dfo12: that is another point to look at it from. Npower is not a permanent job but a form of training scheme. I missed the last one by not writing the exams cos of this info and now it has popped up again.
dfo12: I hear alot of people saying that once you are enrolled on the npower platform, you cannot get another job with the Federal Government. Reason is because the BVN will reflect such and therefore cannot be paid twice by the Federal Government. Please how true is this?
Cc: lalasticlala
That can't be true! What of people that change federal government jobs.
jennyluv090: Can somebody tell me where I have gone wrong. We have been married for 3 years and have a lovely son. We both want another child but my husband hardly touches me. He asked me to move to my room because the cry of the baby disturbs him at night. Now when I need sex badly i have to go to his room start initiate sex. No pre-intimacy. Most times, he tells me he s tired. On the other times he would penetrate me and even before i become wet in 3o seconds, he has released. I really dont know how to handle this. I love my husband. Im sure he s battling on how to solve his problem but he keeps blaming me infront of his family that i am the reason we dont have a second child. I have been tempted on one or 2 occasions to tell them about his bedroom problems, but i choose to save his ego.
Please help out!!
This got me " I have been tempted on one or 2 occasions to tell them about his bedroom problems, but i choose to save his ego." But I think @thorpido has said all that I would have said!
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Just called the MTN and one Joseph is picking the call and doesn't even understand anything about the ad.
HRtechnique: Three things that will ensure your value at your workplace:
1. Self confidence - not pride or being delusional.
2. Communication - don't mistake this as talking too much.
3. Innovation - don't mistake this as being against process.
Explained...
Self confidence here means a belief in yourself and your ability. Confident enough to know that you are not perfect, you are limited but constant improvement is key to your success. You have to carry this around. A belief in possibilities, in your ability and a ritualistic act of self-education.
Communication is when you are able to pass a message across clearly to an audience both in writing and orally. This skill cannot be undervalued. In fact, it is one skill that is universal to all career choices. Learn it, practice it and be better at it.
Innovation is when you are able to constantly bring ideas that can improve a process not repel it. New ideas can discard old ones but your aim should be how to make something better not how something is not working. You want to be valued at work and also value yourself? Constantly think of adding value.
This three are interrelated and you have to be able to practice all to become a better version of yourself.
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This got me and I decided to run a search on her timeline and the comments...even her fellow South African women flawed her. I think she got jilted or something!
Brokenangel2: It's almost 12 midnight and I heard the door to the sitting room open. He walked in and of course slumps into one of the sofa where he'll sleep till tomorrow. It's either the sitting room or the children's room. This life... .. .. I was barely 23yrs old when we got married and he's few years older. I actually thought he was all over me, now I look back and believe all that was pretence. Where have I gone wrong? I love this guy in a manner that makes me doubt my own sanity. Yes.. . I doubt if all is well with my brain. It amazes me why I still put up with a man who doesn't deserve even a prostitute. A man who has no regard for me, not even an iota of it. A man who thinks he is alpha and omega. I literally adores him, even after two kids in our marriage I break necks when I walk the streets. I am neater and sexier than most single ladies out there. I respect him, I'm a good cook, educated, brilliant, smart and beautiful. Nobody who knows me will believe I'm passing through hell in the hands of a man I love with all my heart. This life... It's damn funny how even my female friends jokingly ask me if my hubby let's me sleep at night. Who will believe me that we've been intimate just twice thrice this year. Those were even in the early months. This is not the first time he is depriving me of intimacy for months. It's just that for the first time... I'm seeing possibilities of me having an affair. Did I just say that? *sobs* Me of all women? The one who prides in her fidelity as a married woman? The same woman who brags that even at gunpoint, no other man will have his way? The same woman who says even for a trillion pounds? Hahaha this life is really unfair. The once virtuous woman now stays up late into the night watching pornographic films while masturbating. How I feel like stabbing myself to death each