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Cashsteady:
yh ngl I'm gonna agree to this especially Nigerian girls they expect u to do the talking why they do the replying.no initiative at all... I just pray God answers my prayer make I japa. I'm tired of Nigerian girls honestly. very boring set of people

Uncle93:
Y'all should try seeing a movie together on one of ur phones.. Maybe horror or thriller.

Or just talk about further plans .. And maybe just start up one unessecary drama lol

adadike:
Why should David not visit his daughter in the first place? Chioma should understand that this guy have other kids from other women. The other kids deserves fatherly love and attention and infact we all do.

KevUnique:
Thanks for updating.... Anyways,I can totally understand why you feel "best doesn't exist" and why you opted to stay single (dating but not for love) But, you should have a better understanding of men by now. I mean, after all the experiences you've had with them. So, you can see a good man from afar, and you can equally see a playboy from a mile away. You should be able to discern.
I, myself, am single. Do I like it? Well....... Let's just say I am very selective and scared of being used and played for a fool, or something. In essence, what I'm trynna say is that I prefer being single and u bothered, even if it means denying myself of the few pleasures having a partner has to offer. let's face it, it's mostly the physical gratification and pleasures that most of us go into relationships for, especially when we see that the person with whom we are dating is not who we would ideally want to end up with. We all know we have our parameters for choosing our "spec", as most like to term it.
In all, just let your current partner know how you feel about him, know your past heart breaks and know that you are not with him in hopes of marrying him. This way, expectations and hopes are not dashed/killed.
From what you've said, I deduced that you have given up hope in finding a suitable (since you said no more bests men exist anymore) man for yourself. You know look to money and self-happiness to as top priorities. Well, so why are you then dating him? Money? sex? Just know that you are human and if you keep having sex with him(let's assume you will) you will likely fall in love with him as time passes, even if he is not who you would consider your type of man, if you have one. Sex makes people think they live someone..it's all in the mind. That's not to underestimate the power of sexual oneness oo,and would ties arising from sexual intercourse. I'm sure you know what I mean here. Needles to go into all of that now.
Will you like it if a man was just dating you for fun sake, and not for the sake of love? Hope you can answer this truthfully. You don't owe me an explanation, but I'd just like us to be sincere here.
Because, this is what you are doing with whoever is your current partner right now. Is it fair? Does he know? Would you also like that to be done to you? Do some soul-searching and answer those questions to yourself.
If you ask me, I'll advice that you should break up with the man soonest. Why? Cause it's not what your heart yearns for. You won't love him, based off of the things you have made me to understand about you. Fornication won't do any of us too well, sweetie. It soon fades away and then we start feeling empty again. It's like nothing really satisfies. We still yearn for that fulfilment, that man that you can beat your chest and say, "this is a man I love without a doubt."
The "my own-man mentality" Until you find that person, you will see that nothing else will satisfy you as far as relationships are concerned. I know you want a good man. Why not search for him by being patient and commiting it into God's care? Yes o, God dwells in the affairs of men (Human beings) He cares about our well-being, even about us finding a good partner. But, we have to play by His rules, and not OURS. what rules, you may be asking? Well, to start with: You should not have physical sexual contact with a man you ain't married to.
As difficult as it may seem, it is possible. Self-control is learned. It's not inbuilt. One has to learn to want it, and then pursue it.
Deborah, I believe that's your name. You can turn your situation around, trust me. I don't know why it touched me reading through your comments , but I just feel you are searching for fulfilment. You want a good thing, but it seems you keep making the same mistakes and trusting your own judgements in a hurry. Be patient. Maybe you feel age-wise you are being left behind, due to the fact that you have friends who are already married. Well, sometimes we have to bear the consequences of our past actions and choices. Hurrying into relationships in the past does have its ways of making us miss who is good for us, especially if we now add sex to the equation. That one is just a recipe for disaster, albeit few people actually know this.
when I was still a bad boy, I'd date and hurriedly want to have sex with the girl. I even will seek other girls who were willing to have sex with me, just to get that thrill and satisfaction that a man feels when he is "conquering" different girls sexually. Little did I know that I was digging my own grave. Well, I still bear the consequences till date, but I'm thankful to God for His mercies, anyways. I should have been more patient, is the moral lesson here. If I was, then I won't have had sex and the hurt won't be that much if a break-up arose. It's the sex that usually makes us feel attached and betrayed.
"after I have him my body. Ahhh...See what he did! He cheated on me......" I used this as an example if what a girl would say.
But if there was no sex, we might hear things like
'Ah, thank God self that he did not see my unclothedness, even. He didn't choo me and leave.'
You get it now , right? Ehen.....
So, after all this long talk, I hope you can pick the vital points, if at all you feel there are any. I really want you to be happy and I want to hear that you found someone who makes you happy and complete. I'm not saying that a man must complete you oh, but you get what I mean here.
Hmmm, Deborah is the name of my immediate past, and last girlfriend. And we call her Debby too, for shorts. Eeya...Anywhere I hear this name I'm quickly reminded about her.
Try and take a few of my advice and see if it brings any changes. Let's just hope for the best, though.
Good luck, Debby. I won't mind an update later on in the distant future oo. I don't know why your matter concerns me....I wish age was not a determining factor, especially in a country like Naija.
Oh well,... *hugs* Be good.

