₦airaland Forum

obibob2020:
Can we see your waist bead ?

and you are posing in mountain of fire tshirt, lol hope you don't go fingering teenagers behind children section sha demons in the house of God .

Angelfrost:
I swear down... This site has gone terribly astray!!!

seun and his mods are not serious at all. They have graduated from lifting bikini pictures of so called celebs from IG to soft porn . trashland a dumping site for IG pictures and twitter fabricated stories and a safe haven for sociopaths. Wetin remain?lol

This is so brazen of his mods ,anyway sex sells
I guess hiding such things in sexuality section doesn't get the attention , all na to drive traffic either way he gets paid.

Porn site see erotic pictures on fp and you want people to report people posting porn? Una nor serious

kingkakaone:
The problem is not him, he has a lot of mad followers who liked what he wrote.

Some people are just insane, they always show solidarity for their likes.

its just appalling,smh

Sunnyobums:
I put it to you too that it's people with this your same mentality about seeking help from exes that end up cheating on their man in the process, I put it to you that 80% of male exes would definitely want to have sex with you if you go to them seeking one favor or the other.

you put it to me? What do you know about me? My friend everyone is entitled to their opinion so are you, i put it to bla bla bla. You should change your circle seems you and the people around you are not nice people (typical criminal minded evil religious and superstitious). Like i said ,i dont even have the number of any ex but should i bump into an ex, we will definitely hug and greet but i doubt you can do such. You that cant even help your neighbors daughter without wanting to sample her, so i am not surprised you have this mentality tho

kingkakaone:
You just stroked his deluded ego by replying him.
The guy is a confused being suffering from personality disorder coupled with dementia.

He exposed himself in his last statements by showing how cruel he is inside.

This forum is just something else,why they continue to allow people like him thrive is what i don't understand. Smh

Sunnyobums:
Lol, true, but there are some places and people you shouldn't seek help from especially from your ex when u are in another relationship, they are called EX for a reason, it means past and shouldn't be in the picture, or do you still receive lectures in the university you graduated from?

There is no laid down rules who you should seek help from, all i see here is ego in display. Just because majority of you leave behind a trail of bitter exes doesn't mean everyone is like that. This is not a university but real life and people , i know someone that went back to marry his ex and they are happy, if he had this mentality of yours i am sure he would have had a different perspective about going back.

bullabong:
you can actually make a difference if you are any better than those you criticize.

yes i am ,but one tree cant make a forest and besides Nigerians are arrogant dummies who claim to be the smartest people one earth where as they are just most fantastic corrupt and criminal minded .

Sunnyobums:
Your comment shows you haven't really learnt anything from life experiences, only a fool sees danger ahead and still walks on.

what do you know about life ? Lol. Help can come in any form and from anyone, only a fool thinks otherwise.

babyfalo:
Are you in Ghana typing all this shit...if you are still in Nigeria when you typed this...then your own cage is big....

The problem with you Nigerians is you have this arrogant pride ,you claim to always be sharp (which only translates to being the most corrupt set of people nothing more)yet the most stupid and gullible people on earth hence your politicians and religious leaders use you as they like.

Let me ask you ,aint we all in a cage? The govt and their croonies have the keys, so if you like don't accept your reality that Nigeria is a big for nothing giant, las las una never see anything, go to Rwanda and hide your face in shame. Smh

manontree:
Funny comment

It's a No No for a responsible woman to seek financial or otherwise assistance from a former lover. It isnt right, doesn't sound right and doesn't appear right

Or is it cos they arent married? If they are, pray, how would it look on the husband that cos he doesn't have his wife would run to a former lover to get help??

The ex doesn't even have to sleep with her to make this all wrong. The very appearance of it makes it bad

It's not material if he isnt helping. A responsible woman should know the map to follow when seeking help. You do not go inside a lion's cage to seek for bones

I would advise the OP to support his woman as much as possible. It's always important to build your relationship and make the need for your woman to seek outside assistance as non existence as possible.

