₦airaland Forum

lorretta u: and by unclothedness you mean hands and neck?
I can see how very modest and decent you lot are.marrying your daughters off at 13-15 years to 70year old men.exposing them to all sorts of sexual abuse and std's,but opening their necks and hand for some fresh air is such an abomination.I really really really thank God I wasn't born into such slavery and pitiful living condition.may God help you folks in your myopism and hypocrisy.

dont mind dem,ndi aruru Ana ! Lagos is far ahead of Nigeria,good one Lagos state

Delafruita: how does having implants reduce risk of cancer?implants rather increase the risk of cancer.jolie had a preventive double mastectomy..layman language,thats removal and not implant

if you go to daily mail n read the story ,you will see a part where she said they put in implants.

Austine.E:
...i didnt want to respond to your comment but i think we must take a holistic look at it,agreed Nigeria is a free and secular nation were freedom of movement and association is garanteed!talking about xenophobia,we all know that in our recent past some states e.g Lagos state deported some Nigerians to their various states for constituting nuisances to the state and i guess,that wasn't discriminately because it was by an opposition party state....then we ve also had states who woke up one morning and declared sharia in a country assumed to be secular!by this action,states like Zamfara made islam a state religion,state money were used to build mosque,sponsor muslim clerics,create the state Hibah(security)board and financed with state money,in a supposedly secular nation.As a christian from the south or elsewhere,i can no longer freely drink my beer,or a lady freely putting on her smart trousers to work etc..i think this is more xenophobic than the ban on new cattlemen entering delta state,where the molest,kill and plunder!i also wldnt want to talk about the Mullah that runs our apex bank,who went ahead to introduce islamic banking in a secular nation inspite of opposition from Nigerian christians!Delta state has the absolute right to protect life and properties of it citizens in the state.

enuf said! Thank you Austine

WackyJ1: When you should have run, you spoke to your predator that you thought he was going to eat you. What did you expect him to say?

Is it wrong to have faith in our ladies?

she is a hoe,what you abhor you abhor. This one is a serial cheat.and when she gets married she will come here crying that hubby is cheating on her.

Aleovera: A friend said married men are very normal people, it is just that they are married! She said this when I once questioned how a girl would have inappropriate relations with a man, knowing he is married. We often feel we gat it under control and certain things are beneath us but alas...

@ 190: Thank you for dropping a line.

don't think you need advice,with ur write up,you sound like you know it all. Greedy girl

The man is the head of the family! That said,the woman should hold him up when necessary

Listen to Jason marz's I won't give up. Beautiful song.i think we don't stop loving,we just stop putting effort cos we feel we have gotten the person so there's no need to pay much attention anymore.

DICKtator: “I reported at home and we went to the police station to report. By the time we got back to the house, he was dead. It was in the morning that it was seen clearly that the knife pierced his heart.”

Sunday Tribune gathered that the deceased’s mother had been so distraught about his death that she had been calling for justice to be done to her son’s killer.

heartfelt emotions that was why it went straight to the heart!!!
LMAO @ Justice. If the lady's account is true then justice has already played its part!!

GBAM

So sad for the girl,am sure this incident will be hard to forget as for the badt guy he deserved what he got.

cool4ny: "You aired together" (your word). Now my question is...where are you now? unknown? or popular?. He is a smart dude, this guy is creative and people r talking about him. The only way you can make money in showbiz is if you are relevant. r u?

hello derenle,so he should compromise himself so he could be relevant ? Please some people still value there names more than popularity you receiver

nony30: @edenitis what makes ‎u think trutalk and myself are •̸№t house owners?we don't have τ̲̅ȍ parade our achievements.Some of ‎u small boys who managed τ̲̅ȍ pick up some lucky cash from a lucky deal now want τ̲̅ȍ become millionaires tru collection of rent. •̸№, Į̸̸̨ƭ doesn't work like that.Building a house is like choosing τ̲̅ȍ tie up ur money in an investment that will grow overtime instesd of living Į̸̸̨ƭ in a bank where Į̸̸̨ƭ depriciates.Or haven't ‎u heard of rich men who just put tenants in their houses τ̲̅ȍ avoid decay?@ bigheart,pls act d name and think like a human •̸№t a beast!

