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well, love could be complicated at times. let's get it slow. now the truth of what u are feeling is a deep sense of attraction. we cannot call it love in an actual basis cos u'll agree with me that love is a feeling that matures with time and trials.
that understood, if your feeling of strong attraction for this lady still persists, still keep on trying. she might be trying to observe u to see if u are genuine in your intentions or u just want a casual fling. but if she still objects, let the issue drop for a while. girls sort of get irritable if pressured.

Gamine:
Not a nice Quote Dvampire
Try harder

meaning?

this issue of sex sef (shakes head)

when u are in love, nothing or no one else matters. just u and the babe or vice versa. it seems ur world has been rocked in a pleasant sense

my crush crushed me so bad that i feel really crushed and i don't have the power to crush anymore

i think the best way to settle this is to let her see what is on ground. have a heart to heart discussion with her. do not do anything rash which u might regret later. and besides, issues of the heart need be handled delicately so that both of u dont get scalded emotionally. two and half years aint no joke in a relationship. u've both come a long way. if u feel that both of u are not compatible anymore. do it maturedly and not the rip method u are adopting at the moment. it could leave scars.

i'm never good at it

u have a point there. but why not raise a topic so that we can all have an idea of the kind of interesting topics u want.

start with yours.

it hurts so that we will have experience on how to handle situations with other people.

see? girls and fantasies. una don start again.

correct me if i am wrong, but i feel that your friend is playing a very dangerous game here. the guy in nigeria has forgiven him and has even gone to the extent of mending up the pieces of the relationship with her. now what kind of sexual attraction does she have with Luke again? i can see that your friend has not learnt her lesson. maybe by the time she gets into deeper trouble then she would understand.

depends on so many things bro. like how strong the relationship is and stuff like that. but the problem is that most people easily forget the relationship they started at home before going abroad.

that one is not yet love. that's crush.

personally, i feel trying to wreck vengeance or venturing into homosexuality and all such stuff are not called for. true, one cant take away the fact that one would definitely feel angry and hurt but then, what has happened has happened. i'll try to pick up the pieces of my shattered heart, mend it and move on while i try to guard it jealously so that i dont fall a second-time victim.

naijacutee:
Because we mature mentally faster than guys. The average 18 year old girl and the average 18 year old guy would not be on the same mental age-bracket.

what aspect of mental maturity are you refering to here?

BlackMamba:
Older guys are often in a better financial position to cover the cost associated with relationships. Girls are genetically not inclined to fend for themselves.

good point bro.

naijacutee:
Dictionary.com Unabridged (v 1.0.1) - Cite This Source
hus·tle /ˈhʌsəl/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[huhs-uhl] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation verb, -tled, -tling, noun
–verb (used without object) 1. to proceed or work rapidly or energetically: to hustle about putting a house in order.
2. to push or force one's way; jostle or shove.
3. to be aggressive, esp. in business or other financial dealings.
4. Slang. to earn one's living by illicit or unethical means.
5. Slang. (of a prostitute) to solicit clients.
–verb (used with object) 6. to convey or cause to move, esp. to leave, roughly or hurriedly: They hustled him out of the bar.
7. to pressure or coerce (a person) to buy or do something: to hustle the customers into buying more drinks.
8. to urge, prod, or speed up: Hustle your work along.
9. to obtain by aggressive or illicit means: He could always hustle a buck or two from some sucker.
10. to beg; solicit.
11. to sell in or work (an area), esp. by high-pressure tactics: The souvenir venders began hustling the town at dawn.
12. to sell aggressively: to hustle souvenirs.
13. to jostle, push, or shove roughly.
14. Slang. to induce (someone) to gamble or to promote (a gambling game) when the odds of winning are overwhelmingly in one's own favor.
15. Slang. to cheat; swindle: They hustled him out of his savings.
16. Slang. a. (of a prostitute) to solicit (someone).
b. to attempt to persuade (someone) to have sexual relations.
c. to promote or publicize in a lively, vigorous, or aggressive manner: an author hustling her new book on the TV talk shows.

–noun 17. energetic activity, as in work.
18. discourteous shoving, pushing, or jostling.
19. Slang. a. an inducing by fraud, pressure, or deception, esp. of inexperienced or uninformed persons, to buy something, to participate in an illicit scheme, dishonest gambling game, etc.
b. such a product, scheme, gambling game, etc.