A woman that is making two men compete for her affection is truly not worth to be called one. Her affection is for a price and isnt even worth my mention. I am sure she has other sources of seeking employment help.

Finally OP, her level of disobedience is extra. I simply cannot imagine telling my woman that I feel passionate against an act and she goes right ahead to do it again. I dont know how it works with others but I dont involve myself with such characters with abundant negative energy

Its a no no ,says who ? Who made the rules? I personally don't even have the contact of my exes, but then that is me ,but for the op to say he is not obligated to help her ,then there is a shift of balance here.Guys like this that cant even help their girlfriends na dem wan come help their ex? The op can never be half the man her ex is and that is a fact hence the reason he cant wrap his head around the situation. He is so stuck on "give me i give you" which many of the commenters are stuck on too that they don't even think there is a slight chance it might just be a harmless gesture. Many people here have ended their relationships badly that all they have are bitter exes that will watch them literally burn to ashes combined with the resident nairaland gender warlords so the comments don't come as a shock to me.

He who doesnt see a need why it should be done ,should not complain when others see a need to do it.

Now the lady is even using the connection to look for a job, but the busy body op who doesnt feel obligated to help her is interfering isn't that wickedness and wizardry?

Let him end the relationship, for both of their own good.

nagoma:
You obviously don’t understand sarcasm. Perhaps Kanu will

well ,i am also being sarcastic

GoTV:
Even though I'm a born again Christian, Nnamdi Kanu is a disgrace to every Christian worldwide from the religious perspective for aligning with Israel and Judaism. A well known terrorist like Kanu who almost made we Christians clash with our peaceful Muslim brothers because of his incessant hate speeches towards the north and the west doesn't deserve to see the light of the day. I suggest the federal government seize his mother's corpse for following the useless man to court in Abuja in solidarity and cremate it to serve as a deterrence to parents Who supports their children's criminality or feed her carcass to the Crocs in Nile river. Nnamdi kanu deserves to be locked up at ADX Florence in Colorado with the likes of his fellow terrorists like Elchapo and Muttalab for endangering the unity of our beloved country Nigeria.

you this terrorist ,e nor dey tire you? Keep hiding behind your moniker ,lol na who nor know say you be muslim go take you serious. continue since nairaland has obviously become a breeding ground for sociopaths like you to thrive.

So she is indirectly confirming that Nigeria is a zoo? Honestly zoos are more organized than Nigeria , this country is a jungle, a big for nothing giant that countries like Rwanda, Bostwana, Ghana ,kenya are even making better progress than.

To think this is coming from a public office holder is even more appalling ,smh.

iamadonis2:
Hello, guys.

Quick update please. I feel like sh*t right now.

So earlier last week my girlfriend had a "parting" chat with the Ex. Today, they had a discussion where she was asking his help to connect her to a job. I joked I made turned wrong and we had an argument about her continuing with the same thing barely a week later.

It so happened that she believes I have wrecked her chances of having that job. She's blaming me badly.

And I wonder if it was right to interfere in a "job" conversation

The question here is have you really wrecked her chance to get a job because its her ex offering to help? you claim she is not your responsibility and you are only obligated to help her when its convenient for you , you claim she still collects money from her ex and you are angry about it? If you are not obligated to inconvenience yourself to help her but someone else feels obligated ,then why are you angry? I am sure if you were in the position of her ex you will never help,even now that you are even dating her you dont feel obligated to help her,maybe that is where the problem is, you cant wrap your head around why her ex will be helping her cos you cant do such.

Her ex is about to help her with a job and your busybody carried you to interfere. The one opportunity she has to be independent you have interrupted, let me even ask you how many many times have you directed her to a job opening or vacancy?,so now judge yourself .