time. The guilt on my face when I look at my innocent kids sleeping peacefully on my matrimonial bed which I now share with them. My husband is now my flatmate. Now that God has taken us to a height of relaxation, he chose to spite me. I've tried all I can to breach the gap between us but to no avail. I've been the one begging for affection and even sex. To hell with sex, I can do without it for years but God knows lack of affection will be my death. I keep telling him that he'll look back one day and regret all of this, it's one thing I'm sure of. I didn't force myself on him to marry me. I didn't tie him with any pregnancy. Why me of all people? I love my kids more than life itself, a thousand times I've made up my mind to walk out. I'm not scared of facing life without him, he knows I'm a legit hustler who can place food on the table for myself and the kids. I'm more scared of becoming everything I swore never to be. I'm more scared of even killing him, myself or the kids out of depression one day. I'm so confused, I'm a shadow of myself. I'm breaking each passing day. I'm loosing hope each passing day. The worst of it is that he doesn't believe in communication. He just won't let that happen. How do I let him know he is slowly rewriting all the plans we had for ourselves and the kids? How do I let him know these kids we both adore will suffer most anyday I lose grip and decide to let go? How do I let him know that I wake up some nights, walk over to where he is sleeping, stare at him with so much anguish, pain and tears... While fighting back the urge to just stab him to death. How do I let him know that the true love I have for him is gradually turning into pure hatred? How do I let him know that I'm not sure of the next thing I might do? How do I open his eyes to see what those strange women have succeeded in doing to us? No ooooo I refuse to join you in the madness, adultery is one sin I've sworn NEVER to commit. I'll take a walk. I don't even know if I'm making sense at all but my chest is sooooooo heavy tonight.
I wonder what's happening to marriages and real love these days. Sometimes I become afraid of even getting married. However, I've sworn to follow my dad's footsteps; to go against all odds, just to love my future wife and make her happy till death do us part.
...look for a way to talk to him, either through his parents, mentor or some friends he listens to. Please, don't think of anything silly, it will hurt you eventually.
This will be the first time I'll be asking for relationship advice on here since I've been on Nairaland
I've been dating this girl for some months now,I really love her a lot but she has some issues
Lemme explain, when we started dating she was the perfect girl until after about a month, I noticed any time she was with my phone she would go through my WhatsApp. Any time I confront her about it she'll accuse of me of cheating and hiding things from her and because of the that we had a big fight, I tried calling her to apologize but she avoided my calls,it was not until she got into a fight with one of her friends because she was checking his WhatsApp that she apologized and we settled. Now to the latest,I observed that she loved reporting every little issue we have to my friends,which I don't like (I like my privacy) she actually reported our relationship to a friend of mine who I'm not in talking terms with, in the course of the guy trying to intervene, he insulted me so much, he called me a liar so many times and I couldn't do anything cos my girlfriend was the one who involved him. After the chat I got in touch with my girlfriend and told her politely that I didn't like the way she carried our relationship issues to my friends, that my friends' girlfriends never reported their issues to me they way she did to them and she exploded, she called names,she started crying saying I should give her space because I'm making her regret getting into the relationship. Now she hasn't answered my calls since then. She doesn't respect me at all,she makes me feel as if I'm maltreating her, she doesnt take anything i say and does anything she sees fit. please should I continue with the relationship or not.
PS: she's the only daughter of her family, could it be the reason she acts like this?
It's an attitudinal thing and I bet you, it will be DIFFICULT for her to change it. It's natural for any girl to feel insecure but hers..hell no! If you can't live with it, call off the r/ship now that it's still green.
Benita27: Is it part of the company policy that you'd have to give them a month notice should incase you feel like resigning?. Were you told this before you took on the job?.
It's a standard practice in structured organisations. It's also written in the appointment letter.
Forget what you hear, that could just be an aerial camera. A lot of organisations use them these days and they come in different shapes and sizes. That could be owned by a media house. Gone are the days when fan powered cameras are used.
