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lingerie made of denim hmm, now thats new,

Just say "It wasn't me" like shaggy

Guys I cam across this write up and it got me thinking. I even asked some of my friends their opinion on the matter but all view were contradictory and no one person agreed. I decided I should throw the question to the forum.
The write talks about a man that went to a ceremony and heard a pastors sermon. I pasted write up below in red:

WHILE sitting down quietly at a naming ceremony, lost in thought, I was suddenly jolted out of it with the preacher’s statement “if you are a wife and you wear your lingerie to bed at night; then you are a wicked woman.” This statement made by the preacher prompted me to question his identity and tried to find out if that was the situation of things in his house, and to know if he was simply trying to pass a message across to his wife.

The preacher’s statement began to raise questions in my head concerning sex in marriages and relationships. It is a fact that sex is an important aspect of marriage which cannot be ignored or taken lightly. It is the flame that keeps the passion alive in every marriage and relationship. Although most people would argue that love is all that is needed to keep a marriage and indeed this is true, but it also needs the support of sex. A sexless or passionless marriage simply states the obvious; either both parties have sex partners outside the marriage or one of the parties is unfaithful.

While some women view sex as a weapon of getting what they want from their spouses, some see it as an object of punishment, a way of getting even with their husbands whenever they are offended. They simply do this by putting up resistance to their husband’s advances.

The question, therefore, is can putting on lingerie at night be tagged a form of resistance? Is it true that some women wear lingerie at night out of comfortability.

So guys what is your take on this comment made by the pastor. Do you agree or disagree, please give your reasons.

na so na

u sure say no be woke-nwayi in dey nyash

wonderful

I agree with the poster. In Naija we used 2 really pursue the girls, do treasure hunting (gifts and Mr biggs) coupled with lots of flows and pressures but still the get nothing 4 our pain. Talk less 2 even see kiss or even see her panty.
I remember the first girl I tried it on when I got here, she was so freaked out she told her friends I was crazy. I actually didn't smell her ass till I completely 4got about her and had changed my runs and style, then she turned around.
Here in America and Europe, I noticed the girls pursue themselves 4 u, all u need 2 do is almost nothing. Once I like any girl I just walk up to her and yearn her up. If she likes me fine, if she doesn't I'll move on. So far its been more than 90% successful. Funny thing is if she likes u, she will definitely Psych herself 2 yearn with u. Once u notice her doing so the game up. U'll be chopping that ass if not that night then soon. This never happens with Naija girls back homes. It probably has 2 do with culture of the country or the orientation of the people, I don't know but its definitely easy to chop chicks living in Caucasian countries compared 2 Naija chicks in Naija.

abeg make we pass go joo, na 2day u sabi say dem dey look your headlight and bumper light. No post your picture abeg, in fit be say your headlight don fall like deflated slippers and your bumper don dry like lepa own, I dey talk am make u no spoil our eye with the rubbish.

its not by force

good move

rubbish

its just crazy,

say it aloud

she will just destroy ya teeth with several kicks,

no comments 4 men like that, he doesn't deserve one

Marriage is a social union or legal contract between 2 people. It is said 2 be an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually intimate and sexual, are acknowledged in a variety of ways, depending on the culture or religion of the people. I believe marriage should be sacred and respected, and people not ready mentally for it should not get in2 it.

All that said, I just heard of a story about a lady that kept sleeping with the ex till her wedding day. She and the ex dated while in school 2gether. She got married in her final year or so am told but continued having sex with the said bf till her wedding day. I mean, while her hubby 2 be was doing his bachelor's eve party, the bride 2 be was humping on her bf (soon 2 be her ex). I still find it hard 2 stomach, what about you guys or ladies?

Please people comments and insults are allowed cos I also didn't understand it,

oga, na so I hear the story. I neva hear the cmplete version. Once I hear am I fit finish up, until then na wetin I get I post.

yes she did,

Guys this one na one new one I hear so I go share am.

