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Reminderz:
you better free her.. if she's truly loving as you said, you wouldn't have met her single...

when she's passed her youthful years after spending time with the bad guys, she's now disguising herself as good and nice lady to you to nail you down.. lmfao, shey na today? well since you're a "real man" and a nice man, go for her... since "aGe Is JuSt a NuMbeR"

women always want to eat their cake and have it, and there are simps and weak men out there willing to settle down with them and do their biddings after they've spent their fruitful years as a cum bag for the bad guys.. The nice man is now left with the remains... smh

one, she's older than you...
two, she's not a saint, or is she a virgin??
three, when your eyes have finally opened after marrying her, no one would be there to console you.. don't let lust cloud your reasoning...

CondenseMilk:
Na marriage be your problem?

efelicity:
I have been married for four years now and nothing like this ever happened. My wife is a trader so she returns from market late in the evening. If I want to do anything I will do it sharp sharp before she returns and as she don't have eyes behind her head she won't notice my cheating act. Honestly, I met my wife a virgin and she's the most faithful woman after my mom.

My gf suggested we go to hotel but I insisted we come to my house and also citing the cost attached to booking an hotel. During the act my wife just bounced in and caught us. She fell to the floor because she never thought I could ever cheat on her.


My wife has been crying since yesterday.
How do I console her and restore the full trust she had for me. Honestly, I regret.

Negroid001:
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Negroid001:
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Spare124:
I was heartbroken just few min ago and I can only relieve myself by pouring my heart here.

So,I had this guy I have known him since he was in 100l, a church member introduced him to me because he had challenges with mathematics and I'm in the dept of applied maths,I took him tutorial for the whole section without collecting a naira from him.

Now fast forward to today the bro is in 500l,I connected with him when I came back to school...I left school then because I couldn't pay the school fee.


Now I have been sleeping in school for over a month now.
(I posted on this tr on how my ant keep disappointing me and that why I'm stranded till this day.

https://www.nairaland.com/7648554/need-helpim-depressed-confused)

I went to this my guy place tonight because I was feeling maleria bcuz of the mosquito,I asked him if he was excepting any visitor tonight he said No.
I asked him if I could spend just this night with him,bro said no he doesn't like sleeping guys in his room that if it's a lady it's different,I offered to sleep on the floor dude still said no...Omoo I just left in shame I'm on my way to school tho.

This same guy passed several night at my place then when I was taking him tutorial,I was really hurt,not that I'm feeling entitled I just feel the least he could do was to help me for the sake of old times...
He doesn't know I wasn't feeling too well tho but at least a night won't kill him, but it won't kill me either.on my way to school,and I regret ever asking him.

Life will be good and I'll live comfortably well.☺️

Rokiat:
So if you had cristiano ronaldo kinda money would you still be faithful to one woman?

Incognito21:
I was on my bed almost about the time am about to fall asleep, It looked like a dream but it wasn’t, my nepa light suddenly ceased, I wanted to on my phone torch light, for the first time my iPhone 13 Pro Max torch light refused to on, it wrote Temp needs to cool down. Then I felt this cold feeling and I felt strong goosebumps all over my body, and it feels like someone is sucking my life out of me, I checked my phone time it was 2am and I was constantly using my phone screen light to light my room up cause I hate darkness, then my legs suddenly start vibrating softly, then my mind tells me something strong is here, suddenly I saw a big figure close to where I dropped my microwave, then I wanted to shout Jesus, then my other mind was telling me not to shout it, I should be quiet and the figure will disappear, then this big figure started talking to me but wasn’t speaking, I was hearing it in my mind, just the way your conscience speaks to you, the figure said that it will be with me some other event, that I should call it moon Gasha, and if I’m willing to create an event I should call on it, stare at the moon and call moon gasha it will create an event with me, this figure was speaking to me through my mind and wasn’t speaking any language and in my mind I was receiving it and understanding it, do you know that as soon as this figure was gone the Nepa light suddenly came on and my phone light started working, please this isn’t a made up story.. can anyone understand this meaning,

Bekeey:
Good morning my people, please pardon my grammatical errors and long writeups. I'm curiously in need of your help to help me decide if I should confront her or not. This is the problem, traditionally I got married to my wife this January 2023 and by grace of God our wedding is coming this July 2023, our IV is already out, we have got 45% of the Wedding needs already, like Asobi clothes, her own clothes and my clothes too, we have also booked for Decorations, DJ, MC etc.

