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germanized:
I think there was a lack of parental guidance in the case of this poor little girl. Before a 9 year old could take her own life, she must have been showing deep signs of depression and melancholy. This is where the African culture proves to be very potent. No African parent would open his/her eyes and allow some bullies lead their child to suicide. African parents will fight both the school, the bullies and will fight the suicide tendencies in that child through prayers and flogging if need be . . .

RIP little one... So sad

Please African. Most especially Nigerian parents need to stop that prayer and flogging bullshit.
Prayer doesn't work.
And how can anyone in his right senses think Flogging a depressed and melancholy child is the right thing to do.
Africans really need to do away with those 2 trash.

The guy be giving me steady gay vibes

Asshurbanipal:
Trucks avoiding the dilapidated Enugu-onitsha expressway would have damaged the road in few days if not for this

And with all the most times narrow twists and turns, they probably would be falling up and down the road, causing hold ups and even falling off the road to the base of the hill

Isomerizm:
Lol. Is there anyone, living or dead, who actually enjoys the Starks more, save Arya? Even the Starks do no enjoy the Starks.

Very boring household.

LOL apt. Boring and foolish.
Only Arya and Bran escaped the foolishness.

Will this lead to an increase in car sex in public?

If the windows aren't tinted I don't think sex in a car in a public place is right. Next level to sex in public.

The food seller allowed someone owe her N8k?
A food seller?
A good N8k

She is beyond nice,
Only to be repaid with stabbing. The woman should just pay for her hospital bills and enjoy her years in prison.

PraisePiano:
Hello guys....

I’m gonna be brief as possible...so I met this girl 6 months ago online and we fell inlove after getting closer to each other then we started dating. I noticed she’s a kind of lady that enjoys slaying and keeping female friends which are not really presentable to me. I talked to her about it she said they are just friend and their mode of dressing doesn’t define who they are.
I overlooked it and stopped mentioning stuffs like that to her even tho I didn’t like it but just to make peace reign because she’s a type that gets upset when I try to correct her

This is where you should have broken up with her.
Will never understand men who meet girls a certain type of way then try to change them to something else.

You can't tell me you didn't see girls who aren't "slayers" with friends who would be "presentable" to you, yet you ignored them all, went for a slayer and tried to change her into such types of girls.

Her friends are not presentable to you,? lol, and you went to talk to her to do something about her friends who are not presentable to you? so if she drops her friends for you, you'll be happy, and peradventure you guys break up, She'll be left with no friends and no man and it's all good right? I can't stop laughing

If a girl tells you that your friends are not presentable to her and talks to you to do something about it with the expectation that you drop them for her, what would be your reaction? Honest question.

However, that aside, she was wrong for what she did. she doesn't seem to have any regards for you.

but she didn’t accord me any respect now I’m thinking of quitting the relationship

You didn't accord her any respect in the beginning of the relationship but now want to break up because she did the same.

At the end of the day, The ball is in your court.

HappyPagan:
Of course, you have people like Anas who will forever be Christ's bride, or MrPresident who will be waiting for Jesus till his last breath..

But why?

But thata the past. Surely we could revive it? A lot of people learn from threads here. Our posts influence thinking, whether they make front page or not.

But there are a few, who have doubts, for whom our words fertilize the grounds of skepticism, counter fear and illusions that keep the mind captive.. For them, keeping this community alive would be worth it.

I can attest to this.

yettymuse:
really, I didn't even see a gender battle until he highlighted that.

No gender battle there. They are the ones who want to start gender wars and then try to shift blame. The advice was given to a woman so you thanked who gave the advice and said he has not only liberated the woman but also so many women out there and they want to pick offense? SMH
they should have just quoted the post and said he has liberated men and moved on, instead they are looking for problems where there are none and looking for who to drag into silly gender battles,
they want to tell you what to post and accuse you of nonsense just because you didn't post what they wanted. The gall. Trying to derail the the thread with unnecessary arguments and looking for who will do it with them

yettymuse:
This platform is large enough for you to start a thread for your 'kindred spirit'. I'm a woman, I speak for the women folks!

LOL!!! I like this.

HappyPagan:
Same to you, Bro.


Watch these retards claim my death will be spiritual.

Lol.


God, kill me physically if you exist. I dare you.

Sha try and finish those your stories before you start looking for who will kill you, please

Nairaland men association of support the man even when he is wrong, have arrived as usual with their boring advice of beg the man, Keep/save your home at all costs even if it costs the woman her physical and mental health and they arrived in tow with the Let's hear the other side of the story crew.

