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code9:
I am in the midst of applying for a new job. I have interviewed three times with a prospective employer and have been told that I am one of the final candidates for the position.

The HR rep contacted me and asked if they can contact my current manager/supervisor for a reference. I explained that I would prefer they not contact my manager, since it may jeopardize my standing with my current employer. They keep insisting that they speak with my current manager, but I am afraid that if they do, my current employer may let me go in layoffs or attempt to force me out of the job somehow (i.e., re-assign, transfer, etc).

Am I obligated to provide the reference to the prospective employer? I feel that their insistence is unprofessional and inappropriate. What if they contact my employer and end up not offering me the job? Or what if I don’t accept the job offer? What is the best way to handle this without losing either job?


Please do the needful

It might just be a strategy (psychologically) to ascertain if you have a good relationship with your current employer.

It is unprofessional for them to contact your current employer when they've not given you an appointment. The most they can do is to verify if you actually work in that organisation and HRs know how they do it without the company knowing they wanna pull you out. Some interviewers will ask you if they have a permission from you to contact your employer, simply tell them yes-most of them will never do.

I would have told them from day one that they are free to contact my employer if I were in your shoes. It shows that you are confident enough and has nothing to fear about whatever enquiry they are making.

adewap2018:
I need a good advise please

SLT. Considering employability.

iyaayi:
My live in brother in law of whom we are agemates barged into my room unannounced this morning. I was totally naked & had to dive under the bed from the shame & shock.

He stood there apologising that he didn't know i was in the room (we had met outside by the clothes line a short while ago).
The most painful part is that my husband who was lying in d bed in the room didn't find it necessary to utter a word.
When I confronted him, he said that shebi his brother had said 'sorry'
I really don't know what to do. I feel let down by hubby's reaction & also ashamed about the whole incident.
pls good folks, what do I do to redress the situation. thank you

The guy erred but you didn't calculate right by not locking the room while going unclad when u know there's a third party under the same roof. The guy might have unconsciously barged in-it happens to everyone especially when you got some other urgent and pressing issues bugging your mind.

To the matter, most men don't act the way women act(impromptu) and you must understand that. Unless your brother-in-law has got you on his mind, he would still apologize to your hubby but you don't have to ask your boo if he eventually did; they are brothers anyway.

Just let it go and learn from the flaws.

istoctober:
l have asked a pastor and he said l shouldn't confess but am worried cos he told me on Sunday that his uncle who is a native doctor will know if l am cheating on him.

I wonder why he would tell you his uncle would know if you are cheating on him or not! What could have given rise to this kinda statement? Looks like you've given him reasons to suspect you!

I'm convinced that whatever would have led to that threat would influence his decision to send you packing if he eventually discovers(either himself or confession).

I will advise you let it be your secret, save your marriage since you have truly repented. Live your life with happiness and love him more. I will also advise you stop sharing sensitive details like the one I just quoted cos somehow, this thread might get to him(search engine or through a friend).

Haroun13:
I want to order a phone from aliexpress, precisely, the Ulefone Vienna. But my friend who wants to help me with it says I can't order more than a $100 device, meaning I can't go for the Vienna, because it's $125.
I need to know if there is anyway to avoid or bypass this limitation.
Answers needed urgently.
Thanks.

You can also use Webmoney.

makydebbie:
Things cannot be like they used to be.

We're moving on, can't compare 80's to now.

I agree with you. However, if you use 10% annual index compounding for a period of 37years, you still will agree that prices/bills/rates have skyrocketed over time. Worst has always been Buhari's regime. Kindly confirm prices of goods prior to his first regime and during his reign. Same thing this time- 2015 & 2017. #Nohatespeechbutfact.

slap1:
Itel 1556 is OTG-enabled.

Try with another OTG cable. If it doesn't detect, then your phone might not have the capability.

ganiyudan:
Please, how do I configure my phone with keyboard itel 1566

I doubt if your phone is equipped with OTG.

Dominicah:
For the ladies, its not wise spending on a guy, he will just finish your money and move on, don't be desperate.

With this paragraph, you are yet to understand what is r/ship and love!

BiafranBushBoy:
This is a true life story!! Read below and see the "reward" for being loyal.

On the 6th of July I resigned voluntarily from my place of job due to breach of contract from the Indians I was working with. My job became hell instead of heaven for me. I was paid off my remaining contract terms and I was back again in the streets again looking for another job. Days went into weeks and weeks ran into months.

I woke up every morning starting at my mail box and hoping that something would come forth from the numerous applications I sent out. Whoever told me that I would stay at home for this long period of time searching for a job, I would have seen the person as an enemy of progress.