20. Informal. a competitive struggle: the hustle to earn a living.
21. a fast, lively, popular ballroom dance evolving from Latin American, swing, rock, and disco dance styles, with a strong basic rhythm and simple step pattern augmented by strenuous turns, breaks, etc.


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[Origin: 1675–85; < D husselen, var. of hutselen to shake, equiv. to hutsen to shake + -el- -le]
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oribi, shey u don see wetin u cause?

guy, try to let go. she is not serious with u.

blessings of the yuletide season on you all. right now, i'm not in the best of moods and i need pieces of candid advice from you all.
i fell in love with a lady and we got along pretty fine. we made plans for a memorable time this holiday season cos she was travelling down to join me at my base.
when she eventually came, for the first two days, it was romance rekindled. we just could not have enough of each other. then she walked into my office that sunny afternoon to land me the shocker: she was reuniting with her old boyfriend abroad and that she just realized that they never had any quarrels that led to their parting ways and that she'll be leaving the country by january.
to say i was stunned would be an understatement. for 5 minutes, everything stood still. i remained silent and even when she burst into tears (i wonder why?) i did nothing to soothe her. i just let her cry and when she was done, she left my office with a message that she'd see me at home the following day.
she actually came and we talked. why had she made that sudden decision? what happened to what we shared. till date, i cant figure out the answers she proffered. she just said that her mind was made up and she'll be joining the other guy abroad next year.
that night, for the first time, in a long time i grieved my heart out. every morning when i open my wardrobe to get a change of clothes or something, the christmas presents i bought for her stare at me in the face.
of late, she has been sending me sms and calls that's coated with apologies and regrets that she has to leave me. she wants to know how i feel, if i'm ok and stuffs like that.
now the questions are: is she mocking me or what? she has called off the relationship; i've tried to pick up and move on yet she keeps calling and wanting to know how i'm faring. what is she up to? and as a sub-question, what do i do to the presents i bought for her? do i throw them away, give her or to someone else?

@ oribi: u raised a suspensive topic and now u tell us to look in the dictionary? u well so?

justkunmi:
did the girl feel the same way?

cant tell o. the only thing was that the girl almost ate my mouth off. she was as high as hell

its amazing how most ladies place riches as a criterion for choosing a guy. wake up girls. cant u see? guys need ladies that encourage them, strive with them to make the riches u so much crave for. they dont need no gold digger or 'obiageli' who would be making endless trips to the banks or show love when the wallet is stacked with the green backs.

this is a tricky issue that has to be handled with all the delicacy it deserves. 1st it has brought to the fore that nothing can be compared to physical presence. true phones and emails play a role in keeping lovers connected when they are apart, but its never the same like the real thing. feeling the embrace of a loved one, his/her touch and the likes.
well, what has happened has happened. lets not cry over spilt milk; rather let a solution be proffered. the answer to the whole problem lies in the hands of your friend (i think mary was the name u used). if she still loves her guy in nigeria, let her summon up the courage to tell him. she should not expect him to take it calmly. hell might come down due to the confession, but it is worth it. damn that popular saying that some secrets need not be shared between lovers. what if the guy gets to know from another source? the outcome might be more devastating than if she had told him herself. at least, the guy deserves that much. genuinely prove to him that u are sorry. he might not be willing to forgive at first, keep on trying. if he on his part is willing to keep on with u, he will find a place in his heart to forgive (hell, no one is above mistakes, though some might be costly, but then, )
if on the other hand, he severs the relationship, try to let it go. and then ask yourself if you find dan worthy enough to continue where the two of u left off.
(i hope what i've said here is helpful.)

yes o. na so i see am

my 1st kiss was terrible. infact rather than having butterflies in my stomach like people say, i had scorpions. the girls mouth stank like a brewery after consuming 6 bottles of small stout. how i mustered up courage to kiss her still beats my imagination. maybe it was because of the excitement of wanting to know how a kiss really felt like or it her luscious lips that were sensually glossed.

guy, your case is becoming more and more weird by the minute. shuo! so you want to tell your people that you made love to your best friend's sister. i can see that you are way on the right track to digging your grave

bros, na quarrel u wan raise here so by calling names. but u have a point there sha. some ladies in this forum are bossy