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misspicy:
Wow am so scared of marriage right now gosh.as I dnt af my mum anylonger
Bankyblue am scared

pls ma take your problems to God on ur knees or anyway you know how to.persevere as long as there is no form of abuse.with God alk things are possible

Shalom
Jesus fix this

Now u don't be scared. Her experience is hers, not yours. Pray about what u want in a hubby, and really mean it. Forget about the superficial, focus on dating only guys with integrity and an unwavering fear of God, and u are home and dry.

Shalom!

andromida:
You've been talking about his unhappiness but you are not happy either. You believe his unhappiness is souring your marriage but it might equally be your unhappiness that is souring your marriage. It seems to me you are waiting for him to be happy before you can be happy.

You need to let him know how you feel when he talks bad about the pregnancy I think this is a really sore spot for you.

Now permit me to say this. Reading comments from people like u is the reason I still visit Nairaland. Your thoughtful and dispassionate advice goes to show your maturity of mind. Thank you for taking the time to address op's issues. Being a fellow woman ( at least ur monika says u are) gives u a better perspective to her plight)

Op, please be assured that u are not the reason he is unhappy, that is, if he really is unhappy.
I think it is about time you stopped blaming yourself for his unhappiness. Leave him be. Focus on doing your wifely duties without more.

Focus on being passionate about life.
Focus on ur happiness, at least, u can do something about that. Stop being fixated on your husband and his feelings towards you. Instead, focus on being the best version of yourself. Join a Gym and burn off the excesses. Acquire a new skill. Go do a masters programme. Just do something that makes you a better woman than the attention craving wife.

Most importantly, affirm to yourself every chance u get, that u are beautiful, smart and worthy to be loved.

Never rely on any human being for your sense of self worth. Nobody can complete you, you are complete all on your own. Your husband is just there to complement your awesomeness.

Do these and watch the magic in hubby's attitude towards you. Believe me, I know, cos I am a married dude like him. He just cannot get over seeing u live confidently.

God Bless u.

Blizzyblinkzy:
I know this real bad news 4 pple that doesn't have one sex partner.

A couple of sexually active individuals think they are completely protected frm contacting any form of STD as long as they use condom during sexual intercourse. However this is not really the case.

The fact is that u can still catch an STD even when u use condom 100% of the tym during intercourse.

This is because during sex the scrotum ( a pouch of skin containing the testicles where the sperm is produced.) why the man which is not covered by condoms may still touch the vulva ( the external opening of the vagina), and guess what happens u are in STD.
Some diseases can be contracted includes:

1. Genital Herpes: A disease caused by a variety of the herpes simplex virus and characterised by blister in the genital area.
You should remember that research has suggested a link btw cervical cancer and genital herpes. This is because abt half of the women who have cervical cancer also have genital herpes.

2. Genital Warts: A small growth occurring in the anal or genital areas caused by virus that is spread especially by sexual contact.

3. Public lice: Public lice, also known as crabs, are tiny insects. They live commonly in pubic hair and are spread through close body contact during sexual intercourse.

4. Molluscum Contagiousum: Is a viral infection that affects the skin.
It is highly contagious and easily spread esp. With sexual intercourse.

This really called 4 proper care. And its important u choose ur partner carefully.

Wow..thanks for the info, but how do u know if you are your partner's only partner?

enytine:
after he sensed that the wife is already rich, he came forth to enjoy the benefit abi

Lol, abeg define 'rich'.

medwhite0:

slow but steady the tortoise won the race.

Yeah right!
Only cos mr tortoise was racing with fellow tortoise. Abeg me we hear word!

jseak:
Good days return for Kogi journalists as Governor Wada is said to have on Tuesday 30th June, hosted Journalists to Break Ramadan fast with him at the states government house. The agenda behind this sudden recognition being accorded to journalists in the state is well known.

What's more disturbing in the pictures is why they had to form a line behind the governor...

http://www.abdoolwahab.com/2015/07/see-how-journalists-now-queue-for-food.html

Dear OP, they are queuing cos it is a buffet and it is not unusual for people to queue while taking their pick from the buffet table.

herald9:
Russia 8500 war heads

USA 7700 war heads



Beht why?

It is not in the number but effective delivery systems. US is ahead of Russia. The numbers are simply unnecessary cos only 20 of those Dropped in a country will completely destroy it. The numbers u see is the only reason there has not been a nuclear war cos nobody comes out of it a winner. That's why they call it " M.A.D" Mutually Assured Destruction.

