₦airaland Forum

Telstar:
Most Nigerian girls are opportunistics. That's why we barely date them.

Zabiboy:
Here we go again with the proving of oneself....
Just the way you are better than someone, there's always gonna be someone better than you...
Hypergamy is a survival strategy....You can't turn down a 100k job because of a 20k job.... No matter how you prove yourself, who would leave would still leave... Infact, staying with someone you had to prove yourself to is worthless, what happens when life takes it's toll and you can't prove yourself anymore?
i'll say this again, As a guy, it's useless trying to prove yourself to anyone. be hypergamous but in terms of value. have standards. if anyone around you is not adding value, move on. You can only stay if you see the other person ( both male or female) making conscious effort to increase the value they add to you...
In life, people that come and go don't matter, the girl you're trying to make worship you dont matter...What matters is that you're living life on your own terms and doing what you love....
i still don't even get the ego in seeing someone worship or be submissive..... If you like bow down before me everytime, i'm only after the value you can add to me( because i'm sure i'll add value to anyone around me too)...
Modified: This is my humble opinion.. i'm not in any way saying you MUST do what i'm doing... Cheers

Shokoloko:
Wrong again. Children are the most prized possession of a typical woman

Rushna27:
stating fact doesn't mean u generalize...... I've met men who counselled to dissolve one's marriage all because dey ave interest in d woman.... fact is, as we ave dem in women so dey are amongst d men.......... a spoilt egg in a crate of egg doesn't pollute all na......... any phases dat comes to u, attend to it d best u can

dominique:
Does being built to rule mean running your country to the ground? The men leading us, where exactly are they leading us to? How well are they leading us? You African men with zero creativity, productivity, leadership skills or brain power for anything tangible think you're in a position to bring down the female gender to feel better about yourselves.

My sister that went to an all girl's school (queen's college) was comparing old students whatsapp group with someone that went to Saint Gregory's college (an all boys school). The old girls whatsapp group was very transparent and accountable with funds, every kobo spent was accounted for and the treasurer gave regular statement of accounts. The old boys group was an entirely different story. From embezzlement of funds to insults to death threats. All the school projects and reunion they were planing towards have been suspended as a result of millions of naira vanishing into thin air. They have broken into cliques where members of each clique will be throwing insults at one other even dragging their families in their mess. These are the people that are supposed to be better leaders and resource managers o. Ordinary whatsapp group, they're embezzling money what will they now do in a political leadership position?

Name one, just one black dominated country governed by men that is doing well today.

kushme:
Guy, you're a Badoo, immediately that AmazonTalc saw your mention, she begin run..

Eh be like say you don give her the John Cena style before

Rushna27:
no tym to waste for pple like u.... bless God say na dat same woman born u and na she u go still marry...... ur personal assumption is ur personal problem....

Shokoloko:
The bible does not agree that women are sexual objects, you cannot even lust after a female that isn't your wife.

CHoccolaTE:
I am very glad my comment pained you into writing profanities.

Good

dominique:
You people and your obsession with submission. How many of you give the love that comes with this submission? A woman is being opressed, abused, exploited etc in marriage. The only advice you can give her is to continue being submissive. What other advice does an average Nigerian man give a troubled wife that makes them think they're the better advisers?

dominique:
With all your logical thinking, what positive contribution has the average black man made to humanity? It can't possibly be up to 0.0001%. Your biggest achievement in life is how well you control women. Thank God more women are waking up to reality that they're better off without the dogs they married and they're taking control of their lives and happiness. They are starting to realize how well they will live without their oppressive husbands, they move on and live fine and that bothers you like hell. All your outbursts and bitterness against women is because you are losing control of your major bragging rights.

CHoccolaTE:
Lol, someone wrote that " Its a man's world that is why the world is a terrible place to be in"
That's my best statement in this thread


Useless violent and rapist criminal gender, all they know is how to run women down. Especially men of the black race, they are just useless thrash.

When you tell them they are useless they will started talking about inventions of white men.

Kingcalls:
Leave the b1tch alone...u know say them no fit get sense... they act like over grown toddlers

Rushna27:
Dis is a very wrong claim cos as it is in women so it is with men... I bet u ave not met with men dat gives advice just to later be with d woman...... life is not a one way traffic....... u met wit few advisers doesn't give d right to generalize all women.........

AmazonTopaz:
Yep women own the world that is why even on this forum men cannot make a conversation without talking about women it is that serious.
You have not been able to contradict my comments because I speak facts.