Don't you guys get tired of misogyny?

I know it's tough love and all but Sheesh. This is so mean

Eketem:
Beating you pulling out your hair but you are concerned about malice smh.

Go and beg as usual, weak annoying women when he kills you tomorrow people will be demanding empathy

OldBeer:
A man beats you to pulp and pull out your hair YET you are concerned about malice?

Madam I must be Mrs by fire by force.
Go and kneel down, apologise to your god.
One dunce up there say he is your superior, so do as he says since both of you have the same two brain cells.


The only thing I will advise you to do is to tell your close family person about your Nairaland account and also password.
So when the man finally kills you, they can update us.

I promise to drop my condolences on the thread.

Tueh!

Juliusdaughter:
How? I didn't date him then cos I was with someone. Not that I refused to date him because he was broke and now he's rich

Ignore him and anyone else insinuating such.
All they know how to say is gold digger. Nothing reasonable comes from them.

So her being faithful in a relationship is now a problem.

In future, if there are threads where a guy complains about his girl cheating on him or leaving him for another guy, better keep this same energy and support the girl.

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Kennyprince:
girls dont think rightly at all. So where is the "god" you were dating before? He dumped u right? Serves u right. When u see a nice guy coming for u, you girls wont look his way cos of some boys who are not serious.

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Yes it's possible for him to still want you after all these years. If you are interested you can go for him but as with everything in life keep your wits about you ( can help prevent you from being used ) . If you still feel hesitant or have doubts then maybe let him go?

By the way, Did he know you had a boyfriend when he kept asking you out all those years ago? If he knew and still asked you out that just isn't right.

Juliusdaughter:
This guy says he is still interested in dating me even after 5 years of making his intentions known. I kept refusing him because I didn't want to cheat on my ex. He says he is ready for marriage now and he is very okay.
I just want to know how possible for a guy to come back to me after all these years. I don't want to be used...
Your sincere input will be appreciated

Common keep quiet.
Gold digger indeed
Anytime a lady says any single thing about a guy's financial situation the next thing is to shout golddigger but total silence and support when men say they don't want broke ladies.

Jokers.
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haywire07:
You are mere gold digger.

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alimaa:
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The irony of the whole thing now is
that my friend's wife now thinks that I am Father Christmas and now calls and sends texts requesting for money to take care of her antenatal drugs but I have refused to help because I believe it is wrong and she keeps pestering me.

Please what is your advice?

Tell her husband everything. Don't give until you do. And if her husband supports her. Don't give if you don't feel like doing so or if you don't have.

DBestDoc:
Things aren't smooth for them yet and they're already expecting in less than 4 months of marriage. No proper planning and the next thing is to rope God into their foolishness .

I don't really understand some married couples. They don't even have money to take care of themselves well. Next thing is get pregnant.

I wonder the timeline between when they started having financial struggles and when she conceived, Op says they've had financial trouble since the first month of the marriage. So did they make a baby knowing fully well that they are experiencing financial struggles?

It's so unfair to the poor baby.

Another fuçk boy on the loose.
The irony of asking for mature minds only when you're acting like a fuçk boy, her marriage crashed is worryng but your marriage that crashed is what??

Tell her you're don't want to be in a relationship anymore and let her move on and find someone. I'm sure she already knows.

samguru:
For mature minds only.

I need your advice on how to dumb a lady which I don't like but we have been dating in the last 5 months.
She was introduced to me by a friend and since then I thought the relationship can lead to marriage but my instinct keeps telling she is not the one.

I have had sex with her anyway but her antecedents is something to worry about as she has been married and the marriage crashed without a child.
I have also married with a male child but the marriage crashed due to crazy intolerable behaviours of my ex.
This lady has shown some signs which my ex possessed and I don't want to experience such marriage again.

Please how do I dump her without having any feeling of guilt.

Please feminists should keep off this thread.

skyoboy:
so you are telling us that it is your wife that toast you? Am I the only person that don't like this statement?

And why don't you like it? What's wrong there?

CHoccolaTE:
Don't mind the bloody hypocrites

Real hypocrites. The thread was full of nice helpful answers from his fellow men (notice, men support their own ) and women, but let it be a woman, the way some men will jump in and call her golddigger, olosho. OMG.
one of the most aggravating things you'll see are some women who are trying their hardest to please misogynists on this site will take to bashing their fellow woman so (the misogynists) will stroke their(such women) ego and call them objective, e.t.c

It just shows you, men are bashing women for the same thing they would do if they were women, because if men are looking for financially stable partners as men, just imagine what they would do if they were women.

