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“I am only 24 years old, yet I have actually already chosen my last tie,” writes a man who received a cancer diagnosis in a post on reddit.com. He stresses several points in this article, all of which relate to the importance of living a life of meaning. He explains that he regrets having lived without having contributed anything positive. It’s difficult not to be persuaded into deep sadness as you read his statement. The tone is heavy. He wants others to learn from him, from what he’s failed to do.

I am only 24 years old, yet I have actually already chosen my last tie. It’s the one that I will wear on my funeral a few months from now. It may not match my suit, but I think it’s perfect for the occasion.

The cancer diagnosis came too late to give me at least a tenuous hope for a long life, but I realized that the most important thing about death is to ensure that you leave this world a little better than it was before you existed with your contributions . The way I’ve lived my life so far, my existence or more precisely the loss of it, will not matter because I have lived without doing anything impactful.

Before, there were so many things that occupied my mind. When I learned how much time I had left, however, it became clear which things are really important. So, I am writing to you for a selfish reason. I want to give meaning to my life by sharing with you what I have realized:

>> Don’t waste your time on work that you don’t enjoy. It is obvious that you cannot succeed in something that you don’t like. Patience, passion, and dedication come easily only when you love what you do.

>> It’s stupid to be afraid of others’ opinions. Fear weakens and paralyzes you. If you let it, it can grow worse and worse every day until there is nothing left of you, but a shell of yourself. Listen to your inner voice and go with it. Some people may call you crazy, but some may even think you‘re a legend.

>> Take control of your life Take full responsibility for the things that happen to you. Limit bad habits and try to lead a healthier life. Find a sport that makes you happy. Most of all, don’t procrastinate. Let your life be shaped by decisions you made, not by the ones you didn’t.

>> Appreciate the people around you Your friends and relatives will always be an infinite source of strength and love. That is why you shouldn’t take them for granted.

>> It is difficult for me to fully express my feelings about the importance of these simple realizations, but I hope that you will listen to someone who has experienced how valuable time is.

>> I’m not upset because I understand that the last days of my life have become meaningful. I only regret that I will not be able to see a lot of cool stuff that should happen soon like the creation of AI, or Elon Musk’s next awesome project. I also hope that the war in Syria and Ukraine will end soon.

>> We care so much about the health and integrity of our body that until death, we don’t notice that the body is nothing more than a box – a parcel for delivering our personality, thoughts, beliefs and intentions to this world. If there is nothing in this box that can change the world, then it doesn’t matter if it disappears. I believe that we all have potential, but it also takes a lot of courage to realize it.

>> You can float through a life created by circumstances, missing day after day, hour after hour. Or, you can fight for what you believe in and write the great story of your life. I hope you will make the right choice.

>> Leave a mark in this world. Have a meaningful life, whatever definition it has for you. Go towards it. The place we are leaving is a beautiful playground, where everything is possible.

>> Yet, we are not here forever. Our life is a short spark in this beautiful little planet that flies with incredible speed to the endless darkness of the unknown universe. So, enjoy your time here with passion. Make it interesting. Make it count!
Thank you!

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Every girl makes mistakes with money at some point in time: not planning adequately, not saving enough, spending recklessly on something frivolous e.t.c. Unfortunately, some Nigerian girls seem to be eternally stuck in the miry clay of certain money mistakes and are not even aware of how these financial pitfalls are significantly derailing their finances.

Managing money effectively is a key success skill for any sensible Nigerian girl, but to make the decision to become effective with money requires that they first identify what their weakness are and which areas they have been making money mistakes.

Are you a Nigerian girl itching to get your finances right but wondering what money mistakes you are probably making? Jumia Travel, Africa’s No.1 hotel booking portal shares 5 money mistakes Nigerian girls are making.

Not acting their wage

Nigerian girls are super hard working, they strive to make a living for themselves and that is great. However, a major problem most of them have, especially in Lagos and Abuja, is their tendency to live above their means and not act their wage. They over-spend on the little things – the small amounts that seep out of their pockets here and there and eventually become large, as well as on big things like buying a car or renting a lavish apartment in Lekki Phase 1; when they are earning just about NGN150,000 a month. As a Nigerian girl, if your outflow exceeds your income, then your upkeep will be your downfall. Basically, it’s not about the amount you make, but the amount you spend that is the problem.

Supporting a broke boyfriend

The social situation in Nigeria today seems to be different as girls seem to be much more proactive and earning better, while the men seem to have become a bit lazy and there are more broke guys in their late 20s, 30s, and even 40s than there should be. Unfortunately, Nigerian girls seem to be emotional and these broke guys know how to pull their strings. They leech off these women for sustenance, literally depending on them for everything from daily spending money to toothbrush. For the Nigerian girl, spending money and supporting a lazy and broke boyfriend is a huge money mistake. Pouring money into a feckless boyfriend is like investing in a company you own no part of. It is important that the Nigerian girl ensures she is on the same page, or at least in the same book financially with any boyfriend. That way, her finances are not completely depleted.

Going into debt over a big, fancy wedding

Every Nigerian girl getting married in 2016 wants an ostentatious wedding that will be featured on BellaNaija Wedding. This implies pre-wedding photoshoots, exquisite designer wedding ceremony gown and wedding reception gown, hiring a wedding planner, lavish wedding venue and decorations, premium coverage as well as a fabulous honeymoon. To achieve this desire/goal, a number of these girls drain their groom financially and still go into debt. Nigerian girls need to remember to invest in the marriage rather than the wedding event, as life continues afterward. In fact, a simple rule every single Nigerian should try to live by is this: If you are not in debt, do not get into debt.

Going without a budget

A number of Nigerian girls fail to keep track of how much money they spend per time as they do not have budgets. They are huge on impulse buying and so, tend to make a lot of financial mistakes in that regard. The truth is, no matter how shrewd a Nigerian girl is with her spending, she will still need a budget. A budget helps control spending and reveals where improvements need to be made. With a budget, it is easier for the Nigerian girl to reach her financial goals as she will know where her money is going and plan in advance how to spend it.



Budgeting is actually very easy if she follows the 50/20/30 Rule which says that from the take-home pay, 50% should be allocated to essential expenses; which include housing, transportation, utilities and groceries; 20% to financial priorities; which are retirement, savings and debt (in that order) and 30% to lifestyle choices; which are gifts, travel, dining out, shopping and everything else.

Living paycheck to paycheck

Most Nigerian girls may have a budget and live within their means, but still not have savings. While it is great to know where every naira will go, the reality is that no one can predict everything.

For this reason, it is important for Nigerian girls to stop living paycheck to paycheck and instead create a budget that would include a small emergency fund that could cover unexpected expenses or surprise doctor’s bill and provide a cushion that will also prevent them from overdrawing on their checking account and paying unnecessary financial fees.

Toluwani111:
yes

maxdozie:
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loomer:
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