truly some people reason through there buttocks Oga ask God for a little brain you surely need it.

coogar: men run after younger girls because they are easier to manipulate, nothing to do with the width of the vägina. the vägina has elasticity - it expands and retracts to the size of the object entering it. if you really think a man with 13 inches of pënis would stick everything in a vägina then you are deluded! only 5 inches of that 13 would go in.

don't mind the baby,na too much banana they worry her

logica: Hahahaha. I just LOOOOOVE naija women. A cheat who cannot share her man. Well, I think you are too much of a gentleman.

I just LOOOOOVE naija MEN. Cheats who cannot share there women !

WhyMe222: Viola! Some of your analysis align with my thoughts exactly. I laugh at your regarding me as a wimp. A good man/hubby is slow to anger because most times, actions resulting from anger are usually always regretted. I am a realist by nature in view of my person and the constellations that control my being if you believe in zodiacs. I analyze issues before reaching a conclusion which usually is irreversible as I must have weighed the pros and cons. To add to that, I was trained to uphold my principles by my father which he said are the virtues of a real man. I drilled her thoroughly to understand the rational behind her action and her answers were "I sincerely can not explain what happened or how it got to this point".

Well, thank you everyone for your contributions. They are all weighty and have their strength and weaknesses. I have done several online research, read my Bible "even though I wouldn't want to make quotes", the Bible made it clear in the New Testament that the only reason a man can leave his wife is on the grounds of infidelity. There was never a clause that absorbs the action as a fallout of the man's philandering nature or inability to cater for his wife emotionally and physically. I want to state equivocally here that I never did fall short in my duties as a husband. It might not always all be rosy as it is part of the make-up of the life we live in for there to be seasons. The bible also made mention of a "virtuous woman" which I had expected her as a married woman and every other married woman to tow such path.

I did both registry and church wedding as demanded to know by some respondents.

My decision to cover her up did not stem from the fact that I am a wimp or that she is the bread winner (she is not) of our home, it is borne out of genuine love not to ridicule her and turn her a laughing stock amongst her friends, neighbors and colleagues. What do i stand to gain if I ridicule her? I don't pay evil for evil. Her parents will sure get to know because I won't want them to have the impression that I used and dumped their daughter. I have fought a good fight but it all seems I am loosing in every front. When I sit back and analyze the whole thing, I can't find any grounds to stand on to begin the healing and repair of the damage done. Maybe if it had happened once, and just maybe around this time when our girl has passed the early infant age and again protection used, it will be pardonable and most likely easier too.

I thank you all and I pray when it is eventually over, God will give me a woman who will see the good man in me and hold sacred her vow, see herself as the mother of the house, make a concerted effort to be the "virtuous woman" to me as described in the bible.

I appreciate you all.

since you have made up your mind,the only advice I can give you is to check yourself,see what you did wrong and don't repeat it in your next relationship. It's only a fool that has the world wants to give it all up for sex . Make sure you find out what pushed the first and don't do it to the second.ka Chineke Mezie Okwu

Toks2008: I really need your prayers o. To think that as a believer i have remained faithful to her right from the day i met her in 2002 till date,these 4 months have been hell,and everyday i doubt if i will not fall into temptation, but its the fear of GOD that have been keeping me.

I cant imagine myself wooing another lady just to get intimate with her when my heart is with another lady. I really need you to pray that she comes back home before a colossal damage occurs.

Thanks

I have. Marriage is not easy o. I thank God for my mum whom brought us up to know that everything that last comes from hardwork.i don't know your story but the little you and the op said has renewed my faith in my marriage. I usually ask people if a man can do without sex and the ans is usually nope,if your husband is not doing it with you all the time or one in a month he is doing it outside or he is a gay. Sometimes it's a thing if worry but av got a business to run n kids I don't dwell on it.its well Jare,the devil will not use us to shine.

