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What prompted this mentioñ? before you give someone a mentioñ? it should be in response to a person's post, if not it becomes meaningless and pointless.
So what was the message in response to?

escapefromusa:
If you do not want to get married, make it clear to important people in your life. It might shock them, however, after a while, they will accept it.
And, if you do want to get married, then you need to plan toward achieving "this". It's a goal like every other goal, job promotion, passive income e.t.c
You must plan for it, the more effort you put into it, the better your results.

All the so called "olosho's" married to successful men, put in work - it was a goal; to marry well for them.
Pick your goal/goals and stop waiting for the 99% of the society who live a pathetic life and constantly need validation from the majority ; join the 1% that rules of the 99%

islandmoon:
Madam, Haba!!! see your DP

anyway, our biggest motivation to do better .. nah those wey dey hate!! my biggest motivation na my girlfriend wey dumped me last night, 2 secs later I don dey motivated!

What happened to my DP?

victorian:
Don't mind her

She thinks life is all about getting married to any dead beat guy because the ass and boobs is standing firm.


Does she think all men are husband materials ?

I just tire for the babe.

And she is making it seem like the only reason men are coming for marriage is because of breast and ass and these are the kind of men we should be rushing to marry.

Men who only come around for breast ass and looks. Such shallow reasons.
We should marry men who only came for our body.

Thank God she mentioned men who were cursed in life but babe still sleep with them ,carrying along the guy curses or different men curses .lol


My own is look well, before u marry . Be very careful , not all men u see wearing trousers are meant for marriage .

Simple!

That's all.
It's to be careful.



It's better for a babe to keep going from men to men. Dating and breaking up under 6 months rather than marrying a man not good for her Or wasting time dating a man she knows won't work for 1 year or more, so that this one will clap for the lady that she knows how to bend down and build a solid relationship or know how to tolerate men
After all if a lady knows under 6 months that a man is not for her, isn't she expected to break up and find someone that will work?


If the same lady dates a man for 3 years or more and breaks up, They will still attack her for wasting her youth on a man when she was supposed to be smart and date many men.
If she stays single, they will attack her for not using her time wisely to look for a man. They will attack her for being single.

SMH
When will women rest?

Moneystopnonsen:
Married against my mother's wish. She never liked my wife when she was babe then in school, simply because she says I give her attention too much more than i give to her.

Fast forward to after 8years of dating her, mum complained about how can i be stuck with one girl when guys where frolicking about.

After Nysc i started planning marriage, mum actually arranged her friends daughter for me, she was hot, but me i overlooked her because I was hell bent on been opposite of what my father was.

3 years ago i married my wife, mum only came for the traditional. She gave me plenty condition for my white and i was like why will my own mum want to sabotage my life simply bcoz of jealosy. Because of her I didn't do white wedding. I went to the registry and married my wife.

Today I have 2 kids and my wife is my back bone, mum still detest her and is pretending, I have made it clear to her you can't love me, love the kids she gave you and dislike her.

Recently she went as far as smearing my wife's image To my younger brothers who are not in Nigeria, I wonder what she wants to gain. So am paying her back with no access to me at all. Until she retraces her step.

If u notice I didn't talk about my dad, he is alive, his an old arse hole for university of Ibadan females both students and hostel female staff, he can gift u a car just to lay u.

Mum is just a control freak. She has lived her marital life yet wants to live another through me, but kole work ooo

This is how you know a man that understands that he is a man.
Thank you for standing up for your wife at every step of the way.
May she continue to make you proud to be her husband

I dislike it when people try to live another life through someone else while living theirs.

So women should rush to get married because breast is still standing and ass is bouncing?
That is why we should make hay while the sun shines? Because of breast and ass.


After this one finished typing, in her mind she has done well. SMH

Marriage advisers be advising rubbish.
This one is just looking for men to clap for her.

Following.

You write bullshit showing how you revere a rapist and a pedophile while still thinking you have the moral high ground to condemn those who helped him cover up.
I drag you for doing so.

You agreed that he was guilty. Yet you're still sick enough to respect and revere him.
Imagine respecting and revering a rapist and a pedophile and using his music as an excuse.
You're a lost cause.

