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If the rape allegation was true, you'd have gone ballistic but now that it is false, you still found a way to defend a false rape accuser and an harlot at the same time. Have you no shame? If you have any decency, you should be outraged by her actions that's bringing women to disrepute and potential dampening the fight against rape. SMH!

sapphiere:
Telling someone u will transfer money and later didn't means fake. lie, evil.

Girls fail to understand that bad boys don't protect but bring trouble. We are not talking about cultists in school in real life. You mess with a good guy with money, he gets you arrested. Gone are the days for physical fighting.

Always missing target!

It has to be a man that can do this. Women claim they are not treated well but men treat women better than women treat women.

The rejected stone will become the chief corner stone!

Growing up we weren't rich but there are some old skul songs I hear and I'd have a strong feeling of nostalgia. Life is a beautiful thing

beauty7:
Sometime I would not stop thinking about the past, when I was still a child, the play, the fight, the food, the pranks and all.

Most times one wished she could go into the past and re-experience it once again.

It is not that someone doesn't like the present.

In fact most rich and successful people often have sweet thoughts about their past irrespective of whether they were poor and unsuccessful in the past or not.

Some people are often engrossed in the sweet thoughts about the past to the extent that they wished they could just go into the past and live briefly and then come back to continue their present life.

This sweet thought about the past is called nostalgia.

That is why we hear people saying something like "The good old days"

Even a situation that was not pleasant in the past, sometime when you look at it now, you seem to enjoy the thoughts.

When I was a child in nursery 2, one boy kept threatening me in the class every day.

Then I was always afraid and would often worry.

But when I think of it now, the thought is very sweet.

But why exactly are the thoughts about the past always very sweet?

Which regional house of Assembly?

SGANIVA:
nnamdi kanu is doing a great job , protecting ndi igbo for future fulani terrorist invasion and from any future crisis arising from Nigerian project.but the question is ,can this security outfit function without governor's and state legislative surport .

remember South West security was back by law and passed into law by there regional house of assemble

Why don't you have North North? Show me where else in the world you have South South? Rubbish!

isokomarine:
keep fooling yourself

If you're a woman would you endorse this?

GOTVee:
Even though I'm a born again Christian, this is one of the reasons I think islamic marriage is better than Christianity. In Islam you are allowed to marry as many as you want which makes the importance attached to women drastically reduced. We Christians need to stage a protest against marrying one wife. Marrying one wife is parasitic while polygamy breeds competition among women with each and every wife trying to outdo each other in pleasing their husband. Majority of the stupid laws protecting women are from Christian countries, you can never find such in Muslim nations yet they have a more prosperous marriage than we Christians do

I nor understand you o....obj go just handover to a southerner without election?

blacknp:
Shehu Shagari defeat Obafemi Awolowo, & Nnamdi Azikiwe in a General Election? Go and check who the Minister of Finance from 1971 to 1975 was, army arrangement, Useless selfish General Obasanjo from the south of Nigeria, refused to hand over to qualified people from the south, he chose a Northerner in the person of Alhaji Shehu Shagari, same thing he did with Yaradua, knew the man was not healthy, but still went ahead to select him & a clueless deputy Governor Ebele Jonathan?

We are in December....where is the autogas?

laudate:
Stop misleading people. A new engine is not required. What is required is the installation of an AutoGas Conversion Kit, and the relevant equipment inside the bus. This will enable the owner/driver to fuel the bus with Autogas LPG or CNG at the gas refill station/skid.

Shagari was not democratically elected in 1979 and re-elected 1983?

blacknp:
Was Shagari democratically elected? It was army arrangement, no agreement today, no agreement tomorrow.

South south are different people being deceived by Northerners to think there's anything like South south. Nothing like South south anywhere!

Only 2 military coup happened Nigeria!

The Nzeogwu 1966 coup that overthrew Balewa-Zik govt and Buhari coup that overthrew Shagari's govt.

These were democratically elected govts, others were illegitimate military govts so they weren't legal in the first place so deserved to be dislodged!

If a man that's going to the market responds to every dog barking, he will not get to the market!

seunmsg:
Those who made the allegation have names and known address. Jonathan should come out and deny the allegation if it’s not true. He can even sue them for defamation. For now, the allegation is true until it is denied.

The bomb did not kill him this time but harmed his leg? Nigerian army has been reduced to pettiness!

