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Racoon:
Just imagine how a nation political and democratic journey have been reduced into a charade by lawless court, individuals and govt.

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Authur Nzeribe kind of things

SeizeTheMemes:
First, let's be clear about what we're talking about. The man in the scenario didn't make a one-time error and then confess. He is actively maintaining a double life. He is managing information flow to two women to maintain access to both. That's not a mistake you make that is intentional deception.

Second, you ask if confession is the only way to show respect. No. But ongoing deception is a form of disrespect regardless of the alternatives. You are treating her as someone who cannot handle reality, who must be managed, whose reality you have the right to curate. That is the logic of the portfolio manager and a tyrant not a lover.

Third, who are you protecting? You say the lie protects her from pain but the lie also protects you from the consequences of your actions. It protects your access to her. It protects your self-image as a 'good man' who 'cares.' The protection is not neutral. It is self-interested. And dressing it as altruism is the oldest trick in book. After all colonialization was to civilise the barbarians not steal their resources.

Fourth, you assume the truth would end the relationship. Maybe. But she gets to decide that. Not you. By lying, you are preemptively ending the relationship she thinks she has. The one built on mutual trust and exclusivity. You have already ended it. You're just not telling her. You're letting her live in a simulation of a relationship while you enjoy the reality of others. That is theft. Theft of her reality, theft of her choice, theft of her time.

About the pain, Yes. The truth will hurt. Betrayal always hurts. But the lie is debt that comes due with interest. When she finds out and she will sooner or later because secrets in the age of social media are fragile, the pain will be compounded by the years of deception. The humiliation will be public. The sense of wasted time will be devastating. You are not sparing her pain. You are deferring it, and magnifying it, for your own convenience.

Unfortunately this is how our relationships tend to be in this country. Hell even Amanda and Brenda probably have side guys too. There is no trust and you are a commodity for others to buy and sell as they please.

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You write remarkably well. Very very well. You also order your thoughts well.

Now two things -

1. Are you male or female? Sorry, you may not see the relevance of this question but it will help me assess your perspective better. Because men and women tend to see these matters very differently.

2. I am certain from experience that many young and idealistic people will align with you, while many older and realistic people will tell you for free - "where ignorance is bliss, 'tis folly to be wise."

nairalanda1:
One thing Nigerians don't realize about subsides is that it harms the capacity of the country to drill for oil .

What we are seeing is the result of years of subsidy ...which has hampered investment in the oil industry. Yes it has been growing, but at a stunted rate.

Never ever allow government set prices for anything.

(Tinubu is still a bad leader, and the above is partly his fault)

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SHATTAP you anti-people stone head. BAT is only bad to you because in your book he should have caused prices to go up even more, and remove whatever is left of any govt support to any sector, and jack up taxes to 99% of income.

Accursed.

Starboytwo:
As how na. Is Dangote not extracting crude again?

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They never were, they refine.

SeizeTheMemes:
Being terrified of losing something doesn't mean you love it especially when you don't treat it with respect. Also I was asking how people somehow see lying as 'love'

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Is confessing your error (necessarily) the only way to show respect especially if you know it will lead to the end of the relationship as well as grievous pain for the other party?

SeizeTheMemes:
I don't understand this logic. If someone cheats on you and lies about it, do they love you?

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Are you a kid. It just shows who he is more terrified of losing.

Austema:
This may not be related but..

When two people who are not married are having sex together it is called fornication not dating.

Let us flee from sexual sin for we are children of The God who is holy

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Sex before marriage is not a sin.

bemeruca:
Na, you people tie your claim with genocide. It does not happen like that. A mass killing can happen the moment 3 people die at once in any circumstance. That's not how you people are defining mass killing here because it is a common phenomenon in every single war.

If the police kill more than 3 robbers, it could he decribed as mass killing.

So calling it mass killing is a descriptive claim about scale, not proof of intent. The legal issue is different: were civilians intentionally targeted, or were the rules of distinction, proportionality, and precautions violated?

Mass killing by itself does not settle that question.

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Yes civilians were intentionally targeted over and over again. There are several videos that even show civilians being killed in broad day light with overwhelming force.

This is because the IDF considered even babies terrorists.

PS: What happened in Gaza does not fit the definition of a war. It was a massacre of a caged people.

basilico:
How many Hamas militants are dead. That's my question.

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I see no point in this question when every male adult is considered a terrorist to Israel. In fact in many cases, barely adult. Even children were shot point blank in the head. Anyone who defends this is reprobate.

basilico:
You never answered how many Hamas militants are included in that Hamas provided body count. Include the dead women who made and receive calls via their cellphones long after being declared dead.

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I hope you know Israel has since accepted the figures put out by the Gaza Ministry of Health. Belatedly.

cococandy:
I guess I’m jealous of CVS.

