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Must a guy know all his girlfriend's male friends? Must a girl know all her boyfriend's female friends? It was a long debate last night at my house. Some claimed that it interfere with their privacy while others claim that if there is nothing to hide, then why not.

So I brought it to my fellow friends here to analyse the issue. Give your answer from your own perspective.

Andre Uweh:
Interesting website. However, it is wrong to use Ibo instead of Igbo in this 21st century. Also, Anioma is not only Enuani but includes Ika and Ukwuani.

Thank you for your corrections. It has been updated.

What is the ideal gift to give to lover at christmas?

Every human has one funny/strange behaviour. Let's talk about our strange behaviours.

Here is mine:

I find it so strange that no events or activities moved me. For example, during events like christmas, friend's birthday, win presents, or even when I'm told that a close friend lost his relation or a close friend is dead, I'm hardly move. If I lost something so important to me, I don't allow it to bother me for more than an hour.And I gain something so great, I feel happy but since it is already mine, I don't keep celebrating it. Some years back my ex-girlfriend told me that she wants to break up,  my response was "Let's do it sharply". She was like "What a f, u, ck, does it mean that you don't love me all these while.  My guys, when a girl's heart is no longer with you, what good is it to you begging her. That is why I like one of R.Kelly track "When A Women Is Fed Up"

Let's hear yours

More response please

mukina2:
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-1026.0.html

Your thread was about attacking someone, so it got locked.

If that is what you said, then I guess your computer is Window 8 because it is the only OS that has the ability to read upside down. It keeps you from seeing other attackers.

I always have a lot of free time. Sometimes, I don't have to work for a 2weeks - a month. I have a girlfriend who is so proud of introducing me to all her friends. She has proved thousands of times that she loves me. I know she is so faithful. To me, she is just a finger print

The situation now is that I'm moving to another area. Before, when I'm free, she is always around me.

What are the best way to spend a free time especially when your soul mate isn't around.

He starts his own Cartoon Movie Studio. His dream is produce movies like Disney Company.

As a true friend of his, he asked me what it takes to achieve his goals, what he should study, skills he should possess because he wants to wants to know the direction before embarking on his goal.

We mention at least learning having some knowledge of the below softwares which I promise to give him the video tutorials of the mention software.
3Ds Max
- Maya
- Cinema 4D
- Blender

Your advice and opinion will highly be appreciated. If you can suggest books good books, it is also fine.

How many of the books do you need? You can chat with me at deco2comebookhelp@yahoo.com

Tink_sh:
It really depends. If the man had it all before marriage. How long they are married. But if he had nothing and they built together and she was a good faithful wife while he built a business then absolutely it should be divided. If he had property etc before they married then its his to do with as he pleases.

Very good answer from you. Don't you think the law will support a lady that persist that she will share the property with her husband despite her family not having a nickel before she married the man. In such condition, if you are the man, what will you do?

Like most western countries, when a man divource with his wife, he must be ready to part with some of his properties. If such a law is to be pass in Nigeria today, are you in support of  it or against it?

It will be nice if you can support your view with reasons.

I posted the topic ([url=https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-494648.0.html[/b]]https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-494648.0.html[/url]) below and within some a few minutes, it was locked down. And the person in question still post and reply post freely.

Some posts don't deserved to be ban but they were automatically locked down or banned. I'm not trying to tell the administrator how he/she should run his site.

All I want to say is if you must lock or ban, do it fairly or should I say use your church mind.

Can someone please tell me why such a person that find strength in spreading hatred, racism, or problem between the Igbos, Yoruba, and Hausa, still has access to post or reply to a post.

In politics sector ----------- He is a virus in human form.
In Trade sector------------- He is nairaland economy terminator
In Roman sector ----------- He kills love faster than rat poison
In Education sector ----------- I bet you won't dream of him to be your mentor

Tell me which sector he remain a cool head fellow. I guess the answer is none

If moderators can't ban someone that out of every 3 posts his, two are hatred and the remaining one is supporting racism, then everyone can be a moderator.

If you're at the beach, taking a walk, at a garden, shopping, etc, and you noticed that your hubby has lost concentration in your chat. The reason being that your hubby was busy staring at one fine/sexy dude/chick.

What would be your reaction?

[size=19pt]IF YOU BELIEVED THIS STORY, YOU CAN BELIEVED ANYTHING[/size]

NOVOZAVIDOVO, Russia—People in this Russian town used to stare at Jean Gregoire Sagbo because they had never seen a black man. Now they say they see in him something equally rare—an honest politician.

Sagbo last month became the first black to be elected to office in Russia.

In a country where racism is entrenched and often violent, Sagbo's election as one of Novozavidovo's 10 municipal councilors is a milestone. But among the town's 10,000 people, the 48-year-old from the West African country of Benin is viewed simply a Russian who cares about his hometown.

He promises to revive the impoverished, garbage-strewn town where he has lived for 21 years and raised a family. His plans include reducing rampant drug addiction, cleaning up a polluted lake and delivering heating to homes.

"Novozavidovo is dying," Sagbo said in an interview in the ramshackle municipal building. "This is my home, my town. We can't live like this."

"His skin is black but he is Russian inside," said Vyacheslav Arakelov, the mayor. "The way he cares about this place, only a Russian can care."

Sagbo isn't the first black in Russian politics. Another West African, Joaquin Crima of Guinea-Bissau, ran for head of a southern Russian district a year ago but was heavily defeated.

