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ollygreen:
This Reno no just get shame at all.

How can someone of his stature be patrolling a forum like nairaland?

xcamarie:
Hi house, pls can you help me with a list of affordable schools in either US or Canada (US to be precise) where I can do my Masters in computer science courses, thanks a lot.)

Try Oklahoma state university, California institute of technology, UCLA, University of California at Berkeley, university of Illinois at Urbana champaign, Texas Tech, Stanford, Duke Univerity, university of Missouri or Georgia Tech. They can give you financial assistantship.

I am so happy for him. Congratulations to the man.

chamzyc:
How weird is it?.....I love my boyfriend but when it comes to sex, I get dx weird vibe & instantly I get turned off. Do I have a problem or am I not attracted 2 my boyfriend sexually?

Maybe it's your body telling you to flee. Always pay attention to the signs.

aariwa:
It happened in 84/85 ..history repeating itself again.Will it result in the eventual ouster of buhari after 20 months in power like it happened then?I don't know.Time will tell

Can you further elaborate?

hotice01:
This is part of the reason politics has become a deadly affair in this country.
Been a legislator should be a part time job!
These guys are thieves,rogues and catalysts of economic,social and political destruction!
The Governor should not cave in to their wicked,senseless and myopic demands.
Patriotism has no home in Nigeria!

Gbam! This should be reprinted many times over. Too bad because of allocation, this guys get to live lavishly.

ever811:
oooooo! this Buhari sef!!! which kind dressing be this....?

And what exactly is wrong with the dressing?

rosalieene:
So many girls/ladies are willing to stay pure, but you will rarely see a guy that's not willing.
#veryfew guys are willing but where are they

We dey o

Luckygurl:
I think the ball is now in your court, to transform her into someone you'd like her to be.

Get her books as gifts, coerce her into channelling those time spent watching telemundo and zee world to some other educative channel, engage her in intellectual discussion. Do not give up even if her replies ain't encouraging. Let her know why you're doing such and also how you expect her to flow along.
Do all these in love and don't go about insulting her cos that will make her detest you. Those your so called friends should be mindful if what they say too.

Whichever way, it's a gradual process and if she actually loves you the way you claim, she'll make an attempt to step up her games.

Hahaha, you are one of those naive people who think that you can change people. Haven't you seen so many marriages hit the rocks because during courtship both parties refused to acknowledge the red flags they saw in each other?
Abeg, let them go there separate ways. It's obvious that they are not compatible with each other: they are not the right fit.
I am sorry bro, but like they say, when someone shows you who they really are, believe them.

phlamesG:
I'm a young man in his early twenties. I've been going out with this particular girl for close to a year now.
I can tell that she loves me, and don't get me wrong I love her too, I mean she's very beautiful and well endowed in the right places, she's also a good cook and good in bed. But my worry is that she's too obtuse and uninteresting. Whenever we're having a conversation or discussion she doesn't make meaningful contributions to the topic, sometimes her contributions are not well thought out and when she says them it makes her sound dumb. My friends have even given her a nickname 'mumu'. Whenever they want to ask of her, they be like "Charlie® that your mumu girlfriend dey"?
I am kinda afraid to introduce her to my parents so she won't embarrass me. My parents are very particular about the kind of girl I bring home, and trust my dad he's going to bombard her with a barrage of questions. She's also not interested in global happenings around the world or within the country or even recent developments. What really sparked my ire was the just concluded USA elections. I remember calling her and teasing her as to who will win the elections, trump/Clinton, but I was dismayed by her response " who is trump?" I was totally dumbfounded, how can someone who isn't an illiterate not have an inkling about 'trump'. I'm not saying i know all about the elections, I wasn't even interested in the USA elections because I already knew it was all mere propaganda, but nevertheless I kept up to speed.
Her further response killed my vibe "what concern me with trump? Is he going to give me a role as a telemundo actress?"(she's obsessed with telemundo btw,which brings me to my next point)
She so much loves telemundo and zee world, the only concise narration she can give is the breakdown of an episode of zee world. It's breaks my heart because I love her and want to marry her in the nearest future, and I don't want our kids to turn out to be morons.
Conversations with her are so boring, she basically adds nothing to the topic of discussion. Our time together is mostly spent on long silences

I need only positive responses please...

