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emelda86:
Its not my fault that I don't like tiny d!cks
1) I can't give head cos it will be as if i m sucking small child's dick na...
2) it can't perform doggy well,I don't want someone to waste my tight pussy time

Children

johnkey:
how about that guy who just drives to a campus, pick up a girl, drives her to her hostel, collects her number, meet her friends same night, call her the next day to meet in a nice hotel, they chill, everywhere soft, girl is getting wet, tell her lots of lies to get her wet( yeah it's okay lying to girls), they bang later that night, he drives her home next morning so she won't be late for classes, he blocks and deletes her number. I'm that guy lol. wise up and make money brother.

U didn't catch d joke ma boy. Cos it's one and d same thing kid. U got used cos u spent time and money but the lady gave little or nothing to the event. See!!!

dre11:
https://www.dailytrust.com.ng/fg-hires-lawyers-with-n500m-to-recover-n330bn-from-mtn-256213.html

No wonder Mr Kayamo has been singing nightingale for some months now. This buhari administration know how to lie but what they do best is open to their own asses.

SexyDenzel:
So Einstein, for the fact that an individual happens to be a women they automatically DESERVES respect from men? and men should also deserve respect for being male? What a genius. The funny thing is that most people that tag other immature and whatnot are describing themselves 90% of the time.

Lol to the Einstein comments. Kid, don't hate the messenger but the message.
Immaturity has nothing to do with age but with outlook to life.
Both gender deserves respect from the opposite, that's paramount. On the other hand what goes around comes around and life is too short.
If u didn't like the kids u just let her go, it didn't require the whole mud slinging on NL where immaturity is the order of the day.
That Ur sole action made u immature.
Then to cape it up, u tried to make excuses for a stale action.
Anyway learn from Ur mistake.
Cheers!!

JoshVI:
Good morning everyone, kinda long writings but please ensure to read and understand.

Been dating this beautiful stubborn lady for close to four years now. Sure there’s up and downs in the relationship but we always find our way around it.

The issue is, she’s unapologetic, she hardly gets remorseful. She hardly say “I’m sorry”. When things go wrong from her end, even when she’s at fault she always has a way to twist it and make it seem I’m the one at fault. Most times she knows she’s at fault but she’ll ridicule me and make it seem as if I’m saying trash. She sees nothing wrong in most of her wrong acts, I’m always the one at fault.

Immediately I’m at fault, I hardly wait three seconds to apologize. I do it immediately and let peace rein.

When we have issues, let’s say we gone into little or even a very heated argument, it doesn’t stop me from caring, or checking on her, after quarrels, few hours later I pick up my phone, call her or visit her and talk as if nothing happened before, but she can keep malice on this same issue for close to 3 to 4 days. Giving me cold answers whenever we talking during those period. Until I playfully tease her, maybe a hot romance or sex, will calm her down and brighten her up. At times I deliberately give her the space to get over it on her own.

But when there’s no issues between us, it seems as if we are in heaven on earth. Too much sweetness! Despite all these we don’t threaten breakup. The love we have for each other goes deep by the day.

But the issue here is I’m very HOT TEMPERED! On few occasions I end up beating her!! Other times slap her. But she doesn’t just sit or stand for me to slap her, she do retaliate.

I fear if we end up together and she continues being stubborn!! I’m really trying hard to always calm myself down when pushed to the limit. I’m the most caring and sweetest guy ever when it comes to handling my woman, (she praises me with this, so are other ladies I was involved with) even my close pals sometimes tells me they want to become a girl so they can date me and enjoy the treats I give my woman!

And again the only issue is when the fuse in my head burns, I just can’t take it. Not as if I do get my woman angry, I don’t even dare it, but when she’s the one at fault and she doesn’t see this and still claim rights over me, this is what burns my fuse. I just can’t control it, to make it worse, she’ll say words that will hurt me and make me seem less a man! At times she say she’s right because she’s a lady. Or when she’s wrong, she’ll carefully wait for me to say something bad to her and then turn the table around. I WAS AT FAULT.


I need help, I really love this girl and want a life time with her, several times I promised never to lay my hands on her, I end up doing it again. Because of this I’m scared of getting married, to her especially!