And P. S you can't back track just because I called out your double standard Hypocritical bullshit.

You agreed in your first post that r Kelly is a rapist and a pedophile, so please keep all these your accused and what not bullshit to yourself because it's ridiculous. You can't flip the narrative from r Kelly was guilty to r Kelly is accused, just because the first narrative you introduced was used to nail you.
After all. The r Kelly is guilty narrative suited you very well when you were attacking the parents and those who took the money.


If rkelly is Just a flawed Human being like everyone is,
Then why was your Hypocritical self trying to attack those who hid his crimes. The parents who exposed their minor to abuse. The people who took his money? they are all flawed human beings like rkelly too na.

They saw him the same way you did. As just a flawed human being just like them whose music and artistry they respected too, after all According to calberian, Rkelly is flawed just like them, just like everyone in the world (except daeyl@r of course)
So why were you trying to judge those who took his money and kept quiet, judge the parents? Aren't you Flawed like just them?

Somewhere in your messed up mind, you think you think you can make excuses for you respecting R. Kelly while trying to drag those who made excuses for him too. (probably due to the fact that they respect him and his artistry but I digress)
Like I asked you before. What makes you different from those who hid his crimes that you think can attack them?

I'm bashing anyone who is sick enough to respect and revere a rapist. Not men.
Don't confuse yourself.

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calberian:
When a person or party of people accuse another person or party of rape and paedophilia and a 3rd person or party decides to label the accused as a rapist(s) and a paedophile(s), the 3rd party, in effect, passes judgement without the defendant's submission. Even bank robbers who commit heinous crimes with numerous eye witnesses present and video evidence still get fair hearing.

Michael Jackson was accused of paedophilia and went to court over the issue but that didn't make him lose the love and respect of billions globally during and after the brouhaha.

If my daughter reported being assaulted in similar manner, I'd investigate it and allow the law to take its course. I won't go up in arms over what hasn't been proven yet.

Bill Cosby's case went to court and after hearing his side of the story, he was found culpable and punished accordingly. It still didn't make me lose respect for him. That's his personal life. He's a flawed character wise. I am too. The whole world is. Except you Daeylar, though. It's called human nature.

I'm not celebrating the flaws. I condemned the act, if it really happened but I respect what he did to music.

I think some of you nairalanders who aren't lost should learn to appreciate contrasting opinions.

You will do well to take your men-bashing elsewhere and leave my rapist-paedophile a$$ the fvck alone.

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calberian:
I still got respect for R. Kelly regardless.

I'm totally against the abuses and all perpetrated by the reverred musician but I opine thus:

All those folks were benefitting from him all those years and kept quiet. Now, they aren't getting those benefits anymore and they saw how the Cosby affair went so they congregated and made a video out of it and are now playing the victim.

If they're as honest as they claim to be, they should have sacrificed those benefits and spoken up right away

Does anything stop you from condemning the people who took the money and the man who committed the heinous crimes?
You think you can point out the flaws of the the people who supported rkelly while respecting rkelly?

. Secondly, I daresay that it's the parent's fault when a minor is exposed to abuse in such a manner.

Anyways, I still got respect for the king of Rnb, I only wonder how he managed to look past all the matured folk who would do anything to spend one night with him and settle for high school kids.

You got respect for a pedophile and a rapist,
you admit that the man abused minors,
you admit that the man left grown folk and settled for high school kids.
You admit that the man is a pedophile and a rapist.

Yet rush to post twice that you still have respect for the man. Regardless
Yet you think after saying you have respect for and revere A pedophile you still have the right to judge or complain about what anyone does?
What makes you.( Who thinks it is OK to have respect or revere a man who committed statutory rape,) feel like you can condemn people who took his money and kept quiet?
What if they had respect for and revered rkelly too?
Yet people are liking your comments.

Nairalanders are lost.

Misogyny will kill fools like you. You are sick.

the foolish rkelly will get what he deserves.
Starting with this dragging he is receiving now, He knew the implications of dating girls under 18 but still did it anyway. Even went as far as to marry one.

Only idiots support statutory rape because they want to turn it into a gender war, everything is men against women to their empty minds.

Defending and making excuses for a grown rapist who knows better.
Disgusting rape apologist.