HungerBAD:
Brother, i greet you and know my write up is that of a man that is a novice about how Nigeria Banking laws works. But what is performance related crime? i searched for it on Google and that too could not give me an answer, related to the Nigerian Banking context.

But the bottom line is that the statement ends with the word CRIME.



People should after getting employments, read the fine prints in their contracts before signing anything. I am sure in your contract somewhere, it was stated that your contract/appointment/confirmation can be terminated at anytime. If you were made a Staff just last month and got fired in a world record time, must mean there is more to the story you are not letting on.

I have a MILLION lines to write here, but before i continue i will appreciate you define the word PERFORMANCE RELATED CRIME in a layman's term, and then we the committee of NAIRALAND ADVISERS can go from there.

Now I can't for the life of me deduce what CRIME has got to do with poor performance at work. I can hazard a guess that almighty Google got confused too when u used crime and job performance in the same sentence.

To the post, there are a long line of reasons an employer can fire a staff on. But, they usually dnt give any reason than " Your service is no longer required. Good luck in your future endevours" bla bla bla...

Op, pls just try and take it in your stride...if it doesn't kill u, it makes u stronger.

Abbey2sam:
Christmas Island

learn to read b4 commenting

D joke is on you, over sabi village headmaster. He was not asking a question. It was an exclamation.

So, maybe, it is you who needs to get a new pair of spectacles.

AutoCarTracker:
Wow. Amazing, handiwork of Lockheed martin corp. Wonderful

Airforce one is built by Boeing!

Feranmicharles:
Jesus never cursed


Rather,He'd pray.


Modified: to those of you referring to the fig tree yeah jesus cursed the tree,cos it didnt bring out fruit while he's hungry,besides it a tree

Dude,u obviously dnt read the bible. I am sure u never read in the book of Acts where Peter cursed a man and made him blind. Please, gain some knowledge of the word of God and u will speak with more wisdom.

billtommy:
Even with the act, the employee can only pay compensation on a compassionate ground. he's obviously not the right person that is supposed to fix the machine. it seems he just wanted to do it for the organization.

No sir, the employer has a duty in law to compensate. If you read the Act you will understand that the employer is almost strictly liable for all work place accidents. He can keep his compassion to himself and compensate the guy already or he stands to lose a lot.

So sorry about this, just hope the fingers can be saved.

Anyway, pls contact your lawyer, this total disability, and under the employee compensation Act, you are entitled to be compensated for the loss of the fingers. Pls, he should not negotiate with his employers on his own, let him get a lawyer involved. I would have offered my services pro bono, but I am based in Lagos. let him get a sound attorney in Awka. Sorry for the terrible accident. All the best to him.

adonbilivit:
that was not a sacarsm. she keeps coming back for the D so trust me my friend does not suck in bed. advice or just read comments and learn Abokina

The more I read ur responses, the more convinced I am, that you and this your imaginary friend are one and the same person.

To so sure ur friend 'doesn't suck in bed'...kinda sounds like u are your friend.

musicwriter:
Such a pity that African elites are now part of our poverty problem. How about using this money to give scholarships to very intelligent students to go study medicine?. Or, if you like they'll specialize on the science of river blindness. And, eventually we would be able to solve this disease ourselves and groom many other specialists. I weep for Africa!.

Are we going to depend on the west forever?!

Dude go make your own money and then donate it to finding cure for river blindness. Stop telling others how to spend their money. So tired of u guys giving advise on how a person should spend his money...who tells u how to spend urs?

imhotep:
its a slip of cluelessness actually

More like a slip of brain to me. His handlers F.ed up big time abeg.

Taylor86:
ThankGod man is not God, and d lord gives mercy and sickness according to our account balances and sizes



very rare to see d poor or moderate man complain of cancer and other diseases meant for d rich


d bigger ur wealth, the bigger ur sickness/disease allocation

My brother, the poor die of cancer too. The difference is that while the rich have the means to get it diagnosed, the poor just keep going to babalawo or false prayer houses where they are fed with the horse crap of enemies being after them. So don't get it mixed up, sickness knows no social status.

lynn79:
Yes, what the Oba of Lagos said was wrong and unneccessary. BuT I wonder how people feel fre to insult a king so easily. It clearly shows lack of manners, ill-breeding and no sensee of tradition or culture. If one is truly a Lagosian, either by birth or by location, one would have respect for the monarch.