KevUnique:
Thanks for updating.... Anyways,I can totally understand why you feel "best doesn't exist" and why you opted to stay single (dating but not for love) But, you should have a better understanding of men by now. I mean, after all the experiences you've had with them. So, you can see a good man from afar, and you can equally see a playboy from a mile away. You should be able to discern.
I, myself, am single. Do I like it? Well....... Let's just say I am very selective and scared of being used and played for a fool, or something. In essence, what I'm trynna say is that I prefer being single and u bothered, even if it means denying myself of the few pleasures having a partner has to offer. let's face it, it's mostly the physical gratification and pleasures that most of us go into relationships for, especially when we see that the person with whom we are dating is not who we would ideally want to end up with. We all know we have our parameters for choosing our "spec", as most like to term it.
In all, just let your current partner know how you feel about him, know your past heart breaks and know that you are not with him in hopes of marrying him. This way, expectations and hopes are not dashed/killed.
From what you've said, I deduced that you have given up hope in finding a suitable (since you said no more bests men exist anymore) man for yourself. You know look to money and self-happiness to as top priorities. Well, so why are you then dating him? Money? sex? Just know that you are human and if you keep having sex with him(let's assume you will) you will likely fall in love with him as time passes, even if he is not who you would consider your type of man, if you have one. Sex makes people think they live someone..it's all in the mind. That's not to underestimate the power of sexual oneness oo,and would ties arising from sexual intercourse. I'm sure you know what I mean here. Needles to go into all of that now.
Will you like it if a man was just dating you for fun sake, and not for the sake of love? Hope you can answer this truthfully. You don't owe me an explanation, but I'd just like us to be sincere here.
Because, this is what you are doing with whoever is your current partner right now. Is it fair? Does he know? Would you also like that to be done to you? Do some soul-searching and answer those questions to yourself.
If you ask me, I'll advice that you should break up with the man soonest. Why? Cause it's not what your heart yearns for. You won't love him, based off of the things you have made me to understand about you. Fornication won't do any of us too well, sweetie. It soon fades away and then we start feeling empty again. It's like nothing really satisfies. We still yearn for that fulfilment, that man that you can beat your chest and say, "this is a man I love without a doubt."
The "my own-man mentality" Until you find that person, you will see that nothing else will satisfy you as far as relationships are concerned. I know you want a good man. Why not search for him by being patient and commiting it into God's care? Yes o, God dwells in the affairs of men (Human beings) He cares about our well-being, even about us finding a good partner. But, we have to play by His rules, and not OURS. what rules, you may be asking? Well, to start with: You should not have physical sexual contact with a man you ain't married to.
As difficult as it may seem, it is possible. Self-control is learned. It's not inbuilt. One has to learn to want it, and then pursue it.
Deborah, I believe that's your name. You can turn your situation around, trust me. I don't know why it touched me reading through your comments , but I just feel you are searching for fulfilment. You want a good thing, but it seems you keep making the same mistakes and trusting your own judgements in a hurry. Be patient. Maybe you feel age-wise you are being left behind, due to the fact that you have friends who are already married. Well, sometimes we have to bear the consequences of our past actions and choices. Hurrying into relationships in the past does have its ways of making us miss who is good for us, especially if we now add sex to the equation. That one is just a recipe for disaster, albeit few people actually know this.
when I was still a bad boy, I'd date and hurriedly want to have sex with the girl. I even will seek other girls who were willing to have sex with me, just to get that thrill and satisfaction that a man feels when he is "conquering" different girls sexually. Little did I know that I was digging my own grave. Well, I still bear the consequences till date, but I'm thankful to God for His mercies, anyways. I should have been more patient, is the moral lesson here. If I was, then I won't have had sex and the hurt won't be that much if a break-up arose. It's the sex that usually makes us feel attached and betrayed.
"after I have him my body. Ahhh...See what he did! He cheated on me......" I used this as an example if what a girl would say.
But if there was no sex, we might hear things like
'Ah, thank God self that he did not see my unclothedness, even. He didn't choo me and leave.'
You get it now , right? Ehen.....
So, after all this long talk, I hope you can pick the vital points, if at all you feel there are any. I really want you to be happy and I want to hear that you found someone who makes you happy and complete. I'm not saying that a man must complete you oh, but you get what I mean here.
Hmmm, Deborah is the name of my immediate past, and last girlfriend. And we call her Debby too, for shorts. Eeya...Anywhere I hear this name I'm quickly reminded about her.
Try and take a few of my advice and see if it brings any changes. Let's just hope for the best, though.
Good luck, Debby. I won't mind an update later on in the distant future oo. I don't know why your matter concerns me....I wish age was not a determining factor, especially in a country like Naija.
Oh well,... *hugs* Be good.