Months ran into months and it dawned on me that I was currently spending my 6th month at home and it was a new year 2017. The prayer intensity increased as I continued to bind and cast every spirit of my village people.

Luck dawned on me and I got two invites simultaneously; one from Indians again and the other from an indigenous firm. The Indian firm had a higher pay, and they were willing to increase it just to convince me join them. After due consultations, praying and fasting, I decided to go for the Nigerian firm whose salary scale was far below my level but I felt I would have peace of mind. I was initially employed to spear head the marketing activities of the company, but along the line they continued to add up other job functions which even included uploading contents to the company’s website and managing it. I willingly accepted so as to develop myself in those areas.

One faithful day in the second month of my new workplace, I got a call with a foreign number asking me if I could have chance for a Skype interview. I accepted and the interview was conducted and I was being begged to take up a marketing manager’s role with an Indian firm here in Nigeria. I played along till the salary part and when it was dropped, it was too good to believe. I accepted the job and promised to resume but deep down I knew I wasn’t going to resume. I hated working for Indians and I felt I should be loyal to my Nigerian employer.

My parents were in support of my loyalty and my boss even asked me not to dump the company but instead, I should grow with it. I continued and my hope of better days and the hope that my little beginning would take me places kept me going. A point came and my boss even praised me for being such a good addition to his firm and promised me heaven and earth.

I was even sent on training with my prospective firm, which I didn’t go because I felt that I wasn’t going to resume with them the next month.
Towards the ending of the month, I was asked to undertake an assignment in my current firm. I was asked to design a brochure using Corel draw.

“Wetin concern Corel draw and Marketing na?” I asked myself. Me trying to be a good employee, I decided to give it a trial so as to show that I still love my job and would do anything to keep it.

After designing, I submitted and was congratulated on a job well done. Just the Sunday that ended that month, I got a message on my Whatsapp that said “When you are free please call me.”

I immediately called my boss and with happiness at least for the last month’s salary, he told me…

“I am sorry to inform you that you will no longer be resuming with us for the next month…” I never really allowed him to land as I terminated the call right there in the middle of his explanations and bullshit!!

He continued to call till on Monday morning as I picked up my new suit and tie and resumed work with the nationals I dreaded the most!

“What if I had rejected the Job before hand?”

"What really happened?" These were the questions that flooded my mind as I waited where they asked me to wait for the driver to pick me up!

Source: http://topwritersden.com/loyal-to-my-boss-and-this-happened/

Cc: Lalasticlala

I'm trying to place this; why would your boss call you repeatedly when he is already done with you? I think you should have followed the conversation till the end. Some would suggest he wants you to properly hand over but you never can tell what's in a man's mind.

If the story is as narrated, then you simply jumped into conclusion by not ending the conversation mid way and refused to honour subsequent calls.

Quite interesting!

hibiscus76:
[b]Over the years I've heard a lot of people speak ill about mbaise, now this is my fatherland, my grassroots and I have never observed anything thing out of the ordinary from our behaviors and relations with people. I feel very saddened when people ask me, "hey, beautiful girl where are you from" and immediately I say Mbaise they act all surprised and unimpressed...there was even this guy that told me that "you're a very nice girl, but the only problem I have with you is your village, why are you even from Mbaise" huh!! now this is quite immature if you ask me.. the trend is that Mbaise people are Overly wise,hates to be cheated but likes to cheat..this myth I have only heard but not seen nor experienced...I mean why would anyone be judged by where they hail from??
N/b: Mbaise is a part of Imo state that makes up 3 of the 27 local government areas in the state..the 3 l.g.a s of mbaise includes Aboh Mbaise, Ahaizu mbaise and Ezinihitte mbaise
Most times I even hear people say that "if you ever come across a snake and an Mbaise man, endeavour to kill the mbaise man first" like seriously?? Oh puhleeeeaaaaaase
This thought is very sickening as well as it is myopic....
Please I'd like to know why people have these beliefs, does anyone know anything? [/b]

I actually started hearing this from childhood back in the days in the East. When I gained admission, I decided to experience things myself. I had a lodgemate from Mbaise whom I experienced this with, I also had a very good friend, quite older than myself(over 10yrs) who is from Isiala Ngwa-at least, you can place the 2 regions and understand what I mean if you know the origin of both as believed by many.

I decided to try out this Mbaise guy on what is believed to be the character of an average Mbaise guy and I can tell you, the guy is a direct opposite of what people believe of Mbaise ppl. He is so liberal, generous, accommodating, non self centered and takes everyone as a friend. One day, I called this my friend and told him about my discoveries and he said I should ask this guy where he was born and bred(Port Harcourt). What I deduced was that environmental influence could have played a very big role but at least, I took something home; certain people are not as black as we paint them.

