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isaiahethan: Ese I really welcome ur article if I may say.God will forgive you for pouring out your heart.we aint the judge but God has a lot to judge on the last day.the story started from the hotel,anyway I understood you were missing sex that is to say kongi is to blame.secondly could be your indecent dressing from Nigeria when going to church attracted your ex pastor to have such a huge urge,even when ur out of the country for studies he won't stop thinking about you.the psychological aspect of it was your pastor knew you love taking alcohol secretly,which he offers you,but you never tell us how many glasses of Hennessy and coke you took before rolling in bed with him.you weren't charm,it is kongi.next time try to overcome such temptation.it is obviously your dressing when you were going to visit him in the hotel will be seducing and that is what he was expecting from you.please my advice to some other Christian sisters is dress decent when going to the house of God.it is end time from the lady usher welcoming you into some churches,you have already lust if not by the grace of God.Ese the lord has forgiven you,but amend your ways please stop drinking and smoking,is not the solution thank God for having the courage to pour out your heart.it is only God who can judge some so called men and women of God.

Let's not forget could be winter period in UK,and you can't resist the weather and kongi two things are involved

what some ladies wear to church is a story for another day.its embarrassing truly.if you notice most ushers are retired hoes and they are not retired cos they have given there life they are retired cos the men have moved on to younger ones.

yorke1: What is your point really? Are you one of the sisters in COZA?

never never never ! Was born an Anglican,married into catholic .you should no what that means. I said the things I said cos she is a grown woman and should not have acted like a victim.why would a guy want you to come to his hotel room when he is not your dad or bro ? Even if a girlfriend comes to town n is staying in a hotel,I rather she meets me at home or we hang out in public places (cos you can't trust anyone nowadays).am not talking about the pastor cos I don't really care he exist ,like I said y Argue over a dog.

yorke1: Got this from her blog. This girl kinda sound intelligent.

http://esewalter./2013/08/22/my-affair-with-pastor-biodun-fatoyinbo-of-coza/


[b]esewalter
August 23, 2013 at 8:31 am

First off, good morning fellow Nigerians, Christians and who ever else is dissing or supporting on this blog. I want to state first and foremost that I never used the term “sexual abuse” in this post. I have never been sexually abused my entire life. However, I have been on about researching abuse generally because I started to realize the reason I had been how I was was because I didn’t have confidence in myself as a human being and I struggled with self esteem for as long as I can remember. Abuse is not only sexual and what I refer to here is not sexual abuse but psychological (mental and emotional), manipulation and control. These are forms of abuse and this is what I was referring to.
When I joined COZA, I didn’t know my left from my right. I was finding my way and naturally I was drawn to the word and the fact that I thought this was the one church that would help me grow. As for my then pastor Biodun, I really did see him as a god. I knew nothing about God for myself and I wasn’t reading the bible. I felt he was the one that would help me understand and grow. At the time, I had been attending church for less than three years. I will not deny the fact that I lived my life as I pleased all the while I was in University and even afterwards but like every human being knows, there comes a time when you decide to get it together.
Secondly, I am not hurting or broken anymore. The times I mentioned those in the blog, I was talking about what was happening to me at the time. By God’s grace I crawled out of the self-destructive hole I had entered. This experience drove me to dig deeper and understand grace for myself. Not only that, it made me understand how wrong it is to fear ‘men of God’ and even treat them as God. And I dare say, if I didn’t have this experience, I wouldn’t understand what it means to have a relationship with God.
I have asked God for forgiveness, I hold no grudge against Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo or anyone displaying ignorance here or elsewhere. I did what I knew to do as it regards meeting church elders. Not just pastor Flo but others and it seemed no one could talk to Pastor Biodun. As for those saying people will loose their faith, I think that would turn out for their good eventually because when you loose your faith because of man,you would then be able to seek God for yourself and find truth. After all, the bible states that He wishes that ALL men come to the knowledge of truth.
Yes we were both guilty,I have not excused myself from the role I played. I was guilty as sin, however, I have come to know better. If you know anything about low self esteem, you would understand why it went on for as long as it did. Looking back, I think I expected him to know better than me but I know better now. That being said, the whole affair ended because I put my foot down. He made all sorts of propositions to me when I returned to Nigeria but I was looking to heal and move forward.
My aim with this blog is to show other ladies who suffered same fate at his hands both in Illorin and Abuja (some of whom have emailed me but are still trapped in guilt and shame to speak up) that there is nothing to be ashamed of. The clout he has over people can cause them to do thoughtless things but in the end, it’s all out there and I am at peace with myself and with God.
For those calling me a liar, please ask Pastors Biodun Fatoyinbo and Flo if I have lied. I rest [/b]

better!!!! You are guilty too.i hope you find peace you seek.but no matter what,somebody or people will be guilty as sin with your husband too in future.

obo_man: You a married woman with kids, and still went ahead to sleep with an admirer?

