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Health / Re: Please help this 4 Year old little blind boy - He has no one else to turn to by damiso(f): 1:34pm On Jun 20, 2017 |
Wow this is so not the end I expected for this little boy s case |
Family / Re: Am I A Good Mum??? by damiso(f): 1:19pm On Dec 13, 2016 |
baby124: very well said and nothing more to add.. Bleble24 ((Hugs))) there is no manual that comes with parenting especially now having to deal with great loss. Take baby 124's practical advise and I am sure it will be well with you 1 Like |
Family / Re: Why Are Most Nigerian Nurses Inconsiderate And Uncompassionate? by damiso(f): 10:32am On Nov 30, 2016 |
Gracious10: I wasn't blaming the nurses , I blame the whole system from top to bottom. The officer who is charged with procurement or facilities probably wants to finish his 4 X 4 Flat in Igando in 2 years all from his civil servant salary so of course why wont gloves, toilet paper, antibacterial gel etc. disappear from the Wards. Its just sickening how people can be so greedy when it comes to Human Life. And it makes it even sickening that our leaders who by the way get flown abroad for ear ache see how its done and wont want just a fraction of these for their citizenry. No one is talking about over flowing CT and MRI scans but just the basics , the basics at the level of primary healthcare. The citizenry also have some blame as well but before we get to attitude lets focus on providing infrastructure( or even maintaining and upgrading those already there) Guys and St Thomas hospital was built in the 15th century and is still standing today as a modern hospital by any standard and same can be said for so many hospitals in the UK. No one is saying build thousands of brand new hospitals. I know lagos state has a wide range of health centres and hospitals in different local government areas .Just upgrade the services and invest in infrastructure so we wont be hearing things like ' Only this hospital has a dialysis machine' in the whole of Oyo state. and then you would need to know one big wig or pay big bucks to get priority. I just get annoyed talking about it. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: Why Are Most Nigerian Nurses Inconsiderate And Uncompassionate? by damiso(f): 4:04pm On Nov 29, 2016 |
Wow just had a conversation about this with my Nigerian colleague over lunch.. she was vexed cos I am on this support 'Nigerian/Black Owned Businesses' crusade ( don't mind me I have been on this Black is the new black vibe in the last couple of months ))and was upset about the attitude of the staff in a Nigerian food stuff store. Kinda off topic I know but it all kind of comes back to the same issue- Lack of customer service Like others have said its the environment but even as I make that excuse, some (not ALL) Nigerian nurses still bring that attitude to where you cant use the excuse of 'lack of facilities' I mean some people who have babies in London Inner City Hospitals actually have prayer points not to have a Nigerian Midwife on duty when they have their babies. That said, the government needs to make healthcare infrastructure a priority. Its just getting plain ridiculous. My mum was cursing Nigerian leaders when she witnessed the care from Ambulance staff when I had my son. She kept asking if we were private ( and we in the UK know that the NHS has its own bad days ). This was because we had to get a commissioner to write a letter to get an ambulance to move my Dad from Gbagada General hospital to Lasuth before he eventually passed away . My beloved dad was a casualty of the failed Nigerian healthcare system so it is a sore talking point for me. is it the buying of gloves? gloves? Like WTH.Is that not supposed to be hospital supplies? Its the equivalent of a bank asking you to buy pens for a cashier to sign or process your cheque. I don't even know how long it will take but we need to do better. and by We I mean the government cos that's the start. Then we tackle attitude next.We cant even use 3rd world as an excuse anymore. we need to do better. 3 Likes |
Health / Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by damiso(f): 2:04pm On Nov 29, 2016 |
Onegai: @ babythug and alphamaiden you are so funny 1 Like |
Food / Re: Paste Pics Of Your Healthy Meal Here. by damiso(f): 2:03pm On Nov 29, 2016 |
naijababe: we are plenty that are trying not to be Mrs Scrooge.. |
Food / Re: Paste Pics Of Your Healthy Meal Here. by damiso(f): 1:40pm On Nov 28, 2016 |
edwife: aww how are you and the family Edwife hope all is well. The Christmas spirit has not yet arrived for me o maybe it will arrive by December. |