The physical abuse with my woman started at the very year we started dating. And it didn’t happen on every argument we had, it happened maybe once or twice in a year, it just happens when I can’t take it from her, I respect my woman a lot, and I also demand respect from her, I carefully pick things I say just not to annoy her.

In all this, we are still good, she just can’t get enough of me, she always want to be around me and if she could wrap herself around me and hung there while I’m going about my daily activities, she’ll.

I’m planning on settling down with her soon, VERY SOON, but how can I solve this? I seem not to be able to help myself, there are few times I expected her to say she can’t marry an abusive husband and bow out. Instead she keep asking me to reassure her I’ll marry her.

we aren’t living together yet, when we get married and live together, I fear for us. I need help.

But u beat her? Never ever touch a woman no matter how she goads u to do so.
D problem is once u start, it may be hard to stop.
U can try reverse psychology like someone suggested.
But my two cents is that the fault is in ur end.
U guys are Nigerians and it naija the norm is for the males to be dominant which by the way I think it's BS but that is the norm.
So next time she pulls shit, u sit on her head till she apologizes. If she doesn't no peace. U stand Ur ground and keep standing Ur ground till she is used to it. U don't need to touch her. Once she gets used to it she will apologize without Ur even asking for it.
Pls note, this may also back fired cos some ladies once they feel u live on her apology they may become adamant not to or just do it to get u off their back knowing full well they don't mean it. U have to be wise about it

SweetLove0:
the hatred Reno gat for Buhari has no limit

Don't hate the messenger but d message

daviesblaze:
immature in what sense, ogbeni

The situation around the action. The topic is correct and I agree with u. But a matured individual would have handled it differently and have constructed his words also differently.
Ur comments exposed d immaturity.
Not everything is black and white. Some things are in colour and women are one of those things, that's why they deserve our respect.

SexyDenzel:
The thing is that men should learn never to argue with women unless its for fun or to rile them up and make then entertain you with their drama because at the end of the day brothers once you got money you can make her to do what you want the only difference is how much are you putting on the table, how much is your worth once they realize this they shut up and act like a tamed .......... That's a fact, tested and comfirmed, money rules their world and with money you can control them.

This statement is false on all counts. U talk like that cos u still think immature and unprepared to settle down.
Believe me once u are very comfortable and ready to settle down. U will beat another drum and sing another tune
Poverty is the only thing that make men think and speak like u

Preshy561:
You are sure under 20.
what an immature post from an unserious fellow.

Ya very immature but the statement that women don't handle rejection is true on all counts

daviesblaze:
I recently ended a thing with a lady and damn she didn’t take it well.

She was annoying, but I told her I was simply too busy with work and other things and she was pushing for something more serious.Truth was, i easily grow bored whenever a relationship stretches for more than a month

After I told her I had no intention of getting serious, out came the shaming tactics “You’re not a real man are you” “You’re just a fuckboy” “Don't let your look deceive you. you can't get anyone better than me” “Maybe I should send a guy friend to Bleep you up” “You wasted 2 months of my life” "you took advantage of me because i was vulnerable"

Now the whole time she’s saying all this, I kept thinking of the phrase women use to shame and shut down men who get aggressive over being rejected, “you’re not entitled to anybody’s love or affection”

So I decided to use it. I said “you’re not entitled to anyone’s love or affection” And she hit the roof telling me, “I can Bleep any guy I want, I can have a new guy every day if I wanted”

I gotta admit, it felt pretty damn good to use that on a chick.

Well sweetheart, why are you wasting time arguing with me? Go do that then!!

Typical woman. Feels entitled to my time but if I was being billy beta and getting Aggro about her not committing I’d get told I’m not entitled to her love and affection

Well u asked for it kid. So enjoy what u get outa it

GMBuhari:
One can't be too careful, but then this is classic paranoia , if USA wanted to kill him , he's already dead, the seat he sat on, the documents he inhaled the perfume , heck the first handshake from trump


But i doubt USA wants war at the moment, i think i am beginning to believe in Trump's capabilities even though i loved Obama

Patience time will tell bro. Happenings now is not enough to decide

opera1:
Report has it that UNESCO has given the University of Zambia $340,000 to develop a Degree Programme to safeguard Intangible Heritage with the first intake comprising of 20 students.
Zambian Watchdog reports that Intangible Heritage comprises of practices such as Witchcraft, social practices such as expression through music, Knowledge, skills-as well as the instruments, objects, artifacts and rituals, the Zambia National Commission for UNESCO has explained.