Red flag alert please abeg, this shows that both of you are not meant for each other. You guys are not compatible. In other words, y'all not the right fit for each other so please go your separate ways abeg.
In a relationship, the most important thing is compatibilty. There is nothing as good as having someone you can talk about everything with. So ask yourself if I want to spend the rest of my life with her.

DarkRebel101:
I witnessed something similar about two weeks ago in a BRT bus. A man, his wife, and their two children boarded the same bus as did I; and it so happened that while the man found a place to sit, the wife and the children did not and so had to stand.

Fifteen minutes later, someone alighted from the bus thus creating a vacant seat which the woman immediately sat on; and just as she was beckoning her two kids to come sit on her laps, her husband exploded in a fusillade of rage and commanded his wife to stand so that his children could sit.

That instant, my face creased into a deep flesh canyon of disbelief, and even more so when the woman sheepishly cowered in humility characteristic of a Catholic nun.

Who knows how long the woman has been subjected to such harassment? I pitied her greatly because she seemed completely resigned to her fate.

[...]

OP, your husband is just like the man in that story, and that is immature, insensate and proud.

Lao Tzu once said that, “All streams flow to the sea because it is lower than they are. Humility gives it its power.”

One of the things your husband needs to learn is how to be humble.

...

Now to the main issue: my advise is that you investigate the activities your husband has been involved in as of recent.

I also need you to answer these questions:

On a scale of 1-10, how physically attractive is your husband? Could it be that his physical ‘uninterestingness’ is the cause of his frustration? Perhaps he hasn't been receiving sufficient attention from the opposite sex?

Is he ankle-deep in a financial pinch? Is he in debt? Such can make a man-woman frustrated and, consequentially, depressed.

Do his family members constantly put the squeeze on him so that he might cater for their needs? He might just be overwhelmed and feel boxed in by the pressures put on him.

Has any of his family members, colleagues, or close friends died as of late? Death tends to inflict a heavy toll on a person's mood and so that might be the cause.

Has he any history of violence? And please do away with those ingenuous sentiments about how he was a saint during courtship.
Courtships are hardly where the true character of a man-woman is revealed.

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As they say, ‘‘frustration begets anger; anger begets aggression”.

I think your husband is frustrated, and might just be suffering from a phenomenon which psychologists call displaced aggression’, or as those in the military would put it: ‘stress-rolling’.

Displaced aggression is when someone for lack of being capable of challenging the source of his frustration due to the fact that he-she feels that he-she cannot conquer it, directs his-her anger instead to someone perceived to be weaker and less capable of reprisal.

For example: my boss may have hauled me over the coals for a task poorly executed, and knowing fully well that I can't yell back at my boss or impugn him, I would rather suppress my anger and take it out on my wife or child. That's what displaced aggression means and I think your husband is going through just that.

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And OP, have you tried talking to him?

Have you expressed to him, the discomfiture that his actions are causing you?

If not then that should be your first line of action. If that doesn't work then you should ask his family members or trusted friends to have a tête-a-tête with him; and if that still proves abortive, then you should perhaps consider a belt-and-braces approach — though I wouldn't advise such as fire can never be quenched with fire.

Temporal separation until he turns over a new leaf could also be a last resort.

Did you not read her story well? It says that he has been yelling at her since there courtship stage. He had already been showing her who he was but for some reason or the other ignored the red flag: maybe she was one of those naive girls that taught that after marriage he was going to change for the better not knowing that that was just the tip of the iceberg and that
he was already giving him glimpses of his true character.
They say that when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time around.

Martins301:
Oga please keep your opinion to yourself or take your message to the Hausas/Fulani, Igbos and Yorubas who have always played the ethnic card when it comes to appointment.

Hahaha, this is what happens when you hit some people with facts.

dipoolowoo:
By Modupe Gbadeyanka

A new report by the National Bureau of Statistics (NBS) has disclosed that Nigeria’s annual inflation as at October 2016 was now 18.3 percent.