All the people who depend on them for healthcare that now have to pay 20% more for same quality or even less care and those who lost their job are also jealous if they speak about it.

BTW CVS is a monopoly. They bought Aetna insurance company and immediately raised employee premiums while reducing coverage. I guess those employees are jealous if they don’t like paying more money for less coverage.

Especially since they have no real way of fighting back against a huge company like CVS.

The conservative dymwits on this app think this is what jealousy is.

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Good heavens.

And people here come to say "where will the money come from."

bemeruca:
Mass killing? If it takes 2 years + to get to 60k casualties including hamas fighters, then It is not mass killing of women and children.

😳😳😳😳

The mass killing happened in Iran, you were quiet.

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That translates to a steady 600+ people per day for two years steady and you say that is not mass killing. Well done.

25 people per hour for two years steady is not mass killing. Well done.

You will account for these hideous thoughts and utterances.

raumdeuter:
So genocide on the Israeli population in the Arab nations is a natural reaction . I really shake my head at how you justify genocide

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That didn't happen.

raumdeuter:
https://www.europarl.europa.eu/meetdocs/2004_2009/documents/fd/il20062006_07/il20062006_07en.pdf

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Only a natural reaction to what I have pointed out happened within Israel / Palestine.

raumdeuter:
Now do what every Arab nation has done to their Jewish population

This below is what genocide looks like

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And what happened between 1947 and 1948 in Israel/Palestine?

Let me even walk you through a little history and then we will wind up in 1947/48 and you will see what happened in Israel/Palestine.

1. From 1517 to 1882 through the rule of the Ottoman empire, the Jewish population varied from 1.7% to 8%. Thus it is clear that the Jews were a distinct minority throughout that period.

2. By the end of the 1st World War, they had become 9.1%.

3. Throughout the period of the British Mandate they grew from 11 percent in 1922 to 32% in 1937. This was the period of the first wave of significant Zionist migration from Europe, and so it is obvious that the majority of Jews in the land were now migrants from Europe.

But hang on, the evidence gets worse -

4. Between 1947 and 1948 - a period of one year only - the year of the creation of the State of Israel, the percentage of Jews jumped from 32% to a staggering 82% - in ONE year only!

This shows conclusively two things -

a. That the migration from Europe formed almost all of the population of Jews by that time as compared to the negligible percent prior to the British Mandate

b.In the same period of ONE year the poulation of non-Jews fell from 1.3 million people to 156, 000 people!

The foregoing discloses conclusively what had transpired. A mass migration of Europeans had flooded the land and there was a mass evacuation/ removal of non-Jews.

IjeBos:
As in Democracy, where if you are non Jewish you don't have the same voting rights?
As in Freedom of Religion, you mean where they spit on Christians, harass Christians in the West Bank and where their military bombs Christian churches and destroys Christian symbols?

Quote me a post where I say I support Hamas.
Every post you write is premised on some lie.
You're a mendacious person and I'm sure it extends to your personal life as well.
You should really learn the word libel.

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You can be sure the likes of raumdeuter will never be honest or look beyond the surface on any matter concerning either Israel or Trump. The truth about Israeli discrimination against Israeli Arabs is well known -

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In Israel, "Israeli Arabs" (primarily identifying as Palestinian citizens of Israel) are subject to various laws and policies that human rights organizations, legal experts, and international bodies identify as discriminatory. These range from high-level constitutional definitions to specific administrative practices.

1. Constitutional and Nation-State Policies

The Jewish Nation-State Law (2018): This Basic Law (which has constitutional status) defines Israel as the "nation-state of the Jewish people," declaring that the right to national self-determination is "unique to the Jewish people." It downgraded Arabic from an official language to a "special status" and identifies Jewish settlement as a "national value" to be encouraged.

The "Nakba Law": This policy allows the government to reduce or withhold funding from public institutions (such as schools or municipalities) that commemorate the Nakba (the 1948 displacement of Palestinians) or challenge the definition of Israel as a Jewish and democratic state.

2. Land, Housing, and Planning

Admissions Committees Law: This law allows hundreds of small, semi-private communities (built on state-owned land) to use "social suitability" as a criterion to vet potential residents. Critics argue this is used as a legal mechanism to prevent Arab citizens from living in Jewish-majority towns.

Inequity in Land Allocation: Approximately 93% of land in Israel is state-controlled. Historically, almost no new Arab towns have been established since 1948, while hundreds of Jewish towns have been. This has led to severe overcrowding and a lack of master plans in Arab municipalities, making "illegal" construction a necessity for many.

The Kaminitz Law: An amendment to the Planning and Building Law that significantly increased penalties and expedited demolition orders for unauthorized construction. Because Arab towns often lack approved zoning plans, they are disproportionately affected by these "administrative" demolitions.