Are you Hausa or Fulani and you ran away in order not to answer. It is clear the Hausas have been conquered and ashamed to identify with themselves. Almost all Hausa politicians call themselves fulanis

Arrewa:
Trying very hard to divide the great north... Dividing the north is dead on Arrival!

Arewa to the world!

Because they are the world currency. Others cant do it

Cyberterror:
This is a very good idea. The secret behind America's prosperity is that their Federal reserve prints billions of dollars yearly to settle their foriegn debts.

Pocohantas, what's your take on this?

His only crime I see is that he deceived you but falling for you the first time and ignoring the fact that he is married to approach you might be beyond his control. Its possible he and his wife are no longer in a happy relationship hence her being abroad leaving him here. A man needs a woman he can love however you're to decent not to marry your own man 100%. You limit yourself by looking for a good man with all those qualities you highlighted including being taller than you.

To wholely love someone for 5 months and breakup is better than being with someone for 10yrs without love. That 5months will make you know how love feels and prepare you to look for someone you can love as much. If I were you I can only miss it but never regret it happened,
some people never experienced love!

Heartbrokengirl:
I didn’t believe I was the one he has been waiting for and I told him I don’t believe. He said he also doesn’t believe a lady like me is single and I explained what happened to him. He still didn’t believe...he went on to snoop, I didn’t

A man with these qualities cannot be single at 36, he would have been taken. This is one of the ways to know a gamer.

What makes you think you were the one he was waiting for all his life?

Heartbrokengirl:
I have always hated the idea of dating married people, but here I am...the ex-girlfriend of a married man.

It started sometime during the lockdown, I went somewhere to get groceries and ran into this man. Let’s call him Mr X. His smile and sense of humour was the attraction. He was putting on a nice senator material and when I stood for us to leave, he towered above me. I am a 6ft tall lady and ladies with my height can tell the happiness when you meet a taller man.

We started chatting regularly and we were in a competition to give ourselves treats. On our second date which I initiated, I asked his age and he replied 36, he asked mine and I told him. He expressed his doubts and I showed him my drivers license. Started asking many questions about my background and I answered all of them. I asked about him too, including his marital status.

I had just gotten out of a relationship, his father said he wouldn’t marry outside the Catholic church and he started drifting, I had to let him go. It was tough for me, but after months of keeping to myself, my friend encouraged me to go on dates and give another man a chance. I decided to give Mr X a chance.

It was beautiful. We were in a competition to please ourselves, take ourselves out and we both had a healthy sense of humour...chatting was fun!!! Everywhere we went, people stared. We were all over ourselves even in public and till date I wonder how he pulled that off.

One day his office had a party and he asked if I could come, I said yes. Got there and the guys were looking at me with lust, the ladies were looking at me with pity. He said the ladies were jealous of my looks and some of them have been crushing on him. If you see him and see me, you’ll understand why this explanation made little sense.

After the party that day, it was late to go back to my house and his house was farther, so we decided to book a hotel around. That night was our most intimate night. We kissed, he gave me leg massages, a head and said he is ready when I am ready. I was blown away. Could this be real?

I always noticed he would be lost in thoughts whenever we are together and blame it on work. Other times he will start feeling sick and I would have to close earlier to go give him food and drugs. This became a regular occurence until one day…

He had fallen sick as usual. I made him promise to take pain relievers and we should consider going to the hospital. He didn’t do this and I had to make out time within the week to go check on him. He said it is because he was missing me, how sweet!

He didn’t get better, it was obvious something was bothering him. I decided I will take him for lunch so we can talk about it, but he couldn’t wait. That night he said he has something to tell me, he kept apologizing but still couldn’t say it. He asked if he could send a voice note and I told him to go ahead.

At about 3mins into the voice note, I felt my world crumbling. He told me he was married and has been married for almost 10years with kids. His family was not in the country, that is why I never saw traces of them. He said he had been battling with the guilt and was scared to tell me because some other girl left when she found out and the last was with him for money. He knew I would leave and was scared, his best friend told him to give it time, another told him to ghost me but I have been good to him and his conscience won’t let him. Other friends said he should never mention it to me.


When my friend saw him, she told me he was going to hurt me. I asked her how and she said I was too innocent for him. She didn’t say further not to be termed hater, but since he made me happy again...she wished me well.

