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loliapoopy2013:
Thank you so much, we are on it. I just don't know where to get an counseling center in P.H.

loliapoopy2013:
Am confused and don't know what to do. As am typing this message, am crying and devastated, my heart is broken into bits.

I have 2 sons, aged between 10 and 14. I have refused to live with any maid up till this time, fearing they might be abused.
Am into confectionaries, so despite my stressful business, I manage my boys as my husband works offshore.

A month ago, my mum brought a 19-years-old cousin who looks like a 14-year-old boy to assist me in kneading dough. I panicked because my husband has warned me never to bring any relatives to his house. But because he is a boy and my relative, and was very industrious, I never thought of anything evil, I let him stay.

Yesterday was my birthday, I didn't want to celebrate, but my friend brought me a cake which motivated me to go to the market to get goat meat for pepper soup.

According to my friend, immediately after I left the house, my 10year old son went to take his bath, and that's when my cousin followed. Not liking their movement, she went and peeped, and behold, she saw my cousin having anal sex with my 10-year-old son���. She started banging on the door and they immediately started taking their bath, pretending as if nothing happened.

My friend told me as I got back. I confronted my son about why did he not tell me. He said my cousin cut himself, drew out blood from his body, and warned him that if he tells anyone, he will die, fearing for his life, he refused to tell me. I asked him, why he didn't tell his elder brother, and he said his elder brother is always playing ball downstairs. I then ask him how many times have they done it, and he said almost 10 times. That at first he enjoyed it but he is beginning to feel pain and doesn't know how to end it. I ask my son to bend over, people! my son's anus is wide opened and filled with injury, ������

Please house, what do I do? These are my fears:

1. My son has been introduced to gay sex life by my evil cousin.
2. How can I help ( counsel) my son and rehabilitate him?
3. I might lose my marriage because my husband warned me to protect his kids from relatives.

I need advice from you guys please����������. Please, no insults. I will not purposely put my son in harm's way����.

Meektunz:
I came back home yesterday after a stressful day and my wife served me food, after eating i relaxed and was watching TV then she went out and bought something to eat and she didn't offer me, then i went out much later as well and bought something to eat. Then next thing was she started grumbling that I will buy something and eat alone, this and that.... Then I replied saying but you just finished eating something which you bought, how am i suppose to know that you will still be interested in eating mine. For peace to reign, i said oya sit down and eat with me if you want to. She became so angry, since yesterday she has refused to eat anything in the house uptil now. Please guys did i do anything bad? Why are women so manipulative?

Akinzo2121:
They deserve to live.....

Exquisitely:
I have been dating this guy for over 2 years. When we started dating, he had no job and I always encouraged him to get something doing no matter how small because he was always relying on his parents then.

He got jobs but quit working without telling me, I got to find out later. Due to these issues, he couldn't afford to pay for his apartment, so he had to relocate to his parents house.

He got a job in the same area as his parents house and he only looked for it because I told him I wasn't comfortable with him not working, as someone in his late 20s. As a lady, I try to make sure I work, plan my life and look for opportunities with prospects, but he doesn't do these things. He is comfortable with the way things are going for him.

He's been working for some months now but there is nothing to show for it, he is not even trying to get a high paying job, start a business, learn a skill or leave his comfort zone.
Mind you, I don't ask him for anything since he is not even doing well for himself yet.

This guy is proposing marraige, but I don't want to accept because he doesn't have a vision, neither does he have concrete plans or prospect. I'm afraid getting married to him would mean I'll be carrying all the burden while married, since he is even comfortable with the way things are for him now. I'm tired of having this discussion with him.

Please I need suggestions on what you'd likely do if you find yourself in my situation.

mokal:
I don't know how to advice my friend. So he started dating this lady less than 4 weeks ago, but then the lady started putting up some negative vibe all because my friend didn't introduce her to his dad when he came around. Yea, she also wasn't happy because my friend didn't save her name with a romantic name like sweetheart, my love etc.
Note this relationship isn't up to 1 month oooo. And because of these two reasons, she called my friend a liar, deceitful person. Just leave them with their wahala... they'll both be fine las las

I just feel this lady should calm down naaa, right now my guy dey vex. Doesn't even want to talk to her.

Spray:
Little wins in my career struggle they discussed among themselves, make mockery of me behind me when i Bought a car, and they said it has no second hand value, after like four to five years, they struggle to buy that same car they discredited.
Joseph (Not real name) will tell me this what Charles said (Not real name too). But Charles has never in a day tell me this is what Joseph said behind me.

Any little opportunity Joseph have with me,he bring conversation him and Charles had. How Charles envy and hatted me so much.

I summoned courage to reach out to Charles, by telling him, why is it that whenever he's with people, he bring my issues, even the trivial ones that we always laugh together. He said the person telling me all of these is exaggerating.

Why I confronted him is that, I want to do away with both of them for life, so that they won't be surprised seeing me avoiding them.

Because this has been happening for years and it's telling on my mental health. Even women hardly behaves like this, these days.

I really do not know if I over reacted by confronting Charles for all his shenanigans

300whitewolves:
As a result of election drawing nearer, people that were kidnapped by the bokoharam sect are being released. Don't you think this is a move to think the government is working or to make the people sympathize with the government.

Crazychris:
I met this very pretty girl some few months ago, I got attracted to her immediately I set my eyes on her beautiful angel with a banging body, she looks very innocent, she hasn't learned much about life and was a virgin too. All of a sudden we started dating sha, but deep down with me I think she got attracted to me because I got money and with nice ride so I don't really fancy the idea of marrying her.
She been complaining since last week but I didn't take her serious now I think the thing don become serious now as she dey vomit since.
She's 19 years old and her papa is very strict if he finds out him fit snipe me.

Somebody should please prescribe me drug I can give her.

Gabless:
I am 28 years old, a graduate of one of the university in South West. I work as a contract staff in a bank
I met this guy about a year ago through my best female friend, and the journey started. I took him to my parents and he also took me to his parents too, and the wedding preparation started. We were suppose to do family introduction but my parents says there is no need considering some logistic reasons. Although my mum has her reservation conserving him. But since my father has no objection I think am good to go.
He has sent money for some preparation since he is not residing in Lagos. The problem started after I went to idumota with my aunt to buy our engagement clothes. It was my aunt that drove me to the market. When we returned, my fiance called me, we talked for some times, but he couldn't appreciate my aunt for her kind gesture. Although my aunt didn't say anything that day but she wasn't happy. My dad also complained that.he has been rude to him. The same goes with my mum.
The last straw that broke the Carmels back was when he was arguing with my aunt over the phone. He did not know I was in my aunt's house that particular day. I wasn't happy at all, thinking that if he would not regard my parents how would he treat me after marriage, so I confronted him the second day over the phone, telling him that I'm not happy about the way my parents where complaining about him, and that attitude of him is creating fear in me. Instead for him to be a little remoseful and even call those people and apologize, he was arguing with me, still in my aunt's house. So I told him, maybe we should put the preparation on hold thinking he would at least try and apologize to them. He just said, is that what you want and ended the call.
Everyone was surprised. He didn't call back it was his mum that called my mum, she didn't even persuade them to stop me from taking such step, and the guy too didn't call me for like too weeks until when I called him and he said he wasn't interested in the marriage again.
Actually,I wasn't happy and I have been downcasted since then, but on the other hand, May l ask this question does this guy really loves me?. Is he really mature enough for marriage. Is it all my fault? Please don't insult or abuse me. I just want to know if it's all my fault.