So, here is the issue that I need to confront her or probably council the Wedding because since I got noticed what has been going in my absent, I wasn't myself for past 3days, I am emotionally exhausted. Here is the problem, there is thus guy that always call her late in the night from 10pm, whenever I asked her who was that, she always tell me is just a friend that they have known right from secondary school, that she knows her girlfriend that nothing is between them. I asked her,did he know that you are married, she said of cause, he is aware. I said OK, that day passed, so the call kept coming same time 10pm but not everyday. Later I began to notice that the guy doesn't call in the night again maybe because she have asked her not to call her by that time again. So 3days ago, I had access with her phone, my brothers and sisters, I was shocked, behold the person that told me she has nothing to do with him that is just a friend. All there conversation in that chat was sweetie, sweetie, that's what they call each other. Though, I found out my wife doesn't give him that chance that she's only interested to eat his money because I saw a receipt of 20k he sent to my wife. The guy was seriously asking for her nude videos which she didn't send to her but she instead sent him stickers. The guy will send her some videos showing her how he will sock her breast, and one hot round of sex, my wife will just replied him OK. Last chat my wife chatted him was where she is begging him for 50 to 100k to pay back by June. She don't have anything doing, I wonder where she will get the money to pay him back. Till now the guy have not replied him. I can say she has not started cheating on me because, she just relocated from Awka to Abuja where I leave and she doesn't know anywhere yet. She is always at home. So where I'm confused now is, is she sending him her nude and delete it at instant or she is just playing ▶️the guy? Even at that, as a married woman 👩did she suppose to engage in such conversation with a man? And she is already pregnant, 16weeks pregnant precisely.

Please house, what should I do in this situation, should I confront her or to keep monitoring her but the fact is, it still disturbs me why my wife a married woman should be having such discussions with a man.

saintbillion:
My guy if ur situation no ever reach like this, then u are enjoying as u haven't tasted poverty.
If u ever used your soap or toothpaste up to this level, two things are involved
1. Its either ur stingy to yourself
2. Your poverty level has a confidence interval of 100%

BrighterThanDay:
As a child from a broken home, I saw marriage as my happy ending of finally having a home filled with love and mutual understanding. After the death of my mom, growing up with my dad and stepmom was hell. I was treated as a stranger in my own home, so I thought starting my own family will be a lot better.

After I completed my education and got a good job. I had a lot of suitors willing to settle down with me. Most of them were rich and accomplished men, but there was no spark, I felt they weren't genuinely in love with me, and since I was never a materialistic person, I turned them down. I get easily content with what I have and I spend prudently. Then I met my husband. It happened that I was his crush back then in school, in fact, he even approached me as a student then, but I turned him down because I knew where I was coming from and I never wanted to gamble with my studies, it was my only hope to leave my father's house and fend for myself.

Fast forward to when I met my husband after school. He didn't even have a good job. But I could tell I meant a great deal to him, we'll speak for hours on the phone. I fell hopelessly in love with him, I could already picture a happy home with him and our kids. Then he proposed, and I accepted. I met his family, they were nice on the first visit.

After the introduction ceremony with my family, I started noticing certain things. I was taking pictures with his phone when I saw a message from his mom telling him I'm a stranger and he shouldn't allow me to come between them. I was surprised and wondered where all this was coming from, I asked him and he reassured me that it was nothing.

Then his father told me that hope I know that a son should love and care for his parents more than his kids. I kept pondering this statement. Then the worse of it all was his married sister, she hasn't even met me, but she rained insults and abuses on me on his phone and why he needs to make money first and allow his family to enjoy his money, before getting married. She said I was old, and just forcing him to marry me. I was just 26 then, but my education was very fast.

I had to speak to her dad about this and he cautioned her. I tried speaking to her myself but she rained insults again on me. I called off the wedding at a point but my then-fiance begged and involved my brother and so we went on with the wedding preparations. The wedding went well and his entire family stayed with us for a week before leaving.

My husband got a good job, I was working, we were fine and money wasn't our problem. A few months later, my father-in-law died. I sent messages and called hubby's siblings to comfort them. I couldn't travel with him immediately due to the nature of my job. I kept calling to check on him and inquire about the traditional rites I might need to be a part of. Hubby said his father was a pastor so he won't need to do anything, while we were yet speaking, his sister who hates me snatched the phone from him and said I have to do this and that or I should pack my things and leave the house and then she shouted at me.