In the report posted on the agency’s website on Monday, it was disclosed that the figure rose from 17.1 percent it was in September 2016.

The reason for this, Business Post gathered, was because of the higher prices for electricity, clothing and food in the country.

The 18.3 percent inflation rate is Nigeria’s highest in more than 11 years and the ninth straight monthly rise.

The agency explained that, “During the month, the highest increases were seen in housing, water, electricity, gas and other fuels.”

A business analyst in Lagos, Mr Olalekan Adesanya, told Business Post that the latest report shows another sign of the crisis in Africa’s biggest economy.

Nigeria has been struggling with her economy since the inception of the present administration in 2015.

Prices of commodities in the country have skyrocketed, and in some cases, by over 200 percent.

Last week, Minister of Budget and National Planning, Mr Udoma Udo Udoma, revealed that President Muhammadu Buhari would unveil the government’s economic recovery plan next month.

http://www.businesspost.ng/2016/11/14/nigerias-inflation-hits-18-3-october/

This is not a well written article. There is not enough context and they don't even tell us when inflation got reached double digits.

Noblesoul123:
The situation gets worse by the day & we have a finance minister that said RECESSION IS JUST A WORD. The thunder & lightening that will strike some people is still taking some lessons from Isis

This is what happens when you don't surround yourself with the right people. Instead of assembling a team of bright, super intelligent people with integrity who went to schools like MIT, Stanford and co. instead you went and got a graduate of the University of East London of all places and you are expecting wonders. Well good luck with that. A leader is only as good as the people he surrounds himself with.

Wow! This are the kind of girls I hope to avoid.

centboy123456:
You are a FoOl telling us this abi we they there when you they marry am waiting dey do woman of now are days waiting can't u solve ur problem must u say it online for people to see u want advice u go to ur mother abi ur mama don die must u say it online God I tire for u oh when he dey sweet u nor tell us na wen he dey bad na now u dey tell us the advice I have for u if go and sit down and face ur problem stop posting it online go and face ur problem

Bro, i believe it's called free speech and she is exercising it.

This story should be a lesson to people who are trying to get married. Look for the signs. They say if you want to know a person's character watch how they treat other people.
This guy had been showing this woman who he really was before they got married and she probably thought he would change or that he won't get worse. Well see how that is turning out.

windeal:
Please op don't shout at him back when he do in public.. It might end up beating you to pulp ...this is my advice to you op.. Whenever your husband shout at you in public ... In reactions just say "habbaa baby" it's OK then when you guys get home on happy mood just remind him his Bleep up in the public if he does it the house in front of your maid remind him when he takes you to the other room before bed things.. I bet you when you correct him two to three times in that manner he will change.. Thank me later

Omo, beat her to pulp? see logic. Man , Naija women dey try. Talk about living in bondage.

Kolababe:
"Did she attempt to upstage the bride?", is the question some people are asking about the photo below. Miss South Africa 2010 Bokang Montjane - Tshabalala (pictured next to the guy on dreads) attended the white wedding of SA Pro footballer Kagisho Dikgacoi to his woman, Carina Mckechnie. Her outfit was deemed inappropriate for a wedding that wasn't her own. Is there anything wrong with what she wore?

http://www.newseveryhour.com/2016/11/anything-wrong-with-outfit-of-this.html

Maybe she was on the bridal train?

Chai! Naija news late ehn? I posted this several weeks ago and it's now it's getting to the front page.

Martins301:
Yoruba man as Chief of Staff

And what exactly is wrong with a Yoruba chief of staff? The last thing Obaseki should be worried about is the ethnicity of his staff. Edo like the rest of Nigeria needs all the help it can get and from wherever it can get it whether it's through foreigners or Nigerians. As long as they are super bright and talented. The last thing it should be worrying about is there so called state of origin.
A leader is only as good as his lieutenants.
Instead of our leaders to surround themselves with the best team they can get, they simply hire someone because he is from there "place". How about hiring the best people for the job no matter where they are from? It's no wonder we can't find creative solutions to our problems.
Speaking of state of origin, that archaic concept should be scrapped and replaced with state of residence if possible as it distorts people's views and judgement at times.