According to Dr. Charles Ndakala, the Zambia National Commission for UNESCO Secretary General, despite efforts in safeguarding cultural heritage, there are cases of destruction of priceless culture heritage in certain countries which threatens traditions and customs.

When Minister of Higher Education, Nkandu Luo announced that the University of Zambia will commission studies in witchcraft, this was dismissed as fake news.

Now UNESCO has confirmed the witchcraft course.

SOURCE

When they are done, they will be super witches

KikBuhari2Daura:
Reno Omokri Accepts Pres Buhari’s Challenge To Prove He Is a Liar

It is very interesting that President Buhari has said that he did not sack the Governor of the Central Bank of Nigeria, Mr. Godwin Emefiele, when he came in because he wanted him to salvage the terrible economy he inherited.

He also alleged that the Peoples Democratic Party left the country in tatters and challenged anyone to contradict his claim.

I hereby accept the President’s challenge and I remind him that this will not be the first time I have exposed him as a liar, having recently unveiled 20 lies in his Democracy Day speech to the nation on May 29, 2018.

In his Tafsir message delivered on Sunday June 10, 2018, prominent Islamic cleric, Sheikh Abubakar Gumi, detailed how the Jonathan administration built infrastructure all over the North including 9 Federal Universities and 165 almajiri schools. In contrast, the only project initiated, started and completed in the last three years by the Buhari government is the Daura helipad for the President’s private use.

The President should be reminded that under former President Jonathan, Nigeria never experienced anything like padded budget and the NNPC did not spend $25b without due process, neither did fugitives who stole billions in pension funds get reinstated, recalled and double promoted.

President Buhari should also note that during the Jonathan administration, fuel subsidy was far less than the ₦1.4 trillion the Buhari government is spending today. Even at that petrol was ₦87 per litre under former president Jonathan while it is ₦145 today. How can fuel price increase while fuel subsidy also increases?

Nigerians can also testify that the salaries of federal workers were been paid as and when due during the Jonathan years, unlike today when the federal government owes salaries left, right and centre. Even at that the minimum wage of ₦18,000 under Jonathan was worth $130 and could buy you two 50kg bags of rice. Today, the same ₦18,000 minimum wage under buhari is the equivalent of a mere $40 and cannot even buy you one 50kg bag of rice.

The most expensive infrastructure built in Nigeria over the last 20 years is the Abuja - Kaduna super fast railway. That project was built and completed by the Jonathan administration. It is therefore preposterous that a man who cannot name one project that he has initiated, started and completed in the last 3 years, calls the economy that Jonathan bequeathed to him terrible.

The Buhari administration has borrowed ₦11 trillion in three years, which is more money than the Peoples Democratic Party borrowed in 16 years. Yet, despite such unprecedented borrowings, the economy moved from being the third fastest growing economy in the world under President Jonathan in 2015, to an economy with the fourth worst performing currency in the world under President Buhari, according to Bloomberg, yet, President Buhari has the effrontery to paint himself as a saviour! It is Nigeria that needs to be saved from Buhari, and not Buhari that will save Nigeria!

From the foregoing, it is hypocritical of President Buhari to say that the economy was in a bad state under President Jonathan. President Buhari runs to the United Kingdom for the best healthcare money can buy at a cost of millions of dollars, something that President Jonathan never did, even though ex President Goodluck built 5 hospitals for the public nation wide and over 50 health care center for the masses.

How can an administration that cannot even provide paracetamol for the Aso Rock clinic despite over 3 billion budgeted for it under President Buhari (according to the First Lady) accuse the Jonathan administration that refurbished 10 general hospitals for the masses across Nigeria of leaving a ‘terrible economy’?

President Buhari needs to be reminded that when Bill Gates visited Nigeria during the Presidency of Dr. Goodluck Jonathan, he praised the then President and the government for their management skills.

