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Frankyboy1:
We live in funny times and seasons, where a man proposes to get his wife or girl pregnant on social media before millions of people, where it is not whether it is right or wrong,but rather who is involved, what level of foolery is this? Where is the sacredness and sanctity of marriage,where kids talk the talks of adults!

you should blame it on the stupid parents of chioma.

Calapar:
Yeah unfortunately that's the reality. With s3x and beautiful body, you lose your senses. But I wonder why most Nigerian women don't bother to empower themselves.

I have been with some other girls before my current and they are all wondering why I never take them serious...

I am not stupid but I won't mention it to you that you are not levelled up to what I want in terms of personal development.

Unfortunately for them, I don't bond with a woman via sex and if only bring that to the table it won't go beyond that.

I am very good at it and except I never had sex with the said girl, I can always get her even after break up. That is the how magnetic I can be. But I don't go about forking girls anyhow plus girls I have been with are not up to 10, of which I ended things with about 5 of them without sex.

I also do not buy the idea of house wife. This is further re-enforced as I grew older to understand realities of life...

Imagine being away and you need your wife to help handle some business deals in your absence... A clueless woman can't handle that.

Riele:
And who is this mentally deranged ? .

Get off my mention . I don't do lunatics .

I don't do smelly pusssssyyyy

Riele:
No , you shut up ! .

Hypocrite . You are no saint .

bitch I said shut the fork up.

biddostandard:
no mind her...nah advertisement the mumu dey do

bros, e get one for here, if u read her comments, u go say na angel on earth but na zero I go get off nairaland

Calapar:
Bro, I was once in your shoe. Believe me, I couldn't save or do anything tangible. Eventually was able to buy another car due to my financial discipline.

My own case: we'd stock up the kitchen with foodstuffs every month, go to Mile 12. Then buy groceries and baby needs at supermarket. Give her allowance. After 1 or 2 weeks, she'd start asking for money to buy protein. I ate barely once a day... .

These are the things you need to do:
1. Carry out a test that you've emergency that requires money. Sweep the 300k balance to your custody. Then consistently complain you're broke for like 2 months and beg her if she'd support the family with her 60k salary. Her true colour would come out.
2. Ask her to estimate how much she requires for foodstuffs, baby stuffs and other groceries, give her the money and ensure she buys them. Then reduce her monthly allowance. You can give her 40k. Tell your sis to stop sending her allowance in the meantime. Remember she spends her salary alone.
3. She needs to progress her career. You both can find a better job for her or another income stream for the family. Insurance workers don't stay too late at work. She can be doing other stuffs to make money. If she's not making enough money, she'd not learn how to manage it.
4. Investigate how she spent the usual allowance given to her. I don't believe she was being lavish. She might be stingy (when that test is carried out, you'd know). It'd be she's saving, giving money to her parents, paying a fuckboy, or peer pressure.
5. Never report her to any family members. Never! Take charge of your home.
6. Her being dull to you means she's not financially intelligent. You need to help her by carrying out step 3 above.

To all men, never ever marry liabilities. They come in different forms. I'm not an advocate of couple sharing financial responsibilities 50:50 but there are so many other ways women can support. But unfortunately, most Nigerian women see marriage as business venture, where they make money from.

I like your advice to men. Sadly, once dem see fine girl dem go just lose senses.

Most of these girls spend most of the youthful days flexing and enjoying and men will be stupid to still marry them at the end.

Sorry, ur advice will not work on a woman like that. She can't give what she does not have...

koife:
Hello fam, I'm not used to writing about my personal life. I try as much as I can to keep it off social media. On this very instance I'm tired and I desperately need honest advise, I'm also ready for insult.
I met my wife and we got married less than two years after our meeting.
I must say my wife is a quiet and slow person by nature and very churchy. I won't forget to add that since I met her I've had many blessings come my way. We are blessed with a 6 month old daughter.

My main issue with my wife is that she sees home upkeep as my total responsibility, yes, I do it but she hardly contribute anything and any time I'm coonstrained fin. She would say all manner of things. My wife isn't that a smart person, she would wait for you to give her direction in the simplest of things and shys away from taking charge and ownership.

