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rumenase:
Source: http://crazyanne.com/dumped-my-boyfriend/

He was a potential boyfriend cos he held his own. Smh to some girls

2buffagain:
I base my proof on the fact that an igbo woman would rather hold up a wedding when it becomes finally clear the groom isn't interested in transporting his entire kin all the way to her village (Which will cost more than that damn car) to get married and just wants all weddings done in the country where her family already is i.e yankee.

You have not seen madness.
These people don't care about marriage, they only care about showing off to their village people... at other people's expense.

Lol crazy really. I didn't know village people are that powerful

2buffagain:
So naive....
You would be surprised.

Someone like u without experience is talking. On what ground do u base Ur proof? No woman would do so. Some of them may be fish brain but they are not all stupid

correctbae:
A Nigerian guy who is about to get married is in a cross road and needs help on how to get out. He wrote to sub delivery zone on twitter seeking for help.
According to his post, he got a car ahead of his wedding, only for his Father-in-law to call him and requested for the same car to be given to him, he thought it was all joke but he keep persisting him for 3weeks. To add to the issue, his girlfriend asked him to get it for him that she knows he is capable.
Read full gist below:

https://mobile.twitter.com/5nBOI/status/1040665594306035713

https://correctbae.ng/2018/09/14/father-in-law-demands-car-from-son-in-law-ahead-of-wedding-daughter-supports-her-dads-request/

The gist is fake cos no lady in her right sense will ask for her own wedding to be postponed to please her dad's needs

Orla234:
What a lascivious man.


Most doctors are too perverse. It's really appalling.

Most doctors eh? U are naive.

2mercy:
https://www.thisdaylive.com/index.php/2018/09/13/buhari-emerges-unopposed-faces-apc-affirmation-primary-in-october/?amp

See these jokers. They made the price that expensive so they can all contribute monies stolen to have him emerge unopposed. Idiots

pocohantas:
1) Why do Naija guys think sex is a loss to the lady?

2) Why will a guy and girl have sex, then Naija guys will call only the lady olosho with borehole pùssy?

3) Why is there so much emphasis on female chastity and virginity, but none for guys?

4) Why is male infidelity more tolerated/accepted than the female one?

5) Why do Naija guys turn totometer, trying to calculate the mileage of their girlfriend's vagina?

6) Why will you give a Naija man a blòwjob and he'll be wondering which man's dick you learned it with?

7) Why would a Naija guy date a girl and when they break-up, he will be happy he at least fuckéd her. Does it take something away from her? If yes, what? Is it a gift or collateral to the guy? If yes, why?

8 ) Why are there thousands of thread on guys analysing the female vagina, its depth, width, colour... in relation to her sexual partners?

9) Why is a sexually experienced guy a stud and his female counterpart, a slut?

10) Why are Naija girls slutshamed for being sexually expressive, whereas the guys can share sexcapades on ashawo beer parlour thread?

12) "Virginity is the best gift a woman can give her husband".
Do you agree with the above statement. If yes, why?

13) "A man can love his wife and fùck around, but a woman who does same can kill her husband". Do you agree with this statement. Discuss in not more than 6 lines.

14) If sex is indeed pleasurable for both,why does the female get all the antagonism and the guy gets the accolade?

If you can correctly and sincerely answer these questions.
The answer you seek lies therein.

Allow d children let then freak themselves out

coleB:
drnoel , thank you for ur fatherly input.. sadly, dis forum is not for grand popsies. allow we d children to enjoy our thread. . or would u rather kip derailing us?

My son, U guys can have Ur fun but when young men waste their time discussing about how to be egocentric and mean to the opposite sex instead of trying to upgrade themselves so they can be fruitful in the future.
You ask urself what they teach young men these days? They obviously don't make them anymore like they made us.
Cheers all u kids and listen to Ur parents.

I will be back to check on what u guys are talking about cos my young cousin reads Ur comments and I am trying to teach him to be a strong level headed young man that's why I had to come in and correct those kids talking rubbish earlier on.