My brother, my people have a saying that when a snake starts acting like a mere rope, women will use it to tie firewood.

Your Oba lost all claims to respect the day he started speaking like a tout. I am shocked u still associate yourself with such excuse of an Oba. Sorry, but he gathered the ant infected firewood, he shouldn't blame the lizards for calling.

irunoobo:



I don't know why the igbos are hell bent on disobeying this Great king. They should remember that he who the gods want to kill will first run mad. Igbos should be grateful to the Yoruba for accomodating them and their businesses. They should not take our silence for cowardice. Be warned

Lol, said by a member of a nation of cowards!

PDPmamapiss:
Rita Dominic should continue her circus or go to finger herself as usual. Oba made it clear, WHAT U CAN NOT DO IN ONITSHA OR ABA, DONT DO IT IN LAGOS. simple.

If u cant stay Lagos enter osondu bus back to east. U PEOPLE STARTED THIS GAME BY OPENLY ENDORSING JONATHAN AND SANCTIONING THE IGWE THAT WELCOME BUHARI.

Besides, igbos show go away from politics in foreign land until they appoint non-igbo in their govt.

Dude, since your brain, like those of most your kind, seem to be on sabbatical. Let me do the thinking for u.

What do Igbos do in Lagos that they cannot do in Onitsha. Sorry, but like ur braindead Oba, u seem to has lost your brain cells from too much "bad oily food".

Did it even occur to you poor and hungry mind that we are talking about people's fundamental right to choose their own leaders? If you have not been blinded by mediocrity and poor judgement, u should have seen the danger your slowpoke Oba's words.

But since, wishing is free, u can keep wishing the Igbo's evil while they keep making exploits.

abduljabbar4:
Let me be your hero by telling you to correct that grammatical error. Check the title again

What's wrong with the title...enlighten us if you don't mind.

Dude, did you just describe your sitting president as "former president?" You must be high on kilishi!

Ignatiusprince:
It was on Tuesday night, that a seminarian from the eastern state came to owerri to visit his female friend he met on facebook.. The girl by name M, was a 400level unizik student but do comes to Futo to see her friend.. she invited the seminarian to her friends lodge and she called some of her gangs and they robbed the seminarian of all he had and they each had sex with the guy... which after the incident they fled that night... The vigilantes are now looking 4 d girls which they are no where 2 b found... I wish the case should be taken 2 the police but the seminarian refused coz of his personality... I know how to track the girls coz I dated one of her friends... should I report to the vigilantes or mind my own business...

Hmmm, how do I say this now? Well let me just say it.. DUDE, YOUR ENGLISH SUCK!

barcanista:
The Rich-Poor gap is just too much. The money for the poor is looted by the thieving class to live in opulence

Dude, the poor have no money and that's why they are poor in the first place. Besides, a good number if rich Nigerians make it working very hard.

Orunto: Yes! It is in the Book of Proverbs. It simply means WORK AND PRAY!

No, I think it is in the book of " u don't know jack about the scriptures"

Yomieluv: Oga oyedepo,education is expensive though,that doesn't give you the impetus to charge exorbitant fee beyond the reach of the common man in your church..

Church encompasses showing consideration to vast majority of the members,than selected few rich..

Your fees is high Mr man.

Dude! Why don't u go make some money and send your kids to the best schools. Why is it your business to worry about the common man? Covenant University isn't for common men.

The richest countries in the world also have common men, just make sure u ain't a common man. Strive to be uncommon and watch the common men whine and complain. The common man never changes anything...just pawns to be used in the game of life.

NL so full of common men thinking common thoughts and making do with whatever life throws at them. I hate to be common, that's why I am uncommon in every way. You too can chose to be uncommon, just hope it ain't too late going by the sound of u.

benbuks: Africa now waking up from it century slumber ,

bravo.

And judging by how you sound, we may have to wait a couple of centuries more before you are up from your deep slumber.

mazizi tonene: Una mean say militants sabi english like this

Militancy is not synonymous with illiteracy. Asadu studied law at UNICAL, but I'm sure he never proceeded to the Law School.

obitwo: He wasn't the only one that ate the starter

How come he was the only one affected?

And where did u read he was the only one affected? I believe most of the people that ate the food experienced the same symptoms. At least u read abt the chef that tasted the food and developed 'running belle'