I kept replaying the audio while he kept asking me to say something. I wondered if he treated his wife the way he treated me. He was such a gentleman. Held my hands when I had to walk in heels, opened the car door for me, checked on me at work, gave me handmade customized gifts...he made them himself. He said his wife is bad and he wants divorce her, lolz. I told him they all say that. I told him how much he has hurt me, but I forgive him and appreciate him telling me when he did.

It has been almost 3months but the pain lingers. I know I will be fine…

Bubu has been made a tin god by his many followers including politicians in the North and NASS....he answers to no one!

Tell him you love him and wants to be with him till the end of time. Then keep your distance from him let him decide within himself. If he chooses you he would come. Life and love are risks, take it!

Gayatri:
I do not know how to start this but i will write as it comes... I was in a 2 year relationship that ended in march this year.. I was so commited in it like naturally when im dating, i DO NOT notice other guys and i DO NOT ask my boyfriend for financial assistance because i feel im not his responsibility,, what i do appreciate mostly were little things like, chatting, kindness, hugs, opening and closing of doors for me,, just little things, coz i adore them so much.. But anyway it ended.. And i vowed never to date again come what may.. During the break up process, all my friends (guys, hardly have a girlfriend) were there to help me pull through.. Calls and texts constantly because, according to them, they knew my type, thus the help.. Funny enough, i never got attracted to any of them (even the ones that initially asked me out when my friendship with them was fresh) and im not the sex sex type to just fall for any to satisfy my desire.. Though i got advice from neighbours to find someone else than staying alone, i said no especially as i am a loner but a happy loner.. I keep myself busy with work or any stuff that makes me happy.

Fine, two months later (june), some guy reached out to me even as he knew he's got a girlfriend, whixh according to him later, they were in an open relationship.. He stays in oshogbo, his girl stays in kaduna while im in sagamu..Before then, he reached out online by first stalking me on facebook (even though we did same online business), after a while he got talking with me.. At first, i was harsh, very harsh to him but he never minded.. At a point i stopped talking to him.. A month later he reached out again, asking if we were still friends.. I was like yeah, not nice to him at all but he was patient with me..

From mid-july we started talking well as friends, he was very open as i was to him. We flowed well that things were happening to us coincidentally.. Whenever he yawns, i do at my place, if im having a scratch, he does too.. There was just plenty of this connection that we never got tired of each other.. In the procesa of our been honest, he told me about his girl and how she was still keeping her ex and all whatnots... I didnt feel any iota of jealousy because i had not feelings for him yet.. I asked to talk things through with his girl and he says well if she gave the chance.. So laters, by august, september,october, feelings grew.. He got so fond of me... According to him, he has not seen my type before.. Fine! During my birthday, he wanted to do something for me, i said no, then two weeks to his birthday in nov, he asked that i visit him at their family house, that i did..

What struck me most was how the elder brother (married) took care of me... I was not allowed to do nothing.. The brother even cooked for me.. God, it made me fall more for the family.. The kind gestures i have never experienced in my life.. There are kindnesses but there is kindness, the real one.. I felt it.. Every thing that i want in a man, those little things, this guy has them all.. According to him, it baffles him that with the little he shows me, i do not take for granted even before he told me he's having a girl..

When i returned home, we continued our normal talks and he then said, that his girlfriend would be visiting during his birthday.. At that point i went silent.. (Meanwhile he met his girl this year but before me, also during her break up).. He was unhappy that i displayed this little jealousy.. So he says he has not broken up with his girl to start a new relationship and he is hurting that he is hurting me.. He's got feelings for me but he loves his girl.. So i said i was going walk, even though i never meant it, twas hard to even say that but i had to and he says no... That he's become so attached to me even his family thinks he's dating me.. That he controls his feelings for me, could i do same and i said no.. I could not be friends with him when i know that feelings are involved.. Finally, we came to terms to just flow with things since he was not engaged or married to her.. Even so, this guy just lost his job and he says unlike his girl, im the one pushing him to have something doing, he says i help him alot but i wouldnt know.. So we continued to let the whole feelings to flow until last week, when with my help, he was called for an interview in lagos..

