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Openbusiness4:
I knew it wi reach a point where they start kidnapping people right from inside their homes, not even on the highways again. That's what happens when an absolutely totally completely inherently useless regime is in power. Citizens suffer untold hardships

You're so right ...

They left the terrorists problem so much it has snowballed into monstrosity.. Yet Buhari wants us to accommodate our brothers..

Righteousness89:
If the politician can be treated this way, what is the hope for the common man?

Northern leaders need to Sit up before Bandits take full control of Goverance over there!

That's what Buhari wants... And the northern elites.... They forget that what goes around comes around...

It should have been that politician not his girl that's abducted... His fellow lawmakers would take it more seriously and expedite action on solving so called bandit problens .but we know who they are..

EBMedia:
https://igberetvnews.com/1358586/lady-invites-native-doctor-fight-bank-wrongly-debiting-account-photo-video/

Are they for real?

My stomach ohhhh

Yes

Can't believe this abeg....

Like seriously?

Drone95:
[you have a good point. My friend who's a learner almost ran over my leg while trying to reverse 3 days ago quote author=dalass e]

You're quite lucky..

BigBelleControl:
It's not every corps member that was a full time student. Many served years after graduating while some are part-time students, part-time business persons. She might be selling fish but the bulk of the money might be from other sources.

I know a woman who has bought land, built house. Bought a car, all due to cat fish supplies... You won't know she travels from state to state anywhere there's fish...

Fish business is lucrative especially with correct educational background

Sixfeetbelle:
Men are so damn predictable it's downright embarrassing

Yeah so annoying

Highbeepeeh:
When the other girl is crying because she will miss the guguru alawee


This is one is already celebrating with a car


This life no just balance

Inside life

Sanemind6:
Ok good development, let the culprit be brought to book

The driver was obviously a learner... He's about her age mate.... 20-something and maybe just got the car....

When I was a learner it was reversing that made me have my first accident. No problem going forward then but reversing for a learner? Its terrible he had to run her over like that... A very costly mistake!

Godlovesyou28:
All my siblings have ganged up against me; they say am trying to break our family up . How is that even possible when I have never even existed.
I just need one person... My own mother
My own mother, if you know how this sounds in my heart.
I'll hug her when I want.
Buy her gifts that she would accept.
Show her off to my friends
Bring her to live with me if she
I don't care if she is blind, lame, deaf, dumb or even mad (no offence to people who are); I just want to love her.

Take it easy oh....

You do exist.... Stop existing and start living... I know you are bitter and you have reasons to be..

Consciously release all that anger and resentment so you can truly live... Be free abeg... Your siblings definitely take you as one of them, don't feel otherwise and don't take actions that'll break your family apart.

I know a father who said one of his children must stay behind in Nigeria because 3 others are abroad... That whatever it takes, that one must stay here... She's their biological daughter like others but they wanted at least one to be here for them. So they won't be completely left empty here... Could this be your case?

Eze2000:
Didnt' read the part. Sorry. Post must have been modified. Lemme check again

She mentioned it in a reply she gave someone else on the thread...

Eze2000:
I know. It's her mother she is searching for.

The term you find offensive in my comment is Illegitmae child. Below is the meaning according to goggle.


An illegitimate child is born to parents who are not married to each other at the time of the child's birth.

You are after my head for no reason at all. Unless you attended the wedding of her dad and real mom before she was born

Laughing at the bolded. Sorry if it seems so.. Illegitimate is wrong because the relative told her that the father got dowry on her birth mom returned, when the first wife came back ( she left earlier and they reconciled later)

So she was conceived legally and birthed legally via customary laws. Such traditional marriage is recognized by our laws

Asuito7:
You are saying this probably or MAYBE that is the way you are treating someone else child. This is not a case of letting the sleeping dogs lie because the op is not a STRANGER in that household she was brought up. She is the daughter of the man who owns the house and as such she deserves to be treated right with love and fatherly care.

In fact even if she was a stranger, she doesn't deserve to be treated that way,because she is a human too. And you are saying she should treat her step mom as her real mom. Did the step mom treat her like a REAL daughter?

I will implore you to desist from discouraging her to discover who her biological mother is because it might be one of the ways or even the step-in stone that will heal the op of her emotional trauma and many other things she has passed through. Shalom

I am not discouraging anything. I just urge caution because she turned out well despite all. The step mom called her daughter. With other step mothers, they will readily have all and sundry know the girl wasn't hers. Her name on the birth certificate speaks a lot.

IMO, I just think she should thread with caution. Not kill herself over an unseen and maybe imaginary mom

Why she chose to believe an outsider over her legal parents is still baffling to me.. (Youths of these days are easily deceived)

There was a time my mom's tenant called me and said I was different from my siblings.. I was thinner than others, did more work cos I was the eldest female.. But I know who I am. I didn't resemble my popsie like my mom and her side.. ..