What country are you from, where do you currently live?

oga try and read properly Biko

HotNaijaBabe: @Coogar...do NOT take this too personal. After all has been said and done...WE ALL have our Faults and We are not Perfect!!!
Speaking of Women( and not just Nigerian women). NOTHING will Stop some Women from falling PREY. I don't know if it is in our Genetic Make-up.. I can't explain why women heard and read about 'Cynthia Asokogu' and still meet up with strangers in Hotel rooms. I can't explain why Women heard and read about ritualists using body parts for money- and they still sleep around with ' Rich Alhajis '.. I don't know, I can't explain! But, I'm rest assured that SOME women will still be saved when they read this kind of Confessions. Hope is NOT LOST!

baby you are right,some people will never learn.if you come out with your head take responsibility for your actions and stop playing the victim.thats my only advice to those ladies.

seangy4konji: Walahi u talk sense...take alomo join body jor

off topic, I go to the gym most days and everytime I wear my wedding ring and keep to myself so guys can leave me the Bleep alone but still they come and try there luck both married and single both rich n middle ( cos my gym is very expensive) .some will be like let's hang out tonight n I will be like oh no ,have to go tend to my kids and husband and some act surprised n d rest don't care.do I follow them to hang out so we can exchange children stories ? NO .i know what they want and the day I decide to fall for one I know I do it cos am attracted to the person and I want to get laid and no sentiments attached.my point is,she wanted it,she got it simple.like I said earlier dont have respect for religious authority ,never will.i go to church,I pray and I get out.

I believe this girl tru and tru. But I only blame her for going to the guys room if she wasn't Interested in the guy.its so easy to admire a cool,clean looking guy then imagine the guy leaving all the other girls and picking interest in only you,it's a heavenly feeling. Av always had a stereotyped mind,if a guy says hi to me I take it that he wants sex so why would he say hi,invite you to his room n kiss him and you didn't run if you weren't interested in feeling him. I BLAME THE GIRL and about the pastor,I don't give an Bleep cos most of them are dogs,y argue if a dog is infected or not ? Like who cares ? It's the lady feeling holier than thou that pisses me off.my question is hope you know you are not the only girl he has used this tactic on ? And hope you know most of those girls didn't fall ? I guess you feel used now and that's why you are crying !

Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo ! It's sad times for ladies

khattab02: If the scatter his head how will they know those involved? Anyway with all the arrests made so far Government are yet to tell us those involved and those spornsoring.Or are they hidding something from us?

yes they are

Mr Aboki: Imagine the suspects beings interrogated by the Military.......






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this reminds of one dreaded police officer at panti years ago.it was said that he was police weapon of torture .that was why all the worst criminals where taken there. One of his methods was sodomy,he will Bleep your ass till you confess

pDude: Because Africans and Africa come from a culture that embraces dirt and filth.

gbam

Chanchit: Which kyn thing be this na. "e don die, e never die" Mr Man abeg choose one and stop confusing me. Thats why I like muslims, them go don baf am, cement am for 6ft, if he come later wake up, sooner or later e go die there. Nonsense.

thank you for making my night

coogar: jonathan himself must be an irresponsible husband if he cannot put a leash on his rabid wife. i would be embarrassed as a husband if my wife continues to to bring shame into my household. if jonathan cannot stamp his authority in his household, why do we expect him to rule a country of 160 million people?

am speechless . Could anyone be this daft ?

Hezron Lorraine: you know something,I didn't come here with a gay agenda.I don't open gay themed threads because I want you guys to accept gays.someone has to open those threads to clear the widespread ignorance of many of you.is it when we've stayed in the closet in real world,what do you stand to gain in creating an e-clost for yourself.

Coming out on a very homophobic filled site like this says a lot.like today.Cameroonpride just picked on me with no just cause targeting my sexuality.on a thread that I made no comment but to post pictures of a beautiful country.

Someone also once PM me,he said he observed my defensive mode on a particular thread,then he saw me taking on some guys in the politics section.according to him,he said,he never knew gay guys were this intelligent,he absolutely thinks they're all dumb and no nothing than being gay.I changed that notion that day,I proofed to him,that our sexuality doesn't define us,we have other priorities too.

I,Masonkz,Hetty registering our presence on Nairaland and declaring our sexuality came at a price.at the same time,people knowing gays on this forum has helped some to remove the identity from the personality.
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Neither of us needs the acceptance.it doesn't change anything,we have to educate the biased minds on this thread.

sick

Another waste

[quote author=Lagos_Boi]Because Lagos happens to be working as a responsible govt would. [/quote----------------MAY GOD GIVE ALL NIGERIAN GOVERNORS BRAIN AND HEART LIKE MR FASH.PLEASE YOU CAN STILL STEAL THE MONEY BUT AT LEAST WORK.LUCKY LAGOS PEOPLE

bookface: What's with this new trend of people travelling outside of their home country to get married?

its cheaper

yuzedo: Please instead of killing yourself for free and going to hell fire for nothing, submit yourself to Okija_juju & Co. Ltd to use you for money rituals. Your family will be paid N215,000 every month (this is higher than Suicide Bombing compensation at N112,050).