Then using that to insult Nigerian women just shows you as nothing more than a misogynistic piece of trash.

All of you demons with such hate in your heart towards Nigerian women. Always looking for each and every opportunity to bash Nigerian women.

May your interactions with Nigerian women be only of 2 types. Either you are treated as terribly as the trash you are, or you are ignored by every lady you try to talk to.

Imagine asking what do you expect. As if men are animals who can't control themselves.

A lot of you are sick on this forum.

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BillGoldberg:
Every useless nonentity is now trying to familiarize! Fvck you at Don Jazzy. One day, your own go come out. E fit be small boys you dey chop self. Animals.

But the truth of the matter is that there are probably powerful forces within the music circle that wants to take rkelly down!

Rkelly is a top musician and of course will attract girls and women a lot. I saw a thread of one foolish girl like that who said that she was 16 in South Africa when rkelly asked her name.... Mtcheeew! Duh. Like she never knew that was 16 and was still getting wet for rkelly?

Brothers lets face the truth! All these foolish women got what they wanted. They were fully aware of the implications but still went ahead to involve!

Rkelly is a triple super superstar. Most people especially ladies will want to live on the fast lame with him. They literally throw themselves at Rkelly Feet.h

I can authoritatively tell you that there are many Musicians in tuis Lagos who are worse. Some of them run homosexual cults. I kid you not. You see both Young men and girls throwing themselves at them. What do you expect? Believe me.

Most of these stuupid young guys and girls only see these musicians from face level. They dont know what these guys suffered to get to the top. Its not easy. When they get to the top, they take advantage od whatever comes there way be it human, animal or alien. They simply use and dump you because you are never part of there plans. You were never there when they were struggling to get to the top!

As am typing this, go to Davido, WizKid, Olamide, KizzDaniel and Phyno inbox!

You will shudder! You will see underage, married, single and even about to wed asking them out.

Was it not on Nairaland we saw a thread of a very stuppid young girl asking for the diick of bRed as a birthday gift? bRed wey neva blow oo? Imagine what is happening to Davido! Tomorrow now, this same animal will come out to say bRed abused her.... Nonsense and ingredients.

So brothers, all these things is geared towards one thing! Pull Rkelly down and I will never be a part of it. Rkelly is a good man ans people who experienced this things prolly got what they wanted. Rkelly this and that will never solve a thing!

Women are very complex and very vindictive. Probably One has wanted Rkelly to marry her and he refused. They now ganged up to mess him up. They blame men for sexualizing women but have they ever blamed women for sexualizing themselves?

In Nigeria here, the average Nigerian woman is a harlot and hoe who rides dicxk to put food on the table. Forget all these there forming and blowing phonetics. They form for you because you may be broke. When you are rich, famous and handsome like rkelly, they will off there pants with jeans for you! Yes! Women especially Nigerian ones are that terrible. Nonsense and ingredients.

Rkelly, fucck them on Jare. They got what they wanted. Animals and hoes.

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This comment doesn't deserve to be left up. Supporting statutory rape, and showing extreme hate for Nigerian women all in a single comment. Then fools are rushing to like.
Tomorrow one idiot will ask why nairaland men are hated.

InvertedHammer:
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It is not your fault.

As a Nigerian, you are innately prewired to be attracted to anything that portends lifelong suffering and danger.

What the Fu*k?? ? ? Sh*t. That was cold

Were you raised by a single mother?

Why this question?
implying that single mothers don't raise children well?
Single fathers should have raised them well then.
Oh wait. Single fathers don't even raise their kids at all. They abandon the child and act as if they didn't father a child.

Xisnin:
"Falling in love" is a myth sold to teenagers which they never outgrow.
The real thing is "feelings of the moment" or temporary chemistry.
If every married couple follows their heart as it changes every day most marriages won't last three months.
Do you honestly think that there is not a better version of husbands and wives out there?

Marriage is about commitment.

It's that simple.

But they must look for a way to excuse Jeff and his actions.

See them making excuses for Jeff.
Now that it has come out that Jeff was the one wrong and it is has been revealed he is the reason the marriage crashed.
See excuses flying left and right.
But in the thread announcing the divorce, without even knowing what led to the divorce.
The bashing of Mackenzie just because she was a woman was hot.