IamHeWrites:
A Nigerian man has exposed the plot of some educated Nigerian men to destroy the future of “beautiful”, “intelligent” and “career-oriented” women.

Darren Idongesit, a Nigerian writer, met some educated friends of his at a pub and when they started discussing, he was shocked by the words that came out of their mouths.

According to him, there are men whose aim is to “decommission” women who have huge prospects. They chase after the women, endure all insults and humiliation, act like the perfect man, all with the aim of getting the woman pregnant. When the woman is pregnant, they lead her on up until the time it is no longer safe to terminate the pregnancy, then they abandon her.

Warning women about this plot by some men, Darren wrote;


https://www.torimill.co/viral/9737/man-exposes-plot-by-some-men-to-destroy-womens-future.html

What does it mean to decommission a woman? So cos she is put in the family way and becomes a single mother she has been decommissioned.
Nigerian mentality all the way, very rubbish mentality.
Let no one take Ur shine no matter at what end of the table u find urself. He Ur head high and continue Ur huddles.
The said men are not doing these ladies but themselves cos at the end those children will look for their fathers. Na where their Waterloo begins

deomelo:
Oby is basically a twitter troll and just like the other trolls and anti Nigerian elements, they always come up with ignorant rubbish and misinformation to justify their trolling ways with and to satisfy her troll followers.


God Bless that young man for lecturing that twitter troll.

On the contrary oby is not wrong cos history has shown how China collect on their loans. The guys argument is sound and agreeable in the short run but in the long run it is a Greek gift. Go and ask Eritrea how China forced them to give up chunks of land cos of bad debt. Oby just couldn't pass her own message well hence the thought that she spoke out of turn

2dice01:
and what happen to your father's age

U can join him where he is and ask him

2dice01:
alright Mr ancestor i guess you are older than methusalah

No just Ur father's age.

Ahijo1990:
You people should stop giving this Drnoel guy relevance now. All this his yammering with little sense and you guys are still obliging him.

If no one replied him, he will get the message and scram with his faux knowledge.

SMH.

A pity really, if only u had more sense it would have been a case but then when u combine no sense and no home training. It becomes an issue. I will leave u to Ur parents though they have done a bad job as it is.

eph12:
Hmm.. Many see divorce as the easy way out when they're not ready to bend the knee.

One person has to be the bigger person in most cases for the marriage to work. If we continue to insist on 50:50 then it becomes a problem. It gets to a point one party thinks he/she has been contributing more than the other, the other party probably thinking same. Looking at it without bias they're both right in their different point of view

Now that's sound thinking that I never expected to see in this childish forum. Well said!!! I agree but for the part about 50:50.
Ur wife should be Ur helpmate, Ur support, Ur succour. Whether u guys decide u make it 50:50 or what not should depend on u guys and no 3rd party. As long as the respect is there on both sides that is what is important.

imma2:
You started very well but with your subsequent comments, you're not a very smart man. It's obvious pu77y has shaped your thoughts...SMH

Had to go back to Ur previous comment to make sure I read it correctly and I was right as initially assessed. If u talk like a child, u get angry like a child then u are a kid, sorry doesn't work anyother way kid.
I won't go derogatory like u but there no man alive that doesn't like a woman's private, a clean one though. Cheers

eph12:
Exactly. We're becoming wise in this country just like the others

It's a matter of perspective actually. Getting divorced is not the best esp when kids are involved, u destroy their secure world.

eph12:
Could this be one of the reasons why divorce is on the rise in those countries?

Divorce is also high in Nigeria so what are u getting at?

TyushTal:
Hey man, if it doesn't work for you, why not run along. This isn't your space (one of you derailers, I think)

You need to just be over it, if truly you are as mature as you insinuate. Nobody wants to see you messy

Anoda one bites the dust. Children everywhere. How old are u?

DavidTheGeek:
I need "Nigerian sense" because i'm in Nigeria. When i travel abroad, i will use "abroad sense" They say "When in Rome act like the Romans".

For the record, it isn't "Nigerian sense", It's "social psychology".

When we were kids, we'd cry and cry to get our parents to buy us sweets or biscuits. That's MANIPULATION. That was our way of trying to get our parents to give us what we want.

