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daylay7:
This is another facts. And I appreciate you for this. But in the mist of all these facts, do you think it is right for men to commit adultery or fornicate?

bukatyne:
You claimed men love idealistically while women love opportunistically.

If we break down the words,
Idealistically means something that is ideal which is perfection/close to perfection.

You would agree that an ideal partner is someone who is intune with your needs, puts you first, doesn't hurt you, protects you at all times, share their resources with you etc etc.

So I am wondering how sleeping with other women which would hurt your woman makes you an ideal partner. I wonder how sharing intimacy with another woman fits into this ideal love.

Let me agree with you that men can cheat/sleep around while women can't. That means you expect women to be faithful.

Isn't that a characteristic of an ideal lover or idealistic love?

Isn't a man who can claim to love a woman and enter a relationship with her so she is bound to fidelity while he can sleep around opportunistic? He wants to enjoy the benefits a woman brings in a relationship while having sexual freedom.

@men are polygamous: I understand you are not a Christian so I would not go the religious route.

Naturally, men's polygamy is not supported except you concur that women are also polygamous.

The ratio of women to men is almost 50% that means men cannot have multiple women to themselves without sleeping with other men's women who supposedly are monogamous by nature.

It is either you accept everyone zips up or humans (men & women) are polygamous.

bukatyne:
Yet men are more likely to desert a marriage with a lover than women.

@OP: Society (men & women) doesn't frown at husbands cheating so the husbands keep at it.

Luckily, the men are cheating with women so they are just wife swapping while deceiving themselves like the poster I quoted.

To think that as at this post, 215 people have liked the person I quoted and I am sure there are females amongst them.

Tomorrow, they will whine that all men cheat.

Your expectations would surely be met.

That's life.

EJanni:
Who propounded this your nonsense theory? You're just ignorant or you just want to defend your sexual pervasiveness. Inukwa?

Tutu82:
And this is the mentality that is destroying people and their marriages.If he has sex he is not cheating it she does she is a hoe.

jaxxy:
Keep deceiving urself. Cheating is cheating. And cheating is done for different reasons for both men and women. Some men also cheat for a lot more than sex and some loose their senses not just women.

Excel3298:
So, what point are you making now?

Cos' nah grammer full here o.....

Nairalandian:
Bros, are you okay?

Joystark:
Bullshit

maureensylvia:
Who taught you this sir?

Lollittaa:
this one brain aff loss

sweetrace:
Has she not lived a fulfilling life? She is even proving that age is no barrier to childbirth.

MontyNG:
HAHAHAHHAA

I like this answer and somewhat agree!!!

However, I'm a Man and I don't cheat

Shokoloko:
We all know that this is not true

TheDarkGamer:
Not feminism per se, but on second thought. I've realized that the word feminism is gender-biased. The word should be equality. If you think about it, we say Red pill and not masculinity. But that's by the way.

Before I answer your question, I'd like to buttress the point that most people when taking a stance or opinion, don't look at various perspectives but only theirs, and they are mostly self-absorbed. From what I know, the real root of feminism (which I would now refer to as equality) originated from the patriarchal system. Like I said in an earlier post, women felt sidelined and oppresessed because they could not contribute to society. They were treated as inferior beings. The need for equality came because the world was changing and the most important advantage the male gender had over females (strength) was fading into obscurity. This was because farming, hunting, fighting wars with swords and blades, etc was being replaced by technological advancements which provided white collar jobs for women in which they felt they could partake of. Women (at least the good ones) proved that they could read, write, engage in intellectual debates etc and contribute to society. If you're being honest with yourselves, you know some women who are smart and who can fend for themselves and their families without selling themselves sexually.

The need for equality did not really come from physical abuse (this is a feminist propaganda for a fem-centric society) but to create equal opportunities for females and males in the society. Females have actually proven that they can handle the jobs that were termed "masculine". We have female pilots, engineers, doctors, teachers etc. This is a result of equality and not feminism or patriarchy. Females are also human beings and probably they feel that they need independence.

The problem began when females begin to aim higher and strive to dominate male from the "suffering" they had endured. They wanted to prove that females and males are the same. You may get confused here but like BLOODY SPERM said, the focus is in equal opportunity and not equality in a literal sense. Females are different and males are different. However, modern day feminists begin to create their own radical campaign which is "feminism" and it is different from equality in every way. It is an extremist ideal and its result is the fem-centric society we have and de-masculined males (simps/betas).

Now let me rephrase your question and answer. I will state merits of equality and not feminism.
- Equal opportunity for humans (males and females) to work and earn income.
-Independence from gender roles. ( I think that saying that males are superior to women is the equivalent stance of modern day feminism.)
Those are the major ones I can think of.

Now, the problem is that most people refuse to accept the truth because they only want a truth that favors them. I also know that most people reading this will vehemently oppose my opinion but we are each entitled to ours.

Another thing is that most people make the point of how many females do we have that created bridges, made extraodinary achievements in the society etc. I think that the problem is that females have just been freed from their dependence on men. Men have had thousands of years to create the society that we find ourselves in but females have just had the opportunity for barely a century (if it's up to that).