As usual we talked and i wished him well.. I always pray for him.. In lagos, we talked well until the third day, our communication changed and before it did, my heart was literally aching, so i knew something was wrong.. I called to know why but he was telling me that he'd let me in when he got back to oshogbo, which he did.. He said his girlfriend who was having something to do with her ex, called him and wanted to settle things with him.. But the truth is, because this lady already had his facebook password when they were together in kadauna, she 3 days before her birthday on the 8th of this month wanted to know why her boyfriend was no longer perturbed over her behaviour, so she saw my chats with the guy and decided to do something,,, this now pushed to talk things out with the bf and apologise to him.. Then she asked him if anything was going on between is and he said no.. That we just friends,close friends.. He lied to her but opens up to me.. He says he doesnt want the girl to ask him to cut me off totally.. So the whole thing got him confused.. He says he's never double dated and he isnt happy that he's hurting me and im taking it... I asked him again if i should walk and he says no.. He does not want to lose me and i do not want to lose him either but i want to prove my love for him so that he one day sees that the girl, probably loves him but she's got no integrity.. And i purely love him.. But because i respect his relationship, i CAN NOT TELL HIM TO BREAK UP WITH HER but wanting him to see things himself but the question is for how long.. He says they are working things out now but he doesnt want to lose me esp as a friend... Difficult.. Out of God knows what, we agreed to let things flow since i will respect his relationship, like whenever his girl is around, i should make him believe that i will be fine.. Now, he isnt happy because he said if he hadnt met the gf, he'd have gone ahead to date me.. For me, i cannot sleep, ive been typing this since God knows when and this is 3:36am.. Since he is confused now, please people, friends, family, can i use love to make him see the difference between his girl and me.. He loves his girl, he is controlling his feelings for me and afraid to let it grow because he knows we'd bond, while my feelings toward him is real.. Money has not been involved in this.. We are 6months now.. I believe in true love and that it does not come easy.. Talk to me Y'll because i have no parents to talk to,, i would have talked to my mum now but she isnt here... I want to win with true love.. I turned 27 this past november and he turned 30 same november.. Thank You and God bless..

Story for the gods!

AOB1:
What he's trying to say is that some of our Christian followers has been brainwashed also and I think he's right.

If a man will be walking on egg shells just to tell his wife to do certain things then what's the point of the marriage? How can you be in an unhappy relationship when you could simply divorce her and marry another! Life is too short to use it for problem solving

Jodha:
She's the stubborn type.. trying to stand yhur ground as a man will make things worse...

Rather change yhur approach ...kill her with kindness....try not to be bossy when asking her to do something .
For example instead of just asking her to get something for yhu...be like " my world...my life... prettiest woman alive etc please would you mind helping me with that"
When she sees yhur attitude towards her has changed... she'll have no option than to mellow down...

Remember yhu don't quench fire with fire..yhu use water...

Loool...men are not emotional so do not do embellishment to garner sympathy. Men are straightforward and you know it

Chii59:
I'm yet to see "let hear her own side of the story". All I see are congratulations for breaking up with her. Bloody. Hypocrites.

The world is developing, people are becoming more enlightened and learned. With or without those feminists, these rights would have come to be! Men has always been magnanimous.

Women treat fellow women far worse than men treat women. The major thing limiting the wickedness of some women is lack of physical strength. This point is buttress by how madam treats maids or female employees

Magnoliaa:
Not the men here actually certifying first and second wave feminism!

What da’ heck??

The men of those generations hated feminism and were against it. These posters clearly show that feminism has never been accepted or seen as good in any generation. The women were fighting for (basic) rights like we are now, yet men in the past thought feminism was going to destroy the world.

And these pics certainly prove, more than anything else, the importance of damning males' validation and opinions. (Imagine the pick-mes of those eras).

Why? Just like the men now are saying earlier feminists did good by fighting for women's rights,—the benefits that they are able to gauge (in retrospect)—the next generations (of men) will come to see the third wave as progressive compared to the ninth or tenth wave of feminism that'll probably be in place then.

Imagine if the first wave feminists had quitted, on the ground that "feminism is not useful."

Bubu is unaware of anything...people are just speaking for him. Since when have we heard from Bubu himself? Can't he talk,?

Meme that he wasn't aware it would be a meme at the time is Yoruba doing big things?

Kzinne:
Yorubas doing big things Worldwide

We will? After 6yrs! Useless govt!

Good girl going bad

Biglittlelois:
Ku biyu Dan iska, buro ubanku, nonsense.