Disgusting hypocrites.

Like I said on the first thread. Jeff was caught cheating. So....

All the idiots on who accused the wife of divorcing just because she wants half of the money.

What do you fools have to say now? Always rushing to attack women and call them names. Stupid misogynists.

will the idiots come to this thread and bash Jeff now?

Mackenzie went for a divorce and didn't just sweep it under the rug just because he has money Even if she wants to take Jeff's whole fortune. She deserves it. Next time if Jeff ever gets married he'll know better than to cheat.

Most of the comments here are about fu*king around.
No one did anything else crazy?
Come and tell us.

Valerie47:
I am not going on dixk fuxxking spree, I can't just be sleeping around[b], I won't stoop so low,[/b] I have my own definition of fun, being an introvert has really hindered me from having real fun .

What's low about going on a dick f**king spree? That you won't stoop to it?

Ttrrffyyghuuh:
try to find and have fun even while working, group hangouts, birthday parties, weddings you're invited to, the more you meet people and go on all these social activities, you'll soon forget that you didn't have as much fun in school...(it doesn't even matter if you're introverted or not)

True.

You're not happy, break up with her and move on. Why do people like stressing themselves over relationship issues.

I hope she gets one.

nkwuocha:
Well she will tell you to do it.

That one is different. At least you'll know that is what she wants you to do since she has asked.

And ones she asked you twice,as a smart person,the kitchen is no longer new to you.She believes the kitchen soon will no longer be her issues and you're there to take over. At this point as a new wife,the wife now will decide what to cook for the family and money will be provided.

Well since these are her rules and her sons have no issues with it.
It's all good.

nkwuocha:
Well, people have their own yardstick.How to know an industrious wife is what she does first thing in the morning and last thing at night.

Some woul be wives will leave soup unwarmed before they go to sleep.Now that's a bad flag.To someone like my mom,na!you're not coming in to her family.
She expects you go round the kitchen,warm what should be warmed and refrigerate what should be. .

People like me who expect who ever cooks a meal to preserve it nkor?.
We don fail test be that.
because For me this depends on who cooked.

If I'm the one who cooked then I should be able to preserve my food.
If I'm not the one who cooked then whoever that cooked should preserve his or her food. As for me I'm going straight to bed.

nkwuocha:
Well, people have their own yardstick.

I don't mind the lady washing clothes if that is what she wants, but it isn't right to insist that she does it.
Too stressful a job to insist on someone doing so.

How to know an industrious wife is what she does first thing in the morning and last thing at night.

Some woul be wives will leave soup unwarmed before they go to sleep.Now that's a bad flag.

They didn't warm it neither did they put it the fridge?
Just a sign of a person who will waste food and money.

Continue with maths. You're the one studying the course. It's your life at stake here.

Highest they'll lose is their money they are using to sponsor you through school. You're the one who is going to lose your time, money can be gotten back. Wasted time studying something you'd rather not.
Never gotten back.

if maths is what you want, stick to it.

I don't know a peaceful way to convince your parents.
Or you can try some of the advice given to you here to help convince them to allow you stick with maths.

But why not a transfer from maths 200 or 300 to computer science? 100 or 200 if they insist (although I day if they insist. You insist harder )
Isn't retaking jamb too drastic?

nkwuocha:
I'm only judging him based on his last thread

Tried to go to the last thread to read and see if I could get the back story as you mentioñed
But eh, I found out that the English written there was, so.........
I can't start deciphering just because I want to get a back story.
I gave up

.He wants an every Saturday thing

You know it's very easy to give commands suggestions when you know you're not the one who's going to do the actual work.
Anyways.
He can still wash the clothes himself every Saturday if that is how he wants it. he is a strong man, I'm sure he can do it.

If na all these mother in law's that's out for superiority,she will make sure the clothes are in heaps .
She come to see heaps of clothes and when she thinks it's almost over,mama will start taking down curtains

LMAO
By the time his mother does that once, and he is the one to wash the clothes. he won't come here to ask us if it is bad for anyone to wash anyone's clothes.

nkwuocha:
There's nothing wrong in washing ones mother inlaw clothes.Although not everyone likes washing clothes.Some are used to giving out their clothes for washing.A working class lady may find this chores very demanding but wouldn't mind cooking and serving your mother in law or any other chores.

