₦airaland Forum

ojobolinda:
I regret getting married. My marriage is just a year old.
I can't go into details but the bottom line is, I am not divorcing just want a separation.
Reason for my decision
1) I hate sex where as my husband loves it. I have being unable to satisfactory fulfill my conjugal duties to him. I can stay a year without sex and I am happy but its unfair to my husband because he loves sex. We quarrel about it often.

2) Where we are living is affecting my mental health and I pleaded with him for us to relocate but he refused.

There are more which I can't type because it will make the post lengthy

I want to live apart from my husband and his family. I just want to move to another state and stay alone, all by myself. Marriage is not for me. I don't want my parent to know about it too because they wouldn't approve of it ( I have always given them this impression that I am happy in my marriage).

I am currently pregnant and we both agreed he will have custody of the child when he is born.

I just want to know if I will regret my action in the long run

You are entitled to feel the way you feel. Do what is in your best interest lest the marriage fester and you Raise that child with resentment

jaephoenix:
Sometimes I Google side effects and drug drug interactions. Many docs don't pay attention to those

True because it happens to only a few people in the grand scheme of things. It is also not really our field of study but the real experts on side effects will be pharmacists and pharmacologists. They are who I consult for side effects especially the rarer ones.

bdon123:
For serious ailments not minor .... it shows their not as smart as old doctors

While that is true, a lot of patient come to the hospital saying that they have malaria and typhoid or craw craw, not knowing that based on their symptoms, it is worse than that. Just because the doctor has a poker face doesn't mean he is not suspect a more insidious diagnosis based on your "typhoid and malaria" symptoms

From personal experience, one thing I google is drug dosages, especially for children, the amount of antibiotics syrup I will give to a newborn is different from what I will give to a one year old and a 3 year old. Although I can calculate a lot of figures from my head, I prefer a calculator for accuracy, besides another reason to Google is if a certain drug is safe for certain populations of people. I can never be caught dead giving, most hypertensive drugs, tetracycline or ciprofloxacin to a pregnant or nursing mother.

Another instance where one needs to google is skin diseases, because they look different in black people than white people you see in medical textbooks.

I have diagnosed many cases of Tuberculosis and HIV and 2 cases of leprosy, one patau syndrome and many more so far in my practice. Just by googling pictures.

I also helped diagnose a woman who had spent over 3.8 million naira in what she and her previous doctors believed to be ulcer that she was suffering from only to question her further and realize that the lady symptoms were because she was going through MENOPAUSE.

bdon123:
Like we dont regularly see doctors checking for symptoms of mere simple cases on google

it is better to check Google than to make a mistake on a patients body. Even old-fashioned doctors would pore through the references in front of patients. Nothing is wrong with looking online

LDaVinci:
It is VERY FALSE to say that Nigerians dont pay tax.
Not only do we pay tax but we also pay a great many informal and unauthorized taxes which add up.

Convert that tax to the dollar or pound and you will see that it is little in the grand scheme of things where health is concerned.

Hospitals cost money, staff cost money, to get decent standard equipment cost money, even research to discover new drugs and vaccines to treat the myriad of diseases plaguing hhumans cost millions and billions of dollars.
So all that cost has to be recouped somehow. That is why Nigerians pay out of pocket for healthcare because even the subsided, substandard Healthcare that you are criticising is being paid for by someone.

Yes good health is a basic human right, but Healthcare is a business, not a charity.

LDaVinci:
I make this as a general comment to all world governments - not to LASG - regarding the bold - Healthcare is one thing that should be FREE.

when Nigerians are not paying tax?

We get what we give

ravensckar:
It's not about having a gigantic structure, do they have enough equipments?

Have the Doctors, Nurses and Health workers started prioritising human lives?

Massey Street Hospital that almost made me lose my daughter to some "Heartless Student Doctors" about 7 years ago. If not for my wife's vigilance and resilience....

It's one thing for a hospital building to be gigantic. It's another thing for it to be fully equipped and most importantly the health workers should prioritise human life.

There are no student doctors working in Massey oga.

But sorry for what you went through, hopefully your daughter is okay

Sonnobax15:

Emergency dad indeed....

I was in the town general hospital two weeks ago.....And a Similar scenario took place......But before we could see,the boy has already japa-ed.......Even the nurses couldn't stop themselves from laughing while they kept bombarding the girl who just gave birth with insults...

The truth is that most girls of nowadays deserve these kind of guys.......They prefer following boys with no ambition but only have their big polos and saggy boxers to legit hustling guys so they should be prepared to live with the consequences for the rest of their lives.

Men that behave the way that guy did, deserve to be infertile for the rest of their life, they also deserve to never amount to anything, they also deserve to have no destiny helpers as long as they live.

The truth is that even some the legit hustling guys are almost no different. Infact they are more insidious.

BigDickProblems:
Swollen lymph nodes are usually associated with HIV. Go for a test Bro


When I see people freak for this sex of a thing I just laugh. The reward for your cravings is what you get when you can't control yourself. I am always grateful to God for making me this kind of person I am. I hardly have any sexual attraction to most girls. My spec is always very rare. In a thousand girl, I might not find my spec. From their fingers to their toe nails, their skin color, to their teeth, armpit, smell etc.