Health / Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by damiso(f): 1:39pm On Nov 28, 2016 |
babythug: I dash you back .. This uterus has retired |
Health / Re: NEW BORN BABIES! Are U A New Mum? Then Lets Discuss Babies Here!!!!! by damiso(f): 11:44am On Nov 22, 2016 |
Onegai: I don't get it especially for one year olds, one year olds tend to cry all through their parties so why all the stress. From 5 ehen, when at least they can have a feel of 'its my party'. I think a lot of extravagant One year old birthday parties are just for the parents. Forgive me mummies.. followed onegai here 4 Likes |
Family / Re: John Edobor, Man Accused Of Breaking Wife's Legs Tells His Side Of The Story by damiso(f): 1:19pm On Nov 18, 2016 |
Not read all through the thread but na wa for all this people who keep messages and bring out later as ammunition chai I witnessed a very messy fight among friends( not even a couple) where they were digging out text messages and FB messages sent years previously and I was amazed. So you guys were friends wearing all the andco and aso ebi, saying my sister from another mother and you were busy saving gist( more like gossip ) messages sent to each other to use in case of fight in the future abi? Guess people do that with spouses too, interesting Na wa o 1 Like |
Family / Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by damiso(f): 3:58pm On Nov 11, 2016 |
Human beings sha Why did you guys not tell her to know her limit at the time before it got to late. 22 Likes |
Foreign Affairs / Re: Lessons I Learnt From 2016 US Presidental Elections: Donald Trump's Victory by damiso(f): 3:40pm On Nov 11, 2016 |
That there is a relationship between a Donald Trump Presidency, Brexit and Biafra ( at least according to 'pundits' on FB ) |
Family / Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by damiso(f): 3:56pm On Nov 08, 2016 |
EfemenaXY: I was in absolute pieces from the beginning to the end I think I even saw tears in hubby's eyes as well. I am so sure most parents felt that way after watching it last night. I didn't even have a restful nights sleep. I felt the heartbreak killed his mum and to think that the Killers just got 8 years and are now out and even reoffending just made it worse . It was heart wrenching and I pray God continues to strengthen the Taylor Family. It was nice though for us ( and for the people who go down the path of violence) to see the effects senseless crimes like this have on families. |
Family / Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by damiso(f): 11:27am On Nov 07, 2016 |
Hello everyone Supporting this charity drive for those in the London Area and thought to share. http://wrapuplondon.org.uk/ Have any old winter coats that are now snug,( or loose for we weight watchers ) or ones you just don't fancy anymore gathering dust at the back of your wardrobe ? or ones you kids have now outgrown? This is a fantastic way to Utilise them to keep people warm this winter. This charity is organising collections at London Tube Stations Canary Wharf, Euston, Highbury& Islington, Kings Cross , Liverpool Street ,London Bridge Victoria and Waterloo. Times are from 7am to 11am 7th,8th and 9th November 2016 so you can just drop them off as part of your morning commute. You can also organise office/church/community centre collections as well. CC Efemenaxy Tearoses ( I know you don't live in London but you can help create awareness for people you know who do). Jaybee 3 Edwife and anyone who lives around the London area. Thank you |
Education / Re: How Students Are Punished In Cameroon For Coming Late To School by damiso(f): 1:06pm On Nov 05, 2016 |
I just Taya for this kain discipline For petes sakes the punctuality of children in primary school is normally down to parents. In secondary school then yes it is down to to the child as they are getting ready for life. And for all those saying that's how we were trained most Nigerians are generally the worst time keepers ever. That's why you will give someone an appointment for 2 and the person getting there at 2 is seen as strange. 3 Likes |
Family / Re: Please Save A Sister's Life.... Story Verified by damiso(f): 9:48am On Oct 20, 2016 |
bellong: Wow she looks really well ..Thank you Lord for giving her another shot at life 1 Like |
Family / Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by damiso(f): 9:08am On Oct 20, 2016 |
tearoses: LOL you are just too funny bet is true na how can you charge your DIL for cake naa mummy in Israel You are right though about various ways to cash in on the Nigerian Owambe Industry. My people love to spend on party sha. I have a 50th birthday on Saturday and the decorators had to be booked early 2015 |