WhyMe222: Thanks everyone for your contributions. You have all spoken well. I love my wife and I love my daughter silly. I leave no stone unturned in taking care of my family cos that is the only reason I go out daily (To provide for them). Her friends are a testimony to my capability in taking care of her. Her colleagues in both her former work place and the present one all appreciate for her what she has in terms of her marriage and husband. So there is no gain saying I may not have been leaving up to my expectations as a hubby.

In the last 8 months I have tried to heal, I have tried to see how we can work around it, I have also tried living like it never happened. In all this, none seem to be working. I loved my wife and that is why I have made all these efforts but the torture I live through will never go away and for this singular reason I feel there is no need going on like this. At the moment, I am only tolerating her and that is not good for marriage; reason I said marriage is not meant to be endured. Can there ever be a time I will not remember the incident? Can there ever be a time I will laugh it off and not hurt instead? The sex is dead; No urge because she repulses me and there is no way I will think of S£X with her without remembering what they did. So how can one live in this manner?

God help me.

here we go again !that statement provide for them is what makes men put there marriages on the line for the devil to come and destroy . It's not all about providing shelter ,food, money etc .how much time do you spend with your family ? How many nights a week do you spend out ? Do you know when your wife buys new undies or do you buy it yourself ? Do you know when she changes her hair style ? Intact how much do you know about your wife both personally and intimately ? If you knew half of these you could have know when she was about falling and nipped it at the bud.check yourself least you divorce this one and marry anoda and make the same mistake all over again.its not always about money dear,may God heal your broken heart

Toks2008: OP Let me give you a true advice.

I am a married man, i met my wife when she was 19, made her a woman, at 25 i married her now at 30 she says she is disconnected from me because of incompatibility issues and i kept wondering if i have been pretending all thee years so i sternly told her that she is simply carried away and that whenever her brain settles she can come back home provided she has not defiled herself with another man. For about 4 months now she has been staying with her sis.

Now get this straight, even if she sleeps with another man and she realizes her mistakes and comes back to me, i will forgive her and move on like nothing ever happened. You know why?

What is the guarantee that the next lady i will marry will not do worse things? and what is the assurance that the new lady have not slept with the whole men in Nigeria.

Wake up man, she is your wife. the question you should ask yourself is:

1. Is she a good wife to you?
2. Has he always made you happy?
3. Is she worth forgiving considering what you guys have been through together?

If all these answers are positive abeg forgive her if she is sincerely sorry.


See, the only difference between a man and a woman are the genitals and some hormones, they can also get carried away like we men and i believe if it was you who defiled the marriage bed you will ask her to forgive you abi? Abeg forgive your wife and pray to GOD to help you mend your broken heart.

I have been married for 6 years now so my advice is worth considering.

you are a great man and you will be in my prayers this night.may God heal your family too.so many forces fighting marriages these days.

Maybe cos am kinda a recluse but I have never taken a gift from any guy even when my hubby was coming for my hand and it was still considering him.dont want someone that will hold anything thing against me. Please I want to beg ladies that sap good men and dump them,same goes for men too. Have a family friend going throug this and almost committed suicide last night. This guy is a very good person,I know him personally.ddnt go to school so he can train his junior ones now they are lawyers,doctors etc. cos of his complex of not going to uni,he keeps looking for learned ladies to marry and has been burnt so many times.this last one he sent abroad for master and she has disappeared . Please let's stop hurting each other with these games

bettymafy: Oooohh, so adultery has suddenly become a big deal on NL cos a woman is involved? Did u lot think that women do not have blood flowing in their veins?

No one is advising him on how to "satisfy his wife's sexual needs so she doesn't stray again"
"Be romantic and keep the love sizzling in his home"
"Make the marriage work because of their child"
"Fast and pray for the philandering wife to repent of her ways"

Now, its ok to divorce on d grounds of adultery?

Two faced hypocrites!!!

my tots exactly

StateOfMind: So this woman's infidelity makes it acceptable for men to call you fish brains? You should be ashamed of yourself for that statement.

@Op, I'm so sorry about what you are going through. Its obvious you can not forgive or forget what this woman did, if na me nko?. File for a divorce and remove yourself from this misery, its not worth it.

