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MissRaine69:
How old is she?
The problem is you have been persistentlly rewarding bad behaviour. By apologising and trying to make amends all the time and taking blame even when the fault is not yours makes it look like you are a walk over.
If she is not talking to you tell her to leave your house and tell her why you are asking her to go as no one wants to have an adult who behaves like a petulant child.
And also make it clear that unless she changes that will be the end of things.
You are both adults and her behaviour is beyond juvenile.

Exactly, this is my own mindset too.
I didn't want to advice the op before now but his comment to be before has pushed me to do so and I do agree with u.
I will be speculating now but I believe in his bead to please he created a monster that is the girl's character. That is why I kept saying from the beginning that that is not the end and their is room for changes.
My wife was very stubborn when I met her and quite prone to similar behaviour as the Op described.
I worked on her intensively, showed her pepper when the case arose till she changed and now she is wonderful.
The op can work on the lady I question but it's not by force.

CoolAmbience:
Firstly, I would like to let you know that I have been married for close to a decade now.

Secondly, I will only advice you when I can ascertain that you have escaped to safety from that lady. For now, please keep running...run for your dear life. Life has no duplicate.

Let me know when you are absolutely sure that you are in a very safe distance from her. Please, do not heed any advice aside from ones that say 'run', for now.

I don't agree with u. I have also been married as long as u have been and I always believe in the good in others. One can still teach the lady and there is room to change.

Raskasal:
I have been reading your comment since you started this your advice or such, but the thing is you seem not to get it. Of course am not Mr perfect to warrant correcting her all the time. But then that doesn't mean I'll leave things out hand when errors are made. Over times she correct me as well and I heed to her correction, even more than I do for her. Does that mean she's overbearing? Correcting each other isn't bad in a relationship and the way I do it doesn't make me overbearing. Don't assume what you don't know if you can't get more facts. I kept quiet because I wanted to garner experience and tips from married people. And if you can give that, better not assume what you don't know.

Actually it wasn't an advice. Surprised u thought it was one. It was an assessment based on Ur comments and how u came through in Ur writings. Maybe a little assumption also raised its ugly head there,.....(ah! falling into the same thing I was accusing u of). For that my apologies.
My take on this issue is alittle contrary to others here. It's not the end of the world and u could still have the best of both worlds. You only need to make more effort to effect change where such is possible and if at all she was/is willing to learn. But where I agree with the rest here is that if she is unteachable and refuses to learn then u let her go, though I don't thing anyone is unteachable.

Olifiz:
Cool dear I get ur point. It will actually be wrong from the OP if he’s always constantly correcting her. More like always finding fault.

I believe that is what the Op was doing and why she refused to listen anymore. That thing I said about speculation

pocohantas:
How did she try to act like she wasn't a hoe?
She said she isn't an EASY fúck, meaning you gats spend more than you offered. That's a brave olosho, I prefer her to the undercover/refurbished oloshos, disguised as good girls.

Anyway, ladies should stop sending unsolicited nudes, not every guy is interested in such. Her fellow nude distributors should also learn from her. No face showing, no curtains/blinds/bedsheets...Nothing linking it to her. Just imagine her face showed?

Read in-between the lines next time. The she acting not like a how was when they met. She must have been all nice and gummy when they met and turned around showing her colours when they were online

profeazy:
I suspect you are a woman.... And a nagging disrespectful one at that!

U See how wrong u are again. Remember what I told u about speculation? Never ever speculate about what u have no knowledge of but rather attempt to ask and educate urself. It's Ur speculation that placed u in the situation u are now.

biafraisdead:
no I was not, u need to see what I passed through.

Can't be worse than what I saw bro but that still didn't make me bitter. Instead I learnt from both our mistakes and fine tuned my flow. Any man can do it that really is ready to take that step

Hanseel1:
I'm tired of seeing hateful, sexist and misogynistic comments towards feminists on this site.

Why do Nigerian men feel feminists aren't supposed to get married? Where did y'all read that feminist shouldn't get married?
Y'all have a misconception about feminism.
Feminists just want everything men enjoy, nothing else.
They're humans and also have emotions just like other women, so why shouldn't they get married?

The kind of hatred and bitterness Nigerian men have towards feminists is undeserving and ridiculous.

Is it a crime to be given all opportunities men deserve? Feminists don't want to be controlled by men because of their sex.
Why do you all want to control women?

Comments like : chimamanda is married, she's just deceiving you people.. Etc
Who told you people that feminist aren't supposed to be married? .

Generalisation is wrong

biafraisdead:
Months back I was in a similar relationship before I finally call it a quit(I also intend to keep her as a wife, I have even introduced her to my people). I always apologise to her even while she was at fault and she will never admit been at fault or even say sorry, though she would stupidly tell me at times that her bad side is her being too proud and that she was working on her self to correct it. the day I ended the relationship was a day she insulted me and I just told her I won't call her again but she thought I was joking and since that day(over 7 months now) I haven't called her neither has she called me(because of pride). But I know she is seriously dieing now her problem is for her to call me and say 'I am sorry' she keeps calling me with unknown numbers and each time I pick she would end the call without saying anything but I know she is behind those calls, also she keeps stalking me on LinkedIn, she doesn't know LinkedIn sends u profile of people viewing ur profile. so my brother if u try to change her and she is not changing I would advise u to let her go; imagine what u would go through when u finally marry her, we shouldn't allow love to block our senses at times. any man or woman that can't say sorry is not worthy to be a husband or a wife. By the way where is she from cos we may be talking about the same girl.