Family / Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by damiso(f): 9:48am On Oct 18, 2016 |
Kimoni: You people are not serious Me sef I no know how I take type am I finished and I thought Moji made me break my resolve not to ever type epistles on NL again I just wanted her to know that swag and rep does not pay bills ni awa gan se iru e ri but that was a teenager she be adult now so has to face life's realities as quickly as possible. |
Education / Re: If You Had Your Junior Secondary In The Early Nineties You Are Probably Familiar by damiso(f): 9:44am On Oct 18, 2016 |
Mindfulness: I will definitely check out all the recommendations thank you I am actually excited again about reading and I hope I am able to continue even though I do know life sometimes gets in the way. I have also read most of Adichie's work except Americanah and I will definitely get to it soon. You are right, I almost always prefer books to film adaptations and would always prefer to read a book before seeing the movie. |
Education / Re: If You Had Your Junior Secondary In The Early Nineties You Are Probably Familiar by damiso(f): 12:06pm On Oct 17, 2016 |
EfemenaXY: Aww thanks for mentioning me Efe. Lovely Thread that does bring back lovely Memories I was such a voracious reader in those days and loved African Literature. Gradually getting better at it again though and I intentionally set time aside for reading and slot into my commute as well( when I get a seat ). I dusted up and renewed my library card a couple of weeks ago when I took the kids in ( I have a kindle but am old fashioned I love flipping pages) and went to the African Literature section, currently reading 'News from Home 'by Sefi Atta.( I like her writing style and just finished her another of her books ' A bit of Difference' could so relate to it as a Nigerian living in the UK). I just found that my reading was becoming centred around the children alone. I told myself ,its not just reading to and with them it also helps them seeing YOU read as well. I also hope to introduce African/ Black Written Literature to them as well. My daughter got Maya Angelou' Little People Big Dreams as one of her birthday presents and hope to get her the whole set. I loved The Passport of Mallam Illia by Cyprian Ekwensi Akin the Drummer Boy by Cyprian Ekwensi Trials of Brother Jero by Wole Soyinka The Lion and the Jewel by Wole Soyinka The Gods are not to Blame by Ola Rotimi( we even had a stage production for this ) and so many others too numerous to mention. Aww memories. 18 Likes 3 Shares |
Family / Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by damiso(f): 4:48pm On Oct 15, 2016 |
moji26: That's good to hear. Your mum really does wish you well after all said and done.I know you are an adult in your own right but you need to also meet her halfway by respecting,helping her when you can. It took me becoming a mother and understanding the expectations,hopes,aspirations that you have for your children to understand (and even appreciate ) the sometimes hard stance of my parents concerning some things. I do sincerely hope it all turns out well for you in the end. 4 Likes |
Family / Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by damiso(f): 5:58pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
baby124: I get her reluctance especially if she has really never had to struggle for anything . I would however have given some sort of pass if she was a teenager without a child and new one on the way. We all did some silly things as teenagers especially if your parents were comfortable enough to give you all you want/need. To be honest I initially hated going to the shop as it was not too far from my school and I also did not want people to 'see me' but bless my Margaret thatcher mothers heart dem no born you well to not go like I said I learnt so much from those stints. I started selling from school sef and when people were carrying aristo to buy baffs I was taking goods from mum and selling with my own profit.Even from my mums friends. I am glad that I got see the other side of life a bit as that made me or rather makes me appreciate the good times. Mothers do get fed up but one thing I am sure of that is that a mother who paid international fees will definitely not totally abandon her if she sees a reformed character. I don't even think she is a charity case and as far as I am concerned does not even need donations. All she needs is guidance (maybe even counselling )the willingness to be humble and graft hard and she will be fine. Just to add she also needs to lose the victim /entitlement mentality very fast. I am naturally very patient with people but people with a constant victim 'everyone is against me ' mindset irritate me . 7 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: People Please Have Mercy On Me Before I Die by damiso(f): 4:01pm On Oct 14, 2016 |