....And by the way Op, did you by chance notice any signs of waywardness when you were courting or you were too carried away with her beauty and intelligence? A lactating mother who engages in unprotected sex with her boss\family friend is too loose and has probably been that way for some time.

P.S -if cheating can so damage a man's psyche like this, I think our men should think twice before doing the same and stop seeing it as a norm or what should be accepted by the female folks.

May God help us all -

please tell them,for men that claim its a birth right for them to cheat,look at this guy and see what us women the weaker sex feel when we are betrayed and change. @op,I feel for dear,wish it was in my power to reset your mind for you.and please for men that assume that since there's food,water,roof ,child and money is all what women need and they feel they have done enulf for there wives please have a re thought. Marriage first and foremost is for companionship ! Someone to share your day,dreams,sorrows,jokes,kids development with etc. try come home on time after work if possible.after you have eaten and shared your day stories together and you still want to hang out with d boys or go for meeting,let her know face to face and when you guys have put the kids to sleep,excuse yourself and go do your thing.that way the wife feels the kids and herself are more important .not condoning the lady's behavior but just giving ideas that have worked for me.dont let another man become the listening ears,believe its in vogue now for men to want to sleep with other people's wives please protect yours

Oga go and rest ,whose life are you saving ? Give giving excuses for these fools and keep misbehaving. One day Christians will fight back and believe me we are stronger and then come back and sell this propaganda

onila: bassey is the prettiest

because she is light abi ?

konn: this man should let by gone be by gone he should thank God he was not in the house the day the incidence happened if not he will not be here talking of compesation today

you are heartless and stupid.

Went to the gym and came back to meet this,guess majority carries the vote. We no dey primary school abeg. If the heat too much for una wey dey knack head for ground (u know yourselves)make una pack comot.

mike404: Sir kindly change rule 17 or you remove it entirely cuz nigeria is a circular state not an Islamic republic...And you should apologize to all nairalanders for this unholy act of yours

this particular pisses me off.was so bitter yesterday ,doubt I will be coming here as often as before.i know tiny me don't matter .note that the person(s) that advised you to follow this path hates and has plans to open a more matured forum where members can give and take shit in return

Wanted to add mine and saw all these rules ! Apart from no9,16, I think it's bs. What happens to opposite of no 17 ? Why don't we have Christian threats too.abeg this forum has turned to primary school.cant deal right now

seaman007: Someone early this year told me to do it from the back. When I ask why? She said, it makes there bum bum to big. Abeg how through is this?
Very trUe that is what I Use for my girl and it works wella.each time yoU go intimate jus use backyard

Forget yodi.

yes Nkita style

Ujujoan: You should just kneel and stand up, no need to wait for her to ask you to rise!

This is another thing I hate about 'those people'. . . . Bunch of hypocrites. Like kneeling down to greet will make them live longer. Tufiakwa!

God pls make me an Ibo again in my next life!

my dear I believe you have never had anything to do with Yoruba people for you to say this.am Igbo to but I won't trade my Yoruba friends for anything or anybody on earth.i schooled in ife and had the opportunity to interact with core Yorubas from different states. They have a very open heart, respectful and there guys are hot. All in all they are not all hypocrites,they have the good and bad just like us igbos and I love the fact that they continue to preserve their language and culture

Dis Guy: no, especially as the in law is from another part of the country, no biggie, you either kneel and greet up or kneel until shes acknowledge, don't read meanings into everything, she might just be greeting some other people as well or doing other things

i know some people kneel to greet their elders whilst on the phone 6000 miles away

lmao you just made my nite

You still blame the psquare guy ?

As much as we ladies try to fight it,it's still a mans world. In this case and if the story is true the blame lies on the girl ! Ask me why and I will tell you to sit down,reflect on this scandal once more and if you still feel the lady is not to blame knowing the society we are in,then you are StUPID and av got nothing else to say to you.

DrummaBoy: I honestly did not want to join the fray here because now that the thread is front page, those who will contribute will no longer be the religious section adherents and thus to many opinion and long thread, while Seun smiles to the Bank. But here is a familiar one directing this to me and let me lend a voice here:

my kind of guy ! Mature,polite and intelligent ! Keep it up . This is all I can comment in this thread