Anyway ,i am also of the opinion you end the relationship,all this back and forth is exhausting.

comshots:
Sorry,I have been offline.Can you explain further?What is the name of the dating site so that other ladies can learn from you?

its not a site but a group on whatsapp and telegram.

comshots:
Narrate your experience to us.

the admin wanted to try his luck i told him to announce it in the group he started acting funny that was when i knew something was up and decided to dig further and it lead me to the "dating ring" of guys who were passing girls around for fun on the group. Na so i take jakpa but it continued to bother me cos it seems some of the ladies are not aware of what is going on. Smh, the worse part of it is that this particular group has been on for years even after i left ,it is still in till now.

jeff1607:
it's the creating a dating ring that surprised me

Nigerians are capable of anything,nothing should surprise you.

jeff1607:
was really surprised at the dating ring thingy


Guys also fall victims too to what you experienced.

why are you surprised? If they can scam white women scamming their own should be easy .

comshots:
It seems you are a victim of these Casanovas.

nah, i dont have to be a victim to know what's up, even if i was there is no shame in it, vunerability is part of being human and you have to trust that the person you put your trust in will not take advantage of you.

BLUNTD:
Sorry for disturbing the thread!
Take no offence.

none taken.

pocohantas:
This is where those ladies get it twisted. If 50 men join a group that links them to ladies, be rest assured that what 40 (and more) see, is SEX. Never a wife material. Definitely not at first. Maybe with time they might start seeing other qualities...

The only exceptions are guys who do not have a large pool of ladies to choose from in reality. Most times abroad based guys or very introverted or busy men. They are also more discerning, because there is no SEX involved here. No dinner or hangouts. So, they focus on the things that matter and makeup their minds very fast. If you don't meet up, they cut you off.

After all, e no go enter plane from America or UK to come fck toto. When no be say e never fck before. Same can't be said for homebased o...

Forget it, once they gather in groups, na random lay them dey find. Same applies to NL in general...

I hope these women learn after all that was the purpose of the thread,any of them are licking their wounds in silence XP of shame, this "come and marry scam" is now spreading like wildfire and many woman have been victims by den nor grin talk make other women take learn.shm

Omoluabi16:
Shouldn't this be a two way warning? I don't see the need to demonize guys as the time wasters or unserious players. A dating group is like a mini social app itself. Na anything your eye see, you take am like that.
Of course a smart person should look before he/she chooses to hook up with anyone there.

Women are more desperate to settle down that men, the category of women that join this groups are continuously hit with the reality that they are in a constant race against their biological clock which makes women more vunerable that men in dating scams. Women are the prefect victims for "come and marry " type of scams which is why these groups are a safe haven these guys,some of these groups have been in existence for years on this forum and till date they still have pool of victims to choose from,hence the reason i am focusing on ladies .

BLUNTD:
Easy, don't give a dog a bad name just to hang it.
Women are known to pretend and conceal their bad sides. So if they guy happens to find out at any stage then it's not bad to abort mission.
I have only seen case where a guy did the going to see her parents thing just to sleep with the girl. So my stand still remains, in a sexual relationship this can't be the case. Hear both side of the story.

This is not a case of giving a dog a bad name but to let ladies shine their eyes, there are guys out there creating groups on nairaland to have access to a pool of ladies to warm their beds, they know these ladies are desperate to settle down so they have perfect victims to prowl on. I could careless if they have their own sides of the story or not ,i am saying what i know. Many of these ladies have been licking their wounds in secret so many other ladies are not aware and also fall victims and the circle continues.

I didn't create this thread to go back and forth with you, i created it to bring awareness of what is going on behind closed door that these ladies are either not aware of or are too ashamed to talk about cos they know they have been used.

To what end these guys do this ,i cant say and i am in no position to say but to say its not true or try to imply that i am lying or exaggerating or try to water down the seriousness of this issue is what i will not take from you.