Omo B4 I find a girl to say I want to sex, it could take me many months or even a year. This is why I miss my Ex.

Sex is just overrated. Whenever I have a call girl, I only ask for handjob (and she must have beautiful fingers). That's all.

tell us you have a fetish without telling us you have a fetish

Scientists:
What do you mean by Healthy?

for example, let's say she has a rare case of rectovaginal fistula( where there is an abnormal connection between the Anus and vagina).
if excrement can enter from the anus to the vagina, what's stopping sperm from anal sex traveling the same way and causing a pregnancy? Although it might cause an infection too

Scientists:
My Dr. Can a lady get pregnant after Anal sex?

If she is healthy, no, but nothing is impossible in medicine

illicit:
That's all...?

That's it

Common, Doctor save his life

🤨😒🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
I am not superman biko.

Files:
Dr please my prick is having headache.
Please help me.

eeyah. Goodnight.

Scientists:
Please nairalanders help me. How can I mitigate this situation like this, time is running out

countdown for what?🤣🤣

Everyday247:
Chai!!! I wish I was a Hollywood director. This would have been a hit movie. This is the usual format Hollywood movies take:
1. Young girl is being abused.
2. Hero saves young girl.
3. Young girl falls in love with hero.
4. Everything concludes with a hot spicy sex scene. 🔥
A popular movie that used this format is twilight.

hero is stupid.

illicit:
🤡

he's a real joker. He lost more brain cells as he kept typing this thread.

GOFRONT:
Simpson Gibson

Didn't the guy cheat?

Ebubu4:
If you don't want to practise as a doctor, resign and stop crippling our healthcare system.

Them resigning will cripple the Healthcare sef

Omicronvaccine:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wPEw0eNsmhc?si=OccTj2ZTSgbpR3Gr

Chicken republic doesn't feed their staff

1Sharon:
You are not equally yoked. Most female medics want other medics.

Not totally true. Some do, but not most

Babangidapikin:
Marriage is not an easy task in Nigeria all the loving loving tend to stop after marriage in Nigeria except you both genuinely work at it ...My body is enough stress on it's own ...if not for yeye pressures I would love to remain single for life and have my peace.

marriage was never made for love.

Many people would be better off single

luminouz:
Now you are giving me a fûcking excuse for why some men are abandoned.
Most men are busy providing for their socalled legitimate kids and the wife and all the extended fuckin family issues that they don't have quality time with their kids. It's the women/wives who have all the time in the world for bonding. My own dad is an example but I never for once forgot his presence nor will I ever. If fathers don't provide, y'all will come with the irresponsible dad routine and drive him insane. Men must hustle and take care of shiit and get must still find enough time to bond with kids enough to leave an impression on them? Kuku kill them as per dem be donkeys na.No where in your narrative is anyone taking care of HIM or giving a fûck about what he wants . It's always about what others want, not him. Shey he came into the world to be a donkey abi? So don't
come at me with that talk. That's a bloody excuse after all the marriage talk. At least if he is not married, he will be alone and fend for himself.

So what's the use of legitimacy then if you still think if men don't do bla bla bla...they get abandoned in old age. Isn't it obvious from your grandpa story that y'all don't give two shiits about him? If y'all did, one of you will permanently be at his neck and call till he dies. Now that's a man's experience for you. I imagine if grandma is still alive, she would be living in y'all houses and getting all the love. I have seen men who never abandoned their fûcking families and was always providing and they were left for dead by mumu kids hamstrung by their mothers. Should I start telling you about many of them I listen to and counsel? Or the ones who died of broken heart as their kids went off with their mum or fight over mumu properties while their fathers were still alive? You don't know anything about being a father or even as a man, so don't lecture me on your grandpa's story alone. I have proofs of more than 50 men who were good and were left to rot. Only heavens know how many more are dying silently with no one to talk to. So fûck no!!! Marriage is no guarantee of a happily ever after, not in this universe.

You buttressed all my points. Marriage favours no man. I have both my grandpas dead long before their wives died. Why? Pressures of always attending to everyone but themselves because that's the old way of proving you are a man. My grandma lives with my mum and I help take care of her. I wish my grandads were alive so I could spoil them rotten with love and listen to their wisdom but they all died 30 fûcking years before their wives. I have sworn to make sure my dad gets all the love in the world not because he married my mum or had me inside wedlock nonsense. If I were born outside wedlock, i would do the same because I know just how hard it is to be a man in this mudafûcked up world

There are no guarantees your so-called legitimate kids will give a fûck about you when you grown old or they will take care of you. Thinking marriage will help you navigate old age better as a man is an illusion for men. It doesn't ever work. Now men are planning their own retirement and making sure they die with dignity, not shiiting on themselves and all that shiit with no one taking care of them.

The stuff you whine about. Single mothers do both. They go out to work and still come home to see their children.

But if you want to continue to manufacture excuses, just keep staying Single with your bastards.

Where are the kidnappers? Why weren't they paraded the way yahoo Boys or victims of circumstances who was grabbed in black Maria's are shown to the public?

