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slawomir:
Exactly what my grandfather told me
That there are three sides to a story
The complainant
The accused
And thirdly the true story

And he said i should always mind my own business
Because he is 145 years old now and he is very much alive simply because he always mind his own business

olumyde:
Imagine, the woman ended her life because of her stubbornness.

U can imagine, my bro

Wasn't it the same u who claimed that Christianity is a sham? That it has been adulterated by the popes and others? Now u suddenly find "authenticity" in a book used by Christians. Chai! Who do u like dis na

Petersamuel8:
the truth is always bitter, the king James version as always being the authentic BIBLE all this new versions are only out for business purposes, I only read the holy bible which is the king james

Wat does psalm 83:18 say in ur king James version?

Hotfreezer:
I knew hungry girls without home training would come out to defend their fellow animal.

Arson is a crime, he doesn't need to sue her, it is a crime which the state would prosecute. Meaning she presently is fighting the Government and people like you can't help her.

The owner of the house would still bring his own lawsuit which would ensure that she stays in prison while her poverty-stricken parents run around, selling their inheritance to settle the owner of the property.

That's when you dumb slay queens would know that your iphones and smelly weaves can't save you from trouble.

See finishing. Baba, abeg collect

PeacenLove2:
I hope you sought therapy for what happened to you.
You seem very damaged with your way of thinking. Praying for you.

As in ehn. The matter fvcked the dude up, solidly. The guy don maga finish o. But he tried in not confronting the biatch at the hospital tho. Me I just dey boil here, wen I read e story. I go sue that person life bend, even e grandchildren go dey feel the impact. Na so one stupid guy go write petition against me. I don free myself from the matter and I don dey arrange defamation case for e head. Wen I finish wit am ehn, dat e salary account and e new motor go perish gan

CilicMarin:
This Wike charge and bail thinks Nigerians or the FG will be intimidated by mentioning 200 SANs ...

LMAO!

Useless lawyers..

Amhappy:
There's always two sides to marriage without parental consent. Main issue is what is/are the reasons given by the parents? Are they valid? Does the person you intend to marry worth it?
In Igboland marriage is a union of two families. From husband and wife to family meeting,to kindred meeting to village meeting to town meeting so you can't be alone. I have stories of both good and bad.

And u no wan talk the stories ba? U con com here dey read oda ppl own abi?

ImaIma1:
Wow! It is good to hear someone say what I always say. Children should not feel they are indebted to their parents for bringing them up. Who else should have done it? The child didn't beg to be born. In fact the parents most likely prayed for a child.

Many mums keep blackmailing their kids with "I carried you for 9months" as if other mum's that give their children freedom carried theirs for 2 weeks. I consider men that cannot stand up to their mums to be weak.

Ugosample:
this depends


A lot of parents in NIGERIA give FLIMSY REASONS as to why their kid should not marry someone else.

If there are genuine concerns that the parents have discovered and they lay it on the table, the kid is more inclined to listen


But if it's based on flimsy stuff

like "this tribe is this"

Or something else

Then the child better use his brain
gettin a good partner is very hard
losing such partner due to flimsy reasons will be very very bad.

in summary, use your discretion

Omo, my wife tell me one story about one babe wey future mother in law no allow rest o. Na so so trouble: "u wld never marry my son" matters. Las las, then kuku separate. The mama go bring one geh wey she like. Guess Wetin happen? Na that girl wey the mama like naim kill the mama. The geh come tire for the way the mama dey so so dey com the house. The geh com quarrel with the mama, push her fall. Omo na so mama take off o! Marriage end o.
In fact Wetin me be dey plan before ehn. If dem no accept my babe, after I don try to convince dem, I go separate, com marry geh wey I know she bad die. Na that geh go show dem shegey wela. Me I go suffer but I sabi bear rubbish o just to make my point. But las las I still married the chick of me dreamz and I no send their wahala. I dey flex my marriage dey go and my wife funny pass warri geh.

DrOBD:
SECOND TRUE LIFE STORY.

Let me first state that the success of every marriage or home has nothing to do with parental consent. It strictly depends on both couple. Otherwise we wouldn't have high rates of divorce today. If a marriage won't last or if there would be an adverse event, it would happen anyway, whether there is parental blessing or not. I can prove it. Again, if it is possible to get the blessings of your parents, please do as this will promote family bonding and unity. However, if it is not possible and you are convinced, damn the consequences (which is largely social) and marry the person you love. Your parents have lived 2/3 of their lives, you are perhaps close to 1/3.

Now to the real life event.....
My friend's parents married without parental consent and they are doing extremely well, one of the most successful families I know. The major issue was tribal. The man was Yoruba while the woman Igbo. The man's parents refused stating all sort of reasons, they first attributed it to God, then they said they visited some prophets and then later said the marriage will not be blessed with children. The guy insisted, and married the girl. The girl's parents also didn't agree. They said she was their only daughter and they wouldn't want her to go into a family that don't appreciate her. Her father was very bitter. They both sat down and decided to go ahead almost with no consent from both sides (little support from the woman's side). When the man's parents found out, they disowned him (maybe not officially, they said they don't want to ever see him again). A lot happened within the period.

