segedoo:
@smgs
cc: dollyparton1
angieberry

Whatever happened to going on a date in a park, zoo, spring etc - where u pack some lunch and camp mat and just see nature, have fun and the spread a mat, talk and eat? not forgetting to take pictures?

I miss those. unfortunately, very few ladies I've invited could conceive a date @ these places.

Museums and galleries are also great places to go on a date.

Does it have to be restaurant or where there might undue pressure to impress or project an impression?

Call me old-fashioned. I think I am

Nigeria doesn't have enough facilities to support those types of date. Not all states has zoos or all those stuffs. There is even little or no awareness regarding such places even if they exist.

I have gone to a park on a first date with a guy before. I really enjoyed that. If you give me an option between a restaurant and some places of nature, I will choose the latter. I prefer to sit or stand and jist. But I doubt if I wanna go to a naija zoo on a date.

butanep:
Accept it or leave it...

You are certainly not my type. I don't mingle with broke ass girls...

I told you I would conveniently buy you ten times and conveniently throw in some tips.

When u get a good source of income, u can come back and talk. But for now, you are way below my level with the peanut you earn from your teaching gig.

xp17:
buy him as a dido or as what?
BTW, ain't 10 too much?

As anything that he claim he is.
10 times shows the big difference between him and I.
Dude doesn't know me or anything about me, yet he had to use his rotten phalanges to type shite on here.

ronald4lif:


No, it should be if a guy ask a girl out on a date and she knows she doesn't have money to pay for her own stuff she should decline the invitation. It isn't a must she attend and he didn't force her to attend with a pointing gun.

And if she must attend she should be considerate by ordering for normal and cost friendly items on the menu list. Not requesting for shawarma, fried rice, isiewu, cocktail juice etc and as if that is not enough ask for take away package. She wan kill the guy

Since u know that naija girls would expect u to foot the whole bills, maybe you should tell them before hand that they should come with their wallets, filled with a legal tender. You can start the awerenes you know.

And really I refuse to believe that girls eat like that on a date. If that affects you too, maybe you should take the initiative of ordering for them according to ur pocket.

ronald4lif:


At the emboldened - that reason is pedestrian and flimsy. A man don't have to inform her before she knows she has to pay for her own consumables. Na she chop the food for Christ sake. Do one need to remind someone to pay for whatever they consume themselves?. She's aware that in a restaurant payments are made for whatever cuisine or orders one requested for and doesn't need to be reminded.

If u don't have money, don't take a girl out, its not by force. If I ask u out, I should have it at the back of my mind that I might pay the whole bill.

The government should build more parks, gardens and recreational centres. This will solve the problem on ground.

ronald4lif:


Maybe, maybe not. But I think our voice is one on this particular issue. And I stand to be corrected by any member of our inestimable organisation.

hahahahahaha. ...funny.

ronald4lif:


Good and fine. If there's a suitable place where they can have a time out without anyone spending then perfect. But if there isn't we the Nigerian men singles club (NMAC) insist it must be at our home.

You are the NMAC publicity secretary?

butanep:
I don't need to know you before I know your kind of girl.

You are simply one of the broke ass lady period

U make me laugh.

No boy. Had to go through ur profile and previous posts on nairaland. I can buy you ten times man. You are not even fit to call my dog broke.

ronald4lif:


Don't get into a crossfire, miss. This thread is like a revenge of one created today were guys got lambasted for inviting girls to their homes. How can you people expect a date out in a restaurant and place all the bills on the guys shoulder?. And when they employ ways of cutting cost and minimising expenditure it becomes a problem?. It's payback time.

There are other places u can go to minimise cost. It doesn't necessarily have to be the guys house.

butanep:
@ bolded. You are here on nairaland lying and saying what you have never done and what you can't do.
Take it or leave it, most of you girls are just bunch of broke ass looking for who to prey upon.

Nigga phlurse, u don't know me like that.
Take your smelly post outta my face.

Denrele's madness don finally enter market.

naijaboiy:

Well i've read your previous post thoroughly and I didn't see where you referred to both genders so concluded you were talking about the male folks only.
And besides in this part of the world it's generally the male folks who ask a girl out on dates.
As for your other points,,they are well stated and that was what I was trying to prove too.

DollyParton1:
Not every male wants a lady to go dutch or whatever u call it.
And some lady will share the bills or even pay for everything.
The thing is when u invite a girl out on a date, be ready to foot the bills.

Ok I agreed, my mistake. This one post is the only place I referred to the male folks. But I redeemed myself later on when I broke it down.

DollyParton1:

Because thats how it should be. When I invite you out on a date, I should foot the bill except if u object.

Then I said thats what I would do. I am female and there is no way this was exclusively referring to male.

DollyParton1:

Thats common sense. He or she was on their own jejely, u approached them and asked to take them to lunch/dinner. What if they don't have money at that point?
I think if you want them to split the bills with you, you should let them know beforehand.

And this referred to both gender.
So what are u talking about?

naijaboiy:

Now you are making the fact that you agreed to go on a date with a guy like it's a favour of some sort.

I thought you agree to go out on a date with a guy because you probably like him or you are also interested in wanting to know more about him too.