Something stinks in this story?

They most likely paid the ransom. Believe what the police tells the media at your risk.

Babangidapikin:
Marriage is not an easy task in Nigeria all the loving loving tend to stop after marriage in Nigeria except you both genuinely work at it ...My body is enough stress on it's own ...if not for yeye pressures I would love to remain single for life and have my peace.

If you have decided to be single. It is a good thing. The issue with why marriages fail is that people expect Disney level of happiness in marriage without putting in the required work.

People for seeing their spouses as individuals instead of ATM/ maid and bedwench or property.

While good marriages should be happy, it should not be the leading factor.

luminouz:
Lmaooo.... Legitimacy dey pepper you sha.

Only God knows what men endure in such legitimacy and they die uncared, unloved and used up. Yet, you still want other men to be hooked into such slavery and when they say no, you bring up legitimacy and responsibilities as hoooks to bait them. Men are waking up, trust me

It is mostly men who don't treat their wives and children well or take time to know and interact with them and invest emotionally in their lives that will die unloved. That is secret to why more men die alone.

My grandpa is almost 100 years, blind with dementia. Yet my aunt comes every year from America to celebrate his birthday which was last week tuesday. Yes all his children are middle aged adults with their lives and families. All he needs to do though is call and cry on the phone that no one has visited him and everyone will come, despite the fact that he was visited two wTuesday and has probably forgotten. He also has two caretakers. Yes there is loneliness in old age. But he has not been abandoned. Though he is a stubborn and strict disciplinarian. He never stopped being there for his children and grandchildren and didn't have illegitimate children.

Compare that with other men who have done all manner of atrocities,men who are wife-beaters, who cheat, who illegitimate children, who are deadbeats that don't contribute to the family. Those are the ones who will die alone and miserable.

Uchesis:
But you will like to be Davido's "bastard" son even if its for just one day

I will prefer to be my father's legitimate child instead

luminouz:
Lmaooo.....

Yeah right🙄

He made vows, and broke them by fathering a bastard while deceiving his wife to help him financially to build their home and family. That's judas iscariot behavior

KIDfurniture:
I have always advised men to build alone . Never build ur home with ur wife! It is risky . Very risky. I witnessed a 60 year old wife and 67 year old husband fight bitterly cos the man had a son outside. The wife knowing fully well she contributed to the property they live in which happens to be only house. Asked court to sell off the property and give her more than half of the proceeds. She provided strong evidence and that house was sold. Old man is now a tenant, old woman moved in with her son after brainwashing all her kids to hate father

But the man bleeped up so he deserves it.

KLEINBASS:
Does this give you apes the rights to come to South Africa over stay your paper sell drugs and show filth every where then call us ungrateful when we call you to order. Worst part yo openly practicing cult killing openly. One Nigerian refusing to move out of my property told me openly that he have rights in South Africa and I can do anything to him but I dealt with him the South African way then he went on to claim xenophobia. Even now when I advertise rental I specify no jollof allowed

I thought all south Africans knew was to spread HIV to their family members. Country of cowards. Focus on your problems that the whites causes instead of pointing at others

princepee:
What exactly is it with Nigerian and south Africa.
We are not even neighbors, so what is this rivalry about?

People have a lot of time to waste.

they started it first

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
After a close call , a miscarriage around early June , I decided to get a birth control shot 6 weeks ago , I started bleeding 3 weeks ago and my blood is still flowing , I thought it would stop but it seems to be getting heavier.

I live with my bf and its embarrassing , and if you're a woman you know that when you're seeing your period , your sweat has a stronger odour and thats why deodorant is a must.

I lost my job and I've been depending on my bf for a while , I have an interview tomorrow morning at a secondary school.

I have my bath at least 3 times a day but its as if I'm dirty , even because of cold I can bath more with hot water , its not helping.

I don't have pad or deodorant , anytime I ask him he's always complaining about food and he always has to provide food for both of us , and then if he accidentally spots a drop of blood on my underwear , like when I'm peeing , he starts to lecture me about my cleanliness making me feel dirty.

The other day he was tickling me and it came out again , he was so disgusted , I felt like sinking , I told him to stop but he didn't listen because he plays a lot , it smells like old blood and its thicker than normal period blood , start and stop .

I can change my underwear up to 3 times and still feel very dirty .

I'm going to the clinic to complain again tomorrow

Its like I'm bleeding deliberately , I'm very pale and weak right now but he makes me feel like I'm just acting pitiful

if at least I was always on pad , the stress would be less but I don't even have my own money , if I complain its like I'm ungrateful about other things

I'm tired , I just want my body back to normal

First aunty as soon as things get better you must retire that boyfriend. He is a walking red flag and can leave you lying dead.

Also getting that Depo shot of birth control can mess up your hormones more than other methods. Try another method instead of the depo shot. I hate recommending ladies the shot because I am tired of hearing complaints.
The hormones can really mess up your body. That is why abstinence is the best.

Hope you were cleared in the hospital that there were no retained products from your miscarriage, because bleeding should have stopped after 6 Weeks max.