Yet another time, during my finals, I met another whom I found difficult to believe she is from this region(though trained in Lagos) cos of her character and when I told this my friend, he gave me another reason; that it's because this one wasn't trained at home too.

I didn't stop there and upon graduation, I ran into one one day during our CDS and was glad he was bred at home, as a matter of fact, everything about him is Mbaise. All his words are full of proverbs and adage, even that accent was there. We became acquaintances and at a point, I started getting closer to him to clear that doubt. Though he is not as bad as certain people would paint them, but I experienced some degree of tricks and crafty characters in him. He always wants to be in an advantaged position. Always bent on playing on your intelligence and wouldn't want to get a lesser dose even when it is sacrificial for him to do so.

My conclusion about them, having met some others thereafter is that: an average Mbaise have that trait in him or her even though there are exceptions.

It's not peculiar to Mbaise, other tribes or regions have things they are known for.

On the snake thing, I heard it has to do with being crafty and the tendency to easily outsmart you. Those who know about the story said it started with The late "Dr Sir Warrior" when some deal turned sour.

Safiaa:
Lmaooo

I died reading this. Each to their own sha. Wanna have sex, great. Wanna be abstinent, fantastic! They're men who abstained from sex till marriage and they're not dead. Its not scientifically/medically proven to be dangerous. Its your mind thats convincing you that it is.

At the end of the day please yourself. Personally, i need to know what im working with before he puts a ring on my finger, you know what im saying

#team test_drive

richeso:
cooked stories to divert attention. no name of the owner, no confirm address, no picture of the house.

idiotic BMC reports...

Well said. Just to make it look as if Magu is the Mesaiah we are looking for!

My problem is that most Nigerians are just too myopic.
Sooner or later, this trend of discovering money in structures would die down and they come up with another trick.

slex:
Greetings everyone. I feel so bad , sad and traumatised right now because of how someone just decided to wake up one day and do evil to me. My essence of writing this is to use Nairaland as a means of educating more people on the dangers you may face when your ATM card has been compromised.


Yesterday after finishing up work for the day i did my usual closing time ritual; i shut my system down, switched off the AC and the sockets then started my journey and this was already 6-01pm. When i reached Chevron round about at exactly 6-37pm I heard the usual notification tone on my phone that i had received a message. I ignored after 2 mins i heard another then i removed the phone from my pocket and checked lo and behold what did i see?N20k debit alert from GTB twice.

I was like WHAT!!! when did i initiate these transactions and while still looking at the messages surprised another N20k debit alert came in after a few seconds yet another N20k totalling N80,000 naira. Like a man possessed I quickly Hotlisted my Account by sending an sms with the Hotlist format and after that i received a message that my Account has been hotlisted from GTB but it was already too late. The balance left after the N80k taken was just N7k.

My people , the feeling of seeing your money leaving your account in ral time is a very crazy experience I felt so helpless. Anyways I have gone to a GTB Branch and complained but they are telling me it can take a week to 3 months for investigations to be concluded. Me i want my money refunded and i dont even get why it has to take so long (45 days max) to resolve that issue. Thank God i have 2 other accounts but this has got me thinking that our banks need to protect s their clients more.

The thief used a POS/Web transfer channel to remove the money why?because he knows if he uses an ATM his face will be captured by CCTV or the camera on the machine meaning No be today him de do this kain thing.

tthere should be some sort of way to prevent unauthorised transfers honestly. Either when you want to pay with a POS machine a message shoud be sent to you requesting authorization before payment can be done on a POS machine. How this thief bypassed OTP authorization to remove money from my account beats my imagination.

Please be careful everyone.

From a pained member.

I feel your pains bro.

It will interest me to know more about how this transaction was carried out.

Possible ways could be that one of the sites having your card details (like when you buy or make payments online) may have been compromised or the site itself is not actually SSL certified.

Certain apps you use in making payments/purchases might have been hacked.

Someone might have had access to your card combinations, he doesn't need to know your pin to transact with the card especially if it's MasterCard.

Kindly update us on the findings/investigation and recommendations made by the bank because while I feel cashless policy and web payment has been simplified for convenience, a lot of people are also cashing in on that to defraud unsuspecting users.

Lastly, I feel financial and security bodies should authorize ANY transaction using a combination of token (soft or hard) and secure code even after inputting pins cos hackers have learnt to bypass pins.