BLUNTD:
What level of jobless will make a guy keep a girl he has no interest to marry for over a year and then breaks up the relationship for no good reason. If he was after her body and has gotten it ,he wouldn't stay 6 months

you should rather ask what level of wickedness . I think there is an award for the most ruthless player in the game or something

pocohantas:
Anywhere men are gathered, evil dwells in their midst. Be very paranoid and suspicious

my sister,nor be small thing o

BLUNTD:
Well! It's complicated some how.
One, not every courtship must lead to marriage. Hence, that it's a dating group doesn't mean when he says hello, marriage is the next thing. What if after discovering the lady's true character and he no option than to pull the plug.
So it's not a straight forward event. I always suspect it's because sex must have been involved which brings up a question of why do women feel only the guys benefits from the sexual aspect, like they are doing them a favor or something.
If a lady can have an open mind and sees sex as a mutually enjoyed encounter, the way relationships are viewed will change.
Once sex isn't involved even if there was a lot of emotional energy spent, the ladies feel ok and are able to move on easily, the reverse is the case if there was sex involved.
So guys be direct and honest in such a group and the ladies, not every hi will lead to marriage. Be yourself, what will be will be. Enjoy the relationship too and once you have gotten a partner to be within the group it should be made public.

If you are in a group that says "ready for marriage" i believe you must have finished consulting your ancestors if you should settle down or not ,i also believe at that stage you should know what you want in the woman you hope to settle down with, know your dead breakers and so on.But you see this is why i opened this thread cos many ladies are naive not to know this.These guys go as far as coming to meet your people ,yes you heard me.Might sound shocking but its the truth, these guys take it that serious.

pocohantas:
Babe, I am not o.

Let me explain what I am understanding. They join groups, them the group admin starts linking them to "random guys"? These guys might also share same girls contacts to other guys too.

So, they both take it up from there.

My point is, if they have met one from same group and it failed. Why meet another person from that group again?

To be fair some of these groups have actually successfully hooked up people that led to marriage. Now as a lady you won't see a relationship that lasted up to a year as a trap ,you would probably see it as one of those things and want to try again ,that is the thing. Its a perfect plan that these ladies dont suspect anything.

pocohantas:
If that is the case, then I blame the ladies. One strange guy calls you and you just flow? Especially when it is linked to a forum like NL? Hian!!

you are not getting me. There are dating sites out there dating groups are just a mini version of those dating sites. So its not like its some random guy in the real sense.

obiokaphor:
At what cost can one get the braces done in Nigeria?

also the op should tell us if there is an age limit to wearing braces.

pocohantas:
Oh, na transactional stuff? If na like that, make them enjoy themselves and collect full payment o. If you wan chop frog, chop big one.

not like that, these women are not aware they are being passed around all in the name of promise of marriage.

This is not a thread to discourage people from joining dating groups or paying for hook ups but this is a thread to open the eyes of niaraland sisters who might a mixture of naive and desperate to settle down cos this is the category of ladies these guys are out in the prowl for.


To you a lady ,you might think you are joining a group that has "ready to settle down guys" unknown to you that you just entered a mouse trap. Now dating groups are becoming more popular on nairaland but anything that has its advantage obviously has a disavantage and it seem these groups have become a perfect place ground for players to get "easy lay". These guys are not jeveniles infact they are well over their thirties so you as lady will think,oh well he is sure ready to settle down cos "he is of age" ,but that is where you are wrong.

If you are joining a group, never keep any relationship with anyone a secret,especially the admin. You see as the admin ,it is easy for him to convince you not to let anyone know about it, but ask yourself,why will the admin know about others and not want others to know about you and him?

Ladies please and please stop indulging in "lets see who it goes " . If you are in a group, it means you have made up your mind to settle down ,that "lets see how it goes "should have been skipped, why would he still need to consult his ancestors to see how it goes.Take note ladies some of this so called "serious relationships " can last up to a year before he pulls the plug and the next guy in the group comes to show interest.

I know the next question will be "how do i know this?" Well ,i just recently watched it go down in a group and i think ladies need to be aware .


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