So why should everything be on his head because he's the one who asked you out.

How many times have you,,as a woman told a guy "let's talk over lunch"?

You already feel it's a guy's duty and therefore you summed it up with this mentality.

@your last sentence. If I tell a nigerian girl that we are both going to share the bills on our date,,how many of them,,including you will like to go out on a second date with that guy?

Please be sincere to yourself.

Did u read my post thoroughly? Did you notice I referred to both gender? Whether you are male or female, if you invite anyone out to lunch or whatever, you should be ready to foot the bills. If you can't foot the bills exclusively, let him/her know before hand.

I have gone out with couple of guys who had to caution me to keep my wallet anytime am with a guy, that a lady shouldn't pay for anything in the presence of a guy. One even went ahead to say its an insult on his person. I am the type of person that will bring out my wallet when the bill is presented, its left to the guy if he wants to share the bills with me or not. And if I am broke, I would let the guy know before hand.

And if a girl refuse to go on a second date because you asked her to split the bill with u, you should be happy. It just goes to show she is after your money. Or aren't u guys always complaining about girls trying to dig your golds.
If I see what I like in a guy, except the splitting bills side, I will still go on second and even third date with him. Onky if his reason for splitting the bills with me doesn't sit well with me, would I refuse to go on more dates with him.

donodion:

I know city and settlements of Ibadan very well and you are correct.
Ibadan people are courteous,accommodating,social yet 'yabis' is a norm. The only Yoruba tribe that will abuse You,yet You will be reeling with laughter with their different adjectival phrases .There is always an object to relate their yabis with.
I remembered one young Ibadan hawker insult a taxi driver (pronounced taa-seen) ,the driver was at fault but passed a rude remark at the yr young girl..only her to reply " Woju bi ina beetle " meaning hes got eyeballs the size of Volkswagen beetle's headlamps

Also they talk a lot..chai chai chai..Ibadan indigenes are cool people to be with.

Now if you think Ibadan people have funny accents,try Ijeshas or Ijebus.

hahaha. .. "woju bi ina beetle" Lawd!!!!
I shared a room with two Ibadan babes for a year.
Dang!!! Those girls got lines. They got very crazy replies for every statements that has the slightest resemblance to an insult. It got to a point we had to nickname them "Oyo mesi" (Oyo knows the best reply).

naijaboiy:

Which rule says that I must foot the bills if I invite you on a date?

What happened to paying for yours?

Thats common sense. He or she was on their own jejely, u approached them and asked to take them to lunch/dinner. What if they don't have money at that point?
I think if you want them to split the bills with you, you should let them know beforehand.

Yes yes yes!!!!
Din't we use to pour water in it too
Gosh nostalgia!!!!

P.S
If you don't know what that is or have never played with it, please mind the way you talk to me, because I am not your mate.

naijaboiy:

Why?

Because thats how it should be. When I invite you out on a date, I should foot the bill except if u object.

Firstly you wrote this,

CountDracula:

U think I make no sense cos u dnt understand, I knw hw u feel

Then you turned around to write this,

CountDracula:

Yeahhh! Dts wat u do wen u tweet! U spell it out

Boy, u know u just contradicting yourself.

Not every male wants a lady to go dutch or whatever u call it.
And some lady will share the bills or even pay for everything.
The thing is when u invite a girl out on a date, be ready to foot the bills.

CountDracula:


If u dnt understand wat I said ure never goin to understand...

I don't understand cos u make no sense.

CountDracula:


She said d idea is funny to her, she might infer to d fact dt husbands shud drop money bfor their wives tell dem, she didn't specify wat she meant

Girl said she doesn't support the school of thought that said u shouldn't share bills with ur husband, then later said she finds it ridiculous to have to ask her husband for chop money every time. And yet u say u don't know what she meant.
She needs to spell it out or what?

CountDracula:


Dnt insult men because dy can't cook, there's always food, even if ur wife doesn't cook u wil stil eat. Dnt get me wrong, I love our women, and I appreciate their efforts, I really do, I'm nt sayin dis based on pride either, I wil assist my wife but it wil nt b because she wants me to, it wil b because I want to, if I need money from her I wil ask her to give me if she wants to,I'm nt goin to enforce it on her as smthng she's supposed to do... Dts my point! Dis woman is tweetin rubbish. Sayin she doesn't like dis. She doesn't like dat... Well I dnt like wakin early in d mornin,but I hav to cos its a responsibility and I have people to take care of

Yea, u should assist ur wife if she wants u to. Same way she should support u financially or in anyother ways if u want her to. Stop making marriage look like bureaucracy.

CountDracula:

We want her to b independent bfor we marry her so we'll knw she's nt marryin us for money, We dnt want her to b independent wen we are married to her, as I am nt independent she shudnt be, she shud do her duty; I wil do mine, if I want I assist her, if she wants she assists me, we dnt share labor! Are we in primary sch?

This makes no sense at all. I can't understand why men stay shouting that girls are marrying them for money.
You want her to be independent yet u dont want her to be independent. Are u gonna take her means of independence away from her after the wedding or what.

But really Ibadan people can abuse ehn. Chai!!