U were too harsh, there are ways to handle such women with minimum risk and still get required results. What's important is that she wants u and is prepared to change. No matter how proud she feels she is, she can be mastered, be humbled, be tamed. Question is do u want to do it.

delugajackson:
You are dating a woman with so much ego and such woman will never make a good wife. Truth is, you can never control a woman with so much ego. If she can't apologize for little things, then she has no business being in a relationship. Take my word, she has little or no respect for you. The only reason she is with you up till this moment is because she is gaining from you, once she fulfills her aim of running you down, she will leave your áss for good.

I suggest you look for someone else with better attitude, character and finesse that will make life worth living for you, cause once you marry this particular girl, you will experience x2 of what you're suffering now. She will offer you a lifetime of misery! Who wants a stubborn, nagging, disrespectful woman with an over-bloated ego as a wife?

You need to re-consider this cause it seems you're gradually becoming a victim of emotional deficit. And the hard truth is that you both are not meant for each other.

Ur comment is full of flaws. If u read the ops comment he never said anything about nagging or disrespectful so this Ur speculation leaves me to believe that u have no idea what u are advising about.

Bluezy13:
Your thread reads your experience with a ritualist.
Your writeup doesn't aside the last part that he said he sells body parts.

You call him a ritualist and you are still asking what they would have done to you.

You perceived gold but later realized wood, hence you calling them with your airtime instead.

You claim to have played along but actually you were trying to figure out if you'll end up dividing his spoils if he was indeed wealthy or fortunate.


Sorry, I'm only an analyst, not an adviser because you don't need any.
It is an old trick after all. They were after what you could offer.

The op is a very stupid girl. But she was lucky.

milemimi93:
Nigerian girls are all prostitutes (including the married ones). When are y'all going to get this fact?

With money you can buy the heart of any naija girl regardless her status..

Not true

Correctbae2:
It was a sad ending for a 44yrs old woman who got pregnant after 19yrs in marriage. Woman who was said to be pregnant with twins but died alongside her twins for refusing to give birth through CS.

It was posted on twitter by a relative who was trying to give reasons why we should listen to our doctors sometimes.

Tweet below:

Sometimes if we Nigerians can just listen to our doctors advice, more lives will be saved. I lost my aunty two days ago to childbirth. Married for 19 years and finally got pregnant with twins at 44 years old.
She wanted to give birth naturally & the doctor said she was too old & advised against it since it was her first time giving birth. She refused CS & died in the process. The twins died too. I feel so bad for her husband because that man was patient. Can’t imagine how he’s feeling


Read Also: Nigerian Lady Welcomes Baby Boy, 3months After Giving Birth To A Set Of Twins https://correct.com.ng/nigerian-lady-welcomes-baby-boy-3months-after-giving-birth-to-a-set-of-twins/

Source: https://correct.com.ng/after-19yrs-of-marriage-44yrs-old-woman-loses-life-alongside-her-twins-for-refusing-to-give-birth-through-cs/

Stupidity

Johnnyessence:
Man goes off on S. African restaurant refusing to sell food to Nigerians in Midrand, Johannesburg.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cuyNh8vs4Ww

Restaurant or mama put?

CastedDude:
Alhaji Buba Galadima, a former ally of President Muhammadu Buhari, is heading a faction of the ruling All Progressives Congress. Galadima, at a press conference in Abuja on Wednesday, announced the formation of the Reformed All Progressives Congress.

Alhaji Buba Galadima, told newsmen, that some chieftains of the party were compelled to take the new step because the APC has derailed from its original plans and vision.

Pictures of Galadima's daughter, Zainab Buba Galadima have flooded the internet since her father went against his former friend (president Buhari) to form the new party after accusing the APC of neglect and failed campaign promises among other things..

Zainab Buba Galadima currently works with the presidency as she is the Special Assistant on Rule of Law to the vice president, Prof. Yemi Osinbajo.

Below are some of the personal assistants to the vice president; Gambo Mansur from Gombe State; Personal Assistant to the Vice President, Murtala Aliyu from Kogi State; EA-DCOS, Nkoli Anyaoku from Anambra State; Special Assistant on Rule of Law, Zainab Buba Galadima from Yobe State; Special Assistant, Administration, Koko Iyamu from Akwa Ibom State; Personal Assistant to the Vice President, Edewede Akhidenor from Edo State.

