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@tbaba, on the other thread when I was talking about understanding people..I doubt that people can totally hide their personality. A word or two and you'd be able to tell.

words like- My children are my utmost priority, calling someone else ugly, etc should already be red flags to any woman even if d statements are not directed at them.

It should be known that such people have no iota of respect for others. It doesnt require a ten years courtship-well for someone who is intuitive.

tbaba1234: We can do without a sister, I just need a person to do the market analysis. Anyone with that kind of knowledge is good

How is it that neither of the already nominated people can do the market analysis.

Are the ladies only good for market matters let us not start on this note at all.

Zayhal had mentioned she is in.Kemiola too. what happened to nominating either of them and not because they are market savvy.

You are the one married to her and not your father.

You love her and finds no fault in her..so You have no problem and she should not. Keep your wife and protect her from your Father.

If there is a way of keeping them far away from each other, it would be helpful. I don't mean totally alienating one from the other but at least giving enough space for respect.

Father-in-laws should take the daughter in laws as theirs. He after all would not wish for this to happen to his own daughter.

But something else, is your wife making troubles with her co-wife?

AbdH: Set an example for the ladies too.

I set d example almost 2 years ago...

The Muslimahs on this forum are not many. Many ladies are brought up 2 be shy about these things so don't expect too much.

Actually I'd be surprised if many come forward albeit it would gladden my heart.

and you are skeptical and want others to drop their own profiles. UNFAIR

I endorse

hmmmmmmmmnnnnnn.


may be they will be here tomorrow(friday)

the last thing I will take offence over is what someone thinks of me...If uv seen my posts well, ud realise I dont care.


It doesnt matter if I am ugly to u either. I wld care NOT for what someone hoping to TAME a woman thinks of my looks.

btw, I ddnt mean to be offensive wv my post.You are entitled to Your choice

justaqad: That quality alone cannot be camouflaged or cloned. It's in d gene.
Other qualities like character, etc can be learned.
I can tame an abusive woman, etc.
I admire beautiful kids,
I wanna give my kids d same.
I can imagine ur anger, maybe u re just so war-gly (war-war + ugly) lol
No offense. Though.
Dnt question my preferences.
Thank you

I wish..

I hope Rice Stew Very Plenty.


May Allah bless the union

done

mosquitoNet: Good Morning Nairaland,

I use to be very fair in complexion but I'm getting dark due too much hustle and exposure to sunlight or so I tot. Pls do anyone knows any non-bleach cream I can use to get my complexion back? Thnks!

Use sun screens but be careful not to get the whitening ones.

Get spf 50 and above from a good pharmacy

tbaba1234: There is limit to how much you can 'understand' someone before. The truth is that it takes married couples up to five years to really understand each other because they would have gone through a few things. Islam forbids premarital relationships so that is not an option.

Often times you have maybe a few months to discuss marriage with a person. It is important to make a priority list and examine the level of compatibility. You will have to work through the faults of your spouse and it is hard work. The first few weeks of marriage, you guys are probably too blinded by love or by the excitement of getting married to notice faults but that quickly disappears.

No one would get on your nerves more than your husband and no one will make you more happy and content than him. It is a bit of both. There is where the work comes in.

What I mean by understanding each other is very simple.

I assume the reason to consider some1 in d 1st place is d thought that you could trust them. and at least trust them to be truthful about whom they are.

You can then present very direct questions about the most important things to u. With them being truthful, you can see if u are at par and then decide to have the marriage or not.

I wasnt talking of courtship and long term relationships. I am talking of opening eyes ears and soul b4 committing.

Once these very important things are in place, I think working to sustain the relationship would not be hard.

ajibawealt: A muslim male here. I'm currently working and schooling at the same time, but will be rounding up my schooling soon and I'm planning settling down thereafter.

I need a mature, beautiful, homely and working muslim sister with AA genotype, preferrably Yoruba.
Could be a career woman but shouldn't work extra long hours.

She must be religious but not an extremist.

Height - 5'ft plus. I'm 5'11ft
body - Average
Age - 25 - 30

Here's my email ad - gaphcloud@gmail.com

The email address is good. Others can follow suit and do just that.

justaqad: Lol.
Big Mac want me to break down jinx lol.
Ok
Qualities I want (thinking)
So long you are beautiful we can work on other exceptional qualities.
(my kids are my utmost priority)

Interesting. Beauty is all a woman needs to raise your children of utmost priority...wetun pessin no go hear

The girl is putting you by the sides on an incase level. She likes her boyfriend who is too stupid to care for her. his face will. clear when she leaves him for you but you may not enjoy having her if her mind remains with him.

She's pretty young though. May be naive.

I wonder how such women explain it to their sons.

Peter should act responsibly and at least have a test.

tbaba1234: The key to succeeding in marriage is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. -Halfourdeen.com


Discuss?

I agree. I believe totally that you love people because you want to love them. If you want a relationship, you need as well to be consciously ready to work to keep it.

All of these would require both of the people involved. If not, one would get overwhelmed and hurt.

Wisdom, not being lazy, being sensitive to others's feelings are to be practised before the union.

I mean, you don't assume love would simply make somebody become selfless or more responsible or less lazy.In Marriage, they would simply continue to live their lives but with someone else involved.

Here is where understanding the other person b4 hand comes in. It is important that both people at least share.ideas.on how to do things, on the ideal things, on d ideal way of life, etc for the work required.in sustaining the relationship to be easy

This should make homepage so that people can become aware.

BetaThings: The worst enemies of Islam are the political office holders. They are interested first and foremost in holding onto their posts

However some of the organised groups are not better. They cannot speak the truth to people in authority
Is it because they are looking for favours or have received some favours? I don't know

However but antipathy to matters is an ill that afflicts US ALL.
Muslims don't show the passion that adherents of other religions demonstrate for their religion
Even Nairaland Muslims have not organised one event to benefit non-members or the entire ummah
We are ALL guilty really

Tbaba suggested on a thread an initiative to help people. It is slowly disappearing into the inner pages
As usual!

May Allah give us strength

It is so easy to say. Yh all of those.

Can somebody just do what anyone cld av done?

hahhhahaha. I know someborry like that but I wont tell you or her cos I dont trust you! eh!

Afam,dis your belief get as e be o.



anyways, d house girl ni if it happened in Nigeria.

sounds interesting but capital intensive.
I naturally like the act of house restructuring.

the before and afters make it fun

well, I have nothing good to say and will therefore



The left wingers must have been the ones in this pic

I did not need to read the article. Last year, I had gone looking for a sunscreen but they didnt have one without a whitening effect.If I n3ver used a sunscreen b4 then,I'd think it is how sunscreens work.

Oya now. Where is everybody

frosbel: I think it is a healthy practice to keep shifting the goal post , till it is better positioned for more accurate scoring of goals.

your ojoro is too much. switching d goal post disallows fair play.

OMG! that is insane.


this should be in crime section though.

How come flavour is not d one correcting the amebor by Linda

The country, Nigeria! where the worst of the lot are in power.


Ila li amam. in Sha Allah.

kulyie: deols you or anyone is yet to answer my 2nd question na

Sorry. will see to it.