Eze2000:
She's his illegitimate child. How do I know that?

Answer: The circumstance of her birth is not something her own people wish to discuss. They shy away from the topic in FEAR....

I always call the truth where I see it.

If you read the story, you will notice the distant relative that exposed things only said her mom was someone else not the father. So her paternity was not in question

Eze2000:
You are an illegitimate child and your mom is alive.

Find a relative you are sure that might be in the know. Someone in need of some financial help. Don't to his or her house, thake the person out to dinner, offer the help on condition that you get told the truth.

Of course, you must invoke an oath of secrecy. You can never tell anyone where you got the information.

She is not illegitimate! Her paternity isn't disputed. She knows and was raised by him...

Bonjovi13:
My dear I can feel the pain and confusion going through your mind and I pray that God will comfort you.
My advice is this...if you cannot change a situation(atleast at the moment) the only remedy is to change your reaction to the situation.
I understand that you need to know who your mother is...every child deserves to know their mother.

However your need or rather desperation to know your mother is interfering with your life.Your dreams, goals and personal aspirations have been negatively impacted by this need.Your mother would not like that

To put one's life in proper perspective all the time, one must place themselves in the shoes of those who one is more fortunate.

Put yourself in the shoes of someone who does not know their father or their mother ir an orphan who has lost both parents and is unloved by relatives.Most feel lost and unidentified.

You said you look like your Dad.So you have a heritage, a foundation and an Identitiy.Most dont.

You said you have a business and you employ people. Most dont.
You said your step mum did not maltreat you extremely, some orphans were maltreated so much they lost their lives.

You said you had a home and a roof over your head.Some are destitutes wandering aimlessly and begging for food and clothes

You wrote good English meaning you are educated.Some even with known parents are illiterate and would never have any form of formal education.

Summary...Be grateful to God for the life he has given you and find peace with the knowledge he has allowed you to gain.

All what you have are gifts that you don't deserve because you could have been born in circumstances that are far worse.

Be grateful.Thank and praise God.Ask him to forgive you for allowing the devil to take hold of your mind.

Take back your life and find contentment in the life that you have now.
After you have done that go spiritual...There is nothing God cannot do.The heart of kings are in the hands of God.
Fast and pray that God will not give your father rest until he reveals who your mother is.Watch God move.
My sister you don't nees to uproot your life.God's plan is to bless and prosper you and bring you to an expected end.It is well with you

Best post I've seen on this thread.

Many don't realise that some things are better hidden than exposed..... She doesn't even know if the distant relative just wanted to cause trouble and split a united family. Why now?

She turned out great. Many with two parents intact are not up to her standard... I guess too much comfort makes us seek other unimportant things to make us feel important.

OP, wake up and live your God given life!

Godlovesyou28:
Please how do I locate a private investigator. Am loosing my mind.

You are depressed....

Please calm down first. Take a deep breath...

You're old enough now... Your father and step mom are your parents...

You're grown up and don't need anyone to approve or disapprove your existence... Some are bastards, dumped in dumpsters etc but you still have parents and family yet you must look for that careless woman who left you?

Who do you did thing? Don't kill yourself cause many others are in worse conditions than you! Yes you!

Get out of this low point by leaving things as they are and I'd say if your birth mother wants you, let her seek for you or she not need your recognition disruption in her life right now... Just think if she is remarried and did not tell her husband or kids about you?.. Will she want to acknowledge you? Pls stop it and move on... You're here. Live your life to the fullest! Cheers!!!

anungangampu:
So true, she is looking for Love where there might be more pain.

I tell you...

stanliwise:
You have to start being realistic with things. You are harming yourself more than you are helping issues. You need every bit of your health to find your mom. So please bring yourself to reality and live the reality.

Her mom isn't lost... Let her mom find her! A mom that left and never bothered to look out for me? How things were with me

I can never look for that person oh if true


Layelaye

stanliwise:
You have to start being realistic with things. You are harming yourself more than you are helping issues. You need every bit of your health to find your mom. So please bring yourself to reality and live the reality.

Her mom isn't lost... Let her mom find her! A mom that left and never bothered to look out for me? His things were with me

O can never look for that person oh if true


Late!

Godlovesyou28:
I can't even hold my tears back, my heart is bursting out. I don't even know why I feel this amount of pain. My birth certificate says I was born in a private hospital that don't exist(I have gone there and its an office complex) and mother's name, occupation and signature is that of my mum(now step mum).

Your parents are probably shielding you from a bigger horror... If your mum is truly different and alive, why did she not come back or even bothered to look for you?..