Source; https://www.nationalhelm.co/2018/07/zainab-buba-galadima-special-assistant-to-vice-president-osinbajo.html

Which one is special assistant to rule of law? So Buhari carried all his people and put in presidency under Osibanjo jus so they won't have direct links to him and Osibanjo just dey watch dem?
He is obviously a house boy to them, no wonder the comment of that hypocrite some months back.
Imagine a whole VP not having any influence in his own office.

delugajackson:
What we have here is an enbittered, immature guy and a practicing olosho. When you break up with someone, you break up for good. Let the past remain in the past. You don't go about blackmailing people because you're hurt.

Many have been victims of such blackmail but still, others refuse learn. If she had not sent those nudes, the guy won't have anything to threaten her with. Love with your brains and not your heart.

Next time a guy asks you for nudes, ask him for his own. Either that or nothing. That ensures not only your sanity in the process, but it also protects you from any form of emotional blackmail in the future, cause no sensible guy would threaten you with your nudes when he's aware that you've got his own. To whom brain is given, sense is expected.

Read the story again. U will See the guys gist sounds more genuine than hers

Omeokachie:
When will they be charged to court to answer to all the charges?

BTW I see Daniel, Victor, Sunday, Benjamin, Julius...all fulani sounding names.

Pls look again. Such names as u mentioned are not there

colorsofrainbow:
a particular state is mourning and Rochas is busy campaigning for Buhari for his selfish 2023 presidential ambition...Nigeria is truly in the hands of dogs!
but surely both he and Buhari will be rendered politically irrelevant/useless come 2019

Imagine that

He enjoyed d pussy too much na wetin kill am

Pls open the can of warms we want to see what colours the warms are.

Uchihaitaci:
No you are interested in clicks

Those who use the iPhone x won't waste their time answering this
Or is it those who can't afford it you expect to answer?

Dude this is down right koonery

Do something productive

It's overpriced

Issafela:
A Nigerian man took to his social media platform to call out a lady who sexually harassed him, yesterday, during church service.

Source & Watch Video:

https://www.instagram.com/p/Bkb_yt3hAZF/?hl=en

And he came here to post it. Na wah for some people.

johnmix12:
D'Banj's son Daniel Oyebanjo III died after he drowned in a swimming pool at the family residence in Ikoyi.

Here is a photo of D'Banj posing beside the swimming pool in his house. The customized swimming pool has D'banj's signature DB logo engraved at the bottom. The music star had taken to his Instagram page on April 1st to post this photo of himself standing beside the pool.

Lailasnews cannot confirm right now if this is the same swimming pool where his son's tragic death occurred.

https://lailasnews.com/dbanjs-son-dead-see-the-swimming-pool-in-dbanjs-house/

Which one is customized swimming pool? Do they have simple swimming pool? Abeg ooh, just sympathizer with his family and leave other things out

CilicMarin:
All the projects are meant for States and Local governments, but the lazy lawmakers went ahead to criminally insert the projects for the Federal Government.

See for yourself.

Source:


https://www.vanguardngr.com/2018/06/2018-budget-south-east-senators-express-shock-reported-cuts/amp/?__twitter_impression=true

Really this vexed the presidency? Who is the aggressor here after that fool still signs the budget? When he knew there was something wrong with it why did he sign it?

D man is a docile dog �, ....and u people were calling GEJ clueless when he stood up to there brigands in NASS

AbiaOnline:
He is my mentor, a Father and Boss, Equity personified, more importantly like Josiah 2Kings 22:2 did what was right in sight of God, pulling down strongholds of Baal and Okija in Abia State during his reign.

Today, AUTHORITY NEWSPAPERS will validate, ratify, authenticate and corroborate what we already know and believe about the immediate past Governor of Abia State, the man with the enviable political capital, equity keeping leader and the distinguished Senator representing Abia Central; Sen. T.A. Orji (Ochendo).

While I am certain that you have raised the bar of quality representation, when I look back on what you mustered unusual will to do while you were Governor, my appreciation for you gets a quantum lift. At a time it was almost impossible to stop having recourse to any graven image, when idol worshipping seemed a way of life, when politics seemed intertwined with voodoo and diabolism; you aligned with God and the common man.

I dare say that you will be remembered mostly for mutilating an old order that infringed the right to freedom of worship. You will be remembered for having the will to engage in developmental projects that were thought impossible. You will be remembered for giving Abians an Okezie Ikpeazu, an authentic history in a hurry, a visionary Governor.

Today, I thank you most immensely for finding time to school me in the rudiments of CIVIL SERVICE, the mathematics of political calculation, the need to never take the people for granted.

Congratulations Ochendo Global. God is with you.

ManofGod

Bullshit, a man that did nothing for Abia state. Don't worry we are waiting

stupidity:
never depend on your pvssy income alone.

Gbam with an upper cut

johnkey:
her poosay is the greatest price she can give son, you made your mark there. you mark register lol.

That's where u mistake started kid. That same pussy that many local champions before u have tried is Ur greatest price?
U must really come from another wormhole.

emelda86:
Adult I don see you...

I don't take life too serious bro

Best kid, life is too short. Cheers

kennygee:
I'm trying to understand this logic.

Cause most guys don't even need to do 1 and 2 to get to 3, some ladies are shameless.

Still d same rule to d game. As long as effort is exerted.