After he returned, he tweeted on December 22, 2014 that “Nigeria actually had a pretty good year”. However, on March 22, 2018, when the same Bill Gates visited Nigeria under the failed leadership of Muhammadu Buhari he said the Buhari government’s economic plans were “inadequate”, “does not address Nigerians’ needs”. He thereafter described Nigeria under Buhari as one of the worst places in the world to be born. And this is the man who is now pointing a finger at Dr. Jonathan, unaware that four are pointing back at him.

Finally, let me remind the President that people only compare themselves to the best and the reason he has this strong psychological need to compare himself to former Presidents Jonathan and Obasanjo is because he suffers from a chronic case of inferiority complex.

There are four habits that people do not want to see in their leaders. These are:

* Complaining
* Comparing
* Criticising, and
* Condemning.

Unfortunately, it is as if President Buhari went to the school of bad leadership to learn these negative traits.

Reno Omokri
Bestselling author of Facts Versus Fiction: The True Story of the Jonathan Years: Chibok, 2015 and Other Conspiracies.


https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10215823645401372&id=1152008079

OMG, I have always loved Reno cos of how articulate he chooses his words but this his epistle is way overboard and supersedes all expectations. It was as if Reno gave Buhari and uppercut and then dug his alive and nailed the coffin shut.

A good write up and a clear indication that the Buhari government is useless, much more useless than they show but nothing new cos we already knew that.

aminulive:
POLITICSNGR

Hamza Al-Mustapha, a Former National Security Adviser to Ex-head of state, Hamza Al-Mustapha has finally opened up on the circumstances surrounding the death of M.K.O Abiola.

In a recent Interview, Mustapha revealed that some leaders of NADECO went to Aso-rock to collect millions of dollars from the head of state barely 24 hrs after Abiola's death.

He revealed that Abiola died in Aguda House after taking a cup of tea and also attacked Femi Falana over his recent statements against him, adding that Falana knew nothing about the entire occurrence.

He claimed that he had videotapes of some NADECO leaders when they came to Aso-rock to collect money adding that he was framed over the murder of Kudirat Abiola. He said that those who testified against him in the Kudirat Abiola case were induced with money and various gifts. He revealed that Sergeant Rogers was given a house in Ilorin and received cars intermittently.

PoliticsNGR has been furnished with videos of the explosive interview.

Watch the Video HERE

https://politicsngr.com/abiola-killed-nadeco-leaders-took-money-al-mustapha-explodesvideo/

Pls u have video tapes show it and stop blowing trunpet

dainformant:
This is quite unfortunate. Aden Marwa - the only Kenyan FIFA assistant referee captured in a video by an investigative Ghanaian journalist Anas Anas on BBC Africa receiving a bribe of $600. He has since resigned from the 2018 FIFA World Cup refereeing team.

Marwa was one of the linesmen set to officiate in Russia before the BBC aired an expose that saw the celebrated Kenyan blower allegedly receiving a bribe Sh60, 000 before a match.

According to reports, Marwa, a Mathematics and Chemistry teacher at Komotobo Secondary school in Migori County, was approached by a journalist posing as a Ghanaian football official during the African National Championship.

After receiving the paltry sum in bribe, Marwa forfeited at least Sh2.5 million for appearing at the World Cup in addition to Sh200, 000 per game officiated after Fifa confirmed that the referee will not be travelling to Russia.

Marwa, 41, first featured in the 2011 Fifa U-17 World Cup and was among the only four other referees picked from Africa to officiate in the world biggest football extravaganza that is set to kick-off on June 14 to July 15.

It is against the Fifa code of conduct for any match official or officials to accept a bribe.

Source; https://www.nationalhelm.co/2018/06/refree-aden-marwa-caught-on-camera-receiving-600-bribe.html

More to d story that meets d eye

Lautechgossip:
​Reno Omokri, former aide to ex-President Goodluck Jonathan, has reacted to the threat by National Assembly to commence impeachment process against President Muhammadu Buhari.

Recall that the National Assembly at a joint session, on Tuesday, threatened to invoke its powers against the President, if nothing was done to end the ongoing harassment and humiliation of perceived political opponents by the police.

Lawmakers also said President Buhari must be held accountable for the actions of his appointees and must ensure a strict adherence to the rule of law.

Reacting, Omokri berated the Senate President, Bukola Saraki and Speaker of the House of Representatives, Yakubu Dogara for disclosing their intentions.