I was so pissed and acted in a way that wasn't right considering that we were all mourning. I sent a message to her, telling her to be nice considering that we are all mourning but if she chooses to continue insulting and humiliating me for no reason, I won't take it. She forwarded the message to the entire family, including uncles, aunts, and grandchildren. On the day of the burial, I was treated as an outcast by the entire family, she told them not to give my birth family food, even though they came bearing gifts and comforting everyone. Hubby had to step in and ask the caterers to serve them.

She kept fighting and shouting at my hubby throughout the burial and tried denying him of things he was supposed to do as the first son and child. I was humiliated and she kept castigating my name and insulting me to hearings of everyone. I wasn't even allowed to eat. I was quiet all through, when family members were asked to sit behind the corpse, she asked me to excuse them.

For fear of my life after the burial, I had to go lodge in a hotel outside. The next morning she and her brother kept shouting and complaining that why did hubby allow me to lodge and that I should have been with their mom. They continued the humiliation, I couldn't take it anymore or hold back my tears so I left.

Hubby later told me that she held a meeting in my absence with the entire family and told them I'm a bad wife and needs to leave her brother. This was when hubby stood up for me and said I wasn't going anywhere.

Our marriage was never the same. Even when we had our daughter, no one called, hubby was ostracized from his own family and he blamed me sometimes. I couldn't concentrate at work, and my job is performance-based. I was scared that I'll be fired, so I resigned.

Hubby's income wasn't enough to sustain us, so we started facing financial difficulties. He had to even go meet the same sister to borrow money, even though I discouraged it. She always mocked him for it and I had to pay off the loan at a point.


When she saw that we are now broke, she stopped fighting with him and they are on talking terms now, of course, she still wants nothing to do with me. I know that they are family by blood and nothing is too hard to forgive, but each time she calls and they are happily discussing, Ican't help but feel angry for all she has caused us. I'm sometimes tempted to leave this marriage because this is not what I envisaged at all.

My brother is also married and I have never felt the need to interfere in his marriage or fight his wife.

I don't know how long I can continue in this union, even my innocent beautiful daughter is hated by them.

fidelmarshal199:


I will never forget the first time I took tramz, Its over 11 years now but the memory is as fresh as yesterday's news. It was just 250mg but it felt like it was 1000mg, I almost vomited everything in my stomach including my intestine. It was my first and the last day of taking it sha

Freedomlurther:
Whenever I reach a dead end and Im confused all I do say is " life will be good,and I will life comfortable well"...tho life dey show me shege pro max,but this word never seize from my mouth.

Bobwil96:
It all started when my friend introduced me to gambling 10years ago, I became addicted to the extent I literally don't have any savings, I went into debt and depression. I have lost millions to betking, sporty bet, bet9ja, nairabet.. I noticed whenever I try to stop for a week, I still go back to it and lose heavily..
Please how can you help me to stop.. I have cried, being depressed because of this addiction.. in 2020 I went 1year straight without gambling and I was happy, but I still went back to it.. please guys I need your help on how to stop this addiction.. I have made up my mind that on the day of Resurrection of our Lord Jesus Christ, I hereby stop it permanently...
Amen.. I believe I can overcome this..
Let the challenge begin (9-04-2023)..

I made a covenant to stop it today, I would make sure I fight this demonic act with my last blood this time.
Enough is enough

CosmicDust:
Here is my story....

I have a 3 siblings and I am at odds with my eldest who is a lady. The way it is, I may never have a conversation with her again.

She was the first person to be invested in by my parents after which I came. Luckily enough, she was able to strike gold in her career and do well for herself. She went abroad for her masters with my parents supporting with half-payment. Unfortunately, whenever it came to family demands and helping the other younger siblings, she has either been negligent or grudgingly does so.

Few years after going abroad, she decided to lockup and sends only 40k home which is supposed to cater for food for a month.
Now parents are retired, the whole family weight falls on my following sibling and I. The youngest one education is on me. Happy she will finish soon. Parents need to be supported in challenging times, one is coping with diabetes and the other is with some challenging issues I can't say here. Their savings are being sapped by their needs to keep living on.