Not really commented on this thread as I didn't want to just repeat all that everyone else has said over and over again.. I hope and pray she is able to get her life in order and reconciling with her mum while showing a will to change for the better is the way out. Moji26, I want to just touch on the issue of not wanting to go to the shop because 'people will see you' my dear there is dignity in labour. My mum worked in a government parastatal while we were growing up doing well , going on official trips abroad, official and personal driver etc. There was a time both parents had their own drivers and we were driven chauffeur driven to school. Now I am not try to brag here just sharing a personal experience to make you see that life is not a bed of roses and we sometimes have to face life squarely despite what we think we should have. My mum then left her job and decided to go it on her own , at this time she had 3 shops one on the mainland, two on the island( one in balogun and one in apongbon). She was into wholesale importation of gift items and shoes and bags. The first set of problems was when there was a dodgy clearing agent which meant some of her consignments went into demurrage and at the end of the day the cost of clearing those goods had eaten deep into her profit. She had a thieving salesgirl in the apongbon shop who was literarily cleaning out on a big scale which was found out after an audit and this turned into a big police case which eventually led nowhere. It was a case of one issue after the other and eventually 3 shops became one( the one on the mainland, I don't want to say the location as it was quite known in that location at the time).Dads business was also not going great at the time. We went from having 4 cars to one that was always at the mechanics. My mum who I had always seen growing up with on the fleek hair, suits etc always looking fly( my mum was the most glamorous woman to me as child she still is ) had to sack the shop girls in that store and started opening the shop sometimes with the help of me and my siblings. That period was when there were long strikes and I would sometimes would have to be the one to go first and take delivery of drinks. We supposedly ajebo girls had to help mum sell coke,pure water,la casera, chin chin etc in that shop as we needed the constant sales of things like that when the other goods were not selling( it was gift shop and obviously gifts don't sell everyday) to keep the place afloat. I went to secondary school with some of the snootiest kids you can ever find , some who passed by or saw us in that shop and I wont even lie that I was very happy that were 'seeing me selling coke/pure water ' but the truth is that shop was paying part of our bills. Its not a matter of them seeing us it was a matter of they were not going to feed us. I don't want to go on and on but things drastically changed for a while and the standard of living dropped drastically from what we were used to. My parents tried to shield us from it but as the first child I bore the major brunt of it and I saw first hand that life is not always a bed of roses. To cut the long story short ,My family really went through hard times which is (let me lighten the mood a bit ) one of the reasons I call myself ajebopak. And you know what those skills I learnt following my mum to the shop is still helping me today so many years after. That period taught me dignity in labour and the fact that sometimes in life you don't just stay there and moan, you pick yourself up and do what you need to do to get back up again. It taught me no one owes you anything in life and peoples perceived opinions of you and what you are worth wont pay bills in the real sense of it. If you see me today blowing fone in meetings you wont believe I had once helped my mum sell pure water. I can relate with directors one minute and the next minute I am cracking jokes with a keke rider. If I have to sell to you, I am able to come down to whatever level that you are comfortable at. And this has helped me even in formal work settings throughout the course of my working life. It has also helped me earn money trading on the side till today. My dear, please as most people have said, reconcile with your mum and the one of first step is to start by helping her as much as you can.( or your strength can allow) . We tend to look down on informal skills, but even the art of attending to customers is something that you will learn and need later in life if you eventually go down the beauty/salon business route. Let her know you want to start helping her in the shop. You need to start taking responsibility for your life and your kids and I also think the reconciliation with your mum will help with this. Again I wish you well and hope it all works out well in the end. 28 Likes 2 Shares |