Whether you know it or you don't know it, there's a silent power tussle in relationships of any kind. Everyone wants to have his or her way.

It's either you're a leader or you're a follower. No such thing as "co-leader". 50:50 exits in your head. Two captains can't be on a ship.

Obviously you don't know, but instead of going back to observe for yourself to know whether I'm right or wrong, you have resorted to cheap insults to look big.

Well Grandpa, I'm not here to argue with you, you are old enough to reason for yourself.

Yes my son, u have a misguided sense of what is right or wrong. That thing u call social psychology in that sense only works in Nigeria hence i call it Nigerian sense.
It also depends on the types of ladies u have been meeting and from what u wrote obviously riffraffs like u. No insults meant just a statement of fact cos in my time ladies had class and respect for themselves, not like these days.
Like I said, run along. Only comment when u have something worthwhile to say unless I won't be replying u again.

QueenSekxy:
men and their insecurity issues, they would rather prefer you did minimal jobs and worship their disgusting poo lives than live a comfortable life where you earn a reasonable amount of money.

I thought this inferiority complex exist within the confines of our NAIRALAND BETA MALES.
umu umusu.

There nothing wrong with his comments. They could have talked things thru. Imagine her impulsiveness. Yes that lady has a problem

Girlsavage:
Lol, This is very normal with me tho, I pay the bills lots of time, Anyway Continue to read what his friend shared below!

Credit goes to Ebiwali
http://www.ebiwalisgossip.com/2018/09/nigerian-man-shocked-as-his-date.html

Nothing spectacular

DavidTheGeek:
Whether you know it or you don't, there's a silent power tussle in relationships of any kind.

Someone has to lead the home.

The 50:50 thing exists only in your head.

Society teaches you 50:50 because it's the "acceptable thing to preach in public".

Wake up!

Ur Nigerian sense of right and wrong is battling in ur head. Leave that country like many Nigerians have and u will see the light.
What is said in public maynot be what is practical, that may be true, but do u think running the home and looking after the kids is an easy feat? U have no idea.
U also have no sense of right and wrong. Very ignorant.
My son please leave adults to comment next time. Now run along.

WEEDSDOM:
don't be a kid boy, unknowingly you hand your wife your balls without even knowing it. she starts by playfully calling you names.

from there she graduates into getting angry and you beg and beg, then she deprives you of basic womanities(wash,clean,cook,sex..et all).
then she starts getting out anyhow without telling you..with brazen impunity she holds her shoulder high when talking with you, before you know it you start running errands lol weakmantic wussylord.

she start cheating with dudes who know that hlthey are men and brings you their kids to care for all your miserable life.

when you quarrel she quickly put you to shape by playing the victim card and you fall in line again and the cycle continues. before you know it you are washing her panties lol weakmantic.

in marriage there's nothing like 50 50 that is for weak wussy men.

its either you are leading or she is leading.

emancipate yourself from mental slavery.

Did u just write all this rubbish?

OMG so there are still hollowmen like u, no sense, no respect for themselves, unsure of themselves with a high level of inferiority complex. God help you but I think ur case is already too late. Sorry but u are a lost cause.

Let me say this now so all married men reading this will note and remember. There is no how Ur woman will do all the rubbish the person above commented if u as a man holds ur own. U need to hold ur own, be urself, build ur respect and still be able to perform ur manly duties as well as show Ur wife she means the world to u without fear. Ofcos u need to be good or above average in the sack cos that one matters too. U need to be proud about what u have accomplished cos noone will do that for u.

One thing is also always need to remember is that no matter how u treat Ur woman (am talking of spouse now not girlfriend) be it good or bad, any woman that wants to stay will stay and one that wants to leave will go. U can't hold a woman down by force or by fear.

Another thing to remember is attitude and how u guys began. Cos I noticed most men start high and can't keep it up which tends to then become a problem in the long run. So it's always best to start at Ur pace and don't do what u can't keep it cos when Ur level falls less than what some women are accustomed to then some will see that as a problem but none the less.
Still u don't need to be an asshole like these inexperienced fools Hardon, weedsdom and their cohorts are trying to portray.

