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Mrscarter:
Two people in a relationship. One strays with another person. Its cheating. No way around it. Male or female. A relationship is for two people only. If you want more than one person why even have a relationship. If there's nothing wrong with it why does the cheat lie n hide their cheating?
Anyway theres no femenism in me. Im all bout my husband being the boss and me being the one to take care of the chores n kids etc. I just believe in being faithful and loyal. If you cant do that then you dont respect your partner.
Its not called cheating for no reason

Ma'am, If u want a loyal man then u have to know he ain't gonna b the type of man u want.

A loyal high value man is a feminine imperative myth because a high value man has the leverage and has options.

Most men lie about their cheating because they are fighting their innate sexual mating strategy which is fucking as many bitches as possible.

A man is as loyal as his options

Jessepaid:
hehehe..

True..

We are in Nigeria...

So long as you didn't do court marriage, you are under no obligation to pay alimony or any sort of financial support to your estranged spouse..

My elder bro's marriage crashed early this year..


It was a little over 2 years they've been together..


Till today she left the house and no one knows her whereabouts...


The Nigga still dey plan marry another woman...


Na his business sha...



I just want peace of mind and the benefits that comes with it..

So...


I don't know how to put it...


But theses days expecially now that I am hustle and women are doing shakara for me...


I don comot them for mind for anything long-term oo..


I don't fancy marriage bro not anymore

Okay bro do u and build ur value

Mrscarter:
Yes to some degree men n women see sex and love differently to women. But also not every woman is the same nor every man. I think it depends on the individual and their relationship with each other. Ive known men n women who cheated on all their partners then met a certain one n became completely faithful. So i think it all depends on the connection you have with a person.

Any woman that cheats on her man doesn't love and respect her man again. Once a woman cheats she is done with that relationship.

Men just look at sex like taking a piss.

Men can detach emotions from sex, women can't.

Mrscarter:
Asides all that cheating is still cheating.

Nope don't use ur feminine lens to classify men's way of cheating

Peace of mind over spec

Women's beauty diminishes with time.

I noticed that most men that are looking for spec because they are thinking with a feminine mindset. Most men have scarcity mindset and so they are as loyal as their options. Men's game is attaining as many women as possible. Women's game is locking down a high value man.
Men want quantity, women want quality that is why women want men who are superior to them in every areas of life (financially,physically etc) but men just want women who are fit, attractive and friendly. Men don't care about a woman's status but women love men who have status because women are attracted to men who other men wanna be and other women wanna Bleep.

Jessepaid:
Everybody should choose their path and be ready to suffer the consequences either positive or negative...

With the ways things are going with ladies and relationships..

I am not even sure I will marry oo..

Na surrogacy sure pass to pay someone to birth kids for me...

Sighs

I will marry and I will marry well.

U are in Nigeria bro why the fear??

Mrscarter:
What a load of bullshit

Men show love and love differently from women

Men love idealistically and sacrificially
Women love opportunistically

Men show love through sharing his resources and paying for his woman lifestyle ie giving her financial security.
Women show their love through fidelity ie not being a hoe but be his personal hoe

Men and women look at sex differently too

jieta:
Oh!!! I just pity you, your last paragraph will give you so much backlash, hope you've a strong skin to with stand our nairaland feminists.

Lolzzz

I just report the news so don't hate me for it

Dpsychologist:
Yea this topic is contentious .

Since she works let her also invest in the relationship, it is suppose to be symbiotic not parasitic.

Yes it is possible provided that it is not only money that is your source of dominance.

if only money is what you use as a form of dominance then once she has money more than you it becomes a problem.


Remember hypergamy is not just about money.
Hypergamy can be being better than her in other aspects.



As @amerix said, there are 3 F’s of dating.

- Fossil. - Be older.

- Fortunes. - Be wealthier.

- Fitness. Be fitter.

Better than her not just financially.

Any man who doesn't have financial authority in his household can never be respected by his woman.

A man must be the sole financial provider in his home.

That's the number one thing men must focus on and then you learn game and improve ur looks.

Jessepaid:
hehehe...

