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Undertaker001:
let her not get married then..

You too Dont get married.. So you can keep your brand

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So it's either one or the other? She can't have both just because she chose to get married?
The level of stupidity it takes to say that a woman has to choose between her brand and her marriage if she chooses to get married.

Did you say that about Adekunle gold? That it is either his brand or his wife?
Look at how patriarchy has fried your brain.
Rubbish.

Lol

This thread is a mess

Cococandy why? you just killed someone's hopes and dreams of starting a women bashing thread.

Aren't these the women Nigerian men love to insult and degrade Nigerian ladies for? Nigerian women are this, Nigerian women are that, Nigerian women with their nigerian mentalities,
but ladies from other countries are so much better than Nigerian women, they aren't tainted with the Nigerian woman mentality.

Let them continue to pour hot coffee on their head jor.
Annoying creatures

Juliusdaughter:
I met a new guy after my friend's saga. We met late last year and he's made his intentions known. I've not really given him a YES answer but my actions have proved that I'm really interested.
We have had some video calls and we've seen once. The problem I have now is that he doesn't give attention. No calls from him, I'm usually the one to message him first and I've gotten tired of that. I'm fed up of making excuses on his behalf like maybe he's fixed up or smth. Do I have to expressly say YES to his proposal bfr he starts making effort to be in touch? I'm trying hard not to contact him for a while but it's kind of hard cos I really like him.
I'd like to get more inputs from a man's point of view so I'd know how to go about it
Advice pls.

He is trying push and pull tactics on you and you are falling badly for it Ignore the man
You got used to his attention, he knows that, so he withdrew it so that you can chase after him and you're falling for it. Don't.
Someone doesn't give you attention while he is asking you out and you're thinking of saying yes so that he will give you attention. How will that work?
This is the stage where he is meant to be running after you and he isn't, and instead of you to delete his number and move on you want to reward him by accepting his proposal.
How do you think he'll treat you when accept his proposal if this how you plan to begin this relationship?
Ignore him, delete the number. If you happen to just run into the guy, just say a very quick hi and walk away or just ignore and walk.
Don't be available for this guy, not at all, never again.

You want input from a man's point of view? How many will tell you the truth?

Paxie55:
Wooow. I'm flabbergasted all of our nl menist and hoe shouters have deserted this thread.
None has called him a gold digger, hoe, farm tool, olosho and all type of derogatory names being allotted to ladies here, even when the op vividly call her his sugar mummy. This shows That, these men are only envious of the female folks and lacks the opportunity to turn themselves into feminine gender, if not, they would have been worst or done worst. Look how they are cheering him up.

Normal.
The Stupid hypocrites only come out of their cages when they see F on a moniker,
When it's their gender. You won't see shiit.
That's why their bitterness is so high.
They wish they could do what they feel the female gender is doing, and since they can't, out of envy they start branding women names meant for them alone.

That's why I consider ladies who follow these men to start shouting hoe, golddigger to their fellow women ( 9 times out of 10 they just do it to win the praise of these clowns) or to preach to ladies act in a certain way when it comes to men and finances (again, 9 out of 10, just to kiss the ass of these men) and shame the ladies who don't live according to their preachings extremely pathetic.

DoTheNeedful:
I like your sincerity. Some guys here will not say they hate her because she is rich. They would rather call her ugly or a ho.e. Some will even ridicule the car and contemptuously say she got it because her father is rich, as if they are not poor because their fathers are poor


Nobody should quote me o because I am having catarrh o.

LMAO

dprpikin:
Most part of this write up makes sense.

In my own opinion, the easiest and most effective way to cage oneself is to expect too much respect, love and acceptance from people. When you know that your comments or opinions are subject to debate or even outright rejection, and accept that people are entitled to their own interpretation or perception of your opinions, then no level of compliments can cage you.

That's all.

dprpikin:
This bolded assertion may not altogether be true.

It may also be that the said explorr indulges himself in educative materials or stories because he enjoys them, and may only feel it is worth sharing with others. His bringing the educative stuffs here on Nairaland may have nothing to do with compliments, but a sense of commitment to educate or just a hobby.