All you said your step mom did to you was training you to be the person you are today! did she beat or disfigure you in any way?.

You went to school and appear sound plus independent... Abeg thank God... Let that woman find you.... Treat your step mom as your real mom... She never called you bastard or reject you. She called you her daughter, take it like that since she even has her name and signature on your birth certificate!

Stop looking for trouble and let sleeping dogs lie... If she truly wants you, She'll find you. Simple!

IrepChrist:
And many times it is concealed and done in secrecy.... Is it Godly without the Pastor's approval.... I need sincere responses...

I guess its because the choristers tend to bond more and be more free/ comfortable with the opposite sex as they spend lots of hours together on and off stage... It brings a closeness that mostly turns to almost intimacy sometimes leading to dating..

It is rampant and at a time a bishop banned his choristers from dating....

Brothers just seize opportunity that they're close as choristers to pick fine girls that can sing as wives. Can we blame them? Though it's not cool

CuteNerdyDude:
It was great that you even had it in mind, sometimes we just need you obey that leading. Even when the dead doesn't rise after praying it doesn't mean God isn't a miraculous God. Sometimes the Holy Spirit just wants to see our level of obedience and willingness to obey.

Remember, the apostles and Jesus Christ didn't just wake up one day and just started to raise the dead and do miracles, they were given to immense fasting and prayers. They were men who hosted God and God's presence. They were God's representatives on earth, they lived and preached and lived righteous and holy . Without holiness no man can host or see God.

All these I mentioned don't just happen instantly, it is a life journey, you learn everyday giving your self to prayer, fasting, study of the word, living holy and righteous, showing love to others. All in all being Christ's representative and kingdom forefronter.

Even I speaking I've not gotten to that level of result, we are all growing and we subdue our flesh and allow the spirit to lead until we look like Christ attaining perfection. All these is just God's grace. No man, I repeat can claim to be perfect if he doesn't attain Christly stature. It's not impossible.

There are countless people who have graced this earth that we can look up to.

So I pray for grace for every Christ follower pursuing Christly status and pursuing Kingdom advancement.

Happy Sunday �

Good points
..
Wish you same

Greater works than Jesus did were done just like He promised... We can do same and more than what OP listed. So help is God!

Christian walk is by faith. Sight walkers and wailers can wail. It doesn't change God's words or plans... Paul an anti Christian met Christ. His life changed and became a great model as a Christian.

Dobson43:
This is preposterous

Yeah... Girls turned free prostitutes... Just for initiation to become marine girls

Smh.... Why is it that men don't get raped to belong to cults?

In short I hope this present generation has not gone to the dogs completely while our aged leaders still fight and reloot our looted treasury..

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright
First of all how assault rifles take dey enter ordinary person hand dey baffle me

Na government supposed dey control Any automatic or semi automatic or rather bust mode weapons

That North has porous borders if any at all...... Many northerners in customs and immigration. They are mostly in the south making sure southern parts have no access to these things and collecting oir money while their own borders are free to any bandit, gun and illegal smuggling of contrabands ....

But hey, Buhari has called his brothers from everywhere in Africa to come here and for miscreants to wreck havoc on its poor citizens... Sane countries control influx of unwanted terrorists but they are embraced here and we complain of banditry?

Northern leaders are fools... Its really not difficult to figure out..

Yusman316:
Anytime people talk about task payer's money in Nigeria I laugh. As if people actually willingly pay task in Nigeria

Don't dodge the question...... You brought in Covenant University built with Church members money... This Islamic University is being paid for from government purse which money comes from FG. Bulk of such money is from the South of Nigeria. We pay taxes... You people get high on religion and are just parasites! With all the years the North has ruled this country, what can you show for it.

The Northeners obviously don't pay tax... You just wait for the free allocation and when it comes, use it to fuel more religious fire... Better wake up and do better things with the free money now cos the time is coming soon when the North will start paying for all its done and is doing to feed off our money.. Including taxes from hotels and liquor and interest banking which is haram to you people...

Parasites....

sesan85:
Kunle Soname bought CD Feirense in 2015, you ignoramus.

You slowpoke!

She did what you and others like you can't do,..

So buzz off!

broflovski:
I'm Igbo

She's not the first African woman. Akosua Puni Essien( Micheal Essien's wife) bought Como in 2017

Kudos to African women then!

Kenneth4u205:
She's my mom .she was a sport fanatics since I was born .and we always play soccer together while growing up .kudos mom

Really?

Goldp5988:
Ede is now the first African woman to own an European football club.
According to a statement on Thursday, Ede has secured 100 percent ownership of Lusitano Ginasio Clube founded in 1911.


Go women, go.

What a man can do, a woman can do better...

In this case,
What a Nigerian man cannot do, a woman has done better