₦airaland Forum

Safiaa:
I know that girl

mavinc4u:
Okay, you will remain single even when you are still young?

mavinc4u:
Na wah for you. Answer me, can you have another wife if the first one goes?

mavinc4u:
If his mummy does not like me why I wan shook head for that kind family where am not loved. Must I marry him? Do your best to win the mummy's love and if it does not work abeg find your square root, no bi only your husband get you, as an African you are married to the whole family. People are always stubborn when money is involved and be claiming love. Even the bible said honour your mother and your father so you have a long life. The mother has blessed Paul with twins for honouring her so peter should just chill as the hand of the clock can never be reversed. The only person that would have twins again in that family would be Paul's family.

mavinc4u:
My dear, I am not selfish. I will even tell him to put his mother first before me and if he refuses to do it, I will do it for him. Stick it into head, your mother, children, siblings first before wife/husband unless you have a bad mother and siblings then putting a good friend first before them would not be a bad idea. Tell me the husbands and wives that are dead today, did their spouse not remarried and forgotten about them?

mavinc4u:
My dear, I was in bus traveling and one of these people that sells drugs in the vehicle asked a question; if your mother and your wife/husband are drowning in the river who would you save? Some said wife/ husband while some said they would save their mother. The man's next question was why? The ones that said they would save the wife/husband said because what God has joined together no man should put asunder and the man asked which God? While the ones that chose mother said you can have another wife/husband but can never have another mother as your wife/husband can leave you tomorrow when the going becomes tough but your mother can never leave you. That says it all, with the kind of wife/husband this generation have, you never can tell what that person has in mind for you until when e happen you go know. Let that guy be fooling himself till when is late for him, he would understand the importance of someone that the same water and blood that flows in you also flows in him.

supersystemsnig:
Should people with good family values be broken this easily?

thorpido:
Why is her face covered here?You're covering the face of someone who doesn't want her chest covered.

eezeribe:
Is she about to fly

allenroundabout:
Today is my wedding anniversary. I got married in 2010. I actually don't know if my marriage is a curse or there are other forces affecting my life.

I went into my marriage with 6 trucks and they were all working within southwest. All the trucks are gone!

I am a 37year old man from Enugu state. I got married at the age of 31 to a beautiful lady from Edo state.

I started my logistic company when I left my salary job in 2007. I started with 3 trucks and I was able to grow and acquired 3 more trucks before 2010.

I met my wife when she was serving in Enugu. I visited my parent in enugu that very year. We got talking and one thing led to the other. She got pregnant towards the end of her service year and moved in with me immediately after her service.

We had our traditional wedding, though her mum (father is late) wasn't at the wedding. She didn't inform her, she said she doesn't have a relationship with her and that they are not in talking terms. Though her aunt (her mum sister) was actively involved and present. She made up with her mum years later and they are both fine now.

I lost my 6 trucks in 3years with debts that I had to settle by selling my uncompleted buildings in Enugu and Lagos. I have not paid some debts till now. Note that I acquired those properties before my wedding.

I lost 2 trucks in 2010 December, lost 1 in 2011, then lost remaining 3 trucks to accident in 2013.

It usually happened whenever we quarreled and she got really angry. That very night, I would see myself being locked up by a man in a room with an iron gate in my dream. The next trip for any of my trucks would be an accident or there would be a major problem on the road.

I was out of business in 2014 to mid 2015 when I decided to travel out of Nigeria for some hustling. I told my wife about my plan but she said she is sure my plan is to marry another woman when I get to Europe. I made some promises to her before I left.
On getting to the airport in holland, I was put into the next flight to Lagos from Schipol airport in Holland.

I became very broke after the failed trip and I had to open up to friends and family who still thought I was a big man. I was able to secure a 35k salary job through a friend. My wife came to my place of work, told my boss that I beat her. She lied! (I have never done that before and I didn't do it). I lost the job.