In a tweet, Omokri said Saraki and Dogara should have “invoke those powers” without disclosing it to the public.

He added that heaven won’t fall if Buhari is removed.



http://kikiotolu.com/omokri-reacts-to-nass-threat-to-impeach-buhari-chides-saraki-dogara/

Lalasticlala Mynd44 Dominique Fynestboi Ishilove

Well said @Reno

Paperwhite:
Guess these corrupt lots are now feeling the heat? They have the privilege to save Nigeria but they forgot that they went to the NASS with a mandate.

What heat? Read in between the lines and see they think defecting or new political parties is the option

HungerBAD:
Reno again?

I do not like cowards.

I was starting to admire Nnamdi Kanu's rabble rousing,until he took off like a virgin that saw Tobi Bakre fully naked on their wedding night.

This Reno Omokri is a coward too,like so many other noise makers like him that are keyboard warriors. He should come back to Nigeria,and answer for his sins of looting against Nigeria.

Does the slowpoke even know the process of impeachment?Buhari is a dismal failure and we all agree. We will wait patiently and then vote him out,just like Jonathan was voted out.

But for this coward to be faraway in the United States,and be advising for an impeachment to take place,knowing fully well Nigeria will burn,smacks of idiocy.

Your wife is in the United States. Your children are all there. All your extended family live in the United States,and yet you want to goad the Senate into plunging Nigeria into Anarchy.

Come to Nigeria you coward and lead from the front.

Ur ranting is irrelevant. If u don't like the man Reno just say so cos some people find him refreshing. Pls tell us which of those political fools in government and outside it that don't have wife and children outside the insecurity of the country.
It's the smartest way to criticize those in power with effrontery without fear of injustice so hold Ur peace.

chuksjuve:
Strike under this administration is just getting out of Hand!.

How did we get to this point?

Only happens when u put a dullard where he shouldn't be. Still come 2019 u will still vote the herdsman back to completely destroy and finish what he started

AlexReports:
Senator Eze Ajoku, a former senator representing IMO east zone has earned the conferment of a Honorary Doctorate Degree in Divinity from the renowned Nigeria Baptist Theological Seminary. 

This was held on Saturday, 2nd June at the Nigeria Baptist Theological Seminary Institution in Ogbomoso, Lagos state. He was awarded this Degree amongst three other beneficiaries.

The conferment of this distinguished Doctorate Degree is a clear indication of Senator Ajoku's commitment to humanity; his dedication to the growth and development of the faith, and also his undying love for our great nation.

However, the distinguished former member of the red chambers doubles as the Managing director of Darlez Nigeria limited and also, Director of COCHIN - Coalition of Orphanage Childrens' Home in Nigeria.

His theological foresight and divine understanding in the practise of theology has earned him this glorious and outstanding recognition through the conferment of a Honorary Doctorate Degree.

With his vast understanding of humanity as it were, the entire Nigeria Baptist Theological Seminary community are optimistic of his unending sacrifices and commitments, especially in the area of enhancing and improving the value of life in Nigeria and Africa.

http://www.alexreports.info/2018/06/senator-eze-ajoku-bags-doctorate-degree.html?m=0

Pls someone correct me if am wrong but is it only in Nigeria or 3rd world countries that senators and house of representatives or if we want to make it a broader topic formal public officials still answer their title while out of office?

Issafela:
Lecturer asked 200 Level pharmacy students of OOU to raise their hands and close their eyes for noise making.

Is This Proper?

Source:
http://nairaplus.com/2018/06/200-level-pharmacy-students-of-oou-asked-to-raise-their-hands-for-noise-making/

Glorified sec school

He who the gods would destroy, they first make mad. Rocha's should remember how Orjis Uzor Kalu lost credibility.
He Rocha's should let that be his lesson cos he is almost at the apex of his madness.

purpledove:
This Administration is really making Gej's administeration a golden one. Things were better

That's history's for u. Always makes saints of sinners and bastards of supposed angles

4712A6:
Better, so let me rephrase the question. Can a PR who is collecting CCB invite relatives over or not? That's the part I want you to clarify. I don't want us to confuse readers here with different terms of support, welfare, benefit and other semantics.

When you say No one receiving government benefits in any country is able to invite relatives to visit , that is very confusing. CCB is a benefit, HST is too so it's very loud for you to make such statement. I am being specific about Canada and not any other country.