For further inquiries and bookings plis contact Sweetus & Sons but no daughters Nig. Plc. 1 Alaba Macket, Alaba.. Tenk!

lmao

infidelity and childlessness (on both side)

justplainpaul: i also love u more for the reply u gave the tribalist.

the hate is too much,it has consumed him n will surely destroy him.

ayswags: unfortunately i hate ibos

i love you more

ayswags: go and improve on ur english first,i dont understand okoro english,and who told u am not exposed,that am not exposed to bad things like our ibo brothers who have been hammered with the belief of "money above all things" since childhood,doesnt mean am not exposed to good things

i love you too

ayswags: people envy good things,tell me any thing worth envying from the greedy,empty,and arrogant ibo tribe

please darl for the love of God get that help that you need.no man is an island and every smart person gets as much allies as bhe needs.go out n be exposed

ayswags: ibos overestimate their self importance,who are the ibo ladies u are talking about u mean the monkey look a like or the hairy ones

jealousy is a deadly disease ,let go of it now or it drives you to an early grave.

OsunOriginal: Only animals think like ibos. Normal human beings should think constructively and do things that can be passed on to coming generations.

you must hurt badly from the hate inside your soul.get over the heartbreak and get a life ! am sure you don't sleep at night.the igbo lady(yes i know bits a lady)that brought on this hatred has moved on and i doubt she remembers you.sorry,you are a pathetic case.

Origami III: Honestly am fed up with the intensity of the tribal division and rivalry between yorubas and igbos.These two tribes used to be the closest.What really went wrong.Reading all these hate comments has gradually dimmed my hope in the viability of our nation.These two tribes represent the most intelligent of the lots that makes the major tripod of our country.The smaller and minority attach themselves to these majors in order to find relevance.As an itsekiri man,these comments have made me become disillusioned in the Nigerian prospects.Pls stop and disregard all hate tribal comments.As for botswana,its a shame and 9ija must proudly act to make them regret such unbrotherly treatment.

really its so sad.igbo and yoruba has been the closest tribe,who started this division ? i fear this will escalate to something terrible maybe we will all learn after it

LETS KEEP FIGHTING WITHIN AND EXPECT OTHERS TO TREAT US BETTER.THEY READ OUR NEWS AND BLOGS SO THEY NO THERE'S NO UNITY AND COS OF THAT THERE WILL BE RETALIATION .KEEP FIGHTING O NDI YORUBA NA NDI IGBO.

Kassidy90: If u have doubts visit my home town, Ado-Odo in Ogun state, a trial will convince u, even african bomb made with local fowl's egg......I no won talk much jst visit der...then u knw say witchcraft pass aircraft

I know about the egg bomb from back at ife .i think it's only women that are allowed to carry that not so sure sha. I believe it exits ,it's only fools that think all those occultic stuff doesn't exist . What of Magun ?

fugly

bookface: As usual, because the person involved is a "Man of God", the sheeple minded are here screaming "Don't let God curse you o"

How lowly have we become? It breaks my heart to continuously see and hear how fo0lishly naive Christians of these generations have let themselves become.

So here is an "MOG" who wishes to raise billions for, guess what? A new f*cking building! - Contrast that with Bill Gates who plans to dedicate most of his wealth to helping African kids fight starvation, malaria and diseases. In my mind, i know which of these two really deserve to be called a Man of God!

What is really funny is that those giving away these monies really think they are giving it to God and in return, the pastor will say a prayer for them and God will open his windows of dollars! LOL! What ignorance! You have been doing that for years, stup1d, and you are still as miserably poor as ever! -

If God's priority is building another Auditorium, and he truly is the God that made the entire world in 7 days, then i doubt he would be looking to raise billions from all sort of sources, most especially from dodgy ones!

The concept of the "Man of God" is nothing other than fraud! A man tells you he can speak to "his father" to make all your problems go away - if something happens by coincidence, he claims his father has heard you - if nothing happens at all, he claims his father will one do it one day, just be patient, and of course, just have faith!! -
The fraud of course needed to be justified, so a throng of people are allowed to come forward every sunday for "Testimonies", hallelujah, the "Man of God" is really on fire!

The fraud then becomes complete when the "Man of God" becomes omnipotent and unquestionable! "He can't be questioned" they say, "He is a man of God", they say, "Touch not my anointed" they say - and whatever the "Man of God" says must be followed to the latter by sheeple 1diots!

The other day, a m0ronic bully who doubles as the "Man of God" slapped and publicly condemned to hell fire, someone who went to him to know more about Christ!...In the right climates, one would expect outrage, or perhaps even for his criminal to be charged with physical abuse! The deafening silence, and the silent approval of his followers was a disgrace to the whole of Christianity!

you have said it all