I don't think you needed to post those screenshots to prove. I've known Truexgold for over 4 years and don't think they are in for jokes. To the best of my knowledge, they are still one of the best in Nigeria. Do not forget, Nairaland's got trolls even though I realize you are trying to save image as someone's degrading reply could be misinterpreted by prospective clients.
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kahal29: Based on the information gathered by Abia Facts Newspaper, we learnt that Prof. Francis Ogbonnaya Otunta the Vice Chancellor of Michael Okpara University of Agriculture Umudike has concluded plans to sack no fewer than 400 University staff. Fear and apprehension has taken over the University of Agriculture as indications emerged that a large number of Staff whose appointments ought to be regularized will be shown the way out.
Our sources in the university who pleaded anonymity disclosed that the governing council of the university rising from their meeting agreed to sack the staff all of whom were employed by the former VC Prof Hilary Edeoga.
According to the source, most of the staff affected attended the regularisation interview conducted in 2016 by the former VC but did not collect their letters of regularization before the VC pulled out of the office.
However, the source added that immediately the new VC assumed office, he declared the regularisation interview inconclusive and mandated all affected staff to reapply stating why their appointments should be renewed. “We all reapplied though we were apprehensive that the new VC wanted to sack most of us and replace us with his kinsmen and friends, like he did when he was rector in Akanu Ibiam Federal Polytechnic, Unwana, Afikpo, Ebonyi State.
We were not surprised when news broke out that the governing council decided to sack all of us. We have been complaining about it right from the start when he declared the transparent and fair regularisation interview inconclusive.
Some of us were offered temporary appointments while others were head hunted to join the university from other universities. Majority of us were interviewed after sometime which is a standard civil service rule in a bid to regularise our appointments.
However, the former VC did not have time to sign the letters of regularisation or authorise the registrar to do same before activities marking his pulling out kick started.
Some weeks ago he set up a committee to look at the credentials of all staff involved with a view to sacking those whose certificates were questionable or those occupying positions they were not qualified to occupy.
The committee had neither concluded their work nor submitted their report before the VC presented the issue to Council that were just inaugurated and had their first meeting.
On many occasions while addressing staff, he told us that he does not want anybody to lose his/her job.
Imagine our shock that after the governing council meeting, information we got indicate that all of us will be sacked. In fact the decision was that all our arrears should be paid while our june salary will also be paid. The letters of termination will take effect from July 1.
The registrar has been mandated to sign the letters, though unverified sources say the registrar is unwilling to sign the letters”, our said said.
While I share their plight on the development, I will also want to highlight certain points:
-it is ethical for the new VC to declare the regularization inconclusive since his predecessor didn't sign the letters of regularization, hence, the reason he termed it inconclusive...no beef!
-there was a second chance for the affected staff to re-apply (though it could be politically motivated so as to exonerate himself of any blame of not conducting a second exercise to ascertain the authenticity of the former). In any case, I think Federal Jobs have some degree of security and you can't just be laid off or demoted without reasons tenable in any court/union.
-a committee was set up to look at the certificates of staff and this means; it is only those with irregularities that risk termination.
-as an under-graduate during his reign in AIFPU, I had the opportunity to meet him trice and listen to him talk, he is good at sanitizing systems. I do not take away the fact that it could have some political undertone but you can't take away the fact that he is not entirely wrong in his moves to straighten all whirled ropes. Talk about school politics, it is played everywhere. Just ensure that as a staff/employee, your credentials and means of gaining promotion aren't questionable.
-finally on this; The committee had neither concluded their work nor submitted their report before the VC presented the issue to Council that were just inaugurated and had their first meeting. While one can't conclude on the rationale behind this, there are lots of reasons actions of this nature are taken, one is: not being able to meet the deadline (and didn't apply for extension of time), he (the VC) could perceive it as a deliberate attempt to squash the exercise.