Most unplugged guys just read books like the Rationale Male and just vomit whatever they read in all aspects of their lives. Most of what Tomassi said applies in the area of sexuality. Another thing is that Rollo Tomassi lives in a fully feminised society and Nigeria is not fully feminised. A sign of intelligence is the ability to read, understand and discern information.

I support the redpill and I'm an advocate for its dissemination to men today but we should be facists or hold extremist views. Imagine if you had a daughter that wanted to get married in the future and the man she wanted to marry was emotionally abusive, did not believe women should have equal opportunities with men and he did believe that she should see other females because they might corrupt her. Invariably, she wouldn't continue schooling (if she wanted), wouldn't work (what if the husband loses his job), would be banned from seeing fellow females, etc. She would not like that and you probably would not but that's patriarchy for you.

We still have people on forums and threads that think that IF a man should get married, he should not marry a person that is more successful or smarter, etc, so as not to compete with him in the home and enable him to exert his "masculinity". There are still people here who believe women MUST belong to the kitchen and not take part in the financial matters in the family. Is that what patriarchy supports?

Personally, in my family, ever since my father lost his job, my mother has been the breadwinner ( I'm talking about paying million naira school fees, house maintenance, properties, etc. Not bragging but just giving a visual) and we exist peacefully. My father never shouts at her or abuses her but she still respects him and if need be, covers for him in public. She never ridicules him or makes him feel insecure, not because she can't but because she respects him and he treats her well. To be honest, most of the properties we have been because of her decision-making. My point is that this kind of situation can exist in a family without anyone abusing the other. This has also not made me have a biased stance concerning inter-gender dynamics too.

I think it all depends on your "frame". You don't have to force or abuse females but the way you carry yourself and your level of self-esteem play a part in it. Also, the type of woman you marry is a factor too and the women of this generation are different from the older generation, so that's something.

I'm actually very distracted and tired of typing. My points may also be jumbled because I didn't edit them. But, in summary, I'm saying that women and men should have equal opportunities in life. Feminism is an extremist movement that should not be supported. For society to develop in that sense, laws should be enacted that ensure equal opportunity and in whatever areas that females cannot measure, then too bad. Females should learn to embrace their feminity and males should embrace masculinity.

But we should still apply our red pill theories in our lives because of the situation we find ourselves in because most women have also been socially conditioned to act solipsistic and manipulative.

TheDarkGamer:
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TheDarkGamer:
I understand your stance, so do you believe in partriachy and do you think that it's applicable in this society?

Everything in life can be abused. In patriarchal societies, men actually physically abused men and treated them like trash. The equivalent ( I think) is this modern day feminism. There are people that will abuse patriarchy as well as feminism. Life is not fair but we should try to maximise our advantages and cut our losses. It's also applicable to politics, people will abuse democracy and still abuse monarchy/dictatorship (I hope you get the reference).

It's actually confusing if you think about it. But it's fortunate that this is a forum where we can all share ideas and opinions.

TheDarkGamer:
I guess so, but that's not what I was going for. But it depends if you think "mild feminism" is bad. I think the problem is that what we are seeing nowadays is radical feminism on social media. It is far from the idealistic meaning.

I feel feminism should focus on how females can improve on their femininity and support society and not try to be masculine or repress males which is what modern-day feminism is.

Feminism has its merits and demerits, like everything in life. For instance, those that want true patriarchy would have to force women not to work, not to go to brothels (which is partly to a man's advantage because they will want to pay for sex), abolish female education. Have you actually thought about that? Another example is that this society gives men an advantage because anybody can have sex but in a true patriarchal society, only worthy men and successful men will enjoy it. (Think of how marriages worked in the past. If you were useless and a "tramp", who would want to give their daughters to you. But now these hoes can give just about any man that sexual pleasure they desire).

What I don't support is females wanting to play in male sports teams because that is just plain lunacy, gynocentric laws, false rape case allegations, etc. True feminism does not support that and not all females out there support that.

Females should be feminine.

Ogbotobo77:
Y'all should check out fresh&fit podcast on youtube

TheDarkGamer:
I guess so, but that's not what I was going for. But it depends if you think "mild feminism" is bad. I think the problem is that what we are seeing nowadays is radical feminism on social media. It is far from the idealistic meaning.

I feel feminism should focus on how females can improve on their femininity and support society and not try to be masculine or repress males which is what modern-day feminism is.

Feminism has its merits and demerits, like everything in life. For instance, those that want true patriarchy would have to force women not to work, not to go to brothels (which is partly to a man's advantage because they will want to pay for sex), abolish female education. Have you actually thought about that? Another example is that this society gives men an advantage because anybody can have sex but in a true patriarchal society, only worthy men and successful men will enjoy it. (Think of how marriages worked in the past. If you were useless and a "tramp", who would want to give their daughters to you. But now these hoes can give just about any man that sexual pleasure they desire).

What I don't support is females wanting to play in male sports teams because that is just plain lunacy, gynocentric laws, false rape case allegations, etc. True feminism does not support that and not all females out there support that.

Females should be feminine.

SavageResponse:
But some of them want to claim equality with men

prettysassygirl:
Rubbish mindset

Mrscarter:
Im ok thanks just been busy of late

Hassanmaye:
Blood of Zachariah!. Are you serious

Dabronze:
That book is very important for a man before goin into LTR with woman.