Kingsmeal:
I am a 38 years old woman. I got married to my husband when I was 36. I was not really into marriage. So I was not the desperate type. Even when my family,friends,everyone was pestering me about marriage,I didn’t care cos I was happy,living my life,happy and fulfilled.

By God’s grace,I am an accomplished woman. I have a thriving career. I have a house of my own and I have a masters while I am pursuing my PHD. I gave in to marriage when I met my husband through a friend that set up the match making. My husband,let us call him John,was and still is,a real estate developer. He is a divorcee but he doesn’t have any child from his ex wife.

I grew to like him and when he proposed,I agreed to marry him. Unfortunately,I didn’t get to meet his people until our marriage ceremonies. Both of us are adults and we didn’t think it was a big deal. John is over 40 years. But soon after my wedding,my mother in-law began to show herself. It was obvious that she didn’t like me. This makes me even suspect that she was the reason behind the first marriage crashing. Even though my husband said,it crashed cos they realized that they were not compatible. They quarreled a lot until they divorced.

Well, this woman came to visit us shortly after our marriage and refused to leave even after one month. I didn’t mind but for her constant nagging. She complains that I am not a homely wife. That I love my career more than my home. She would curse me and call me names. I was horrified but I tried to keep my cool. When I told my husband,he brushed it aside and asked me to be the bigger person by ignoring the mother.

Eventually she left but anytime she calls,she insults me and says that I should be thinking of having a baby instead of focusing so much on my career. That was when I told her to mind her business and stop calling me. That didn’t go well with her and she told her son who told me I shouldn’t cut off his mom.

Well,I ignored them both until my mother in law made a statement in a text message she sent me a few months ago. After calling me useless and all sorts of name in the text,she then goes to say that if I ever have a child,she would take the child and ensure that her son drives me away. That statement made me go crazy. I called her and told her off. That caused a serious problem between me and my husband . Who as usual,instead of correcting his mom and defending me,goes the way of saying:be the bigger person….I am fed up of his behavior.

He says,in their culture,a child does not confront a parent!…I think that is BS!. His attitude is giving me serious cause of worry. Much as I would like to have a child,I have serious hesitation with bringing a child into a home like this. So,I have not been actively trying for a baby. Its been two years. Everyone is getting impatient that I am yet to be pregnant. But as for me,I am not bothered. I am not even trying to have a baby.This is not the type of home to raise a child.

My mother says I should have a child cos the child will bring peace. But with my husband’s mother’s threat,I am not so sure. Coupled with my husband’s inability to address the issue. My husband does not know that I am on protection. And I am not about to go off protection until I am sure of the situation.


But I am writing cos I need your advise.If you were in my shoes,what would you do? I would like to have a child someday cos I love children but I am not sure of the future of this marriage. Having a child in an unhappy or broken home is not my idea. My mother keeps crying every day that my ‘biological clock’ is ticking. That I am being paranoid and selfish. Of course,she is thinking of her grandchildren more than my happiness.

I am exhausted. What should I do? should I have a baby or wait?…or maybe I should even start thinking of ending this marriage?…clearly,the man I call my husband cares more about his mother than he cares about me…

More below:

https://zenithnaija.com/why-i-do-not-want-to-have-babies-after-two-years-of-marriage/

While u keep thinking, just remember one thing and it's Tick tack Tick tack. Ur biological clock is ticking and u don't have much time anymore. At 40 forget a child and best look for a surrogate or u adopt.

HARDDON:
Wow...
Smh.
So she can do things( not minding if the home breaks or not) and get away with em because you are afraid of your home breaking? Talk about a pu77y a33 Sissy big baiby!

Havent you heard? : To maintain peace, one has to be battle ready?

Whether you like it or not, someone must lead the home. And guys like you make 90% of wives call the home shots while u are the ceremonial head...