I got a 6 digit job few days after introducing as her my fiancee to my parent and I'm often at sea for three more than 6 months. I've observed my wife isn't prudent with money no matter how much passes through her hands. At some point I'll get her attention how much she has spent without knowing and then she would go " wow, I didn't know it was that much" after doing some addition.
She works with insurance firm and her pay is within 60k (Max)/monthly...with that, she still get home support from me and my sister who is in USA. Recently I gave her her usual home support money and my sis did too....her allowance and commission came too. My wife had over 95k total in less than two weeks.

I was surprised barely a week and, I asked my wife support fix the car I left with her at home with just 5k since and i was yet to be paid salary. Note, I bought this car to ease her movement at her instance oo, she suggested the car is idle and we should get someone do bolt( taxify) just to get us additional cash.I got the driver do agreement with my lawyer via my coy and travelled shortly, the car alternator shut down and wouldn't charge, it was at that instance I asked her help out and she said she had no money on her and that she was barely surviving. I was shocked and Drew her attention to how much had gone through her hands in less than two weeks. Don't get me wrong, it might not be much to some peoples financial cash flow but we are Young family and less than two years in marriage. My wife believes once money comes, it's time to solve all her outstanding problem and ive told her she needs to prioritize.

Recently when I got to nja I left 600k in her account and told her we shouldn't touch it in case of family emergency but I noticed each time we have little need at home she would pressure me go get the cash. Some how we kept touching the money till it got to 300k and I travelled again.
I've tried my best to groom her and get her financial planning life better but she would not accept she has issue. I'm considering getting her family and mine involved but I dear it would out her in bad light before my family ( trying to protect her), I I decided to bring it here since it's faceless forum for candid advise

Need I also add that I can say one thing give times to my wife and she still gets it mixed up. I've asked her to read book and expand her intellectual capacity. It was just two weeks ago I forced her go defend her post graduate project after many years of abandonement....we quarreled. I later helped her arrange the work and pacify her supervisor allows her defend without paying school fees before I left.
Pls is my wife just dull or does it have to d with her character with life and money? Pls advise me coz I'm getting sick, really sick already. I'm typing this onboard on my way to Japan. I can't even concentrate

What attracted her to you? I don't want to assume but your answer will help me gauge your mental capacity in relationships.

In financial department, you are doing well but you failed to pair yourself with someone who is in that same department.

Intellectually, you are miles ahead of her and again, you failed to pair up with someone of same strength.

This is what you get when you deliberately choose to let only a looks to attract you. Now you will be ridden with burden of doing all the works for years.

I personally do not like stress and I can't allow a woman feed like a parasite under my roof.

My current girlfriend is very hard working and she hardly wants to get you to do her things for her. She prefers to handle it herself.

Getting married to a lady just for birthing is wrong. Life is hard and you need to someone that can match the burdens of life.

I am afraid to tell you that you would have to bear this for the rest of your life and nothing will change except you use "iron hand" to demand for a change.

Your wife is among those that feels a man will carry her burden and all she has to do is give birth. This is the situation of 90% of Nigerian girls, sadly and I had done well to avoid them like plaques

Riele:
One experience with a girl and suddenly all Nigerian girls takes the blame.

OP , either you use A girl i met is greedy or you close the thread .

Smh !

shut up. 90% of you girls are like that.

Una go dey do like say na una tear eyes pass.

shogsman:
This is how we will make fun of you very soon when we see your obituary

bless you.

falcon01:
let me take templates, will be coming up with fresh memes

this is why your country is a shit hole cos everything is a joke to you, including your death.

CAPSLOCKED:
THIS WILL BE ENTERTAINING. BUT WHY WAIT TILL DECEMBER TO CALL HER OUT? NA BY THEN THE RUNNING TICKET GO ENTER?
WHAT IF E CUT?

I don't bet. Well, I no get the energy to write epistle now.

praiseneo:
Hello Nls...
Happy new week to everyone!!
I’m here to share my little story please I’m not a good writer so I’d plead you accept my typos and grammatical errors with love

So I have this babe I’ve been dating for the past 2 years...we were so in love with each other, inseparable, we had plans to get married and have kids. Everything was going fine she is very ambitious hardworking and never settle for less. On my part I am trying my best too in terms of hustling and performing my duties as a guy in the relationship. My girl friend was very supportive financially whenever i get broke she make sure I never lack I also do the same too.