In all this, I have always struggled to pay our rent, we pay our son school fee together while she handles 75% of food stuff in the house. She works and earns around 65k. She has been supportive.

I have prayed and she has prayed too, but nothing has changed in my finance. It is getting worse everyday. One night, I prayed and begged God to reveal to me the source of my problem, I had a dream that night. In the dream, my wife told me she is married to the prince of their kingdom and that the prince is always with us sometimes on the bed when we are sleeping. She said his boys are the one I always see fighting me in my dreams. My wife told me all this in my dream. I am scared of discussing this dream with my wife because she is a prayerful woman and it will sound like I am saying she is the cause of my problem. I am confused.

I also consulted a pastor, the pastor said witches are seriously dealing with me. He also said my wife has a spiritual husband that is very powerful. He warned me never to discuss any of my plans with my wife again. That I should always tell her after the execution of such plans (plans that has to do with my business). I find it strange and hard to believe, what is the essence of having a wife if we can have 100% openness. I continue to discuss my business plans with wifey and they are always failing. Sometimes I will be too happy to hide it from her. (Lol)

We have a small car that is strictly for taking my son to school. My rent expired in May and there is no hope of money for me. Landlord is already on me. If I sell this last only car to pay this rent, what are we going to sell to pay the next rent? I think maybe we should separate for a while and when things change for better again, we can come together. I have not discussed this with my wife. Is this a right step? Her mum and her mum sis (they are both widows) has a big house here in Lagos, she can move to the house while I get a driving job with an accommodation package. This way, I can support and pay my son's school fee.

Please people advice me.

ubergold:
You think it's funny abi? Wait till your wife says it's a must you go know how far. That's how people thought pre-wedding photos were foolishness when it first started but today it's more or less compulsory

allenroundabout:
Today is my wedding anniversary. I got married in 2010. I actually don't know if my marriage is a curse or there are other forces affecting my life.

I went into my marriage with 6 trucks and they were all working within southwest. All the trucks are gone!

I am a 37year old man from Enugu state. I got married at the age of 31 to a beautiful lady from Edo state.

I started my logistic company when I left my salary job in 2007. I started with 3 trucks and I was able to grow and acquired 3 more trucks before 2010.

I met my wife when she was serving in Enugu. I visited my parent in enugu that very year. We got talking and one thing led to the other. She got pregnant towards the end of her service year and moved in with me immediately after her service.

We had our traditional wedding, though her mum (father is late) wasn't at the wedding. She didn't inform her, she said she doesn't have a relationship with her and that they are not in talking terms. Though her aunt (her mum sister) was actively involved and present. She made up with her mum years later and they are both fine now.

I lost my 6 trucks in 3years with debts that I had to settle by selling my uncompleted buildings in Enugu and Lagos. I have not paid some debts till now. Note that I acquired those properties before my wedding.

I lost 2 trucks in 2010 December, lost 1 in 2011, then lost remaining 3 trucks to accident in 2013.

It usually happened whenever we quarreled and she got really angry. That very night, I would see myself being locked up by a man in a room with an iron gate in my dream. The next trip for any of my trucks would be an accident or there would be a major problem on the road.

I was out of business in 2014 to mid 2015 when I decided to travel out of Nigeria for some hustling. I told my wife about my plan but she said she is sure my plan is to marry another woman when I get to Europe. I made some promises to her before I left.
On getting to the airport in holland, I was put into the next flight to Lagos from Schipol airport in Holland.

I became very broke after the failed trip and I had to open up to friends and family who still thought I was a big man. I was able to secure a 35k salary job through a friend. My wife came to my place of work, told my boss that I beat her. She lied! (I have never done that before and I didn't do it). I lost the job.

In all this, I have always struggled to pay our rent, we pay our son school fee together while she handles 75% of food stuff in the house. She works and earns around 65k. She has been supportive.