Pls read my comments again. I said people on welfare asper people who have no jobs and receive living and housing allowance from the government. Those are the ones I meant.

4712A6:
Better, so let me rephrase the question. Can a PR who is collecting CCB invite relatives over or not? That's the part I want you to clarify. I don't want us to confuse readers here with different terms of support, welfare, benefit and other semantics.

When you say No one receiving government benefits in any country is able to invite relatives to visit , that is very confusing. CCB is a benefit, HST is too so it's very loud for you to make such statement. I am being specific about Canada and not any other country.

Why not, if the said person has gotten a job and has being able to show he has paid tax for a given approved period of time.
That person can invite even Kingkong to visit without the authorities caring

Adebashy:
Can someone move from Germany to Canada! If yes how do I go about it ?

Very possible. I know people who moved from UK to Australia and Canada and a friend of mine living in Berlin just recently received his Canadian residency card (if that's what it's called).

Moving from Europe to any where else depends greatly on Ur resident status and what u or Ur spouse does for a living.
If that question can't be answered then no reasonable advice will make sense.

4712A6:
First off, I like that you point out that child support differs from country to country. Are you speaking authoritatively and from experience @ the words in bold?

We need to make things clear. Canada has Child Care Benefits (CCB). Every family is entitled to CCB in Canada and it is not a poor man thing. When you apply for CCB, you put in your tax income for previous years and it is used to calculate your CCB for the mother. You are not eligible if you do not have children and the Canadian government takes it upon themselves to take care of EVERY CHILD in Canada which is why you have the CCB.




Please tell me why you cannot invite your relatives to visit because you are receiving CCB

I think you have got the terms child benefits and child support mixed up. As long as your relatives are not migrating, there is no reason why they can't be invited. Sponsoring your relative to come here as a PR is another kettle of fish where you have to prove financial capacity of taking care of that person. I stand to be corrected.

Am speaking authoritatively and I was not talking of either the benefits or support, though the topic in question has nothing to do with child support.

I was talking of people on welfare being unable to invite relatives.

1x2x3:
So sorry you thought I'm here to rant and see help. I've had other issues with her that we've settled without anyone knowing. I'm not the type that easily seek people's opinion but if I ever have to then you know I've exploited all options. I'm simply done with her, I can't write all she said here which is enough for me to know who I'm dealing with.

A woman none of her 7 siblings can talk to? She talks to her elder brother who is over 10 years older rudely......i dont want to keep going cos I've made my mind up. Thank you for your contribution.

If u've made up Ur mind then u have done so.
No one needs headache at his home.
Cheers

1x2x3:
I'm sorry I'm saying this and it hurts my heart to agree with the warnings of marrying a single mother. I'm not the best writer but I will try to narrate my experience and findings.

First of all I would like to point out that there are very few single mothers who can make a good wife while majority of them will ruin you and make your life miserable if caution is not taken.

I've been dating a single mother of a 5 years old boy for about a year and half she is 30 and never been married. I wouldn't just jump into such relationship but for the fact she is someone I knew back in my School days however, we lost contact for about 10 years before we met again and I kind of understood the story she told me and the circumstances she had the child (Till date I didn't bother verifying her story of course I don't care).

We dated for about a year and she got talking with a few of my friends and sibling but the striking thing is she is yet to introduce me to any of her friends or siblings even though I knew she have many siblings and some friends (I did question her about this and she said she doesn't have someone she can really call a friend).

Looking at the kind of reserved life she lives I felt this could be normal but still something kept telling me there's more to these whole pretentious reserved life because I'm introverted and can easily figure out who's pretending to be one. Mind you, she is the church going type who prays and wants my well being yet I could still figure out there is something not clear thus my reason for taking my time to propose to her. This is actually not my fault as there is no way I can figure out who she is unless through someone close to her.

About 6 months ago a pastor that is yet to meet her in person told me that if I marry her I will end up divorcing but being the doubting Thomas type I gave no ear to whatever the pastor has to say until recently when something unfolded.