But my so-called elder sister based in Canada despite knowing their condition is silent. She still sends her peanuts, while I and my younger brother who is an upcoming fashion designer do 2X what she does. This aches our parents and sometimes makes our mother cry and our father rant with regret.

A time now came, our mum got admitted in the hospital. Condition was so salient that she had to be hospitalized for weeks. Hospital bill was 450k. The Canada-based first born doing a good job, who was always talking to her, praying with her on phone, etc only sent 100k. We the others did the rest. Glad mum is back at home but her heart is broken and has refused to talk with her. She's been in Canada for 5 years and has refused to even support any of her siblings to come abroad too.

My other siblings say because we all refuse to be dictated to by her is the reason for her behaviour. I don't care. Mine is that if you know that you are going to be useless to a family, let your parents know before hand so the money used in training/feeding you can be used for farming business which will despite bad weather bring returns than on a child who feels is not obligated to support the parents who supported you all through.

Quality20:
We all know how some people can be evil and mischievous, they could be so jealous and envious ,not wanting to see progress on the part of their neighbour, friend or even a relations.. So nairalanders what has been ur sour experience with envious ppl taking u up with diabolism, juju, voodoo or even attacking of image n personality?

LeeSmart:
Just to know how big this forum is, name any 9ja celebrity which u're sure has used this forum before or is still an active member (maybe there is no active celeb here).
Let me go first
SEYI VIBEZ, have forgotten his monica. when i do remember i'd come modify my post.... Dont spoil the fun

Cc. Dominique fp pls 4 wider audience

adenigga:
Source: https:///Anambra-People-No-Long-Rent-Houses-To-Us-Fulani-Herdsmen-Laments

brightmorningst:
I attend one of the multi campus Universities in Nigeria,so I met a lady in one of the school group but it happens that she isn't in same campus with me.

Long story short,we became friends online, from friendship to relationship,I once told her if she sees this long distance relationship as a lie,she should tell me so we can stop it quickly,but she said I made her feel bad with that statement had it been she's seeing it as a fallacy will she be chatting with me often?
I begged her and we continued but I'm tired of me asking her "how are you?, How was your day etc" this has been our usual conversation,how do I spice up my chat with her,there are times we don't even have anything to say. We are gonna see very soon.

How do I spice up things with her Guys.?

no preach for me abeg, keep your preaching to yourself

NairalandSon:
Let me start by saying security job is not my dream job but while I'm very hopeful of getting that dream job someday soon, body and soul need to be put together. An unemployed person with penniless pocket will certainly understand my predicament. The only option is to grab anything provided it can take of your very essential needs. Worse is when you wake up with no food to eat or not even soap to bath with, then you'd realize doing anything is sure better than nothing.

So I got this security job which I resumed yesterday. Could you believe that same yesterday, armed robbers operated in the area. As you know, security or what people call gateman is the one the armed robbers target first when they come to a place.

It was around 3:am when everywhere was quiet, As the security, I did a patrol around the compound when I noticed suspicious noise in the next compound. Before I know, I heard people shouting over there. I stayed back. In less than no time, I saw about 5 people coming straight to my compound. They pointed torch inside. I didn't bother to ask who they were cos I already knew. My people, I didn't even know when I commot for gear run to the backyard of the house, jumped over to the other side which is a bush, breathing like who just escaped death. Unfortunately, I sustained injury while running in the bush. Since the gate of the compound is not high, they jumped over it and gained entry into the compound, but thankfully they couldn't gain access to the house due to burglary after a long while of triaI. Unfortunately for me again, I slept in the bush till this morning.

Now, I learnt robbers operate in the area often. This has further put fear in me. I wouldn't want to be a victim of robbery circumstance because of a job whose salary cannot even meet one's needs.

So I am confused now. Even with the injury, should I go back to the place or not? Presently I don't have anything else doing and I don't have money to sustain myself either. Please what would you advise me?

Note: this happened somewhere in Delta state. I don't want to disclose the location for security reasons.

Adebisi0070:
To cut the long story short.
"2years ago, I lost my business to conspiracy by two of my workers.' Since then have been doing anything I can lay my hands just to feed.
Fast-forward, I called my immediate younger brother to assist me with 30k so as to enable me startup charcoal business
My own brother who I set business for when I was okay, told me on phone that "He will not lend me the money instead anytime I need something from him I should just call him and he will support me or I should sell one of my property to him let him see if he will buy it'
This a boy that I trained and start up a business for... Same father, same mother...
I'm hurt, my heart aches
::
what do I do? I need advice please. My younger brother has slapped me

Banilla:
You are wrong!