Along the line I started noticing changes in her attitude towards me( this time I was extremely broke) she doesn’t do any chores at home whenever she’s around she will watch me cook, wash the plates, sweep the house (even carry leg up for me) while she sit and chat. I never took it personal at first, after all it’s not a bad thing if I do these things. But it became a constant thing and I told her but she started yelling and telling me it’s my right to do it what if she’s not around. That’s when I knew something is wrong somewhere. My girl friend lost her respect for me gradually because I couldn’t cater for her needs anymore she was the one spending....one day I stumbled on her phone and saw her chat with her best friend where she reported me to her and insulted me blue black telling her friend how she’s tired of me, how she’s never gonna settle down with me, how she is thinking of dating a married man to take care of her, how I’m useless etc. I saw these things and kept quiet I didn’t show it that I saw anything. I still played and gist with her if she’s in the mood.
Fast forward to one day she chated me on whatsapp saying she want an end to the relationship and we are not good for each other because I’m lacking behind and she’s no more a kid. She needs to make reschedule her life and take right decisions, then we spiting was on of her right decisions. She blocked me and warned me never to call her line again. I was pained I cried I was extremely hurt because I didn’t have anyone else I felt like shiit I became depressed and fvcked up totally. My friends came to my aid stayed with me and helped me to stop thinking....thankfully it worked cos I was spending time with them we go out drink, have fun, gist laugh etc. it was exactly four weeks after she left I played a bet 9ja game staking 500naira just 15 games to win 5.6million naira. Lo and behold the game ticket won. My people I wan mad I won N5.6m that was my 5th time of playing it I’m not really a player like that except I’m forced to. I went to their office and I was credited I sat down in my house with broad smile always knowing I’m a millionaire. I thought of calling her but my friends wouldn’t allow me then I thought of what she did to me and decided to lock up and I was like fvck it. I don’t know if taking her back is a good option or should I just move on with my life.
(She doesn’t know my status yet)

5.6 million is nothing bro. Calm the excitement. I believe this is your first time and if you don't control it, you spend that money recklessly.

I have been there before and I lost it. Now even 100M will not move me...

Anyway, if you lose this one, which is very likely, you will learn the hard way.

praiseneo:
Hello Nls...
Happy new week to everyone!!
I’m here to share my little story please I’m not a good writer so I’d plead you accept my typos and grammatical errors with love

So I have this babe I’ve been dating for the past 2 years...we were so in love with each other, inseparable, we had plans to get married and have kids. Everything was going fine she is very ambitious hardworking and never settle for less. On my part I am trying my best too in terms of hustling and performing my duties as a guy in the relationship. My girl friend was very supportive financially whenever i get broke she make sure I never lack I also do the same too.

Along the line I started noticing changes in her attitude towards me( this time I was extremely broke) she doesn’t do any chores at home whenever she’s around she will watch me cook, wash the plates, sweep the house (even carry leg up for me) while she sit and chat. I never took it personal at first, after all it’s not a bad thing if I do these things. But it became a constant thing and I told her but she started yelling and telling me it’s my right to do it what if she’s not around. That’s when I knew something is wrong somewhere. My girl friend lost her respect for me gradually because I couldn’t cater for her needs anymore she was the one spending....one day I stumbled on her phone and saw her chat with her best friend where she reported me to her and insulted me blue black telling her friend how she’s tired of me, how she’s never gonna settle down with me, how she is thinking of dating a married man to take care of her, how I’m useless etc. I saw these things and kept quiet I didn’t show it that I saw anything. I still played and gist with her if she’s in the mood.
Fast forward to one day she chated me on whatsapp saying she want an end to the relationship and we are not good for each other because I’m lacking behind and she’s no more a kid. She needs to make reschedule her life and take right decisions, then we spiting was on of her right decisions. She blocked me and warned me never to call her line again. I was pained I cried I was extremely hurt because I didn’t have anyone else I felt like shiit I became depressed and fvcked up totally. My friends came to my aid stayed with me and helped me to stop thinking....thankfully it worked cos I was spending time with them we go out drink, have fun, gist laugh etc. it was exactly four weeks after she left I played a bet 9ja game staking 500naira just 15 games to win 5.6million naira. Lo and behold the game ticket won. My people I wan mad I won N5.6m that was my 5th time of playing it I’m not really a player like that except I’m forced to. I went to their office and I was credited I sat down in my house with broad smile always knowing I’m a millionaire. I thought of calling her but my friends wouldn’t allow me then I thought of what she did to me and decided to lock up and I was like fvck it. I don’t know if taking her back is a good option or should I just move on with my life.
(She doesn’t know my status yet)