Xisnin:
You are right but he has a right to determine his specs in women because relationships are never equal.
If he found a woman who can take care of her family on her own(just like he does), I don't think he would
avoid her.

No, he says he avoids such ladies because even if they were taking care of their families before they met him, he feels that such responsibilities may shift to him if they get married and he doesn't want that.

So I am a bit careful to date a lady who is the supporting member of her family as well, otherwise, support responsibilities may fall back on me as the man if one marries such lady.


. Meanwhile, I have seen decent ladies from a humble background who are equally making some progress in their own right, but i lost interest when I get to know of their family background because of my biased to marry from a well-to-do family

ZIMDRILL:
you are too blind to see that, you are the person that you are trying to avoid to marry one day. you said you are supporting your siblings and friends so its ok for you to support your family and friends but the woman you wish to marry shouldnt have family thats needs support from her if she can?

Lol he can't see that

In essence what op is saying is, If he were a girl he can't marry himself

think of it this way right now you are looking after your siblings so its ok if a girl dumps you if she uses your line of thinking ?

What was his response?

Anyways.
Op no I don't think you're not being realistic.
If that's the kind of lady you marry then that's what you want.

But op please, what do you mean by "submissive"

This thread is so calm, so peaceful. Let op type the same thing but just put F on his moniker and switch genders in the story.
They will use golddigger and wicked woman to run op out from this forum and use that as a stepping stone to start their usual insult of Nigerian women.

So you guys do the same thing Nigerian women do (looking for a partner that is financially stable), but when women do it, it is called good digging, when men do, it's called being realistic.

Nigerian men.

912:
Please visit a mental institution as soon as possible

He needs to

Hot18:
What do u think? This question of submit, submit, submit to ur man always. Must everything be all about women submitting to their husbands, so the man will continue to lord it over the woman , no one advises the man, it's always women they advise every time.

They don't ever get tired. Always giving women alone advice on marriage as if the women are marrying their fellow women.
How can marriage be a relationship between 2 genders yet you keep advising just one gender all the time. How will it work?

As for this submission bs.

They should stop disturbing those who aren't interested in submission and marry those who want to submit.
There is someone for everyone. If a lady is not interested in the submission talk. They should move over to another lady who is and not all these long stories they do all the time.

Ladyhippolyta88:
So a woman should settle for anybody because she must marry before 30.She settles for anybody and starts crying in the marriage.
This man should advise his fellow men on how to be responsible and on how to respect women.Maybe then women would agree to marry them.
You can't tell me that the likes of Dambisa moyo,Oprah are unfulfilled because they are unmarried.
This closed minded society of ours should understand that you do not tell people how to run their lives.
A woman should never reduce her standard because she must get married before a certain age.
Love,happiness,companionship etc knows no age.
So this talk is silly and not factual for everybody.
Even evening tabloids would be calling wonderful humans newspaper.

Too much sense

Chubhie:
I wonder why seun still allows this thing freedom to insult our women. May our Ancestors (SSFBUT) key you there.

It really irritates me.

Comments bashing women are left freely on this forum.
Report as much as you like. The comment won't be brought down neither would the person be banned..
It seems seun and his mods like it like that.

Nigeria's largest forum and every other thread Nigerian women are being insulted left and right.
Just enter nairaland and see how Nigerian women are rubbished and insulted

YoungBlackRico:
Wonder shall never end on Nairaland, AfangSoup having a go at EgusiSoup

LMAO

wis3:
No wonder there's so many cases of rape these days.

Why?

wis3:
calm your horns. If you have lost your values as a human. I haven't. Some of us are sane.

What are these stupid values.
Intolerance to women?
Calling and treating women as sex objects and then turning around to pass blame to them saying they are "objectifying" themselves instead of dealing with your messed up kind who think it is OK to turn a woman to a sex object?

I'll pass on such "sanity" and "values"

wis3:
It's actually the other way round. She's the one objectifying herself and you don't see anything wrong with it.this was not the norm a few decades back.

How is she objectifying herself? All she did was wear a simple dress.
Did you ever see her state that she wants to be a sex object?
Did she ask the perverts who have no regard for women as human beings and only see them as objects to do so?
So how is she objectifying herself?

Useless people will objectify women and then try to blame the women for objectifying themselves.

Go back a few decades back if you want to live in that time and leave those of us living in the present alone.