, or you'll ignore your intuition, but, you should be able to live, really live. Not just to exist because of fear.

How old is the daughter? If she is less than 18
I just hope & pray his daughter grows up knowing that her father is preaching trash and no matter how much a man spent on a woman's bride price, it doesn't mean she was a slave which was bought and has to do whatever her buyer says. Neither does it mean she is not equal to her husband or any man.


Stupid man.

No, not right.

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spiralwedge:
Nazablossom, please don't quote and respond to her anymore. Not worth the energy, it's the new year. You can't increase some people's IQ by going back and forth.

EoD for me.

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You foolishly didn't know it was the new year when you dragged your rude and empty self into my mentioñs?
Abi your "intelligence" didn't remind you of that or your "intelligence" made you feel that because of the new year I won't school your stupidity?
Next time you won't come to my mentioñs with your trash, rudeness, arrogance and utter stupidity trying to form right
Now drag your self out of my mentioñs the same way you dragged yourself into it and stay out of it.

I can't start this year responding to mentioñs from trash.

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spiralwedge:
Nonsense. Ever heard of intelligence?

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Oh wow, I Don't think I have, could you explain it to me? Lol.

I'm not in the military, but i already have all the information to track the other guy. Too much info is revealed. For instance, he said his friend is usually tagged on his FB posts. They served in the same unit, etc.

Using your intelligence, follow the conversation. She said this.

nazablossom:
Why are some people so stupid. Why are some people so stupid. Something that he told you in confidence, you exposed it to the world with his name and picture

Now whose name and picture was exposed? Isn't it just the dead guys name and picture? Do you know the name and picture of the friend that is alive just by reading the twitter thread. NO You can track down the name of the guy who is alive, I agree, which is why I said this.

Daeylar:
The guy then did his best to hide the identity of his friend who is alive

(" Did his best" not that he did well, he gave out too much information, probably to prove that he is authentic, but still TMI, which is why I said "Did his best" )
but was his name and picture exposed like she said it was? NO. Also, you can't assume that the guy in the picture with ifeanyi 30 mins before his death is the friend because the twitter narrator didn't say so.

So you see, You missed the point. And rushed to correct something you don't even understand

Same for nazablossom
You made a wrong point earlier, which is why people were trying to correct you.
You earlier point is different from this new one.