There is one on nairaland I met. Mine happen 2 weeks after she said she can't date a broke me.

Na December I go open her yansh for nairaland.

[quote author= post=86939616]Kool!

Meanwhile, it is getting strange that every Tom, Dick.and Harry from this evil party that brought this evil Boko Haram upon us as a nation in the first place are now turning to Technical Advisers suddenly.
Criminals that couldn't do anything for a decade and watch Boko haram kill thousand and thousands of innocent people.
That people could not go to their place of worship for over a whole year.
Back then, if you see an ordinary the polythene bag (nylon of akara) on the floor, everybody start running helter skelter thinking it's gonna be an explosive/BOMB!
(It was that bad!)

Same evil party that denied Boko Haram kidnapped 286 of our teenage girls before the world stood up to burst their bubble!
They rather share the BILLIONS meant to procure ammunition for our soldiers to tackle this Boko Haram insurgency (when it was still at infancy) among themselves and watch our soldiers die!!
Only people with chicken brains must have forgotten all these atrocities.
That is why we call them hypocrites and children of hate, perdition and frustration.

Kidnappings, Daily Pipeline Explosions etc were the order of the day.
More of the reason we sent the ineffectual buffon packing.

Our darling country will win this war as a nation, and all the politicians sponsoring these killings along with anyone supporting them will all die miserably and terribly in due season.

God bless Nigeria.[/quote]why not relocate to the North East?

Psalme91:
thank you very much for the words of encouragement, I also have 4 daughters and pregnant with the fifth. this baby supposed to be our last ,cause of financial problems, that's why my husband is not happy

your husband is ignorant. Pure and simple. The man is whom decides the gender of a child and not the woman.

A girl child is human and he should focus on building a solid legacy for them... Female child take good care of their parents in most cases than their male child.

Na ignorance be all these ones

supercase1:
E be like say police never tag armrobber put on top your head b4

all these one una dey talk, na una know.

youwanbanme:
HSDD means hypoactive sexual desire disorder, maybe yours is not up to that buh its obvious someone like you wil av a very low libido.
Sounds logical tho " You have to bring the person out of their shell by not being too pressing" buh these very gurl am talking is the type if i don't make move we can go one year n ordinary kiss will not happen .... she told me in are previous r/ship sex only happen when she intiates it, which means a guy just as to wait on her mood, she wants to play with my beards , touch my body esp. nipple buh don't want me to recipocrate, who does that ? i just feel its wrong for a woman to dictate d pace of a r/ship. i break her rules everytime we meet she leaves angry buh later cums back

You are not far from the truth. I met one here who wants to be the one to always dictate directions of things. Only a sissy will take such.

sylve11:
Nor make me vex for you o.

Your right your right, don send many to early graves for this country. When you see the guys on black, just do as them say to get away from their brutality.

most of you don't know how to interact or communicate. Na there u go dey I go enter joint with SARS and will have nice laugh.

I dey penetrate people like water. Just know how to communicate.

Froshloaded:
Your phone is your private property not until you meet with SARS

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By the time you chop slap, na you go drop am

if you know your right, them go fear you. They know most Nigerians don't even know their right and will continue to prey on you.

donbachi:
GOD is punishing u for grossly disobeying him

idiot

U1:
Did you agree or oppose?

I wonder if some of these white people know the meaning of average. Yes, many people earn less than $200 a month. But the minimum wage is not truly a full reflection of what a typical Nigerian earns.

Only if they have an idea of what some of the 'poor' ones, such as the average bike rider/transporter or businessperson, make in a day! These poor ones even make way more than many salaried workers.