Stegomiah:
Yes, one time sex can get a girl pregnant
But don't be naive, she might wanna dump the pregnancy on you
Does she have multiple sexual partners?
When did you have coitu.s and correlate with the timeline of her pregnancy
Those are issues you must address

I don't feel for you, even if your parents disown you, i don't care

You lost your priority your education and got involved in peer pressure and youthful exuberances

Good thing though, it's not too late for you to change..... Daddy baby

And don't you even tryna abort, it will fail

I think the second part of your advice was rather harsh. Even a focused and responsible chap could fall victim to this, women alike too. At 19, he should have left secondary school and could be either a fresher in higher institution, an admission seeker or learning some kinda skill acquisition. At this level, he is more of a free ion and most of his time are spent with peers. It's sad the unwanted happened but somehow, he deserves some better counseling.

She go be like; make una come impeach na!

BTW, is there any proof she did? It could be one of her loyalist and might have coincidentally happened when she was away.They beta go look for another mace because that one is gone for good.

Benita27:
It still doesn't mean bra should be washed daily. The only exception should be white bra.

Are you kidding me!
I can't re-use any of my undergarments without washing it. Can't even wear my boxers from morning till night and go to bed with it. They are meant to absorb body secretions which makes them prone to fungi if left unwashed.

blovesther:
like seriously?

You mean he should continue servicing and powering the generators

I really pray the experience gives him something better latter sha

Trust me, experience pays.

BTW, you got some sense of humour... #continueservicingandpoweringgenerators.

blovesther:
Someone please help my brother too, he has HND in telecom engineering and currently working in one of the glo companies in banana island, but the problem is the work is just like soldier work and he can be called on at anytime of the day to go and power site because they put him in generator areas ......this is really giving us concern because the pay doesn't worth the stress.
I want him to be doing a job where he can go and come back to his house pending the next day

Forget the pay, the experience is worth it and that's what I expect him to hold unto.

I've got a friend whose experience in Telecom landed him in a good position in oil and gas.

MrBrownJay1:
@bold
The only type of happiness that money can bring out of an olosho.

What kind of nonsense exhaustion is this?! Are they saying that the coochie was so good that he couldn't even go and get a drink between rounds?! This fake "kokomaster" probably took Viagra or some similar BS drug, and his heart couldn't take it. Case closed!

...or alcohol. You are probably right.
However, some men would want to prove man enough.
If you get exhausted in between sex, you will find yourself grasping for breath or with the feeling of; I'm losing some strength and without vision, you already know you need to give yourself some break.

Omohjick:
My fellow nairalanders, I think I'm in a deep mess. Truly I'm old enough to settle down and my parents won't let me rest. They asked me to stop chasing after money but settle down and we all know men of these days, they like already made just as the way they complain about the ladies...now I met a guy who is ready to settle down and very responsible. He doesn't stay in Nigeria...

He is such a caring man and ha never married. He was born and brought up in England but he's from Lagos.

Hmmm...the worse part of him is that he's too jealous and calls me like 100times in a day. I'm not exaggerating plz. I'm here in Lagos but he never allows me to rest at all. If he calls me twice and I'm not picking its gonna be problem.

He keeps asking are you with someone there?
Why are you not replying my chat so fast?
Why did you put off your data please I hate it
What are you doing right now?
Why are you not speaking aloud?

Lots of questions and I can't begin to imagine right now.
I don't know what to do please help me. He's choking me and just too jealous which is why he's still single according to him, no wife no kids.

If possible he can ask me to do video chat with him while crossing the express road.
Chai! I don hia am

I thought it's only women that do this over caring thing, so men do...

In my honest opinion, tell him to give you a break as it's affecting your personal life and career. Huh!

stuffsabouttara:
1. Are you a virgin? Seriously why are you asking, are you a virgin yourself? Are you hunting for virgins? Are you a ritualist?

2. How many guys have you slept with? Oh, so you want information to use against me in the future? No thanks.

3. How can a beautiful girl like you not be taken? It’s because I’m over qualified *rolls eyes* Most guys think this question is flattering, it's not.

4. Don’t you want to get married? I mostly get asked this question when I refuse to give a guy my number

5. What about your boyfriend? I get asked this question when I say I’m broke, excuse me, he’s not an atm

6. When are you going to get married? I don’t even know how to reply to this

7. Are you on your period? How does that information improve your life? You sound like a ritualist also.

8. You want money? Like seriously, I want money? Is there ever a time someone doesn’t want money?

9. What are you wearing? And they have a habit of asking this at night. I see what you’re doing there, I’m not your girlfriend or wife, it’s none of your business.