Op didn't even consider that fact, just rushed to use explorêrs to score points.
Explorèrs has suffered sha

The excuses being made for the pastor in this thread.
SMH

WTF!!!!??
Aii my God
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The man deserves all the insult and attitude she gave to him.
What kind of disrespect and rudeness is that to refer to someone as a sweet banana just because she told you her age? What was he expecting after that response, that she will start giggling and typing.
"LOL" ?

That shiit isn't cute on an 18 year old teen. Not to talk of a 35 year old man.
He is too old for that.

Men.
Do better.

iAudio:
Thank God Telegram dey.

I swear.

WhatsApp and IG really shouldn't have sold.
I'm not surprised Mark would try to do this. It seems in character for him.

Endy10:
Kai!
Dem don spoil am for me oo. Must you guys post spoilers here? Why? Why?!!
And don't tell me I had a choice to read or not. The moment it was posted I had no choice! Curiosity of GOT does things to you.
You have done me harm, great harm. And to think this is my first time here in more than 1 year. So to check on my GOT family for nairaland na crime Abi? More than a year's wait ruined in just one minute!

That person that posted the spoiler, God will judge you oo.
Chai!

I thought the leak was just one episode.
Season 8 episode 2
Didn't know it was till episode 6.

Read halfway through episode 2 and stopped, although I don't believe this leak. I'm not reading the rest and definitely not reading up to episode 6

You guys won't spoil G.O.T for me.

Lemme go and read it again

You're not serious

frosbel2:
They usually call them a bundle of joy, that's until they become teenagers

Lol, why do you sound like you have a teenager, do you?

frosbel2:
Because at 9 months ;

https://www.sciencenews.org/sites/default/files/main/blogposts/ls_newborn_shutterstock_77125552_free.jpg

Cuteee

cococandy:
Thank you.
It’s emotional blackmail

They are basically saying that If you’re a smart woman, you will let the misogynistic jerks say whatever they want about women.

Exactly, it is also another way to silence any lady who may want to start speaking up against bullshit, so in order to be seen as smart, such a lady may choose not to speak up anymore or not speak up as frequently as she would have.

And it's a way to make excuses for men, I don't care what age the male monickers who make such nasty comments are neither do I care what they have done or have not done with their lives. All that matters is that bashing of women is not accepted on this forum. And any one who does that should be ready for his clap back, either by calling the person out, or reporting the post for banning.

That's all.

even though these comments directly affect how some of the younger readers learn to treat women.

Exactly.

cococandy:
@Deicide, posts like this are common. They make up majority of the posts on this forum. You can decide to respect this. But I won’t.

Sometimes I ignore such posts (wrong thing to do) because we shouldn’t ignore foolishness and let it grow a deep root.
Other times I call the poster a mor0n because that’s what he or she has to be to type something like this. That’s when the ‘good’ people start coming forward to say that I should have ignored and not insulted them. And the MODs who agree with such thinking story dishing out bans.

God forbid a woman refuses to let a slow individual summarize her worth based on the amount of pleasure she can give him.

It really is a wrong thing to do.
Ignoring these comments pass the message that it is acceptable to think that way and say such nonsense.

If everyone ignores it would be a different thing, because when such nairalanders see that such madness is not welcome here they would move,

But in a situation where only the "smart women" ignore the comments and pose no opposition to the extreme stupidity of such comments so that we can be considered as "smart" women,

while the rest of nairaland rewards such comments with likes and mentioñs telling such monikers that they are right to sprout off such misogynistic nonsense. It just sends the message that it is right to say such things, right to think in such a depraved manner, and from there we are only a short walk from bastards thinking it is actually right to act in such a disgusting manner.

Nah, only "smart women" ignoring won't solve this problem, either the whole forum ignores, or we report to the mods and/or show them that their madness won't be given a free reign here.

highpriestess:
If only ladies will start applying some little sense after seeing how you men describe them after begging to sleep with them.

What other sense should we apply? We are not in any way responsible for the way these immature men insult ladies. So no need for us to try to take on any responsibility for their behavior by saying maybe if we applied this kind of sense or that kind of sense. No.
The only people responsible and at fault for the way these animals describe women are these animals alone. Put the blame on them and them alone.

I'm sure you knelt down and promised her heaven and earth so that she can allow you put only the head. I'm sure you also gave her your life savings but the way you will come here to scribble bunkum just to garner some schmuck appraisals from uncouth talibans still amazes me.

