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Please I have a question. What exactly is wrong with the men from delta state. I have heard tales of so many women complaining about delta men and issues with dating.

In the video, the girl said the boyfriend's mom subjected to hard labour when she went visiting and her boyfriend didn't intervene. Is this the usual culture in Delta tribes?

MrBrownJay1:
as they say...the value of a woman ends at 28-31yrs old, after that its on a decline, and no amount of tears can change that. everyday there are literally millions of 18/21yr olds that get upgraded and that would compete with these older ones. women who believe that when men age, their desire for women age too, are simple delusional.

the important question would be: why choose a 28-31yr if/when you can get the exact same woman (just fresher/younger)?

Exactly! Just like the guy in the video said, almost all men of all ages prefer ages 18 to 23.

IyaTola:
mould him my sister

awon gang "I would mould him to my taste"

woginid967:
There are ways to protect himself and to undo it

How would he do that?

Did you even watch the video?

nicerod:
Every tribe has a bad side

What tribe is he from in Delta state

virginprincess:
Delta men,for you to be able to date a delta man you must be stubborn,heartharden and very vocal if not them go use you anyhow dump you,these set of men are not easy to date at all.

It comes with the terrain. Living in Nigeria's Delta is not for the faint of heart. The men's hearts become hardened

Thanks.

The only thing some women have going on is their physical looks.

No character at all.

This isn't just Africans alone. Africans are quite more reserved than folks living in the west.

In this country? 800K?

Madam, you go tay small

That's what we keep telling people. The problems free sex brings isn't what the temporary pleasure.

Na so dem dey do

MrDoGood:
She missed him.

It's good she's owning up. Many can pretend till they die.

Chucks better not back her. She will take in deliberately and keep the child

She doesn't miss him. She misses the economic security he provides.

Saintinoo:
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She does something wrong to me and when I complain, she gives silent treatment, she expects me to call and apologise, when I call and try to tell her that she offended me, she calm I am the one at fault, reason why I always call and find way to makeup with her without apologing to her, mehn, it is like film, I japa.

You've just described the average woman on earth.

aikyg:
She ended a four-year-old relationship at 18. Meaning she was like 14 when they started dating. Crazy!

Watch the video again. She started dating him at 18 and broke things off after 4years. That means she was 22 when she left the guy.

She was mature enough to know what she was doing when she ended the relationship.

Saintinoo:
What happens when you overcrowd them, I once did that and babe kept feeling bossy.

How was she feeling bossy?

SyrusdeHansome:
The sweetest revenge in a relationship is moving on after a bad breakup by redeveloping nd upgrading urself in every aspect of ur life to bcom the man or woman every opposite sex wants to have. Once that happens he or she will keep regretting 4 missing a raw diamond that has become a refined one. Sleeping with ur ex' sis or best frnd isn't a sweet revenge but rather a sign that u've not yet moved on.

Exactly!

GreatVocalist:
Big possibility. I like the way you brought this from outside the box.

It's true. She probably left for some other guy and expected he'd be waiting for her. The guy getting married to another woman shocked her. Now she's over here complaining about how she's better than the wife he chose.

Nonsense

The guy must have been all over her.

That's why you must give women space and not overcrowd them.

Stop worshipping women

Just watched the video. This girl is insane.

So let me guess, she broke up with the guy, searched for better men, didn't find anyone better and she's now complaining that she's better than his wife.

This gender is confused

You need wise counsel.

Your first problem is deciding whose counsel to follow and whose to discard?

You need counsel of elders in your families or church. There's a lot of emotional and dangerous advice you've been given so far. Most of them are not wrong, they're just incomplete. They assume that kicking your husband out of the home solves your problems.

Newsflash! It doesn't. You've just successfully poured petrol into your burning house. Since you both have children together, unless you kill your husband, you're stuck with him for the rest of both your lives.

Here's my take:
We judge decisions by the long term consequences. You should be able to look back 50 years from now at your decisions today and be confident you made the right choices.

1. Short term impact:

If you end your marriage today, what becomes of you?

Do you honestly believe that there are better men outside who will accept your twin daughters as theirs? Do you think the men outside here are any better? They're not.

2. Long term impact:

I pray God gives you long life, but what counsel will you give your daughters when their own marriages hits rocky times. Will you ask them to leave their husbands also. Do you want to have grandchildren whose fathers are uninvolved? Do you want to raise bastards in old age?

A close relation left her husband 40years ago. Her three daughters today are all single mothers. The decades of bitterness from their mom bled into their own marriages and they blamed their husbands for their father's indiscretions. Do you want that kind of history?

Also, what becomes of your twins if you fall Ill with a terminal disease? How will your daughters cope without both parents?

3. Alternatives available.

Will you find a single, faithful man who wants to be stepfather to twin daughters. What if your daughters accuse him of molestation? Will you believe him? Even worse, what if your daughters tell their father your new boyfriend molested them? Can you guarantee that your soon-to-be ex husband won't kill your new boyfriend?

4. Men who sleep with only their wives don't exist. You've been sold a Disney fairytale. Wake up from your fantasy.

I'm a physician and from my experience with married men- almost all of them have concubines. Married men are constantly chased by young girls for relationships and money. Very few men can resist the allures of a 21year old.


My Take:

Think about the impact your decisions will have on your family over the next 50 years.
Your home is yours to save or wreck. Outsiders have seen the value in your husband and want to snatch him away.

A husband is not useful for today. His use is for old age when your libidos have failed, and your daughters are married. You'll be foolish to set your house on fire.

The man you're looking for doesn't exist.