TippyTop:
I have no problem with Obaseki appointing a Yoruba man but appointing him the chief of staff, come on.
The Chief of staff is like the Governor's "gateman" he controls who sees the governor.
That appointment was made straight from Bourdillon road.

Wow! See logic. And they wonder why Africa is poor.
A leader is only as good as his lieutenants.
Instead of our leaders to surround themselves with the best team they can get, they simply hire someone because he is from there "place". How about hiring the best people for the job no matter where they are from? It's no wonder we can't find creative solutions to our problems. Edo like the rest of Nigeria needs all the help it can get and from wherever it can get it whether it's through foreigners or Nigerians as long as they are very exceptional candidates. The last thing obaseki should be worrying about is the so called state of origin of his team.
Speaking of state of origin, that archaic concept should be scrapped and replaced with state of residence if possible as it distorts people's views and judgement at times.

Amelian:
It's a pity, some married women are like that... They will leave their husband, travel abroad for further studies and I usually ask, this PHD or masters u are going for? Please enlighten me, what do u intend to do with it? They will say they just want to have higher degrees.
I shake head for those wives.. Later they will start crying wolf, saying can u imagine her husband has married another woman.. May the almighty God give them sense to see the havoc they are creating in their homes.

Op, your friend is lonely. And even if the wife travels with the next flight back home to fight her husband. Cos He is the only person she can fight for now.. After telling her sorry dear, with sweet words and she travels back.. He will still go back to his girlfriend.. And the girlfriend is determined to be his wife.. So my dear, the situation is messy already.

Gbam!

passionate88:
The dullard want to mortgage our future

Dude, what are you talking about? This is one of the most promising things to have come out of the the Nigerian govt in years.
Obviously, from your statement you are not well versed on the economics of the oil and gas industry but if this becomes law it would be one of the most consequential thing the govt has done in decades.
Govt should have no business running an oil company, it is one of the major drivers of corruption in this country

Mopolchi:
Confused dullard selling Nigeria.

Dude, what are you talking about? This is one of the most promising things to have come out of this administration.
Obviously, you are not well versed on the economics of the oil and gas industry but if this becomes law it would be one of the most consequential thing the Nigerian govt has done in decades.
Govt should have no business running an oil company, it is one of the major drivers of corruption in this country.
If I were him, I would have gone one step further and put them all under the ministry of Energy to avoid redundancy.

Bossontop:
Very soon politics sef no go dey hungry people like b4 again ooo as they don dey sell the national cake small small

What are you talking about? Obviously, you are not well versed on the economics of the oil and gas industry but if this becomes law it would be one of the most consequential thing the Nigerian govt has done in decades. Govt should have no business running an oil company, this is what fuels the corruption in this country.

afanide:
Clueless people.......

What are you talking about? Obviously, you are not well versed on the economics of the oil and gas industry but if this becomes law it would be one of the most consequential thing the Nigerian govt has done in decades.

Finally! This is something that should have been done decades ago. Good to see. Hopefully this becomes law.

So rocking Brazilian hair and looking like a cartoon character is now an achievement? Wow!

sukkot:
why everybody in that south south region look crazy as fc-uk and black like oyel ? just cuz you come from oil region dont mean you gotta be black like oyel lolzzzz

And what exactly is wrong with being "black as hotel."

DedeNkem:
Dangote has been milking Nigeria for ages. He bought the three arms of government.

He's the most corrupt business man in West Africa, if not the whole Africa! He doesn't do anything without massive gain.

This man almost pays no tax even though govt. give him some kind of subsidy. Small businesses in Nigeria pay more taxes than Dangote!

His "promise to help in turning around and diversifying the country’s economy" is a sham. He's only opening a massive avenue to milk more billions. If you think he made his billions clean of massive corruption, then you're an id*iot!

I don't blame him at all. He's doing what any sharp and corrupt businessman would do in a very corrupt and failed country like Nigeria!

All you stated were allegations but I don't see any confirmed facts.