Like I said, a woman's body count bothers insecure men... And you proved me right with this

Basically, men don't want promiscuous women because they will cheat or they will never be satisfied... Yet women are getting married to men with high body counts. Won't they cheat too? And compare their wives to the experienced girls they've slept with?

Secondly, it wouldn't be a risk if she's clean, right? No STDs, cause that's the only legit issue. The irony of how a lot of women complain about their husbands infecting them with diseases.

Stop being emotional.

NewestNigerian:
I was working as a dispatch rider where I was able to gather more than 500K for a business startup. I have digital skills I plan to carve a niche. I was living in a Pako House in a Ghetto here on the Island. My lofty dreams is to leave this Ghetto for an apartment in VGC or an high profile estate on the Island in a shortwhile.


I met a pretty but useless lady of 26years May last year 2022. At first, I wasn't attracted to her as my biggest focus was to gather enough funds for my business startup. She drew my attention by always wanting to get close.

We started talking and she told me about her plans. Me being 30yrs and no girlfriend as at then, with my family on my neck to get married, I thought I could join hands with the lady who also claimed to be out of relationship for months before we met.

We agreed to start a mini restaurant inside Osapa London. I wasn't suppose to divert my plans, but I did thinking the restaurant would fetch back the money. I got a space in Osapa London and built a fancy wooden shop which costs me 260K to build plus the space 70K, only for the lady(my ex) to tell me she doesn't like the shop and location, saying I should dismantle it. I abandoned the shop(it was eventually vandalised) and searched for a new space inside Orchid Hotels Road.

I eventually found a space in Orchid which cost 120K and I had to build Aluminium Kiosk for the Business. I achieved all the goals. But I was getting broke already because I've spent all my savings and was only using my weekly cashouts to run the project. My Ex told me she'll get money from her family and friends to support me, she couldn't get ordinary 10K from any of them. I didn't complain cos I've braced up my mind never to be afraid of responsibilities.

I began to lose it for the lady when I planned to partner with Bolt Foods cos the restaurant I was delivering for doesn't have much packages like before again, so I had to plan ahead. I already booked an appointment with Bolt for training. Unfortunately, I lost my smartphone a day before the training(smartphone is a necessity). I asked my Ex to lemme use her phone to run the training and work for like a week plus till I acquire a new smartphone, she refused blatantly. She said I should find other means that she can't release her iPhone 6(ordinary iPhone 6 o). A lady colleague at the restaurant I was delivering for borrowed me her iPhone X for 2 grand weeks.

I completed the training, started working with Bolt and earning. 2 weeks after, my Ex phone fell and screen damaged, I bought her a new Infinix phone(can't remember the model type).
Unfortunately, a very good friend of mine asked to borrow my bike to deliver in Ikoyi, on his way, he had a ghastly accident that cost his leg and my bike damaged beyond repair.

I was home for 2 months doing nothing.
I wouldn't continue being idle, I decided to start all over again by acquiring another bike on Hire Purchase. My Ex was already working and earning 40K monthly. I applied for a new bike and I needed to pay a Mandatory deposit payment of 25K(an amount I lacked). I was confident my Ex was gonna lend me the money. To my greatest surprise, she said she can't borrow me the said amount. I was shocked to my marrow, she told me to find other means.

I am so furious rightnow that I have decided already to run the restaurant myself and collect back my phone from her. I'll rather dash an im.becile the phone than that ungrateful soul.

Tomorrow Thursday is her off day, we've agreed to meet and she have no idea I wanna breakup with her. Not just that, am collecting my phone from her without letting her copy a single thing out of it. She's the one at loss, not me. She only succeeded in wasting my time and delaying my plans. But it's all good and nice cos I feel free in my soul already with the thought that a parasitic girl is finally out of my life.

SmartGadgetz:
This life is spiritual. Many thing's are happening and can happen in spiritual realm.

Esoresor:
I for example can not date or marry an average man because i won’t be able to cope, so I ask does that makes me a bad woman? What if I have other very good qualities? Why do men see women who wants to be with only rich men as bad or leeches while ignoring her other very good qualities?

Jennyclay:
Money
Sex
Love

Personally, if a man can not satisfy me with these 3 things I listed, I will just leave the relationship/marriage