Family / Re: Comparative Analysis Between Wives Of Today And Those Of Yesterday by damiso(f): 12:00pm On Oct 11, 2016 |
Onegai: I think it did but the 'morality' was more aimed at a certain target audience on certain issues i.e. .women and marriage. Cos a lot of times you see the women sticking it out at all costs these days more than the past. Not like its necessarily a bad thing but its just funny when you see posts that romanticise the past. Alot of older aunties and grandmas cant even comprehend the 'ruth abokokus me and my husband' ( ruth die with husband ) antics of the girls of these generation. I guess its cos there was more openness about polygamy so they sef no send the man I have aunties who cant understand all these 'our house our land ' business. They are asking 'what of your own house, what of your own land' 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Comparative Analysis Between Wives Of Today And Those Of Yesterday by damiso(f): 11:19am On Oct 11, 2016 |
Realhommie: No she is not a deltan which means you know another one sef that is deltan. so much for this olden day angels theory Onegai: Seriously, I actually think the influx of Pentecostal Christianity into Nigeria kinda curbed women a bit( not so sure about the men though ) Because the shenanigans and life style of some women from way back ehn all this stay there and die kinda marriage was not in their dictionary. I don't know any woman in the 25-45 age bracket who had 4 kids for 3 husbands ( and is very proud of it) but off the top off my head I know over 65's with that scenario. |
Family / Re: Comparative Analysis Between Wives Of Today And Those Of Yesterday by damiso(f): 3:17pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
byvan03: Very well said. Some women of old I know ( some in my family ) make some women of today look like saints . I have a grand aunt who left her husband with 4 kids, married another man,a chief had one child for him and then went back to her former husband who took her back. They even had another make up baby I don't know too many men of today who would have taken her back. 2 Likes |
TV/Movies / Re: Power TV Series Fan Thread: STARZ by damiso(f): 10:16am On Oct 05, 2016 |
naijababe: Abi o me I just keep falling asleep with my ipad on my face will save them for my next time off when I can afford to sleep and wake up late . Its not good to be a television major but its Autumn we are allowed to hibernate |
TV/Movies / Re: Power TV Series Fan Thread: STARZ by damiso(f): 9:51am On Oct 04, 2016 |
naijababe you never disappoint abeg my hubby has been raving about Narcos ,is it good? |
TV/Movies / Re: Power TV Series Fan Thread: STARZ by damiso(f): 12:09pm On Sep 28, 2016 |
naijababe: han han now how can you hate greg more than kanan and angela? However I don't get why he was feeling like one kain matyr by confronting Sandoval. Ode could he not just have contined with the Angela is the leak story and later ratted him out. Mumu stunts ko smart rara I guess he had to die sha. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Why Do Yoruba Parents Discriminate Against Ogun Ladies In Marriage? by damiso(f): 3:09pm On Sep 19, 2016 |
Timbuktou: Funny enough ( and I am half ijebu/ half lagosian and before people start there are indigenous lagosians ) all those tend to things you listed can be ascribed to lagos girls as well. Just add also not being able to cook to the list Oh well , stereotypes are part of human nature jare. Sebi all Yoruba men are demons so we the ijebu/ogun/lagos ladies are just towing the path of our men |
Family / Re: Why Do Yoruba Parents Discriminate Against Ogun Ladies In Marriage? by damiso(f): 9:59am On Sep 19, 2016 |
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Family / Re: Why Do Yoruba Parents Discriminate Against Ogun Ladies In Marriage? by damiso(f): 9:55am On Sep 19, 2016 |
yetseyi: I wonder at this curse o I think I need to stop reading/responding to this ijebu bait threads |
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