The man is a top engineer, the woman a big business woman, they are both close to 70 years and their children are doing well (some are abroad as doctors, engineers and lawyer). Both families eventually reconciled and are in good terms till date. When the man's father was sick, it was my friend's mother that took care of him till he passed on. She became his favourite and he was always praying for her and her children.



My dearest friends, look before you leap. If there is an obvious reason, for instance you went to school up to PhD and you bring home a school cert, your parents may not agree based on that, or perhaps you bring home a known criminal that will endanger you your life, if I were your parent, I won't support it. In the absence of any genuine reason, forget the talk about "what I am seeing". Nobody can see for you, only God can. Pray to him and let him direct your steps. If you are good and meet a good partner, your marriage will blossom with prosperity.

Awwwwww! This wan sweet die o. Abeg come chop banga soup with starch . Just being chilled gulder come sha

DrOBD:
@Olumyde. This topic will always be a controversial one. I strongly believe in parental blessing. However, not all parents mean well for their children, vice versa, otherwise parents wouldn't sell their kids for money or children use their parents for rituals. Some people are damn wicked even to their family members. In such a case, should the lady/guy wait for ever?

I will tell you two true life stories. Firstly, my parents, and then a close family friend's parents.

My grandparents didn't want my mom to marry my dad for reasons best known to them. My mom went ahead without their blessing of any member of her family. She knew she loved the man and that was enough. They tried everything humanly possible to separate them to no avail, they even cursed/abused her (note that they are from same tribe, different village). For over 5 to 10 years, my dad did not step into his in laws house. I wouldn't want to go into so much details. That union is blessed with 3 men and 1 woman, we are all above 30 years and prospering to the glory of God. My dad became the best in law of my maternal grandparents before their demise and the whole family is together and prospering. My mom still says her life would have been miserable if she didn't marry my dad. I wouldn't be typing this today if she wasn't strong willed. They later accepted the bride price several years after they married officially (not cohabiting).

Second story is even more interesting.

Oya say it na. Why keeping us in suspense? If have, just mention me abeg . Make I hear correct gist.

agaliboy:
I deeply regretted my decision. That's why I am a divorcee now. My Dad is late but my mum saw through my ex-wife's pretenses, but i was too much in love to listen to her warnings. My ex was from a broken home and I married her as an Unemployed person.

I started seeing the things I didn't even notice during courtship just one month into our marriage. Maybe because we had a long-distance courtship. She was very egoistic, full of malice and never listens to any kind of good advice. We both had strong personalities and I couldn't bear to report her to anybody for the shame of being reminded that I was warned before I married her.

The final straw was when I discovered all the lies and contact she still having with an ex she knew before she met me. She was visiting him behind my back and even collected money from her when she needed some balance to buy a car after I had already given her some money. She lied that it was her brother that gave her the money. The truth came out when her brother came back from the U.K and unknowingly revealed the truth. I got to find out they've had romantic outings together whenever I was out to work.

A quick advise to younger guys: LISTEN TO YOUR MOTHERS. THEY SEE BEHIND THE 'CURTAINS' WHEN IT COMES TO FELLOW WOMEN.

Guy, the simple reason u are a divorcee today is because of ur long distance relationship which caused u not to see the obvious. Except u at suggesting that ur mom knew all these facts (as in based on spiro tinz) and still refused telling u. U wld have seen wat ur mom saw, if u had not done watsapp relationship. Pretense is not hard to see for me sha, provided I pay enof attention to possible red flags.

Moneystopnonsen:
Married against my mother's wish. She never liked my wife when she was babe then in school, simply because she says I give her attention too much more than i give to her.

Fast forward to after 8years of dating her, mum complained about how can i be stuck with one girl when guys where frolicking about.

After Nysc i started planning marriage, mum actually arranged her friends daughter for me, she was hot, but me i overlooked her because I was hell bent on been opposite of what my father was.

3 years ago i married my wife, mum only came for the traditional. She gave me plenty condition for my white and i was like why will my own mum want to sabotage my life simply bcoz of jealosy. Because of her I didn't do white wedding. I went to the registry and married my wife.

Today I have 2 kids and my wife is my back bone, mum still detest her and is pretending, I have made it clear to her you can't love me, love the kids she gave you and dislike her.

Recently she went as far as smearing my wife's image To my younger brothers who are not in Nigeria, I wonder what she wants to gain. So am paying her back with no access to me at all. Until she retraces her step.

If u notice I didn't talk about my dad, he is alive, his an old arse hole for university of Ibadan females both students and hostel female staff, he can gift u a car just to lay u.

Mum is just a control freak. She has lived her marital life yet wants to live another through me, but kole work ooo

Chuck knuckles bro. U dope

ovanda:
I am currently facing the same issues with my family but I will stand my ground. My mum is just making trouble for everybody. Because the girl I intend to marry is not serving her like a slave, she doesn't qualify to be married. she's gotten away with behaviour such as this for far too long but in my tenure, she go learn lessons. I don't care if I am isolated from my family after all they don't feed me. it should be noted that I have dated this girl for 10yr now and somebody is telling rubbish because her papa no be dangote abi? na me and them, make we see as e go be. And for people who are saying God forbid they marry without their parents consent are nothing but over pampered kids!!