If you can afford it,get her a washing machine.If not,your wife should try and help ones in a while.But it's not supposed to be by force by fire.
Come to think of it;
She 4cks you
Get Belle for you
Born for you
Cook for you
Of course wash your clothes
Wash your pikins clothe
Still add your mama own
She go still go shop and market

Kuku kill your wife

Bros you self get hand,wash your mama clothes na.

Making sense. .

I wonder what happened to his hand that he cannot wash the clothes for his mum himself.

Congrats op

Very true

AreaFada2:
If the stories really happened or not only God knows for sure 100%.

But my question is: if the story was that 2000 years ago, one 15 years old Calabar or Ibadan girl got pregnant without having sex AND gave birth to a messiah, would Africans believe it? How likely is it that Europeans (who claim to only believe in science) and others will believe that story?
From the prevailing world religions today, why did none originate from Africa?

Is it that, like all the good ideas & resources we have had in Africa, we just refused to package our traditional religion attractively to interest others without African ancestry abroad?

Take for example, many Hollywood stars are now Buddhists or practice some Eastern religion. People across the world now eat "sushi" (raw fish Japanese food). Ethiopia has an old cuisine of raw meat. But it never caught on or interest other people.

Las las if you package your ideas, philosophy, beliefs & way of life attractively, persist & persevere with it, soon enough others will sit up and notice you with respect.

The Queen of England has visited Hindu temples, covering her hair & removing her shoes. Hindus of India have more gods than Africa as a whole. Offering food to them in shrines like a babalawo or dibia would do. But nobody dare call Hindus pagans today.

That is reality. Call your fine clothe a rag and others will help you to use it wipe the floor like a rag.

All the idiots on this thread who accused the wife of divorcing just because she wants half of the money.
Jeff was caught cheating and that is why they are getting divorced.
What do you fools have to say to that? Always rushing to attack women and call them names. Stupid misogynists.


I'm glad Mackenzie went for a divorce and didn't just sweep it under the rug just because he has money. Even if she wants to take Jeff's whole fortune. She deserves it. Next time if Jeff ever gets married he'll know better than to cheat.

Xisnin:
Have you ever met anybody who is wanted because of their poverty?

LMAO

Even on this same nairaland we keep seeing comments saying. Don't date broke girls.
Even a thread where someone said he doesn't want to marry a lady who is broke.
People were supporting him.

But a woman wants a man who has money and some people start convulsing.
Fools.

But there are some demonic people who may want someone because of their poverty because they feel such a poor person will be easier to control and manipulate.

It's that simple. They enjoy bashing women nonstop
It's enough to hate them.

It's like a sport to them. How much can I insult and degrade Nigerian women.

Bunch of bastards.

The people that supported the man's actions on this thread. Smh.

Ziggylady:
There is no tagging anywhere,the males here are too anti-female its scary and yes i hate them. .I hate wickedness to the core and that is a disease affecting 99% of nairaland males...

Males like you who enjoy castigating women needlessly without reason are the ones who dont do well in life.,especially when they find themselves abroad..That is why many of you get into trouble with the law when you leave this ountry...I am only doing you a favour by pointing out how irrational most of you are.

InSanety:
and that is why four girls will gang up on one person?

I hope the man broke their teeth. Most times, you go insult one person, only for her lackeys to join hands to fight, Na so girls dey do.

I sure say na only one person she offend, the other three are just being idiots, so, I hope he punched their useless teeth out.

If you want fight, come alone, no dey bring your people

Thank you.

generalissimo:
Anybody can come here and run his mouth....condemn the guy however you like but I bet you havent had to separate two ladies fighting before...you might understand better just how difficult it is to separate them in a fight. Though I condemn violence in its entirety...be it against woman or man.



Now, consider four ladies gang-beating just one lady. [b]Their intention wasnt to scare the victim but to inflict long-lasting wound. If the guy didnt act fast, the victim would become bloodied in no time. The guy did the needful.

Thank you jare.
As if the man should have sat there and watched then beat his girl. Smh.

Congrats falcons