10. Anything for me? I don’t understand, did you send me on an errand? Is it your birthday?

11. Why don’t you smile more? It’s called a resting bitch face. Resting. Bitch. Face.

12. Have you cum yet? Boyfriends and husbands beware, this is the worst and most annoying question to ask during *coughs*

13. Am I the best you’ve been with? I don’t know, are you?

14. Why can’t you stay on your natural hair? I love long full hair, I love experimenting with different hairstyles, I was brought up this way, and please men and women are not the same, just because you stay on your bololo doesn’t mean I have to. Btw, it's not your money I spend on my hair.

15. Why do you makeup? Is it your face?

16. Why do you like pink so much? Because it’s pretty, is it a crime!

17. Why do you like romance novels so much? Why do you like movies that involve a lot of violence?

I love natural hair and sometimes, prefer my bae to be with it. Call it preference or a hormone in me controlling it but I just can't help it. Love it more when you allow me wash it for you. It's not absurd for some to fall victim of #14.

janefarms2015:
If the president is the father of any one against him seeking the best medical care anywhere in d world, will the person allow his or father not to do so? Gradually, we will have best medical care at parwith the advanced world, you dont blame PMB for the rot in the system.

You still don't get this, he seems to be a retrogression to economic progress. I don't think people are praying for him against the Holy Bible's advice for subjects to pray for those in authority; Nigerians are suffering under his administration-QED

Hate him or love him, he is just an outstanding politician.

beautycrush24:
The rate at which these telecom companies exploit us is becoming really frustrating. And to think they'll keep doing it because we always decide to keep quiet is more annoying. So today I've decided not to keep quiet like I always do but to call them out instead. I'll be fulfilled if this message saves only 1 person from this scam.

I bought the MTN 4G LTE mifi on the 13th of this month for 20k and according to them, it came with 20GB (imaginary 20GB in my opinion). Network was bad so they weren't able to activate it till d next day which is 14th. I started using it and got a message on the 21st that my data had been exhausted. You can imagine my shock. 20GB in 1 week? What was I browsing. Prior to this time, I was using at most 7GB monthly. I subscribe regularly cos I work online so I can accurately estimate how much data I consume monthly.

Anyways, I overlooked it since it was 'free' data and decided to subscribe the 10GB data plan which costs 5k. I did that on the 22nd of this month and was given 25k bonus airtime that can be used to browse. Imagine my shock when I got notified yesterday, march 27th, that both 10GB and 25k have been exhausted. HUH!!! In 5 days? Just put a gun to my head already.

So these thieves are trying to say in 13days, I used up 30GB and 25k just for browsing WITHOUT DOWNLOADING!!! I decided to call customer care. The first mumu I spoke to was giving me wrong date so I knew he didn't know his job well. I decided to call again hoping someone else will pick. A lady picked and after my explanation, she told me from what she can see, I've been browsing heavily. Just imagine. Like I don't know what heavy browsing means? When I tried to argue her explanation, she hung up on me. So much for customer service. She's lucky I didn't get her name. I wonder if they really screen these people before employing them.

I am writing this to warn those who plan to buy the MTN 4G LTE mifi to think twice before taking that step. I have lost 25k to these rich thieves which might be nothing to some of you but it's my sweat and I decided to rant about it. Enough of all this scam already. Thanks for reading.

I no longer complain through the customer care call cos they know it's between the 2 of you. Take to Twitter and if their reply isn't convincing, tag other bodies like NCC,CPC. But before then, please get your facts right by checking the data usage in your system within the period in question; screenshot where necessary.

MrTypist:
They said this is the number that was killing people.

They called me six times but I didn't pick.

I guess you are using MTN. I've been waiting for that number to call me, abi e dey look face?

phantomBBT:
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Caught in between the storage capacity of the HDD, please explain. A friend needs one.

durodee:
God has many names to describe His qualities and capabilities. Which one is your favourate? I heard one in church this morning that is still ringing in my spirit: AROGUNJO meaning He that continues to dance despite the noise and clamour of War! Wao!!

I AM THAT I AM

Dyt:
I add money too
And I think one out of 3 women do that or most have done it


The only thing I condemn is her being rude to you
But then how did you approach her

There's always a man involved when a woman goes crazy

Love your contribution, I'm not against my wife adding some dough to a bill; a good wife tho but I'm against some kinda rude reply when I ask. In any case, sometimes I will just smile and say; well, most of us are victims of this.

If I were in the guys shoes, I wouldn't even have asked her if I didn't question the high bill as soon as he told me. I would see it (and I think she must have seen it) as spying on her and not trusting her.

There's always better ways to investigate