What an egocentric ignoramus. Lead d home,...in what context? Are u there to be the government, ruler, king or are u there to be the stronghold? Is she there to be ur slave, house girl or Ur support?
Ur comments screams of ignorance obviously cos u are unmarried. Let me tell u my son, marriage is no bed of roses but both have to work to make it work. Sometimes the man takes the initiative, sometimes the woman does. It's a 50:50 percent ratio and when one party gives more than that it makes the base shakey.

'The Pu77y a33 Sissy big baiby' I see here is u my child cos no matter how much u huff and puff if Ur marriage has no base it will crumble but ofcos u won't know that cos u are unmarried.

On the contrary to maintain peace one doesn't have to be battle ready, that's Trumps silly idea and I now understand how it is that u don't know anything since Trump is ur school of thought.

Let me re-educate u, to maintain peace one has to be prepared to do what it takes. Sometimes one gives ground, sometimes one may have to fight.

I repeat Hardon is a bad influence on small boys like u here. I repeat if u do the rubbish he sells here. Get ready to loose ur spouse. If it's just a relationship then it's irrelevant, u can do whatever u wish but once u put a ring on that finger, then best u look elsewhere for advice and not with this bitter celibate.

Like seriously!!!! FVCKING QUIT THE 'HOLY' ACT!!

He is nt asking u to do something bad. u guys are married. u should learn to please ur husband and stop pretending.
If u keep this 'I am too holy to do that' act, sex will become boring for u guys and he will start looking outsyd.

Buh if ur not comfortable with giving ur husband mouth action, no problem.

Why u even bothered is beyond me. There are slay queen's outside that would do her part so don't bother. She is wiser than herself

HARDDON:
Not for the feint hearted n the house would be on fire on the constant( you must care less cos Just like d national flag, ur only symbol of authority n pride is our Ballz n we must do all within our power to protect same) Cos no woman would willingly give u ur balls back without heavy , mostly unreasonable fights. (Ask black americans.)
But you must place your foot down n stick to it no matter what. Wrong or right


You might even shrewdly threaten her wit divorce.
You must start doing the opposite of all d sissy moves!
No more professing luv, no more gifts, no more incessant calls, be unavailable emotionally n physically. No more begging for s3x, pretend she is nt there.
Tell her what you would luv to have for dinner , make sure itz not what is on d food roster. If she doesnt make it wen u return, never agree to eat what she maDe instead tell her another thing, if she objects n says she is tired, roll out , eat out.
Do things without informin her or seeking her pemission.

Itz going to be a hard battle but no matter what, Men give everytin to hv n keep their balls!

Imagine a celibate giving advice to marriedmen about marriage. I have now seen everything. Pls any married man in this forum that follows this should get ready to break his home. A word is enof for the wise.

pp802:
This is so unfair. Yes, I know some ladies can be greedy, but then he should have spent according to his pocket. Tell her, No I'm not buying......this is what I can afford. Better than letting her demand for plenty and stylishly abandoning her.

She should take her own money next time

Shugavee:
This man is genius,Marijuana is now legal for medical purposes in some states in the us, other countries in the world as well!! Imagine exporting quality marijuana to the United States or even Canada we only depend on oil in this Nigeria!! This is a very good plan

Well said bro. Allow the ignoramuses above u to be commenting rubbish

GISTBL0GGER:
When men meet ladies, the basic thing most of them want to do is to get down with them. Depending on the outcome of events, some men may decide to go into a long term relationship with them or opt in for the fling option.

Without wasting much time, there are certain pointers women should watch out for when they meet new guys as this would help them discover what the men could be up to.

The following signs would help ladies know whether a man would act like a gentle man or make attempt to sleep with them as soon as they visit them:
1. His Friends Vacate The Room

Just when you get to his place and his friends start going out of the room one after the other until you are left alone.

This has already been planned prior to your arrival. Don’t think they left at their own discretion, he don already cut eyes give dem make dem comot.
2. He Asks What You’re Wearing

Just when a guy is curious to know whether you will be wearing a skirt or trouser to his house then be sure that he will definitely sleep with you when you visit him. Naijaboiy be like, ” Ireneony abeg no wear trouser come my house oooo”.
3. He Demands You Don’t Bring Your Friend Along

When he tells you not to come with a friend because he doesn’t want your friend around; there are no two ways about this, he certainly wants to sleep with you when you visit him and doesn’t want any barrier.
4. He Calls His Friend To Keep Your Friend’s Company

Some ladies believe the presence of their friends will server as security, therefore, they bring their friends along as custodians not knowing that some dudes are way too smart to handle such a situation.