It's a bit shocking that an 'educated' white person could rely so much on such a 'fact.' What were his sources and how did they reached their conclusions?

Go to Quora and you will see them asking stupid questions about Africa. Majority of them have never left the US. Majority of them think Africa is a country and not a continent. Majority of them think we still live in huts and so many silly things.

One idiot even posted a racist question on Quora, asking if events were to be reversed, would people love to own a slave? Man, come see them say yes yes yes...

So I asked one of them if he would love to be a slave and he went defensive.

tysonnn:
Isn't it the same post you put up here?

Philip is mad. He however didn't directly refer to just Nigerians in that comment. There are poor people everywhere.
Rob is a great guy, but he needs to stop this nonsensical referencing of Nigerians whenever he wants to pass a point on very low figure sales. I haven't for once seen him mention that Nigerians also make four figure sales.

Rob go collect las las...

XhosaNostra:
And I will move on.

I'm not getting the 2nd part of your post. It's past my bedtime so I'm a bit slow at the moment.

you will keep moving on until you learn to adjust. That method wouldn't yield the best result for you. Over analysis of outcome cripples you. I bet you have never heard of "analysis paralysis" have you?

Okay read the second part when you wake up. Good night and sweet dreams.

XhosaNostra:
Not every man is a right fit. Some of us are very picky. Personally, I take time to warm up to new people or to decide whether I like someone romantically or not, so if someone comes on too strong from the very beginning, that may scare me off. Thus, turning them down. Slow & steady usually wins the race for me because I'm a thinker. I rationalize everything, include my feelings. Usually I have to "think" myself into liking someone, which doesn't happen overnight. In summary, being too much, too early will lead to a rejection.

and you will most often end up with the wrong choice.

I believe you have dated and broken up relationships in the past, which I feel you also deployed this same tactics. If it were so accurate, the past broken relationship wouldn't have ended.

lordally:
Bro I would love to hear your story jaweee!!!! make me self tap into the BLESSINGS!!! abeg

sure.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Really?

You girls are liking money too much these days o!

You better suffer with your man so you'll reap good fruits. Don't say I didn't tell you.

90% of them will not even smell that dream.

By this time next year, after I have completed the works God blessed me with same month a girl mocked me, I will share my story for nairaland to read it will teach them a lesson. ...

kahal29:
Don't mind them. If they want they should file 100 papers, all of them would be thrown out because their attempt to relitigate the case cannot work.

are you sure? Bros, fear apc oo. I fear those devil pass Satan.

jaxxy:
I have never seen pdp reverse it's judgement when in power tho

oshimole came into power through the court and pdp didn't interfere in that judgement. He won.

yarimo:
They should focus on bayelsa state judgement and live imo state alone. Wallahi it shall never be well with justice ODILI

it shall never be well. With you and your entire family that brought a disaster like you into this world. Fool

myobjective:
He wouldn't because most southerners are not too different from average northerners because they too allow their ethnic sentiment to take the better of them.

Most of the wailers are only wailing not because Buhari government has been a failure but because they were biter that Buhari sends their clueless Jonathan packing. To me, most Jonathan supporters and Buhari supporters are the same coins of different faces

You are wrong. Very wrong. The south competes at the highest level available, even if they will fail. They compete. They never tell you reduces the standard to accommodate them.


My friend was removed, despite passing interviews and test, to bring in a Northerner who was not part of the exercise for the job. The guy shared his story on twitter last month and it went viral...

And that is what Sanusi is addressing.

The south is miles ahead of the North in all ramifications. Don't go there please. Dont annoy people

This man they will murder u for speaking the truth.

solmus:


Shutup dude. imo isn't economically sufficient in its Oil Production or its reserve... Bayelsa produces 18.07% of Nigeria oil output and olopobiri as much as it is now marginal field stil have more resever than Imo with net out put of just 1.06% and Abia 0.69%

only a foolish enterprenuer would take 1% over 18 % as for nonsense gas reserve in Anambra Bonny holds the Internationaly known facets as regards gas reserve so sholve you anambra trash of your pee hole

There is more you do not know than you think you know. Google the gas reserve in Anambra and cure your ignorance... Who knew Anambra had such amount of gas before?