Crima was dubbed by the media "Russia's Obama." Now they've shifted the title to Sagbo, much to his annoyance.

"My name is not Obama. It's sensationalism," he said. "He is black and I am black, but it's a totally different situation."

Inspired by communist ideology, Sagbo came to Soviet Russia in 1982 to study economics in Moscow. There he met his wife, a Novozavidovo native. He moved to the town about 100 kilometers (65 miles) north of Moscow in 1989 to be close to his in-laws.

Today he is a father of two, and negotiates real estate sales for a Moscow conglomerate. His council job is unpaid.

Sagbo says neither he nor his wife wanted him to get into politics, viewing it as a dirty, dangerous business, but the town council and residents persuaded him to run for office.

They already knew him as a man of strong civic impulse. He had cleaned the entrance to his apartment building, planted flowers and spent his own money on street improvements. Ten years ago he organized volunteers and started what became an annual day of collecting garbage.

He said he feels no racism in the town. "I am one of them. I am home here," Sagbo said.

He felt that during his first year in the town, when his 4-year-old son Maxim came home in tears, saying a teenage boy spat at him. Sagbo ran outside in a rage, demanding that the spitter explain himself. Women sitting nearby also berated the teenager. Then the whole street joined in.

Russia's black population hasn't been officially counted but some studies estimate about 40,000 "Afro-Russians." Many are attracted by universities that are less costly than in the West. Scores of them suffer racially motivated attacks every year—49 in Moscow alone in 2009, according to the Moscow Protestant Chaplaincy Task Force on Racial Violence and Harassment, an advocacy group.

After the Soviet Union collapsed, Novozavidovo's industries were rapidly privatized, leaving it in financial ruin.

High unemployment, corruption, alcoholism and pollution blight what was once an idyllic town, just a short distance from the Zavidovo National Park, where Prime Minister Vladimir Putin and President Dmitry Medvedev take nature retreats.

Denis Voronin, a 33-year-old engineer in Novozavidovo, said Sagbo was the town's first politician to get elected fairly, without resorting to buying votes

"Previous politicians were all criminals," he said.

A former administration head—the equivalent of mayor in rural Russia—was shot to death by unknown assailants two years ago.

The post is now held by Arakelov, a veteran of the Soviet war in Afghanistan who says he also wants to clean up corruption. He says money used to constantly disappear from the town budget and is being investigated by tax police.

Residents say they pay providers for heat and hot water, but because of ineffective monitoring by the municipality they don't get much of either. The toilet in the municipal building is a room with a hole in the floor.

As a councilor, Sagbo has already scored some successes. He mobilized residents to collect money and turn dilapidated lots between buildings into colorful playgrounds with new swings and painted fences.

As he strolled around his neighborhood everyone greeted him and he responded in his fluent, French-African-accented Russian. Boys waved to Sagbo, who had promised them a soccer field.

Sitting in the newly painted playground with her son, Irina Danilenko said it was the only improvement she has seen in the five years she has lived here.

"We don't care about his race," said Danilenko, 31. "We consider him one of us."

[url=http://www.denverpost.com/rawnews/ci_15598966[/b]]http://www.denverpost.com/rawnews/ci_15598966[/url]

Everyone seems to missed an important question [size=14pt]" HOW MUCH WAS IN THE ACCOUNT?"[/size]

I know all the secret passwords( e-mail accounts, bank accounts, credit card accounts, etc) of my girl and she knows my e-mail accounts passwords. But the moment she ask for my bank details, I will avoid the question.

She always feel pain because she thinks that I don't trust her(but claimed to love her) by not giving out my password.

Men na condition make crayfish bend.

If you are in my shoes, what is the best way to solve this issue?


Updated

After reading the 31 response so far, I decided to explain to those who said I'm selfish. The truth is, the way I know her passwords is the same way you fall in love with your ex-hubby, present hubby or hubby to be. You don't wake up to today and shout " I'm gonna fall in love with lola today!!!!!! and immediately you open your door, behold Lola is standing at your door". No way!!, it doesn't happen( but only in movies).

What I mean is that everything comes naturally, the same way, I know her password through one circumstance or another. I didn't ask for it and she don't care to change them.

I have given her my password before on an emergency situation but I changed it immediately. On another emergency, when I told her the new password, she felt disappointed that I change the password because she new the old one. She equates it to lack of trust.

That brought up this question.

ROSSIKE:
You can't really blame them. Afterall when last did you see a picture of a properly built house in Africa shown on BBC or CNN?

These western  media houses (and even Al Jazeera) have made it their duty to present Africa as 100 times less developed than it really is.

This is why you get asked such questions by non-Africans. It's based on what they see in their media, and read in their books.

That is a nice you made up there！ I'm still waiting for the I will turn foreign magazine concerning Africa without seeing pictures of ladies ( God knows their country) wearing big ear rings like the size of my belt or children children drinking from a big plate while house fly is queuing for their turn to drinking from the same plate.

Have you noticed that most websites about feeding the poor always have pictures of Africans or black people. Even other education supporting websites have pictures of Africans or black people？

cystein:
Lets get talking cyrill@ke.jokafrica.net

I check your email but you are not online. How can we chat to get the business going?

Anytime I finished drinking pap, I will feel weak for about an hour. Then after that, my mandigo will stand erect for most of the day. The second day, it will repeat but during the third day everything will start coming back to normal.

Is this thing normal? Is anyone having the same experience?