A very smart dude will call his own friend to come and take the daughter of Jezebel you call your friend away so that they will be alone.
5. He Dips His Hands Into The Pockets To Form A Gentleman

I’m very guilty of this act even though I passionately detest sex (nobody should question me on this).

When I’m inside the room with a lady and the moment my joystick begins to rise above its default level as a result of sex intrusion into my mind.

As an anointed man of God, I will just dip my two hands into my pockets and stylishly take a scroll outside after which I will return back when my obviously etec.ted joystick returns to its default level.
6. He Increases The Volume Of The Home Theatre

Another sign a dude wants to sleep with you is that he will switch on the home theatre and will increase to the maximum volume so that neighbours will not hear your moan when the show starts. Vizkiz will not deny this.
7. He Offers You Chewing Gum

This is done probably to cleanse your breath before kissing takes place.
8. He Stylishly Locks The Door

A proverb says ” a dog that enters a lion’s den should be ready to face the consequences. However, just when you enter his room and he goes straight to the door and GBAAAM!!! .

Even if heat wan kill two of una, he will never open the door.. You don’t even need Seun Osewa to tell you that he wants to sleep with you.
9. He Forces You To Take Alcohol

Another sign is that he will force you to take a little amount of alcohol so that he will accomplish his mission before you gain consciousness.
10. He Goes Out To Buy Something That Has “No Name”

Just when you visit a dude and he takes an excuse to go and buy something (name withheld) and when he returns back you can’t seem to see what he went to buy.

Make we no deceive ourselves na Gold circle egbon go buy ooooo
Ladies

!!! Even If you ask him what he went to buy he will definitely lie that he wasn’t able to get it.. Oga Ronald4lif I throway salute oooo.

Have You Ever Come Across Any Of These Signs?.

See More Here >>> http://gistmore.com/ladies-check-10-signs-guy-will-definitely-sleep-visit

lalasticlala

Full of trash

Sadgirl1281:
Good day everyone,

I feel all alone and not heard, more like the whole world against me, hence me coming on here to see th best way I could seek any advice.

I’ll do my best to be very brief and concise and go straight to the point.

You have a good job, independent and everything, you meet the love of your life, boom date and get married and travel out of the country to start your lives. Of course you would resign and leave your comfort zone. In other words that’s what I did of course and travelled.

As I said to go straight to the point. Got married early this year and as usual the first year marriage woes, arguments and misunderstandings but nothing out of the extra ordinary.

Hubby and I had a misunderstanding this faithful day and while he’s not violent, He knows how to spit venom from his mouth. His words would pierce your soul or any deeper than his soul. Words were exchanged on both sides and he said things I had told him in confidence, my weakness and threw it on me and I reacted physically by pushing him. We didn’t talk for 2 days and and then the next day he left the house in the morning.. I went out hours later only for my dad to call me in the night from Nigeria to mention my husband had called him and told him everything how I pushed him, he’s left the house to go somewhere etc... And not only that he told all his family members. I felt so hurt being that I do not have anyone here and because he has his own family.

Issue now is we have talked including our parents etc. but he said he’s not going to come back to the house now until I assure him and work for it. I have to prove to him why he should come back home.

I would like to ask for suggestions, while aim very hurt and in shame, I can’t express it as my pushing has overshadowed everything. He even told his folks our other petty fights and the words I’ve said to him etc They have said I am the woman and the one who did the violence so I have no choice.

This is the best I could summarize so I left a whole lot of details but what am I supposed to do to make him come back home?

The work is between two of u.
U know what to do.
Rent a small bungalow, bring his favourite meal there and kill him with sex. Then u guys settle/talk out the issue in the morning. It always works.
Never listen to anything they advice here cos they won't do what they tell u