Dreamscometrue: ..I just don't know where to start from. I feel like ending it all. My husband just broke up with me because I am yet to conceive and he said he doesn't want IVF. We have only be trying for a year plus.
This is someone I did a lot of things for and now he has abandoned me.I don't know how to face my family.I feel so ashamed and devastated. God has really forsaken me...
How do I start my life afresh because I am so confused. It is not going to be easy for me because I have invested so much in this marriage.I have done so many things because of love.It is really hard for me.I am at the receiving end.
Will I be able to pull through this?
You mean a year plus or a couple of decades plus! If you ask me, I don't think he deserves you.
SingleDad: She got married 2014 to her supposed beloved husband, but recently she has being all over my life.
She has always being my friend, and we once had friendly intimacy most times. But when she got married, I had to distance myself from her. Recently, she has being calling, and trying to fix a get together meeting between us.
The disturbance was so much, I had to create out sometime to see her. She told me that , her husband couldn't function properly and they have done various medical evaluations, and realized that she could not produce babies, because her husband had a medical problem.
I gave her my humble advice, and told her to hope on God for the right time.
Okay!. So she told me that, we should resume our friendly intimacy, just the way it use to be back in the days!. She said, deep inside her, she couldn't seek for a better person, if not me....
I rebuked the ideology instantly, but she kept on persisting that I should please consider her lonely request. She really needs to feel like a woman!
Good people, what should i do? . She is married, and i don't wish to have anything to do with her. But her constant plea is getting me provoked.
What are your suggestions?
The question here is a baby, tell her to adopt a child; who knows, that could change the situation!
GlobalGisting: I just am still feeling somehow. Let me start from the top.
I moved into a new flat in Benin City recently. But I left my things in my other apt in Lagos. So I am still putting the House in order. I only have my electronics in the parlour but the rooms have been fixed up. I also have paid the guys making the seats but they are yet to finish up so in d interim I am using the carton of my TV to lay in the parlour while I watch TV whenever I'm home.
So this morning, I woke up said my prayers and stepped into the parlour. Opened the front door briefly and locked it, went back to my bathroom and washed my mouth. Then came back into the parlour to watch morning news.
I layed on the carton as I always do, but I was feeling some movement beneath the foamed part where I rest my head, at first I felt it was the from adjusting but on a second thought I got up to arrange it.
As I took the white foam up to shift it a little higher, lo and behold, a snake crawled out from beneath my "pillow". I felt like disappearing. I screamed snake and my cousin who came in yesterday ran out of his room and gallantly killed the snake.
Usually I don't get afraid, I killed animals and even went hunting in the past, but this was a close call. I've been so full of thanks to God. "Though I "sleep" on snakes...I shall not be bitten.
My chair must be finished tomorrow wether they like it or not. I've been patient enough.
Make Una thank God for me oo
Just wondering; how/from where did it enter? You just threw me out of bed! I detest this creature!
sweerychick: Good evening viewers! i have this issue has been bothering me, and i dont know if i can cope with it anymore particularly now we are making plans to settle down after my NYSC.
My man is too attached to his mum almost like an addiction. at first i was cool with it because his dad is late and i like guys that are close to their mums, but my man own is creepy and freaking me out. he calls his mum almost every hour, morning, afternoon, evening and even midnight calls.
One day his mum complained of headache, he almost left his office just to buy his mum drugs despite his mum telling him it's not serious, when i tried confronting him about this he told me that his mum is his soul and if his mum dies he would die along with her too, with all seriousness he told me this.
I've been very uncomfortable since that statement from him and it's making me have a rethink whether i can cope with him as a spouse.. please advice me..
I was reading other comments until I got to @thorpido whom I think has solved your puzzle. If he's the man he should be by taking his decisions without his mum influencing it, then that's cool but if he's the mummy's boy that is still controlled by the mum like a child, then watch cos his mum will run your family for you!
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