What a waste of Mb

Just stating facts though

Mrscarter:
I think sex is more enjoyable with the person you truly love. Therefore its easy for me to stay faithful. I think faithfulness depends on how much n in what way you love a person as well as the kind of person you are. Also wat kind of relationship you n ur partner have and the kinda person they are too. So if u find the perfect fit for you why would u need to cheat.
I cheated on my long time bf wen i was 19. He cheated too. We loved each other. But it was a different kind of love to what i have for my husband now. So i think age is a part of it aswell.
Cheating is just hurtful, dishonest, betrayal and unnecessary drama and pain.

Men don't cheat, we just have sex period!

Women cheat

Trash!!!!

A woman will cross the ocean, fight lions just to Bleep the guy she's attracted and aroused to.

Women make rules for betas and break rules for alphas.

If shes making rules for u she doesnt find u sexually attractive and she's not aroused by u

Fluency:
I totally disagree. We still have good ones though really hard to find.

Nope

A man moulds his dream woman, he doesn't earn his dream woman. U have to have frame and she has to respect and enter your world.

Yes they are the hardest to date because most girls seeking those types of men are not marriage minded.

Those men have built their value and don't want any bitch to just come and scatter the world they built.

They don't have time for games and they will tell u Wat they are interested in and Wat they are about.

The worst women to date are 30+ women. They are useless especially for a long term relationship cos they don't have fertility and beauty again and most of them have masculine traits.

IHate9jerianss:
@Emboldened
How can a man truly understand women at a primordial level and still desire to marry one or more?
It seems Nigerian "redpillers" want to eat their cake and have it

No

Nigerian men are polygamous. Polygamy is not banned in NIGERIA unlike in western countries where polygamy is a crime.

Understanding redpill will make u have a successful marriage in Nigeria

It's very stupid and foolish to go fully MGTOW (I mean the doom pill aspects of MGTOW) especially if you are in Nigeria.

Most people who go fully MGTOW in Nigeria are low valued beta male simps who still want their secondary school crush to love them for who they are and are crushed she ain't looking at their way again. Also they are lazy weak-ass bois who don't want to increase their value and burden of performance!

PrimadonnaO:
Sometimes the comparison is just unnecessary.

There's a way people tend to tout this advice that makes it misleading, as though marrying late automatically means marrying right. And that's entirely untrue.

Simply tell people to maintain a healthy relationship, pray, and do their due diligence before getting married.

First could also be right...
Taking your time could also be right...


It's the intentionality one approaches it with , and the grace of God that makes the difference.

Women's game is locking down a high value man
Men's game is to attain as many women as possible.

Most men are monogamous because they lack options. A man is as loyal as his options.

Also women sexual and fertility peaks at 23yrs old, after 23yrs it start declining and diminishing. By 30yrs she barely useless for a long term relationship especially if she wants a high value man because those high value men wud rather pick young, attractive and fertile ladies who are between 18-23yrs old.

Women have biological clock, men don't
Women are born with value, men must create their value

Long distance relationship is not a relationship, u just have an invisible friend.

"I have a boyfriend and I m very serious with him, makoba mi....."

Because men don't cheat, we just have sex

Women cheat

KingClown:
yeah some of them


same way there are logical men, the same way there are logical women.

same way there are emotional women, the same way there are emotional men.

Lol

K

professore:
her Lord? This one loud. Mmm...women don't build they just move in...mm. By the way, you no go pray to know if she get long life? If she no get spirit husby etc

Just stating facts though

Bloody simp

KingClown:
baba I no gree for this thing dey you talk o.


it's even men that are more sentimental.


people that are more calculating than men when it comes to relationships.



all these emotional talk na just cover up

Are you saying women are logical beings?

Jeon:
still remain the fact.

Wat fact?

Women and men are fucking around this 21st century

Vivien458:
So one of my male friends came to me for advice, I told him I will create a post and send him links so he can read matured advice. Please if you're below 21 years do not comment here I beg you.