I have prayed and she has prayed too, but nothing has changed in my finance. It is getting worse everyday. One night, I prayed and begged God to reveal to me the source of my problem, I had a dream that night. In the dream, my wife told me she is married to the prince of their kingdom and that the prince is always with us sometimes on the bed when we are sleeping. She said his boys are the one I always see fighting me in my dreams. My wife told me all this in my dream. I am scared of discussing this dream with my wife because she is a prayerful woman and it will sound like I am saying she is the cause of my problem. I am confused.

I also consulted a pastor, the pastor said witches are seriously dealing with me. He also said my wife has a spiritual husband that is very powerful. He warned me never to discuss any of my plans with my wife again. That I should always tell her after the execution of such plans (plans that has to do with my business). I find it strange and hard to believe, what is the essence of having a wife if we can have 100% openness. I continue to discuss my business plans with wifey and they are always failing. Sometimes I will be too happy to hide it from her. (Lol)

We have a small car that is strictly for taking my son to school. My rent expired in May and there is no hope of money for me. Landlord is already on me. If I sell this last only car to pay this rent, what are we going to sell to pay the next rent? I think maybe we should separate for a while and when things change for better again, we can come together. I have not discussed this with my wife. Is this a right step? Her mum and her mum sis (they are both widows) has a big house here in Lagos, she can move to the house while I get a driving job with an accommodation package. This way, I can support and pay my son's school fee.

Please people advice me.

ubergold:
Quite Creative I must say. But wait o, first pre-wedding shoots, now maternity shoots, there's another gradually coming up called "gender reveal". Very soon it will become "compulsory. more pressure on the male folks if you ask me. One too many frivolities a man has to get involved with in the course of having a family.

Let's leave western culture alone Abeg.

LCMedia:
A drunk man who tried to impress a woman he met at a bar raced after her in a rented Lamborghini - but then crashed into a tree.
In a bid to win over the woman, the driver chased her in the Lamborghini and tried to impress by overtaking her on the street, she told police.

Traffic camera footage shows the Lamborghini Gallardo, rented for £648 per day, swerving right and then left on a highway.

The driver then veers into the other lane, losing control, before slamming into a tree.

The 22-year-old driver, whose surnamed is Teng, was found guilty of drink-driving and has been detained for further questioning in Jinhua City, China.

To add salt to the wounds, the woman then drove by the crash site and recorded a video mocking the man trying to win her affection.

But then she was also arrested for driving without a licence.

https://www.loadedcamp.com/forum/16463-man-tries-to-impress-woman-he-met-in-a-bar-by-racing-rented-lamborghini-but-crashes-it

bayocute:
There is this gal, we're a very close friends. She tells me almost everything that happens in her relationship. Last week thursday, she came to my house sobbing, she told me she caught her boyfriend with another woman. I felt for her and patted her on her back consolingly. It was late in the night and i told her to leave. She was like i will pass the night here. I wasn't comfortable with that but i let her stay.

I woke in the mid-night saw her crying, then i tried putting her back to sleep, but it happened so fast that we started kissing. I wanted to pull back but she draw me closer. Fast-forward, we had sex.

The next day, she accused me of raping her, telling me that i make used of that opportunity cos she confided in me. Since then, she won't pick my call if i call. I don't know how that resulted to rape seriously. What should i say to her pls nairalanders, cos i don't want to lose being friends with her. Thanks

Lalas247:
It is not rape BUT

You clearly lack self control
Look she was in a VULNERABLE state yes .. u clearly stated she woke up crying .. even if she begged you to sex her you should have been a good guy and said NO ! Yes she would have thanked you for it and even valued you more


So cause she crying u thought lets fuvk Wt kinda guy are you ..
please ladies careful who you cry to when your mind ain't right .. it's sex the guy will be thinking about shioor
YOU LACK SELF CONTROL ! YOU TOOK ADVANTAGE OF THE SITUATION ! scumbags up n down argh

Don't quote me

Papiikush:
Op, you only took advantage of the poor girl.