That said you have every right to be jealous of my hubby he always prays for me and thanks the heavens everyday that I am a light and joy to his life which sane lovely man will not appreciate a Queen like me and treat me right he is a real man not a boy who is a sexist dragging superiority with women and deceiving himself that he is better than women.I am with a man who loves me so much I wonder if I deserve it sometimes but I am lucky and grateful to the heavens and we are enjoying our home owned by the both of us.

AmazonTopaz:
I don't engage fools and I don't waste my time reading your post I always ignore it and surf through.Stop mentioning me I don't care about your stupid opinion which you cannot give outside nairaland I was not talking to you get lost and I won't reply you again.I don't exchange or mention foolish clowns like you

cococandy:
Yet when men give marriage advice to other men, they never preach the kumbaya you expect women to preach.

Their one stop sentence is to “send her back to father’s house”. Almost without fail, they never advice other men to stan bull shyt. That’s not breaking the home?

Very very funny

AmazonTopaz:
Clown I remember you,don't mention me again.

You are not the clown I was mentioning, I did not bother to read your comments because you can only exercise your stupidity on nairaland and will log off to face reality where you cannot spill out your vile trash unless you are a mad person

dominique:
So men are the better advisers abi? All those ones know is submission, that one na advice?

Hintona:
Lies Chimamanda has worn clothes that show generous amounts of her breasts and Beyonce taking back Jay Z has nothing to do with Feminism.

Because Offset gives her the world and more too.

GeneralPula:
Women are bad advisers generally, not just only marriage section..

Their brain size is so small compare to men. Women hardly gives good advice. Majority of them don’t know how to think viably!

Nah wetin dem see for movie dem dey use think. Their own self mind is always twisted!

But if you’re able to meet an extra ordinary woman, it’s a blessing for the man!

AmazonTopaz:
Lol if only you know social issues are created by humans and can be changed by humans what do you mean that you cannot change how the world works?How does the world work boy or don't you know that how the world works changes as time progresses don't be a fool seek knowledge if you have none.Feminism has been working in Nigeria that is why women are educated,vote,have Jobs are bread winners have rights equal to men are equal before the law as men are etc.When I say you are an illiterate you will think I am lying feminsm is in Nigeria and has been working fine and will continue to.It is just like saying people who fought against slavery did not know how the world worked back then but here we are today slavery is a crime.Do you know that the fight for justice racial/equality and black lives matter is a movement like feminism which is working around the world bringing world awareness and is being implemented slowly but steadily I don't expect you to know this because you are a small minded person who cannot understand the things going on around him.

You are the one living in denial if you think feminism is not in Nigeria where women have rights in all spheres as I earlier mentioned before.It goes to show that you don't know what feminism is in the first place if in denial you mean women voting,working,driving considered equal under the law have upper hand in marriage acts etc in this country then you are truly living in denial in an alternate universe.

CaveAdullam:
We share over 90% of traits that are analogous to animals especially apes and chimpanzees. Especially when it comes to a male space like this, men will shit test, proclaim a show of dominance and status, develop some particular features or imitate it. Expect this wherever you find a motley of testosterones. Testosterone is a b!tch. Lol!

It is normal! However, if we don't calm down, relax to see the nuances in every ideas/opinions our transmutation into something better will be dilatory.

darediamond:
Until you are able to link the dots, you can NEVER UNDERSTAND WHAT IS GOING ON.

Mrscarter:
Most are but i know some who arent.
Some actually put their values before their lust.
No matter how gud u are at hiding it its impossible not to get caught eventually. Some ppl have cheated once n never donr it again n some will do it as much as they want n can. So im not saying most ppl aint cheated at all just that not all of them cheat

vickydankal:
As painful as it sounds, you are correct. Most men are as faithful as their options. Close to a decade in marriage I could say that men in my opinion men hardly attach emotions to sex. That's while the most unfaithful men take very good care of their family that you could sware for him being faithful. We ladies should continue to pray for our men, the temptation they over come is not here especially if your husband is a public figure like say a pastor, politician, doctor, MD or just about any high position, ladies will shamelessly flirt with them.

You know a faithful man in the midst of opportunity to cheat with no strings attached and no one will know and he decides to be faithful. Thats a faithful man, and when that happens he may not tell you,because he is doing it for himself not for you.

Faithfulness is marriage goes beyond character determination or principles. You need God to be faithful.

culf:
I disagree with the last statement, I know a lot of men that have options but chose to be faithful. Its a personal thing alongside God's help