One of guys way been won change jobs from a Telecom company to another company but it took him some time be4 he finally got something in a multinational company in Lagos. He told me he felt uncomfortable with his new boss during the interview but he could place his hands on what was making him feel uneasy.
Anyway 3 months in the job he tell me his new boss (an expatriate worker) always licks his lips when he sees him that it makes him uncomfortable. He says he didn't think anything about it until he started receiving gifts from the guy and the guys is always nice to him. The guy has already put his name among those who would be going outside the country for further training which he should not have gotten now until he has worked at least 6 months to 1 year for the company or he knows one of the directors.

He asked me what I thought about the whole stuff. I told him I don't know. What do u guys think. He said his boss is married but the wife is back in their country and he doesn't look at all the girls that flirt around him at the office. He wants 2 know if he should be worried or not cos if the man is what we think he is then na wahala,
Pls tell us ur mind on this issue,

A 36 years old lady who hails 4rm somewhere in the south east had a guy bothering her for sometime. At first, she didn’t show much interest in him because she thought he was a cheat like many men around. She thought he wanted her body and as a result, didn’t give in to him initially.

She gave the guy so much stress but the guy took it all just to get her. She is Catholic. First, he started attending her church in order to talk to her. He would come to her parish every Sunday and look for her among the congregation. Somehow, he would find his way to the seat beside her and sit down. Then he would beg her 2 share her bulletin with him so that they could read the bible readings together and follow the Mass. And 2 her surprise, whatever he didn’t understand in the order of the Mass, he asked her 2 explain 2 him. And she gladly did.

After church, Paul would take her home and seize the opportunity 2 see and greet her parents. He acted so responsibly and humbly towards her parents that they gradually began 2 see him as their ‘son’. She was amazed at the way he wormed his way in2 her parents’ hearts and also the way he took the Catholic Faith so seriously. That was when it dawned on her that if Paul was doing all these things because of her, it meant that he truly loved her.

This realization made her soften her attitude towards him. So, she started acting more friendly towards Paul. But she still suggested 2 him that they should pray to God to do His will in their relationship. she told him that if God had destined them 2gether, all his efforts 2 win her heart would not be in vain. Soon, her parents called her 2 ask what was actually going on between Paul and herself. They invited Paul 4 a chat and he asked them 4 her hand in marriage.

They wedded 2 years ago in the Catholic Church.

This article really touched me and I wanted to ask this question.
Guys/Gurls, how far can u go to win a lady or a guy over?
What would u be prepared to do ro accomplish this?

If she loved the guy then its only a matter of time b4 she walks out of her marriage,
Its a very complicated situation but it depends strongly on if she loves the man she is presently married to.

Her husband is not romantic at all. All he does is work, work, work, and return home tired and go to sleep immediately. Even on weekends, he has no time for sex and yet he does not seem to be bothered about it. Sometimes she wonder what kind of man he is. In the night, both of them will lie there together and yet he won’t do anything. If she tries 2 touch him, he'll tell her not 2 bother him cos he is very tired. Its no more funny anymore she also works, but also loves passion and sex. Out of frustration, she had a brief affair with a colleague in the office last year, but quit the relationship after 3 months cos of guilty conscience. She said she still loves her husband and don’t want to leave him. But he is not passionate and doesn’t give her what she wants. And she is finding it difficult to cope.

So far now, they haven’t had sex 4 like 8 months and she badly needs that desire, the passion, the friction of 2 bodies touching, sweating, kissing, doing it, those sweet words, she is suffocating and badly needs it. She feels like cheating on him again cos being deprived of sex for over 6 months is really killing her. How can she solve this problem? She wanted to discuss this issue of sex with him b4, but is scared of his reaction and doesn't want 2 be viewed as a prostitute or slut.

What does she do? How does she tackle this, help b4 she starts sleeping with the first man she meets that take her fancy.

Depends on ur woman's mood. They can be so temperamental and spontaneous so she may just be angry about something,