Ask yourself this question. Would she have allowed you fück her if she was mentally stable?

If your answer is NO, it means you took advantage of the situation to satisfy your sexual desires with her.

Kobicove:
You did not rape her but you took advantage of her while she was in a vulnerable situation

ikbnice:
she was in a vulnerable situation. You should obviously know better. It's not rape but he took advantage of the situation. The girl was only trying to save face by accusing her of rape. He should play his cards well and fhey might end up fvcking more.

Lalas247:
It is not rape BUT

You clearly lack self control
Look she was in a VULNERABLE state yes .. u clearly stated she woke up crying .. even if she begged you to sex her you should have been a good guy and said NO ! Yes she would have thanked you for it and even valued you more


So cause she crying u thought lets fuvk Wt kinda guy are you ..
please ladies careful who you cry to when your mind ain't right .. it's sex the guy will be thinking about shioor
YOU LACK SELF CONTROL ! YOU TOOK ADVANTAGE OF THE SITUATION ! scumbags up n down argh

Don't quote me

Efewestern:
AGBARHO— MEMBERS of the Pan Niger Delta Forum, PANDEF, from the Urhobo ethnic nationality in Delta and Bayelsa states, have called for the creation of New Delta State , covering the present Delta Central and Delta South senatorial districts, as recommended by the 2014 National Conference.

At a meeting in Agbarho, Ughelli North Local Government Area of the state, to review the forum’s activities, Urhobo- PANDEF members, who also passed a vote of confidence on Chief Edwin Clark, urged the Federal Government to expeditiously attend to the 16-point agenda of PANDEF.

They said: “We support the creation of more states, especially New Delta State , to encompass the present Delta Central and Delta South senatorial zones as recommended by the 2014 National Conference.”

The gathering, presided over by eminent Niger Delta leader, Professor G. G. Darah, had in attendance Professors S. W. E. Iboje, Temi Akporonor, A. S. Akpotor, Atare Otite, Victor Jike, Chief Emmanuel Okumagba, Chief Raphael Okene, Chief George Ugen, Chief Westham Adehor, Chief Ruth Timothy, Dr. Sunny Awhefeada, Mr. Peter Darah, among others. Professor Darah commended the group for convincing youths to lay down arms for dialogue, attributing the gradual economic stability being experienced by the nation to PANDEF’s intervention.

They resolved that oil companies operating in Urhobo land should move their headquarters to the area, while pipeline surveillance and security contracts for oil facilities in Urhobo land should be awarded to the Urhobo people.

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2017/09/urhobo-pandef-wants-new-delta-state/

kizyalex10:
yeah.is it new to u?have list of married ex's who re still struggling to warm my bed.see women nw cheat more than their spouse,but they re smarter.any girl u dated for so long,nd she gets married,no matter who she got married to,even d president of america,the chances of u laying her again,is easier than that of bill gate

Angy55:
Why do churches collect fees from intending couples before officiating the wedding? Some churches would even make it mandatory for the lady to pay all her tithe or else no wedding.
Nairalanders I need answers.

https://www.naij.com/amp/1124542-nigerian-church-sets-outrageous-demands-couple-married.html

kizyalex10:
my own case should be,if I have regretted talking to a girl,the answer is yes. That was my final year nd the way I was shunned bby dis girl nd d level of embarrassment was too difficult for me to handle.Well the good thing was dat,after 4 years,she was crawling to even be my sidde chick but iam nt a cheat.but even if iam,what she said to me on dat fateful day destroyed everytin I had for her.because she is so beautiful nd has eyes for money,as a guy who is. Nt working,i waasnt her class.she is nt goodd character wise cos I was swayed by her beauty.four years later after God smiled on me,she have turned to an slowpoke on my case.some guys in such situation will mess her up nd den dump her,but I showed her class.rejected all her advances till she got married,even nw,she is on my case.

skfa1:
Na wa for this thread o.