Charles4000:
Hahaha.... your so funny...

Charles4000:
So what if Nah you come cheat

freethesheeple:
Sure!!!

E no easy to be single and ready for Marriage. Only then will you find out that 90% of the ladies are into Runs, 8% are way above 45 to 47 and very Desperate to Marry while the 2% of the good women are VERY HARD TO FIND.

If you Marry a good woman Please:Shower her with love, gifts and Respect!!!!

Jeon:
What about men? c'mon stop siding ur gender and bashing the other.

Shellsploit:
And that panty go dey ooze like ogili
Anyway na she alone go dey perceive the smell of her ozone layer...not every lady panties smells abeg







Lalasticlala sef

KevUnique:
lol, this thing is kinda funny. So, update us o. How's it been ever since then? have you been able to find someone, wether off Nairaland, or on it?
Awww, I just wish you happiness sha...I've seen the way you reply most comments and it shows you really just want to settle down with a good person for once. And, your body count self is not even too much, based on this our generation of girls that have even lost count of theirs. Just go close to your God, He alone can give you the best men available....Lol, I am not a motivational speaker ooo... I just want u to find your happiness, noni. But prayers for this kind of issue actually works. God knows our hearts desires.

Pegi23:
Bleep love. It hurt

Love is wicked...

KevUnique:
lol, this thing is kinda funny. So, update us o. How's it been ever since then? have you been able to find someone, wether off Nairaland, or on it?
Awww, I just wish you happiness sha...I've seen the way you reply most comments and it shows you really just want to settle down with a good person for once. And, your body count self is not even too much, based on this our generation of girls that have even lost count of theirs. Just go close to your God, He alone can give you the best men available....Lol, I am not a motivational speaker ooo... I just want u to find your happiness, noni. But prayers for this kind of issue actually works. God knows our hearts desires.

Kriss216:
Bravo. You did well.



Never love or be in relationship with a girl out of pity. Niggalatian 3:16

setobaba:
You will be rejecting haylf a million

seanwilliam:
Ohh my bad..

Can you pls help me with 2k sis

seanwilliam:
Watch out the bolded , it’s a trap!

seanwilliam:
what is 2k? How many people u don dash 2k for your life?