She lives 3 hrs drive away and comes visiting most of the weekend. Here is the major problem which I must admit I'm at fault but I thank God I was at fault because it paved way for the revelation. Throughout the time we've been dating I only visited her once which she complained about, I wasn't just too comfortable going there to spend time and do certain things (I didn't just find this right but I'm very much comfortable if she visits alone or with the kid). She complained a few times about me not visiting until 2 weeks ago she told me she was traveling to Abuja.
I inquired about her reasons of traveling and she said she needed to rest since she's on leave (Redflag). Her reasons didn't sound logical so I objected, I told her I wasn't comfortable with her traveling, she kept insisting and she jokingly said she will go and face the consequences when she returns. We talked about this for days and she eventually went against all odds and traveled.
On getting to Abuja she started acting funny like not taking calls or calling and when she finally returned my call I told her not to call me until she is back from her trip (I needed to avoid unnecessary worries)

She returned after 4 days and called knowing fully well we've got issues to thrash. She started complaining I don't give her attention as much as she wants (she seems not to be able to deal with my introverted person anymore). The ranting was becoming rude, sounding like a different person from whom I thought I knew. We got to a heated point I had to ask for any of her siblings number, she immediately became defensive and threatened that if I dare contact any of her siblings (7 of them) that I won't like the outcome . It occurred to me she isn't in good relationship with any of her siblings even though they talk sometimes. She just doesn't want me to contact anyone. Out of her rudeness I asked her if she is ready to be under a man since she has brought up marriage issues on few occasions. She said she isn't ready to tolerate bulllshitt of men afterall she has a child, marriage is about children and if things aren't working in a marriage everyone can find their way . The pastor's words occurred to me instantly. I took about 2 hours telling her how much she needs to adjust and understand she isn't supposed to tuzzle with a man else it will be hard for things to work in a home.

She said so many unimaginable things that it dawned to me she was pretending to be nice all these while. She said she wants a man that can take alll she does, I then asked her if she is ready to take all a man does she said no and I told her to look for a man and pay his groom price since she wants a man she can control.

Still scary to me she pretended all these while, going to church and acting very responsible hoping I marry her which I genuinely had intentions to but for the fact something kept telling me I needed more time to know her.

At the end its obvious she is used to being a single mother and if she divorces tomorrow it will be nothing new to her.

Guys make sure you scrutinize that single mother before you jump in. There's a reason she's single and in her 30's.
I found out she's not in good terms with her siblings because she doesn't like taking orders or listening to advice. They've talked to her about being rude and disrespectful but rather than listen she drew bad blood between her and all her siblings.

I wonder how u got over 150 likes from just ranting like a child.
I tell people marriage and relationships are not for the weak minded but people still tell me how silly they think I am.
I will tell u categorically that all Ur epistle u wrote is rubbish, though I don't know the woman and question or Ur case scenario but u failed to ask the important questions or should I say give d impt answers.
I haven't seen any woman that won't give u attitude. Ur mare asking to speak with one and u already get attitude, women are kind of built in certain ways. That Ur lady friends is not left out.

U didn't handle the issue maturely. If u did u would have seen things differently.
The fact that she when to spend her vacation in Abuja alone doesn't mean she when to do runz.
Children or men not ready to date should leave women alone

Hahaha, shocking? Not at all. I know for sure that if you are on benefits then you are a low income earner. Then what's the point of leaving your country to be a parasite in another person's country, benefitting from hardworking citizen's sweat to feed the children whom you knowingly brought into this world

Another fact is this, when you collect any support from the government you make it a herculean task to even invite a guest or relative over because the government will see you as a parasite and will not want any more parasites into their country through you

I was only wondering why anyone will want to even collect child support in the first place, strive for a better means of income and make your decision to relocate a worthwhile one. Discussing benefits shouldn't be a thing of pride(my 2 cents), cheers

Pls let's correct a misnomer. No one receiving government benefits in any country is able to invite relatives to visit. That is not possible.
Also child support differs from country to country.
Some countries pay support for all children under 18 weather or not the children parent are employed. They just have to meet many of the requirements that the other poster posted.

justwise:
So you think that many posting here have €8000-9000 to apply for German student visa?

That's the catch bros. Then again it's not different from many countries

Berliner1:
Student Visa.

As a visitor you cant work in the western world. I'm sure you know it my Oga Justwise.

As a visitor u can't even have a serious health insurance