3. Family and Citizenship

Citizenship and Entry into Israel Law: This law (renewed regularly) generally prohibits Palestinians from the West Bank or Gaza who marry Israeli citizens from receiving legal status or residency in Israel. While framed as a security measure, the UN and rights groups point out it applies almost exclusively to Arab citizens, effectively preventing them from living with their spouses in their home country.

4. Socio-Economic and Resource Disparities

Education Funding: While the gap has narrowed in recent years, significant disparities persist in per-student funding between the Arab and Jewish sectors, particularly in the "National-Religious" school tracks.

Socio-Economic Development: Arab municipalities often receive lower per-capita grants and have a smaller tax base due to a lack of industrial zones (which the state usually zones for Jewish municipalities), leading to lower-quality public services and infrastructure.

5. Criminal Justice and Freedom of Expression

Counter-Terrorism Law Application: Recent reports (2024–2025) suggest that the Counter-Terrorism Law's provisions regarding "speech-related offenses" (like "liking" posts or expressing support) are applied with a distinct standard. Data from legal aid groups like Adalah shows that the vast majority of arrests for "incitement" involve Arab citizens, while similar rhetoric from Jewish citizens often goes unprosecuted.

The "Infiltrators" Law: Though primarily targeting asylum seekers, the legal framework for "infiltrators" often overlaps with policies affecting the status of non-Jewish residents and their families.
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Enddy50ty:
Atiku only wants to be president just like Tinubu. No plans. No ideas. No blueprints.

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Privatisation

Xxxxxxxx

samuelson06:
What's terrible in what I said? They've always been acting in the interest of their pocket and oppressing and masses. When we protest against poor governance in Nigeria, they'll take side with the government to attack us. Let them also experience poor governance. Some of them were most likely among those that shot at us during #endSARS. Again, no one should support them.

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We know. Nonetheless they are also people who suffered terrible conditions of work.

GloriousGbola:
all of us have had bad and sometimes terrible experiences with the Nigerian police

the Nigerian police are at best a mercenary force who have to be paid to do their job and whose core directive is to harass and obtain

a police man has no qualms about raping or robbing

so they are extremely unsympathetic and it is hard to feel sympathy for what comes across as karma for all the misery they have inflicted

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I understand that but we also know they have terrible conditions of work. Besides, entitlements are entitlements.

MaxInDHouse:
Why not ASK as Jesus said? Matthew 7:7🤔

Well Jesus true Christianity disappeared after the death of Christ's apostles so the fruit they were bearing in the first century stopped because the branches connected to the vine has all been killed {John 15:5} from that time the AntiChrist took over the scene! 1John 2:18

When Russell and his team began studying the Bible in the 1870s they realized that something is wrong somewhere but they couldn't figure it out on their own.
Today true Christianity has been restored as it was in the first century that is why Christendom Churches are now criticizing themselves.

What you should have asked if you are sincere to yourself is:

Which of them is practicing Christianity as it should be?

But it's obvious you are dishonest yet just as Jesus said:

"Wisdom is justified by her children" Luke 7:35

This is what you yourself typed with your own fingers regarding the only religion practicing Christianity as found in the Bible:



So if you hate Maximus in person there is no sin in that after all Maximus is just a sinner like all other humans but if you choose to speak against the truth that you yourself have publicly admitted i'm sorry for you! Matthew 12:31-32

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All this is grammar. The implication is that Christianity only started in the late 1800s.

gentlesmithugo:
which terrible thing,dey deserve wat dey got.very useless force

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Agreed the police are terrible but they are a creature of the society. They are very poorly paid and besides, thier entitlements are their entitlements.

samuelson06:
They should gettout. No one should support them.

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How can you say such a terrible thing?

achorladey:
That one cannot stop empty boasting. Before the forefathers of Russell were born the word Christian don dey this world.

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The implication is that there was no Christian organization in the world before Russel was born!

That's what MaxinDHouse is telling us.

GracieX3:
Imagine the clown cultist.

The worship Trump. Imagine a Catholic MAGA defending Trump in attacking the pope.

Or yet, MAGA still supporting the foolish war in Iran. The strait of Hormuz was open before the war- it is now still closed and the MAGA are claiming victory with Trump.

Cultists will cult.

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It's unbelievable to watch.

That is how they will eventually insult Jesus in defence of Trump.

Because if Jesus could have said what he said about the Pharisees, it's obvious what his view of Trump would be.

basilico:
Look at voting histories. Democrats rarely dissent both congress and Senate.
Trump bills barely scrape through in most cases
Tell me if that's not hero worship.

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I nor fit laugh abeg.

This is too rich. From a Maga Cultist.

People who worship even the man's farts.