Guy exactly na so my own be o! But I know who my babe be. I do my marriage I no send dem. If u se the kind things wey I don achieve becos of this my wife ehn. Happiness yakata, savings make sense, common sense full ground, peace dey overflow. As in ehn. I don dey do my will sef to give my wife maximum protection. Dem don dey call me dey beg me tire for visit but me I cannor fit shout o. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I am striving to be same to her.

zicoraads:
I would really love those who have experience with this to post, but as it is, I think most people would still come here and say they'll never do it. If I meet someone I really truly love and my parents are against it, I'm afraid I will go right ahead with it.

When I see guys who have left the girl they were dating because of parental refusal to give consent, I often consider them to be weak. Or they never truly loved the lady in the first place.

Have u watched "desperate house wives" I think season 7, where Porter brought a Russian lady home and his mother objected? Wat exactly wr the reasons she objected? Experience makes u see most ppl tru. Our parents have that experience. However, some ladies na baba for pretence and some of our parents have flimsy reasons, while others parents have sinister reasons (I have seen that o and it shocked me to smithereens). So we shld be able to tell wat exactly are our parents' reasons for objecting to our choice of spouse.
Lastly, Jehovah is th originator of family, so he wants us all to have a happy family and he has provided in his word, the bible the formula for choosing our mates.
All those of una wey dey talk of vision, on top all the visions wey pastors dey see upandan, shebi divorce yakata for ground for naija?

Tallesty1:
No experience so I will be sharing my senior brother's experience.


Dude came home one day with one tall bae like that from Anambra.


He called the fam together and introduced her as the girl he will marry, Oh Boy.... My old man no even let him finish before he provoke.


He said it ain't happening, that all his kids will marry from my state.

Mumsy calmed him but she sef no support the thing.

Later that night(after the girl don go) he(dad) called us together and started giving reason why we should not marry from another state.

My bro told him that he and the girl don tey so he no fit leave am like that.

I told them to let him marry whoever he likes after all nah he go live with am.


But the reason I supported him be say me sef dey date one girl from Anambra that time.

Mumsy later gree but palee refused so with mom's support, we do strong head go marry her.


To cut the story short, the lady is my dad's favorite daughter in law till today and they're happily married with 4 kids.

2 boys and 2 girls.

Bro, abeg come collect banga soup with river cat fish, sama am with starch and wash am.with gulder.

olumyde:
I know that is one of the popular advice on will get. But what if it is even because of God that you are making your decision. Then you will have to decide if God is first or your parents.

Anyways, this thread is for people to share experience. There are other threads full of different advices.

Advice is cheap! Talk is cheap! Don't we usually say, experience is the best teacher.

If experience of of of teacher, why then does Psalms 19:7b say that the laws of God are trustworthy and make the inexperienced one wise? So do u c dat experience is not really the best teacher?

chimoskyg:
The bush meat got me laughing
Na there type they old for there papa house

Ah dey teh u. The next tin dem go begin tif sperm and fell pregnant , like their role model. If u know, u know

ZinolyOnlineHelp:
so na only that one you see biblically wrong?

What of women shouldn't wear men's clothing.. Or lead a congregation.. Or submit to the head of house..

Bush meat like you

EggdonorAgent:
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Jakumo:
And for those who failed to take note, Dinos's Personal Assistant is standing there in the background, taking dictation on her smart phone, and remaining ever ready to gobble his little lizard, as required.

Dino's attitude of repose is the epitome of luxury living. How many nairaland readers can boast of a personal assistant assistant who will remain on duty even whilst the Interlocking Tile Vigil is in progress ?

The answer is that ONLY our Oga Dino can boast of this level of personalized attention, and for this, we must thank Almighty Olugbala.

God press Nigeria.

U mean Dino carries a lizard around? It it agama or green neck See jazz o

she has "fell" pregnant

Omo, na GNLD o. Better run

sacramento1212:
Someone mentioned that there's a river close to the scene of the accident. So maybe Marine Spirit wan cross road but instead of those vehicles to wait, Dem dey fire speed so Marine spirit kuku cause katakata instead of motor to come jam am.

. ROTFL

sacramento1212:
Marine spirit for dry land Which kind Marine Spirit be that one

Gutter no d that place wey the marine spirit go dey swim ni

Me, I need young layers o

jerflakes:
The first story is true

they took this pic after the outrage

Racist mofos

I, u, we, don't have all the facts. Hence proverbs 18:13 says: "When anyone replies to a matter before he hears the facts,It is foolish and humiliating".

Meow. Next pls!

Meow

Everybody is jus shouting "congrats". Una no go fes ask wetin e mean by oil firm. Is it a palm oyel factory or he is selling fuel in a petrol station ni .
Isnor bad bele o

RZArecta2:
out of everything I wrote, your problem is ordinary "s" ? Na wa o, teacher kpangolo

Why are u doing like a kpangolo student na