So he has been dating this girl for 1year and now, He told me that the girl once told him to do yahoo yahoo and make money. Mind you, this guy is a freelancer and earns about 300k monthly and the girl knows. There was one time he told the girl about his film production and someone wanted to sponsor it, but the man is inviting him to his hotel. He was shocked as his girlfriend told him to go even if it was gay he should close eye and do it, that people do alot for money.

Now, this guy bought Airconditon one in his room and the other his office, his girlfriend got angry that he was wasting his money, and started telling him how she has issues in school and he doesn't want to help.

The only thing she has done for him is buy him 2 polos since a year and took him out once. However, there was also a day he didn't have money and the girl borrowed him 10k to do the stuffs which he paid back, however he was not freelancing by that time. He said one day the girl was buying something at a mall, and he called the girl and sent her 5k to buy some stuffs for the both of them, I mean like Shawarma which both will eat, but was shocked the girl came back and bought nothing, asking the girl, she said the money was too small to buy anything and she didn't also give him back the money.

He is confused, because he was dating the girl while he had little cash and she was there, but I told him it was not struggling. But what do I know.

When ever she is with this girl, she refuses to pick her calls in front of him, even if she picks, she says" hello, I am in the market, or school or shop" she has never mentioned on call she is with her boyfriend not even once.

Also, one time he decided to test this girl, and told her they where going out with 5k early 2020, they went out, and then he decided to buy him self some stuffs he could eat in the night since he works from home and stays awake till 4am every morning and this guy has ulcer, so he needs to be chewing something, immediately he picked up cornflakes, the girl also picked up cornflakes for her self. He was shocked as she told him, that" anything you pick he should also pick for her" even after telling her he has budget of 5k for both of them, with his own money oo and she is making such demands.

If I remember more I will update, but please should he dumb this girl and find someone else.. the girl is an apprentice now.

No guy should be in a serious relationship with a lady in his 20s

Skepticus:
Okay. I edited my earlier comment, though.

Just to correct your earlier comment about MGTOW being in marriage. The MGTOW is red pill to its core but where they differ from the other elements that constitute the red pill is abstaining from permanent relationship with women endorsed by the state (legal marriage) or permanent cohabitation (regarded by a lot of governments including Nigeria's, as Common Law Marriage).

MGTOWs can have platonic, romantic, business relationships with women as long as it doesn't pose a serious threat to their health, money, resources, freedom and life. Women are not worth the stress of proving your worth (ego stroking). Live life on your own terms.

How then can you raise a child if you don't get married?

Men must perform and are judged by their burden of performance. Gaining wealth isn't to prove ur worth to women but to exert dominance amongst men and women.
U need money, frame, game and redpill awareness to successfully run marriage.

I love MGTOW because it teaches men to make themselves their own mental point of origin

Jeon:
nahso. add value kiii!

so that you can blackmail her with the common name you guys always tag ladies.. which is "hoe and gold digger"

I'm not blackmailing any bitch

If she doesn't add value asides sex she's definitely a hoe and I will kick her out to the streets

StacyO:
Wow
That means I'll really have a hard time dealing with this generation.

Are you a virgin?

StacyO:
Wow



So you date just to sex?

Yes and no

If u add value to me after we have sex then I will keep u around

Once she enters my frame, acknowledges I'm her Lord and she adds value asides sex to the relationship.

Women don't build, they just move in

Men and women can't be platonic friends

If he's not fucking her then he's her girlfriend

This issue ain't complex. Most men know that if they don't Bleep a lady they went on two or three dates with, she will leverage the illusion of sex to gain financial, attention and time compliance from the man.
So why wud I waste my time with a lady if she ain't gonna Bleep me after 2 to 3 dates

Men understand that women are very flaking and love trickery

Handsnigga:
Not all ladies deserve redpill treatment anyways but majority of them. If you're lucky to find a genuine one to marry, marry ooo... marriage is a blessing to you as a man if you find a virtuous lady, but once you spot a hoe or gold digger, run away for your life.

All ladies deserve the redpill treatment

Even if u end up with a virtuous lady, u still need to have frame, game and b redpill aware to keep the attraction and arousal going in the relationship

Women are aroused by the masculine essence their men possesses