The beef is still clear on Omisore's face.

basilico:
Democrats folllow their leadership blindly. There is no room for dissent and no room for independent thoughts.

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How rich from any Trumpist. Do Trumpists have any thoughts of their own outside what Trump says?

chieveboy:
There is basis for criminal law because that's a play of Agreements we spoke of.

Technically, Agreements are the interoperability interface which must be established for one or two Subjectives to have some form of objective experience (in a community, state, relationship, group, religion, etc.). These agreements or laws are derivatives of the Subjective experiences of the participants which are not or may be universally applied--but not necessarily based on objective reality, which may be written, unwritten or even genetically programmed.

Lack of exposure to deeper levels of causative variables like past life and reincarnation, or even genetics may see someone who takes out a life because the "victim" took theirs in a past life usually resulting in criminal law/enforcement making bad decisions by escalating a universal criminal case using communal or state laws. Subjective or man-made laws are limited and do not have all variables and factors accounted for even in the case of the expertise of the investigators and that of the human judge.

Despite the limitations of criminal law, it however is grist for the mill of the grander, comprehensive and perfect universal laws which seem to be enforced rather too slowly, but then they is enforced more wholesomely.

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You are speaking well but you are still missing the point.
To make it clear as briefly as possible. -

- It is not an agreement with those who disagree with it. Laws are made by a government usually by an agreement of the majority - if morality is subjective then there is a minority that does not agree with those laws and for them, there is no basis for those laws as you did not get their agreement. So it is not by agreement for them. However, there are also cases where laws are decreed by one person (for example in a dictatorship or absolute mornachy). So again, if morality is subjective where is the basis for any criminal laws.

Criminal laws only make sense if certain things that are objectively and rationally evil or bad.

Otherwise its just your opinion vs my opinion and you have your way because you have the might.

chieveboy:
You will recall in the earlier thread for lord.reed where i mentioned even what we accept as reality is not objective, I said what we have are 'agreements to reality' in the sense that subject objects of perception are used to perceive what the observers call reality. That the fact that subjective eyes, neurons, brain cells are used could never birth objectivity in its 100% state, hence its just us agreeing that yes, blue is blue even though for all of us, no one is seeing the blue as exactly as it might be.

Having not to accept implications would then mean I lose myself completely body and mind, else, it is impossible to not have a choice from right, wrong or neutrality. Objectivity all of the time is not possible as far as the human experience is concerned--no contradiction here. What a human would call Objective or when a human goes neutral, they cannot do that beyond the subjective feeds they get from their sensoria.

The real way of having objective perspective is only when a human strips themselves of their sensoria (eyes, nose, skin, tongue or mind generally). Reason as you know is the limits and capabilities they impose.

These sensoria are mathematically equal to opinions even before the match begins. They are also equal to implications, definitions and sides. In other words, our senses are equal to Subjectives. There is another way however to have actual (human) objectivity: All souls using the human body of a single person. This way, whatever is observed is using same electric wire and wiring, so the experience will be one and the same for all, giving us a human objectivity.

We have two ideologies presented in the above statements...

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Again, I don't have any problems with the above. It's just that the implications don't go away. . .so do you for example agree that there is no basis for criminal law?

victorazyvictor:
Are you expecting free fair election under Tinubu ?

Mind you, Obi never win primaries ooo!
North will betray him as they did to Wike. They only took him off the way for Atiku to face Tinubu because only Atiku has the temerity to question Tinubu after election.

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What do you think of an Atiku Obi Ticket.
You are right though that a free and fair election under Tinubu is almost impossible.

spiceadole:
In my opinion, there is nothing like sexual incompatibility for adults who have no medical /health issues. Fornication does not confirm sexual compatibility,it's a mindset thing.
Men will say they are testing sexual compatibility by sampling different ladies ,then turn around to shame ladies for having high body count.Lol

Secondly, I wasn't a virgin. Despite, maintaining sexual purity all through my teenage years till early adulthood,I lost my virginity in my final year in university in a painful and heartbreaking manner. It took a great toll on me and I had to see a psychologist.

Thankfully,I was able to overcome the bitter experience and graduated.

I met a lot of guys who didn't agree to "No sex, No spending" and after few weeks of talking / hanging out (which I always paid my bills to avoid them feeling entitled to sleep with me),the friendship will die a natural death...and I will move on quickly...No tears,you no waste my time,you no chop me.

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There is of course sexually compatibility and incompatibility. It's crazy to say there isn't. People like different things sexually. That's a fact.

The mere fact that you succeed in having sex does not mean you are sexually compatible also. Much sex can be boring and routine like a chore. Not alive and fascinating as it should be. Not hawt.

However your case is peculiar so I understand you. The unsaid in your post should touch the heart of the discerning. It is well with you and I am happy for you.