Some of you Nigerian men are very much disgusting, immature, loud, lousy.
Geese!!!
If girls haven't learnt from the past one year you guys have been ranting and displaying your idiocy on this site, then the said lady is doomed.


You men are the biggest who're one can think of; worst is that you guys do with impunity, but believe me, some women are actually coming out stronger, this whoring thing is the new revolution on the female gender since you guys think is right to body shame women after doing the same thing with them.

Some of you guys have crayon dicks, sagged balls, the hole on the tip of your dick is so wide than the express way due to excessive cum, 1 minute men, very smelly putrid balls, but ladies hardly say bad about guys when they sleep with you men.

You really sat down on their matter . but it's not a lie.

Men are the biggest whores, biggest Prostitutes in this world.
Yet the confused creatures stupidly think they can shame anyone for anything.

Unlimited22:
Daeylar, you see what I mean?

I understood what you meant from the beginning, the issue was if you understood what YOU said and meant and what I told you in response.

It's starting to look like these people aren't serious.
A coalition less than a month to elections?

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candlewax:
I didn't cite rule 2 when you referred to my post as nonsense despite the fact I didn't mention you, now you are crying foul. Doesnt change the glaring fact of what you are as mentioned earlier. Thanks

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Keep crying.
Your post is nonsense and will continue to be nonsense. You don't have to mention me before I point out trash, and if you dare ask for the word rape to be banned again I will continue to cancel it and call it nonsense.

The word rape should be banned.
So women and men who are raped won't have a word with which to express the horror of what was done to them.
Mtchewww.

GoldHorse:
Under age sex? Yes.
Statutory rape? Yes.
Rape (forceful penetration without consent). No.

The girl was aroused not confused and she had sex. She was probably found out....then rape came in.

Not good twisting things. We all live in this society and see these things all the time.

Rape is not forceful penetration without consent.
RAPE IS SIMPLY SEX WITHOUT CONSENT

Is she at the age to give consent? No.
Did she give consent? She said she didn't, and at her age. She is right. She can't give consent,

what do you guys call that.

I'm not interested in you guys trying so hard to diminish this crime and call it everything except what it is.
Rape.

Toks2008:
I hope you are not arguing the fact that this is no rape case but very consensual.

What were you trying to say? Read it again. It made no sense.

The only crime is making out with a minor PERIOD.

Nope.
The crime here is raping a 16 year old.
No matter how you guys try to pretty what happened up so you diminish the crime.
Facts are facts.

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Unlimited22:
That is exactly what I'm trying to imply. The crime here is not rape outright, but statutory rape. Which is a different crime altogether.

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You're sickening.
A man raped a child of 16 years and instead of you to condemn the man for rape. After all he admitted it out his own mouth that he did it.

You're attacking the poor girl and saying she is a disgruntled and trying to spoil his name?
What stupid name? Name the man himself doesn't care about? Why should a man who cares about his name rape a 16 year old?. Is he saying that he didn't see ladies above 18 to have consensual sex with?

Where is your consideration for the life of the 16 year old he is trying to spoil?

Even if you want to call it statutory rape, why didn't you just do so? Instead you tried to attack and shame the little girl. Why?
for your information.
Rape is rape.
She said she was confused. Didn't give consent. And she is right. She can't give consent, that is rape.

IT IS RAPE.

I'm sick of nairaland men defending the indefensible just because they want to turn everything to a man vs woman's case and support the man no matter the facts on ground.

Unlimited22:
Disclaimer - I DO NOT CONDONE RAPE. ANYONE WHO'S FOUND GUILTY OF RAPE SHOULD BE PUT BEHIND BARS, WHERE HE OR SHE BELONGS.

Disclaimer taken

BUT, ANYONE WHO'S FOUND TO HAVE FALSELY ACCUSED SOMEONE OF RAPE SHOULD BE THROWN IN JAIL FOR BEING A SLIMY BASTARD. THAT'S IRREPARABLE CHARACTER DAMAGE.

All right then.

And you and I know that lots of these cases are from disgruntled ladies taking advantage of a system that favours them to try to despoil the name of people after having and consensual sex with them .