There's a problem with single mothers which most men who have dated them constantly report.

If she's in a new relationship, and the babyfather returns on his knees, begging to have her back. She will end the new relationship in a heartbeat.

I have counselled several who have confided that they don't love their husbands. They still miss their babaydaddy and would return in a jiffy.

HajiaNotu:
I read from page 1-10 and I smh for most people that contributed.I want to believe they are all virgins or are celibate..if not, Your Hypocrisy Stinks

Lets take for Instance,
I am in a relationship in my late 20s with someone for 3yrs, in fact we were already planning our wedding..All of a sudden, he opted out with no tangible reason.I realised later I was carrying his baby..So according to this thread, its more noble to abort than give birth to the baby...So that the woman will be tagged( A single lady with no baggage, or A decent lady)
Ori gbogbo yin ti gbale

This is not to exonerate those ladies living recklessly or intentionally hooking men with pregnancy...

All in all, marrying a single mother does not guarantee happinness in marriage neither will happiness be a sure bet, if you marry a single lady.

The " God factor " is very important in chposing a life partner( short , tall, fat, slim, ugly , beautiful, intelligent, dullard, baby mama/dada, single, young or old)

You're just being emotional. Let's imagine your situation were reversed. A guy was in a relationship planning his marriage to his son's babymama. Then for no tangible reason, she fought with him, chopped off his d*ck and left the boy with him.

Would you, as a single, pretty childless woman, marry such a man, especially when there are very many other wealthy young men with no babymama drama wooing you?

That's how most babymamas appear to us men.

Women should until they marry before they carry. There are multiple forms of birth control on the market. Most single mothers could have waited until marriage before getting pregnant. It's their choice to have a child with irresponsible men. So why should another man have to clean up their poo?

MrBrownJay1:
are you saying that HIS experience is automatcally better than mine?! are you saying that a man who is obviously judging a woman because he is afraid of a babydaddy that may or not come back to the picture, is not insecure?! then what do you call it then?! everything you guys talk about is the OTHER MAN...why is it so?!?!?!

let us be honest here and stop running around the issue like 5yr old kids....what is it that makes you guys so afraid of single mothers....why is nobody answering that simple question?!?!?! all i hear is baby daddy this and baby daddy that, as if because a man has a baby by a woman, he will control her destiny for the rest of her life....come on! it is OBVIOUS that your "ego" is the problem here, and you cant take it that this woman had a life before she met you, resulting in that child being born!

MrBrownJay1:
are you saying that HIS experience is automatcally better than mine?! are you saying that a man who is obviously judging a woman because he is afraid of a babydaddy that may or not come back to the picture, is not insecure?! then what do you call it then?! everything you guys talk about is the OTHER MAN...why is it so?!?!?!

let us be honest here and stop running around the issue like 5yr old kids....what is it that makes you guys so afraid of single mothers....why is nobody answering that simple question?!?!?! all i hear is baby daddy this and baby daddy that, as if because a man has a baby by a woman, he will control her destiny for the rest of her life....come on! it is OBVIOUS that your "ego" is the problem here, and you cant take it that this woman had a life before she met you, resulting in that child being born!

Let me repeat it again. Other men's experiences serve to teach us:

I personally know 8 men who married single mothers.

6 of them are divorced/separated because the wife's baby daddy was still giving her the d*ck. It was ugly.

One of them was accused by his 13yr old stepdaughter of inappropriate se*ual advances. He swears his innocence, but his wife left him. She didn't even have kids for him. After 11 years! No one in the church they attended believed him. 11 years of marriage just wasted.

The only man I know still married is a pastor. His wife is Tu Face idibia's baby mama.

If you can skillfully navigate the above risks, then go ahead. But realize this: marrying a single mom in Nigeria is a thankless job. All 7 of the above men swore never to 'rescue' a single mom. These were their words:

' She will NEVER love you. You will only be a wallet. And if the baby daddy attempts to have s*x with her or return, she won't hesitate to jump into his arms. She will always be his booty call.'

Dear friend, the man who fathered a child with her didn't rape her. He chose not to marry her. That child will cost you money. Why should you be the one to save her?

Put yourself in the single mom's shoes.

Imagine, in secondary school, you were caught having s*x and were expelled. You had to drop out of school in JS3, and now years after, you're poor, living homeless on the street or under the bridge.

Would this lady, if she were single and childless right now, marry you and save you from the consequence of your previous poor decision.?

Let the answer guide you

I know 8 men who married single mothers.

6 of them are divorced/separated because the wife's baby daddy was still giving her the d*ck. It was ugly.

One of them was accused by his 13yr old stepdaughter of inappropriate se*ual advances. He swears his innocence, but his wife left him. She didn't even have kids for him. After 11 years! No one in the church they attended believed him. 11 years of marriage just wasted.

The only man I know still married is a pastor. His wife is Tu Face idibia's baby mama.

If you can skillfully navigate the above risks, then go ahead. But realize this: marrying a single mom in Nigeria is a thankless job. All 7 of the above men swore never to 'rescue' a single mom. These were their words:

' She will NEVER love you. You will only be a wallet. And if the baby daddy attempts to have s*x with her or return, she won't hesitate to jump into his arms. She will always be his booty call.'

Dear friend, the man who fathered a child with her didn't rape her. He chose not to marry her. That child will cost you money. Why should you be the one to save her?

Hello Spark2,

Let's hope for the best.

cheers.

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The guy is a not truthful. I almost lost my money in a deal to him

What about the mars curiosity rover landing on mars to explore it in 2012? Is that also a hoax?

Abeg joh