I hope you are not trying to imply that having sex with a 16 year old is consensual sex and the 16 year old is a disgruntled lady who is trying to spoil his name?

Nigeria's laws regarding sex with a child under 18 years are so.... anyways.
According to Nigeria's sexual offences bill 2013
Sex with a child under 18 years of age is liable upon conviction to life imprisonment.
So they have a case..
After all. The man didn't say he didn't know how old she was. He just said she gave consent.
I wonder when under 18 started giving consent.

Rapist men. He left everyone above 18, It's a 16 year old he went looking for.

Modified.

So he resides with the victims parents. Which would mean he would how old she was.

And he still has the guts to say she gave consent.
Some people are mad.
And some idiots are excusing what he did?

Why should they do that?

They should ban the word rape because of your misogyny.

A 16 year old was raped and all that can fall out of your mouth is that they should ban the word rape?

The nonsense some of you post here sometimes.

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candlewax:
Please can they ban the word rape already?

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Every thing is a joke in this country.
How many months has ASUU been on strike.
Yet they have the time to refer to someone as "babe" and ask such an irritating question

And people are laughing about it.
Suffering and smiling in this country is too bad. they laugh too much.

Valerie47:
I guess you are a housewife

Lol why?

when that your husband is no more, what will you do?

The man has provided money for her, and her kids.
Even in the case of death. Such a man has made provisions that his children will be well taken care of.
Furthermore.
The woman can also remarry and become a housewife to another wealthy man who will take care of her and her kids
Also. She can work. That she is a housewife now does not mean she can never work or that she is incapable of working.

women should have some self respect,

Yep, read this sentence and try to apply it into your life.
To you, because a woman wants to be a housewife she doesn't have self respect?
Why?

the more you depend on the man, the more he sees you as a liability and it breeds domestic violence

Victim blaming. So domestic violence isn't bred by the man being a disgusting piece of shit who thinks it is acceptable to go around hitting people who didn't hit him first. It's the woman's fault for not being independent,
because a woman is not independent we can say that she is inviting herself to become a victim of domestic violence?
Didn't the man know that she will be a housewife before he married her.
Victim blaming and making excuses for domestic violence is wrong. If he doesn't like having a wife who is a housewife he can always divorce her.

but if you are independent, he won't try such shite cause money stops nonsense.

It can but
Read up on domestic violence cases.
No matter how rich a woman can be. If a disgusting man was to hit her he can.
You can't blame a woman for the irrational actions of a man.

Unless it's one of those really rich housewives where you have the money to spend as you wish,visiting here and there. Maids, nannys and the latest home cleaning machines.
Going out to some events courtesy of your husband's connections. So as to make your life interesting.

I think being a housewife would be boring. Just stuck at home all day, Especially if it is the typical Nigerian housewife.
Suffering galore

Valerie47:
You lie, that's not my dream, my dream is to have a career, a good paying job, to be able to afford the luxuries of life without asking a man for 1kobo, if its your dream to be a housewife and be collecting money from your husband to buy even groundnut, its not my dream, even if my husband is a billionaire, I will still work cause I'm a very ambitious human being, I wonder why a sane woman will want to be a housewife in this 21st century, if your husband should die(God forbid) you and your kids end up suffering cause you don't have anything doing. I reject such foolishness in Jesus name, Amen.

Nigerians have this funny mindset that housewives are broke.

I know it seems like the Nigerian definition of housewife (broke, depending on her husband to buy groundnut, cannot survive if the husband dies) is the universal but that isn't how housewives are meant to be. Some housewives have more money than some office workers.
The husband not only gives them money to run the home and take care of the children.
He gives them money to take care of themselves.

So they don't have to ask for money for groundnut because he has provided money for the home. Which is separate from her own spending money.
All these are usually in hundreds of thousands or millions depend on his pocket.

You're not supposed to be a housewife to a broke or stingy man that will have you asking for money for groundnut.
It's spoiling the game.

That is why a sane woman would want to be a housewife even up till the 40th century.

How can she say it's every woman's dream to be a housewife when she is working as an MD?
Isn't it her dream also? Or is she a man?

Only her says every woman should be busy and industrious as her reason for working even with E-money's wealth yet the same her says it's every woman's dream to be a housewife?

Why should someone just wake up to confuse themselves